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when ody calls out for athena you can faintly hear eurylochus say “you rely on wit”
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i just want to talk jay.
#jorge when i GET YOU#i keep discovering new things#and each new discovery makes me wanna die even more#epic the musical#epic odysseus#spoilers#epic the musical spoilers#epic wisdom saga#wisdom saga
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Nobody told me that you can just, skip the gith creche???? And all it takes to keep Lae'zel around is a skill check???? the hell???
Of course i'd never skip it the lighting is too good for pictures but STILL
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emma dupain cheng on the brain😽🎀
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#ml#miraculous#miraculous ladybug#my art#emma dupain cheng#emma agreste#(i think that may the more popular tag for her lol. she is a dupain cheng in my heart though)#plagg#she is thirteen almost fourteen here btw. because i love circularity#emma dupain cheng to me is like. what if emilie or adrien grew up in a stable home with no trauma. that’s emma#and she is theater kid✨#and adrien and marinette are soooo so so supportive and love going to her shows and are so proud of her#/marinette has to be held back from trying to manipulate the school play casting process to secure emma the lead every year#but then emma sets her sights on bigger things(broadway west end)#and adrien pumps the breaks big time#and he’s so torn between supporting her interests and wanting so badly to keep her from like. being a child actor. having a job. b#being pulled from school#and emma gets upset bc he is standing in the way of her dreams#and they fight about it:(#and then emma discovers plagg and convinces him to help her sneak out and go to her callback that she secretly auditioned for#(and forged all the parent signatures for lol)#and. well. plagg CAN be bribed#and also she just reminds him so much of baby adrien🤧 he is a softie#and she runs away to her callback. and adrien and marinette wake up the next morning and see on the news that there is a new chat noir.#anyway. not that i’ve thought about it or anything
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Hey Have you also been thinking about Tiger, Tiger by @pepurika non-stop? Great! I've made a playlist because that is what happens when characters live rent free in my brain
#tiger tiger#tiger tiger comic#ludovica bonnaire#luck tiger tiger#elizabeths storytime#my fanart#pleeaaseee ive been so obsessed with this comic#i keep recommending it to people in my friend group BUT NO ONES PICKED IT UP YET#i will keep trying but until then they will have to hear me freakout about new updates with no context#also not alot of songs about sea sponges or discovering cool things on the ocean floor and thats immensely dissappointing#if any of you make more tiger tiger playlists PLEASE SEND THEM TO ME I wanna imagine bad amvs
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im so Normal. totally not shaking and crying rn
#its nice to be this excited about something again! to the point of nausea!#and i Mean That#this is the good kinda stress. tis a welcome break from the usual brands#all week i've been having moments of 'ohhhh god New Information Incoming' and i have to sit down every time#and measure my breathing to chill tf out#is this unhealthy! maybe! i am trying to keep it Contained!! tightly leashed if you will#BUT OH FUCK ITS ALMOST HERE AGH AGH AGH#absolutely unprompted#welcome home#i will probably be unable to discover secrets bc i am bad with computers and the like#but hey! ill try!#if there's like... a spoiler tag yall want from me ill make sure to tag any Update Posts with it#then again wh is a unique scenario of like... Are there spoilers#bc it feels like a 'a couple people uncover stuff and then show/tell the rest' thing#but what would i know! this is kinda the first update!#LETS GO GAMERS I HOPE THE NEW STUFF IS TRAUMATIZING FOR BOTH US AND THE CHARACTERS#alright im getting to excited again im gonna go lay down#gonna be refreshing pages every ten seconds even when its completely illogical and meaningless to do so
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now you're one of those ppl who wants to:
Please God, I want to be impregnate by Toji Fushiguro so bad. I want him to make me bear our children with my beautiful child-bearing hips. That handsome, radiant white angel. Like a god, having come down to Earth to cleanse us of our sins.
Toji is beyond divine. I can’t help but drop to my knees in worship whenever I see his manly figure. I yearn for him in a way both primal and spiritual. I would commit more war crimes than every president in United States history just to lick the sweet, glistening sweat from his smooth, creamy skin. I want him to listen to my moans as his manhood throbs within me, I want him to hear my heart race as our bodies become one and our souls irreversibly intertwine in the holy sin of carnal union.
