#I think I'm getting significantly better as I go

[thanakite]

Vi: I should have been there, should have done things differently

Ekko: That's a good way to drive yourself crazy

VS

Caitlyn: I had the shot

Tobias (her dad): Here is a family heirloom that will further the burden already being placed on you, that I'm not going to help with, your mother wanted you to have it

Like yes, Ekko has had more time to sit in his grief and come to terms with this and everything, but Ekko is also younger than Vi and really in many ways just a kid still (yes he's like 18, but really that's still SO young to be dealing with all this and is literally so close to what is still considered a kid), but really Tobias is a doctor and Caitlyn's dad, and while I understand that he's essentially drowning in the grief of his wife's death, his daughter is doing the same but essentially lost both parents since he isn't really there to help her, guide her, or do anything else to make it easier for her, and REALLY this is the EXACT wrong response to this situation

He could have waited to give her the Kiramman Key until things had settled down more, and until she had gotten a better handle not only on her grief but also on what being the head of the family meant and what it meant that it was happening now and not years or even decades down the line like they likely hoped, but instead he immediately dumped it on her, likely because he didn't want to deal with it himself on top of his own grief, but that's actually kind of worse than like just not thinking it through or whatever

Caitlyn is barely treading water when he gave her the key, and it could be argued that the key added a weight that significantly contributed to pulling her under (the memorial was the final straw in many ways, but she was so close to getting pulled under at that point anyway something WAY smaller could have easily had the same results), so it's like Tobias was already drowning and decided to try and pull Caitlyn down with him

And I do get it, I do, because he lost the love of his life and his partner and all that, but he still had Caitlyn and while she's an adult, only just barely, she's 23 years old and gets the weight of her entire family legacy dropped on her pretty much RIGHT AFTER her mom dies, and really your 20s is a hard time already (yes Runeterra isn't Earth but I'd hazard a guess that, that isn't something that differs greatly in this world) and to then deal with all this? It's understandable that Caitlyn cracked under it, and I DO think that Tobias could have and should have done more for her here, but instead of even just doing the bare minimum to not add to her burdens at the time he dumped more on her

[rawliverandgoronspice]

(sorry I'm not super here at the moment because I'm just incredibly exhausted for no apparent reason, but I do make tiny frustrating steps towards doing more stuff!!)

[kuromi-hoemie]

“if she doesn't want to be called dude i won't call her that” - you are assuming you and your friends read as people trans women feel safe enough to speak up to, while already demonstrating you don't take other people seriously enough.

Your habit and lack of self restraint/awareness matter more than common sense i guess. Like i would never call a transmasc “girl” because that would seem like obvious misgendering, but it's different for trans women apparently.

[musical-chick-13]

Like. The last thing I'm going to say is that I see a lot of comments about how "Well Americans probably deserve whatever is coming to them" because [some variation of how we are all equally violent and stupid and of course we elected this guy] and I will be the FIRST one to go, "Fuck America for real, I hate it here" but. There are in fact millions of people who did not want this. Who actively fought against it and will continue to do so.

BELIEVE ME, I understand the impulse to go, "Well with all the shit America has done to the rest of the world, why should I feel bad for them." I understand that compassion fatigue is real. And I DEFINITELY don't think it's the rest of the world's job to fight my battles for me or prioritize my feelings above anyone else's.

But if people are worried for their safety. If they're scared. If they're wondering how they and the people they love are going to survive the next few years. If people are feeling despair and despondence over the fact that they are stuck in an absolutely hellish landscape they did not ask for. Just...please let them have that. You don't have to tell them that you think they deserve it.

[corpocyborg]

(so... uh... how far into dai do you have to get before it starts being good?)

[tj-crochets]

The options with the * are the ones I've already scanned, and all but the blorbo are sewing patterns (I've already shared the blorbo sewing pattern)

[look-at-the-stars-tonight]

the amount of effort that goes into figuring out what to cook and eat every day is RIDICULOUS. i used to think people were so weird and boring for eating the same thing every single day but it truly does make life so much easier

[chaddicus]

sorry lol I just agreed with that post so much and it got me thinking tbh. I think a lot of us have gotten into a habit of looking at a story so critically, trying to sniff out plot holes and 'bad writing' in a way that misses the fact that the point of a story is to tell a story. I feel like people forget about suspension of disbelief in their mission to analyze a work sometimes. I do think there is a place for in-depth meta analysis of a work, I think it's just as much a worthy fandom experience as any, and maybe that post wasn't even meant to criticize people doing that sort of thing at all, but I just. I think a lot these days about how much more enjoyment I get out of a thing when I decide to watch or read or play it with the intention of just letting it be what it is and not trying to fucking grade its quality or something. you don't have to rate and review everything you do. sometimes you can go 'oh they could have written this differently. but this isn't that version of the story' and then just carry on and not let that other version of how things could have gone haunt your experience. sometimes you have to go 'wow that was kind of dumb' and then just integrate the understanding that the thing you're watching/playing/reading is gonna be kind of dumb sometimes and keep going anyway. and it won't always work out this way, but sometimes you're gonna get a lot more entertainment and joy out of a thing by doing that than by keeping score in your head of the things it's doing 'wrong' or whatever, and I think enjoying a thing for what it is can be a much better use of your time than criticizing it for what it isn't, you know? we're not all film critics. we're not all book reviewers. we don't always need to give a measurement of the quality of everything we experience. you can just experience it. you know?

[drawnecromancy]

Nielle de Fumeterre, or as I like to call him, Hélianthe being a fucking liar.

[hawkeyedflame]

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[doppelnatur]

to a certain degree i don't think there is such a thing as purely internalized and internally directed bias. i don't think directing bias at yourself is morally much better than directing it at others it's just a lot harder to stop. that said, as soon as your self cruelty begins to affect anyone else it's just cruelty. a gay man being homophobic is not any more justifiable than a heterosexual man. then again, maybe this entire way of thinking shows a lack of compassion for myself and is a form of bias.

[doedipus]

2022 eat my ass

also preemptive 2023 eat my ass

[zosonils]

honestly at the point where i'm considering spending money on flight rising but i'm very very hesitant to let myself get into the habit of In App Purchases even in a game that's not particularly predatory about it

[ourceliumnetwork]

ok note to self: hours+ of drawing 2 days in a row is not your wrists' favorite thing, maybe take this into account when entering the Vision-Inspired Art Fugue State next time

[aparticularbandit]

You know what, these actually look okay!

They're not PERFECT, but they look okay! Better than I thought! I'm happy with these!

[david-watts]

to be quite honest I just want to go home