#I hope I could help

[talk-to-me4ever]

HIII!!! Talks @ u forever

erm what do you do whne you really dislike a person but they're dating your best friend

like they aren't a bad person or anything they just REALLY annoy me because a few certain things,,, like one that really makes me upset is how hard setting boundaries are with them,,, i remember recently me & them were joking around in a discord server and they made this really sexual joke towards me and it made me really uncomfortable and. i told him hey! can you not make those jokes please as a boundary (in dms) and they literally apologized for it like 200 times. and i felt so guilty about it and now every time they make me uncomfortable i just feel guilty making their insecurities flare up like that because they have a lot of mental health problems but they're basically just guilttripping me even if it's unintentional idk i just if i told my friend about their bf being like this than she'd either not believe me or she'd break up with him and his issues would get worse,, i'm kinda acting like a mini therapist for him atp and i've worked really hard to try and make him feel like he doesn't have to apologize for everything and that we care about him and if we just left he wouldn't believe it anymore. like at the end of the day i pretty much have to keep being his like stand in therapist but GOD does it get tiring especially when he can just run around saying whatever because i'm so shitty at setting boundaries

vagueposting on a tumblr blog probably isn't the most mature move but eh this has been on my mind for some time lol

on anon because my best friend has tumblr and i don't want them seeing this 💔 but i think you know who i am LMAO

hey how about you just take a breather here and we’ll get a hang on things. So from what I understood, you’re having trouble asserting yourself and are stuck in a situation where you have to make sure the other person is alright despite it affecting you in an unpleasant manner.. Well, in any case, if you’re doing the job of taking care of someone for them (without any primary reason of let’s say a family member or sick friend you’d go to the end of the earth for) then it’s most likely a relationship that’s bound to be destroyed.

Most things when forced just don’t work out well, even if you have a vague sense of obligation that’s just unspokenly pulling you to stay with someone because you can’t bare to see them hurting. It’s something that many empathetic people suffer with and often leads to a draining exchange between someone who is likely ignorant to the help they’re getting and someone who is giving their all but getting nothing in return. Ofcourse, I’m not saying that’s what’s happening, because there’s thousands of variables that could affect a situation, but I just am one to say that if you gotta be overly careful around someone, limit yourself, and feel awful because you’re trying your best for them and are getting nothing in return, to just stop that little game. Easy on paper but can be a struggle in real life. Disliking someone can be a natural process but if it’s actively worsening your mental state, even just bit by bit gnawing at you like a termite infestation, then it deserves to be adressed, especially if to the point where you are aware of it and the discomfort it brings.

Usually, in life, the universe does a silly thing where when you remove one thing, it bounces back. It’s just a strange thing I’ve noticed, like.. if you save $2 somewhere, in some odd range of events you’ll end up paying 2 bucks extra somewhere. It’s an odd effect I’ve noticed and unsure if it has a name or is just a theory, but it’s similar with people for me. If I stop talking to one person, I’m just magically supplied with another individual a few weeks down the line. It’s like a cycle of balance. And for good to come sometimes you gotta be patient through rocky times. But you need to know, if there isn’t anything that’s changing, you must actively do something.

If he is bothering you, albeit with mere presence alone, you need to work on allowing yourself the courage to set your foot down. Even if it means being rude, even if it results in appearing mean and a bit cold, but you shouldn’t prioritise other people over yourself, never, in any condition. It’s good to try keep relationships healthy and blossoming but many people just force themselves to stay in a loop in fear of losing someone close, rejection, or being uncertain. Change is a natural part of life, and if in response to you being yourself someone leaves, then it was just meant to be. Don’t be afraid of announcing that you’re not exactly comfortable with something, and best of all it’s nice to work things out, but if they refuse to listen, make stern decisions.