I want him to suckle at my motherly bosom, slurping that rich coconut milk from my teat as I gently strokes his raging erection. I would like him to stir my velvety Samoan cream into my coffee and let his balls boil in it. My cries of pleasure and the rocking of our bed would be louder than the cacophony of ten thousand drone strikes. He would make love with me until my body gave out, and then some. I would let him break my rib cage with any part of his body. I would let him hit me with his cursed tool just to be near him for a brief moment.
He's so perfect it hurts. Every moment without him I suffer a pain worse than breaking every bone in my body simultaneously while drowning and also having shards of glass coated in hot sauce forced through every orifice of my body. I want him, I need him. I want him to desecrate my pure, white pantsuit. I want to start a family with him and retire after our twenty seven children have grown up and moved out. I want to see those luscious lips speak such filthy, perverse words into my ear while I slides ice cubes down his gaping pisshole.
every day i log on to tumblr.com and i am forced to see things with my good christian eyeballs
#'i want him to desecrate my pure white pantsuit' broke me LMAOOO#anon u have a future on booktok i think#ur prose would do NUMBERS on there#i keep going back and rereading this and discovering new things and absolutely DYING lmao#u are a poet and a visionary#ask andie
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HE COULDN’T THINK OF ANY FACTS.
Hyperfixation and passion got married and are taking care of all of the interests! Elias’ brain is just absolutely flooded with dopamine right now, it’s the BEST.
“A strong sense of pleasure slightly tempered by conscience sounds pretty fun.” Trapp is always 100% correct. My god this man is so quick and talented. More Trapp on D20 2kforever.
Conscience understanding the place self-loathing can come from and shrinking it back into more helpful “you fucked up but you’re going to fix it” guilt, accountability. Goddamn seriously self-loathing evolving from guilt Brennan you’re a goddamn genius.
Impulse and hyper vigilance have gotten divorced and remarried 17 times at least already, you can’t convince me otherwise.
Way to go, Elias. I knew you could do it, buddy.
#mentopolis#dimension 20#his passion for ice skating returned#he’s discovering new kinks#he’s a ~dashing hero~#he’s nurturing long lost interests#his sense of self loathing is the guilt you need to keep you accountable#he’s paying more attention to what really matters#and he’s letting his curiosity figure things out rather than lackeys for ambition#I imagine ambition has been released but is now being heavily monitored#and greed is probably not actually dead but certainly laying low for now#HOW WAS THIS ENTIRE SEASON ABSOLUTELY PERFECT#WHAT DARK RITUAL HATH BEEN PERFORMED#actually wait the man is a whistle blower#hyper vigilance being in an on again off again relationship with impulse makes PERFECT SENSE#EVERYTHING WAS ALREADY PERFECT HOW DID IT GET MORE PERFECT#this season might count as a form of therapy
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spilling hot wax on anakin.
this post is 18+, minors dni.
yeah.
there's not much the guy isn't into - pretty much as long as it's coming from you, he'll like it. you actually probably didn't mean to do it at first, or he didn't directly ask for it, but you were blowing out a candle and accidentally blew some of the wax onto his arm right beside the jar, and you're apologizing profusely while his eyes are dilating and his dick is stiffening in his pants. he's like don't apologize. melt that whole thing down right now and pour it on me.
he prefers when you use white candles, because when the wax melts down and you drip it over him, it looks like cum <3 and there's just something about the thought of you splattering him with cum like he so often does to you, whether it be his face/chest/thighs- it almost too much for the guy to handle. he's so filthy, honestly he'd probably cum all over his own stomach and it would pool with the wax and he'd get the sickest satisfaction from it - like instantly he's rock hard again seeing his cum mix with the wax and drip all over his skin.
it makes him feel dirty, tainted, filthy to have wax dripped all over him, like it's staining his skin and clinging to him obscenely. especially if he is envisioning it as your cum; then it's like he's just some fucktoy laid out and tied up for you to dump your cum onto. it makes his dick hard to be dirty for you, it makes his dick hard when you dirty him.
he loves seeing the red marks left over from the burn. of course it's never a severe burn, but there's always patches of his skin that are blotchy and red and they sting when you touch them. they're like territorial markings to him; you're his and he's yours. you did that to him, you burned yourself into his skin, you branded him with hot wax and he'll belong to you forever. he'll chant that into your ear as he cums, that he'll belong to you forever and that he's all yours. whether you ride him or he's fucking you on all fours or you're in missionary, it doesn't matter, he's going to spew all of his devotions against your ear - he's probably gonna lick/bite your ear all hot and heavy while he's doing it too just for good measure
he likes watching the wax drip down his skin and harden in stiff droplets, loves watching how concentrated you get when you pour it over him, loves being your dirty little canvas. and it definitely doesn't hurt that he's into pain, too, loves it when his thighs are on fire 'cause you're dripping wax on them and his dick is on fire because you're dripping wax on them.
he likes being tied up when you're doing it so that he can't move. we all know he could, he's so powerful that he could rip through the bindings without even bothering with the Force, but he'll writhe and squirm and pant while you pour hot wax all over him like he's helpless and can't go anywhere
having hot wax dripped on him makes him needy. it's arousing, but it's usually not arousing enough to make him cum untouched. he needs you to fuck him after, or suck him off, or at the very least jack him off, because he's on fire and his dick is so hard it's hurting his head and he wants to cum all over your hand or face or pump you full of it. of course he wants sex, he wants to fuck you or for you to fuck him, but there's something insanely hot about you denying him that, and jacking/sucking him off instead. like you can't even be bothered to really have sex with him, all you can grant him is a sloppy bj. it's more of that desperate feeling i mentioned in this post: he likes being treated like he's pathetic and desperate and needy for you because he is pathetic and needy and desperate for you. he gets off on needing you. he likes feeling like it's an inconvenience for you to even glance his way, like he's below you, and he'll thank you profusely if you're gracious enough to let him fuck your fist after you're done pouring hot wax all over him.
cw for impact play; don't read further if it's going to bother you
he also really likes it when you slap him with it; i'll explain. you'd dipped your finger in it once to draw on his chest and leave some of those red marks against his pretty golden skin that get him so worked up. and it was hard because the wax dried pretty quick, so you had to get your finger to his chest in practically under a second if you wanted to actually draw it over him and not just have a hardened, wax-covered finger. This led to you jamming your finger into his chest pretty hard, and anakin is no stranger to impact play.
instantly he knew he wanted you to slap him with it. it's even harder to keep wax hot/wet over your entire hand, but it just means you have to really put some power behind your palm as you slam it down onto his chest. even if it's already half-hardened it's still gooey when it smears against his skin, and the heat doesn't matter as much anymore when you're hitting him with it; it's the pain and the residue that matters.
He wants you to smack him in the face, too, and leave a warm white handprint there that dries and cracks against his skin. it's about seeing your milky white handprints all over him, especially if you drip it onto his thighs and smear it around with your hands.
he likes it especially because you're both being burnt. Your palm is equally as pained as his cheek, and something about being burnt together and burning each other is so hot to him for some reason. molten hot sex appeal.
he begs you to hit the stinging, red marks left by the wax. he wants you to slap him around, slam the palm of your hand against the blotchy red patch against his pec as he writhes and cries out at the pain. he wants you to scrape your nails along the burn on his cheek and leave scorching scratch marks there before you dip your tongue into his mouth and drink up his pained whimpers
#i keep discovering new things about myself through anakin asks#i think you should never stop sending them in#anakin skywalker x reader#anakin skywalker imagine#anakin skywalker scenario#anakin skywalker oneshot#anakin skywalker one-shot#anakin skywalker one shot#anakin skywalker headcanon#anakin skywalker headcanons#anakin skywalker hcs#anakin skywalker hc#anakin skywalker fanfiction#anakin skywalker fanfic#anakin skywalker fic#anakin skywalker blurb#anakin skywalker drabble#anakin skywalker dialogue#anakin skywalker fluff#anakin skywalker smut#sub!anakin
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If I knew how to edit videos at all I would love to make a video essay on BoTW + ToTK and how it helps players process grief.