You deserve peace in life and relationships that don’t feel like a chore, friend. And even through a hard moral struggle, I believe you can decide on something that best works for you.

im a bit unsure of how to work through boundaries and all but if you pin point a specific problem, then that could be a good place to start. Do make sure you are happy, though. Please. I want you to be able to say that you’re uncomfortable and for things to just calmly happen and change, ya know? I hope your day (and lifetime) goes well. :)

[i-am-the-balancing-point]

the funniest shit just happened again

we got a new classmate

she’s from Kazakhstan

[mogaikarim]

is there a term and a flag in for me if i was born a girl and i am female and i am fine with that but i sometimes feel like i should have male private parts? i don't feel dysphoric about anything about me

Maybe this will suit you:

Transgenital or altergenital is an altersex or transsex label for someone who has changed or desires to change the genitals that they were born, not matching one's assigned sex

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[butchchase]

how can I make my butch feel good?

compliments go a long way, if they’re on the muscular side tell them their arms look good, put your hands on them. it makes them feel strong and protective. i know i like that anyway. call them handsome, beautiful, pretty, whatever they like, make sure they know how much you appreciate their attractiveness. as a butch myself, being complimented on my looks makes me feel validated and confirms that you think im beautiful even if i dont fully believe it yet.

i’d go into detail about in the bedroom but i’m not sure if that’s what ur asking so we’ll save that for another time.

treat your butch with kindness and they’ll appreciate you forever. 🖤

[aluminumneedles]

I'm knitting in the corner at a party

and guys my age stop by to tell me I remind them of their aunt, of their grandmother. This is a compliment and I take it as such. They confess to having tried crochet once, and I smile. They get back in line for the bathroom.

I'm knitting in the corner at a party and a queer woman sits on the floor next to me, arranges her skirt, and smiles up at me. (I try not to blush.) She asks me all the questions on her mind about my craft and I answer them, hands still moving. We swap yarn sources. She doesn't stay, but she knows where to find me.

I'm knitting in the corner at a party and everyone knows where to find me when they need a minute, when socializing is too much and the music is too loud and they need to catch their breath. They pretend to be checking in on me, which is sweet, but I can see the relief in their eyes the moment they stop performing for a house full of people. They sit down and tell me things and all the while they never take their eyes off my hands.

The party has wound down and I'm still knitting and the hosts, two guys in their twenties, thank me for "helping to curate the vibe." I had no idea that's what I was doing. I leave the party having forgotten to drink anything and without that woman's number but with many rows added to my top-down raglan sweater. I call it a night, and a good one.

[graysbullshit]

I have been vacinated about 30-45 times in my life. Do you know how much I paid for it? Not a dime.

My great-aunt had a tumor and had to treat it with radiotherapy and chemotherapy. She was fully recovered. Do you know how much she paid for it? Not a dime.

One of Brazil's most famous tv show hosts who has been in show business for over 40 years with over 30 milion views had a kidney transplant this year. Do you know how much he paid for the transplant? Not a dime.

When my mother is bored she walks a block up to the public health center and gets a check up. Do you know how much she pays for this? Not a dime.

My mother has been going to the psychologist. Do you know much she has paid? Not a dime.

Does this enrage you? It should. When Luigi said "this" was a insult to the American people's intelligence he probably meant the mediatic circus around his person, but if we're to be honest you could say the same about USA's healthcare politics. Do not let them tell you it "has to be this way" and "there is no other way." There is. You CAN have better healthcare. You DON'T have to sell your house to pay your medical debt. They are MAKING you do this ON PURPOSE. Don't forget that.

I don't usually have any kindness to spare USAians, but we are with you in this one. The world is watching. You CAN turn this around! Don't let them desincourage you.

[hansoeii]

let time pass.

[chloesimaginationthings]

Michael Afton draws FNAF tape girl for Vanessa,,

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Maybe we never had a chance.

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[v-yun]

Behold!

A meme:

[t0ast-ghost]

Imagine if, “and you betrayed me” is the last time Optimus allows Megatron to see his full face. It’s the last personal moment between them. The last hope that maybe Megatron will see a friend, but that can’t ever happen. Optimus was born out of D-16’s betrayal. This is Orion’s goodbye.