Both games do an astounding job of capturing why it’s so damn hard to let go of the past, how different people handle loss, and how death of the body doesn’t necessarily mean influence + impact dies with the person.
Doing the final grind for ending ToTK is making me feel and think about a lot of things ;;;
#I lost my grandma when BoTW came out and no lifed the game on winter break because I couldn’t handle her being gone#I have to go fight Ganon and I keep putting it off because I don’t want it to be over yet just like BoTW#I think this feeling of I don’t want it to end these games give you when you know it’s time really drives home the core message of the game#It was beautiful while it lasted and it will continue to be beautiful but it will not look or feel the same#and that’s ok#there are new things to discover and new people to meet#it’ll be ok in the end and if it isn’t you’ll keep fighting till it is#for everyone you care about#…emotional about Zelda on main#BoTW#ToTK#legend of zelda#sleepy’s journal#Thanks for letting me process the death of yet another important family member in the gentlest way possible#Mr. Aonuma if I could personally thank you for all this game series has helped me through I would but I don’t know if you can send fan mail
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Hello?! Can someone please tell me when the FUCK Orin has been able to turn invisible?! I'm just trying to catch some screenshots and then she's gotta go and do this bullshit!
#bg3#baldur's gate 3#this is what i get for experimenting around with the game and doing shit i'm not supposed to#i guess it does make sense that orin can turn invisible#but i have hundreds of hours in this game and beat up orin who knows how many times#and this is the first time she has ever gone invisible#i guess this is what happens when you confront orin on a durge playthrough but you don't bring durge to the fight#im going to cry#but i love discovering new things in video games like this - keeps me on my toes
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hiii i have a question about your cheka !! did you use the professional or essential version of spine for it (im assuming you're using spine??) :0000 was debating on making some self indulgent sprites myself and i didnt know which version to buy
I use Professional! I don't use it as a professional anymore, but it works just as well for small silly things like fan-chibis. :D personally, I think the Professional features are absolutely essential (despite the cheaper version being called Essentials. it's a lie.) especially if you want to do a Twst-style chibi --I've stared at those little dudes for a looooong time trying to figure out how they work, and they're definitely using meshes, if not also constraints.
meshes are the big dealbreaker for me, since they let you weight the image to bones, and get actual deformation and bendiness:
(ignore the feather floating away, I didn't wanna fix it for the example :')
and of course, constraints are the other big thing! IK is the most obvious one:
but there's also ones that allow relative manipulation of other bones, paths, and all kinds of other fun stuff! I learned about keyable path spacing a while back and it absolutely blew my mind that you can just...DO that. god.
uhhhh yeah, sorry, I'm a Spine stan! I think Professional >>>> Essentials, although the price difference is, unfortunately, pretty steep (if it helps, I believe you can upgrade at any time for the difference in price, and for individuals it's a one-time purchase with perpetual free updates). it has a little bit of a learning curve, but once I got used to the UI I found it really intuitive, and there's plenty of documentation and tutorials!
tl;dr it's pretty expensive if you aren't using it professionally -- and you could definitely get good results using Essentials if you're clever about rigging -- but Professional is far and away the superior version.
#i...don't know what to tag this#sorry!#gif warning#gifs that i just discovered you can export with visible selection warning#i keep learning new cool things you can do in spine. i want to marry this program#anyway there's a couple of other professional-exclusive things like clipping masks and audio#but meshes and constraints are the super necessary big deal ones IMO#i want to touch the twst rigs. those INK DRIPS#i want to understand them#i think there's a really clever mixture of deformation and...shearing i think? going on#i-it's neat okay just take my word for it#me breaking out the jeweler's loupe to analyze some tiny anime gifs#spineposting
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sorry but no one can convince me that t is giving buck head. he'd be like. 😐🫤 evan, your dick is too big, can't i just give you a handy instead? and buck being the little people pleaser that he is would just be like. 😟😔 yeah...yeah okay that's fine...
#strong believer of the buck is not sexually satisfied with t#like once the novelty of being with a guy for the first time wore off#hes just not getting much of their relationship anymore#obviously he like being with a guy and discovering all the new acts and feelings and positions they can do#like okay t said hes just trying to keep up with buck in that deleted scene right#but idk man i fully believe thats buck figuring out he loves giving bjs and being like can i suck you dick hey hey can i suck your dick rn#or getting fucked (im a taylor pegged him truther but shhh) and hes just eager to do these things a lot because hes never done them before#i really dont think that that means t is matching his energy (because when has he ever)#like okay sorry im subjecting yall to this#but i imagine buck basically writhing on the bed like a cat in heat and t is just like uhhhh 🧍♂️ i can fuck you ig#(shhhh ik t is a gay man but yall be so serious the daddy kink is like the freakiest thing he could ever do and that aint even freaky)#these tags are all over the place#basically#t would try to give buck head like once and be like sorry evan i cant but hey ill do x instead#eddie on the other hand would try to give buck head and buck would be like hey...hey dont hurt yourself most people end up not being able to#and eddie would proceed to happily choke himself on bucks dick#anti tommy kinard#yeahh
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Thanks for answering my previous ask! 😊 I forgot to mention another thing. Can we talk about the song choice for the "when will you reopen" scene? A song that includes the lyric "I will run to you" and beautiful vocals? I've been playing "17 Run to You" on Spotify on repeat ever since I heard it. 😅
hi again ^^ no problem! thank you so much for sending the ask in the first place :)
oh, sure!
honestly, i tried searching for the translation of the whole song everywhere... but i couldn't find it :( but from what i gathered, the song sings,
"even after many years i still can't keep you from leaving the future is too far away let's run together and never let go of each other i will run to you run to you […] i will run to you ignite the sky red with youth run to the unknown and never look back never look back"
i think the song can be interpreted in many ways. but from my point of view, these lyrics are a foreshadowing of the upcoming [storm] in their budding relationship.
[edited: i found the song's translation on tumblr! thank you so much user @jasmineflower9 for this!]
the next part might contain spoilers from the novel [since I've read a few excerpts I found online].
a) the pain of separation
from the lines "even after many years, I still can't keep you from leaving," I think it has to do with jiang tian and sheng wang parting ways after sheng wang's father discovered their relationship. if I'm not mistaken, it took almost six years for them to meet again.
from what I read, when they met again as adults, their feelings for each other were still as strong—even stronger than before. because now, they've established successful career paths and they don't have anything to fear.
additionally, if I may add, I think in episode 5, sheng wang said, "after I become 18, I'll leave this house and live alone," to his father. so... this kind of hints that sheng wang has always wanted to live alone. probably because the house felt too big for the two of them—and honestly, his father's presence is just like a fading shadow—as if he was never there.
yet, since sheng wang and jiang tian met, they've become so important to each other. thus, even after many years of distance and longing, once they met again, they would never let go of each other's hands. this time, it feels infinite—them.
b) youth is the time of hope
"the future is too far away, let's run together / run to the unknown and never look back," I think these lyrics are talking about the present time. since they've somewhat 'confessed' in episode 6, this is their promise to move forward together. no more pushing and pulling. no more guessing and assuming.
indirectly quoting teacher zhao, youth is the time for fun and experiments. there's no need for detailed planning and endless fear. it's the only moment for them to enjoy their freedom to the fullest. so, it might illustrates jiang tian and sheng wang's willingness to wholeheartedly let go of everything that has been holding them back (jiang tian; fear of hurting and being hurt—sheng wang; fear of abandonment and loneliness).
because they're together now. they're standing in the same line, heading towards the same path. they don't have anything to be afraid of. they have each other. and that's all that matters.
to conclude, the song fits jiang tian and sheng wang's journey to acceptance—accepting their feelings for each other; courage—they're no longer overshadowed by their past; and hope—as long as they love each other, this string that connects them won't ever break. it's an eternal knot.
i'm sorry because i'm not really knowledgeable, but i hope this [messy thought vomit] is insightful and makes sense to you...