[ursiday]

Do you see viktor and elsa’s relationship as platonic or romantic?

Okay so how long do you have

My personal interpretation is that they have feelings for each other... I go back and forth on how to contextualize that but I don't feel limited to one interpretation either, it's fun to consider different scenarios and I think their relationship is pretty ambiguous regardless. I love their characters and history and the way they seem to share a really unique and meaningful bond so I enjoy it any way you spin it, but I think them having feelings for each other adds this additional layer of tension and tragedy

I almost see them being friends as too straightforward and I don't think they're the kind of people who can have uncomplicated relationships. Even if Elsa wasn't married, with the circumstances of Viktor's separation from his wife I can't imagine him with a healthy attitude about having any kind of romantic feelings let alone being in a "normal" relationship again. But at the same time I think she would naturally fall into that hole in his life like how Ivy did for his daughter. Whereas even though Elsa has her husband and brother I'm not sure if she shares that "common ground" with them that she says she has with Viktor

My vision is that they seem to connect in a way they don't with other people and they care about each other a lot but in a way that can never be fully realized. Anyway to answer your question: Yes

[xxplastic-cubexx]

you open my Super Important Documents and its just pictures of charles xavier

[eddiesprius]

sorry I’m actually not chill at all and I am pissed off because if you think “a woman who survived a violently abusive relationship can’t be trusted to give romantic advice” is anywhere near a reasonable thing to say GET FUCKING HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[allastoredeer]

Do you have any tips on how to draw alastor in side profile view?

Sure do! I was gonna write them all down, but thought it might be too all over the place, soooooo

Added an expression sheet cuz I was needing one anyway XD

Hope this helps!

(Oh! a note I forgot to add, Alastor's hair can be simultaneously spiky and fluffy. It's usually fluffier up top, but if he's happy-like the Alastor near the bottom left in the expression sheet--it tends to look a lot fluffier and softer. When he's mad or being intimidating, it gets really thin and spiky. It's kind of a mix of both when he's neutral).

Also linking my Masterpost, which has all my other drawing guides.

[che-rrys-stuff]

Thinking about the parallels between Majima's relationship with Makoto in Y0 and with Kiryu in Pirate Yakuza, from a narrative standpoint to a mere visual one :

Majima not being able to stay put and "do nothing" while his loved ones, Kiryu and Makoto in this case, are suffering, to the point of becoming borderline suicidal (as he thinks, because of his poor self esteem, no one will miss him anyways, but Kiryu and Makoto ? They're far better people than him, of course they deserve to live more than he does), making the decision of endangering his own life for even the smallest chance of being helpful, to be able to do something meaningful for them.

Majima's decision to stay away from Makoto to guarantee she will have a normal life, and the subsequent birth of the mad dog as a way to not only regain control from his past traumas, but to also put a shield, a barrier, in front of his emotions. Not wanting to face them, just doing whatever he thinks would be right for Makoto in that case. Mostly due to self loathing (he isn't 'worthy' of someone like her, and will never give her the life she deserves), and because he feels like he could never truly let go of the Yakuza lifestyle.

How could he with a constant reminder of his poor life choices directly engraved on his face ?

All of this is mirrored in the last scene of pirate Yakuza 'the beginning and the end are one and the same', but Majima decides to break the circle : he lost his mad dog persona along with the representation of it, his snakeskin jacket, when he almost drowned back in Hawaii. He 'shed' the old skin, the mask, away and in the final scene decided to, possibly never, put it on again. Even if in a subtle way, he grows from the man who couldn't think of anything but to hide his emotions by walking away from Makoto, to someone who matured and is finally able to confront them.

He decided to give up on the love he had for Makoto for her own sake, but couldn't bring himself to do the same for Kiryu.

His love language is sacrificing himself for others/put their well-being and happiness first. Even if it's one sided, even if it's painful, he does not stop genuinely wanting the other person's happiness.