#i'm sorry if this answer is not what you wanted...#i'm not good at articulating my ideas tbvh...#but thank you for asking me these interesting questions!#they keep my brain going hahaha#and i also discovered many new things about tianwang#thanks for the ask!#tianwang#the on1y one#msrobertdowneyjr#na answers
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I'm sick so I'm sorry if this doesn't make sense, but I've been thinking about the nature of myths recently as I've been exploring hellenic polytheism.
For context: I'm ex-Mormon. I was raised in the church and, because of that, was taught biblical literalism but in, like, a more subtle way than most? I was raised believing that Adam & Eve and Noah's Ark, etc., were literally true, but that the story of Job specifically was not; I also always knew evolution and the Big Bang to be correct, despite there being a verse in the Doctrine & Covenants (a Mormon-specific religious book) where God apparently told Joseph Smith that the world is 6,000 years old- a passage I didn't know existed until my senior year of high school. I didn't realize I had believed in biblical literalism until I'd left the church, actually.
Now that I'm aware of it, it's a mindset I'm actively trying to combat while I explore Hellenic polytheism. It's definitely been a task to separate the nature of the Gods from their myths, as brutal as they often are. And it's something I've noticed within the community, too, which I think is interesting. It makes sense: Christianity, at least, has had a chokehold on much of the world for a long time, and so many of us have experienced literalism as our first interaction with any sort of holy text (though, of course, Greek myths as a whole aren't that) alongside our first experience with divinity as a wrathful God whose flaws are waved away, or ignored, or twisted into positive attributes. This also means that I'm trying to re-approach several deities with an open mind (Zeus, Hera, and Ares in particular, but many of them to some extent) while also trying to un-condition myself. I was already in the process of doing this, of course, but trying to figure out how to interact with a completely different pantheon has made that especially clear.
It extends to things like prayer and offerings, too. Prayers were very formulaic growing up, even though most of the time there wasn't a strict script to follow. There was always something you ask as part of the prayer, even if it's just 'please help me do better tomorrow' (alongside giving thanks, of course), so trying to craft a prayer without adding *everything* I'm used to including in makes it feel incomplete and, therefore, disrespectful. And daily prayer is something I'm resistant to because of prior experiences with it. I don't want to offend any of the gods by asking for something or asking for too much, especially so early on, and there's always a promised offering the few times I *have* asked. Add worries about exact obedience on top of that and it's proving to be a difficult thing to untangle. And I know that the gods are difficult to offend, figuring out how to do this takes trial & error and that's okay, it'll get better the more I do it, etc., etc.; this is more an issue with my own overthinking than anything else (hooray for ✨ mental health issues ✨). I'm not really asking for advice here, necessarily, just thinking out loud because I'm not comfortable talking to people in meat space about it yet.
#also: the whole thing about cleanliness? as someone w/ mental health issues? Rough. very rough. what counts? how individualized is it?#if i cant get my room (where my shrines are/will be) clean does that mean i cant give any offerings?#is just washing my hands and/or veiling actually okay most of the time? even when ive been struggling to shower?#when does something require a change of clothes? or do i have to do that every time i offer something at any point in the day?#including meal/drink (ex steam from tea) offerings? i dont have that many clothes besties#if im pouring out an offering to hermes on my way home from work do i have to somehow wash my hands first b/c i just got off public transit#can i pour it directly from my water bottle or do i have to keep a little separate bottle of water just for libations?#and like. i know logically the answer is 'do whatever you can and you'll figure it out' but it hasnt sunk in yet#it's always...interesting when a new layer of religious trauma tm gets discovered#also. maybe it's just the 'tism but 'just jump in!' and 'go slow at the beginning' seem contradictory to me#like. you cant do both??? i dont think??? 'just jump in' is the answer ive been getting when i do tarot so im trying to do that#also. doubts? not offending a deity??? wild concept. just. the hardest thing to wrap my head around. mormon god's ego is FRAGILE fr#hellenic pagan#helpol#hellenic polytheism#not adding exmo tags b/c i dont have a good enough handle on the community here & im too sick to deal with people being weird about this#my post#coriander says#seeing people get into the theological weeds is cool from the outside (see: that 'can spiderman do superhero stuff on the sabbath' post)#but very stressful when there's not centuries on centuries of detailed information to draw from & everyone's just trying to figure shit out#in a world that's *very* different from the one the information we *do* have was written down in#christianity cw#mormonism cw
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#personal#internets#at this rate I've unfollowed both of the kinda.. 'controvercial' blogs I've been following#since there was a good chunk of actually good takes about how bad media is now and society and braindead internet 'activists' that-#-had it too good in their western countries and NEEDED to invent the reason to bully and excile people#could honestly resonate with it despite some other posts causing genuine pain. but mostly about terribly handled media#like you know that thing when corporations do terrible ass rep to pretend that they care for minorities#or artificially fabricate online backlash against their new actors to show investors that people show interest for their product because-#-of all the clicks on their article?#like discussion of this kind sorta keeps me sober#as a person with BPD I get contaminated by opinions VERY easily and as an autist I will believe everything if it is put together 'logically#that's why I HAVE to be exposed to every possible opinion so I am forced to make out my own rather than being swayed anywhere#but at this point those blog became kinda.. bad? like they don't just have 'opinions' but they hate just to hate#but now my dashboard and recs are full of exclusively things I can fully agree with and I am scared that it will rot my brain#like.. emotions are always the same. where is the 'wait WHAT' effect? where is anger? where is self-reflection?#but ALSO I realized that 'those' blogs are no better than those western 'warriors' I despise and they become narrow-minded too in the end#they advertise themselves as 'open to debate' only to always sway debate into trying to win and not into actually discovering the truth#I cannot trust any side because they're all narrow-minded and hostile but I cannot trust people without any side because-#-they're fence-sitters without morals that side with the winner#is there a secret third thing? like is there a way to not take a side but to still HAVE ideals and opinions?#my problem is that if I am not exposed to people that trash everything I value I forget why AM I valuing [a thing] to BEGIN with#and that won't do will it
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Okay dandy, what is "it's not about the bread"? I recognized everything else
Ah! It's not about the bread is a phrase fairly common in marriage counseling/relationship advice circles. It comes from a popular anecdote of a husband in counseling saying his wife is always blowing up at him about petty things, like buying the wrong brand of bread. The therapist asks the wife why she's upset about the bread, and she says it's because he is chronically inattentive to her and their collective needs so she ends up carrying the slack. It's not about the bread: It's about what's manifesting through the bread
Humans are not rational creatures, we're rationalizing. It takes a lot of self awareness to be in one's own head and go "oh. I'm not upset about the bread, I'm mad because this is the third time this week and the twentieth time this month I have to come up with a new dinner plan because this idiot fucked up." However, it takes much less awareness to look at one's partner and go "hm. That was an outsized reaction. Something larger than what set this off is probably going on."
Once you've realized there's something going on, partners can begin working towards a solution. You have to pull back the rug to find what's been swept under it.
Emotions all have causes. Sometimes they're bigger than they seem like they should be, and sometimes the cause is buried deep in the unconscious parts of the brain, but there's always a reason. Part of loving someone is trying to understand them, and part of understanding them is sussing out when it's about the bread... And when you should maybe start writing a more detailed grocery list
#it's not about the bread#stupid elf tries to explain marriage counseling concepts while neither married nor a counselor#there's a good chance the anecdote is taken from a tv show episode and the some psychologist wrote a book about it#cheers#also periods are like this#hormones don't make New Emotions they just exacerbate existing emotions#so if somebody is suddenly angry about things that don't normally bother them they're probably bothered they just suppress/don't express it#it's not irrational it's just a little convoluted#like all those stories of pregnant women being Totally Irrational about food#and then it's discovered that the brain knows what the body's nutritional needs are it just doesn't share that properly#so sometimes lines get crossed and eating the wrong thing is Going To Kill Baby Don't Let This Happen Nooooo#and it's just a ham sandwich but the brain only knows there's no lettuce and the body needs iron and This Won't Do#be sympathetic and be curious about your partner#and everybody will be happier and love deeper :)#today on I literally gained the legal ability to drink four days ago but I can talk like an old person giving advice to the younguns#thank you all wise elders for not hating me for my insolence I will keep being insolent now
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