#I have Tumblr muted and I dont check my notifications so

[tobaccosmain]

If you dont know an anti trans protest in australia, vic, was attended by Nazis who saluted and everything.

the fact (some) protesters act shocked that nazis thought to come is whats so godamn confusing. Do these people not realise their hateful ideologies are..hateful? That theyre going to attract hate GROUPS? I dont know why they're so surprised.

Terfs are hateful, spiteful people. Nazis are also, hate ful, spiteful people. Im not saying terfs ARE nazis, but I am saying terfs have no right to be surprised when nazis are like "Hey wassup let me join y'all"

Also people can feel free to argue or yell or whatever but just know I truly, wholy, dont give a fuck abt ur opinion and also Im very sick and too tired to deal with arguing on fucking Tumblr

[wip]

so a while back i had a post i made for friends escape containment. It really took off, its in the 200k rn. i discovered its very difficult to check notes on mobile when you have a popular post. i have notifications turned off, of course, but my Notes tab is still overwhelmed. The likes and blank reblogs Notes are grouped into twenty/thirty note chunks, which helps, but its still almost impossible to check my regular notes, and i miss a lot of interactions. i dont want to delete the original post, but its incredibly difficult to use tumblr whenever the post spikes

is there anything in the works to help manage big posts beyond just deleting the post?

Answer: Hello there, @rigil-kentauris!

Thanks for getting in touch with this—it’s a great question. A couple of things by way of your answer:

You can actually filter the activity view to only show reblogs-with-comment and whatever you want (not the Notes view for the post itself, but your whole blog Activity view.)

You can also mute notifications for that popular post, forever or temporarily. You can do this by tapping the meatball menu on the post and selecting: “Mute notifications.” This will also stop them from appearing in your Activity in the first place.

My posts also break containment sometimes, and we built these two features specifically for that purpose! Also, we are working on improving how we group notifications so that they’re not as overwhelming.

We hope this helps, and thanks for getting in touch. 

Love,

—Katie and Cyle 

[xxbatmanb3y0ndxx]

making a new about me post cause uh i think the last time i did i still had that god awful typing quirk

hey fam im damien (15) uh ill be 16 in janaury (1/25 baby!)

um i have an awesome bf & i post like sometimes

btw i have notifs off for EVERYTHING (instagram, tumvlr, snapchat, uh i think even my emails are muted 😭)

im most active on instagram but dont worry my e kittens i still check tumblr @ least once a day so

ok ok interests or whatever:

- saw . its all saw rn, saw is infecting me dear god

- final destination 1-3, uh saw and fd arw my mains rn icl!

-animal crossing new horizons… stop it dont look @ me like that…

-fortnite i friggin love fortnite SO MYCH

- dc . oh god im sorry guys it wont go away im so sorry

- rhats like pretty much it i think?? side from music rhats like all that i like so! oh yeah & total drama & i used to really like soutj park but i had a really bad haricut when i did so … like all i can feel is cringe but i used to (but dont actively anymore) collect south park memorabilia

ok uh dni :

i really dont have a dni i think i mean like if ur a raging racist piece of shit i dont really know why youd be following me but yea basic dni critieria of like dont be a total douche

fun facts:

-i met fred durst and got to go on stage during a limp bizkit concert

-my uncle went to the same prison as the people in the nerve gas house from saw ii (joliet)

-i had to take drivers ed twice and still failed my drivers test (dw im retaking it when i get my liscense)

-sean bonnette from ajj told me happy birthday when i turned 13

-oh ueah & im working on a really shitty comic too guys

rhar mifhr be it guys uhhhhh yea!

[oraclekleo]

5 cause i love my sisters <3 also no.15 you seem organized so I'm guessing yes you do, cause you probably dont like a lot notification bar 😄

Hello!

5. Do you have any siblings?

Yes, I have one younger sister. Although many people think she's the older one. 😂 If it upsets her, she doesn't let know. I don't think we are particularly close on emotional level. None of us is actually very emotional person but we do get along pretty well and we can cooperate together. We don't really have other choice as since our mom died it's basically just the two us left. I mean, I do have few other family members but they are either elderly or incompetent in life or estranged. Dysfunctional family here. 🙋‍♀️

15. How long do you take to respond to texts?

Surprisingly enough it can actually take a while to respond. You are right I don't like many notifications hanging. That's why I have many of them muted 😂 For example I don't get notifications from Tumblr at all. When I'm in the mood, I open the app and check. Some days I do it frequently but some days I completely forget and go an entire day without checking. On WhatsApp I do get notifications but they are silent except for messages from my sister which do make sound. My phone is set to go into silent mode every day at 4 pm so if somebody decides to call me after that, I'm not gonna hear it. I used to have the sounds on but it was so annoying. This feels like I'm less of a slave to my phone when I don't have to react immediately. 😂 Due to all this, it might take me hours to respond to messages.

Thank you for the questions!

Kleo 🦄

[mysticdragon3md3]

Hey, Tumblr can we get a feature where we can mute Notes/Activity on a post? I dont mean "turning off phone notifications". I mean, "the same post is getting 99+ Likes/Reblogs/Replies every single day, some people have angry reactions, and I'd like to leave the conversation, but I'm the original poster and have to see the post's Activity every day". This isn't the first time I've had a post like this, and i thought i was finally free from my previous posts that blew up. But now people are reblogging this new one like crazy, and I'd like to see my other posts' Activity not get drowned out.

And it's not like that time a hate group started reblogging my queer topic post, to attack it with their horrible comments, that I'd have to see in my Activity daily. The new feature to turn off Reblogs solved that. So thanks for that BTW.

I dont want to turn off Reblogs for my recent high Activity post. I want people to keep reblogging my post about Spiderman and continue carrying on their conversations. I'm just kind of done with that same conversation over and over everyday.

If there already is a new feauture to do this, sorry about my venting. I'll take a double check look around Tumblr's UI again.

[ultralaser]

friction in the design of all the social networks rn

twitter - core ui is solid but getting glitchy, all your friends left, everyone who was ever banned for abusive behavior just got let back on, elon is in the mentions of all the nazi transphobes taking notes

facebook - god where to even start, like fb doesnt even show me my NOTIFICATIONS in chronological order

instagram - you have to unmute a video playing on your feed or everyone's reels and stories will be locked on mute too, also your friends all got shadowbanned, also here are five hundred thousand suggested videos

mastodon - still just feels like checking my email

tumblr - mobile site is very clean and solid but the autosave popup is VERY intrusive, meanwhile on desktop i hit ctrl-z to fix a typo and it deleted a WHOLE POST I WAS WRITING with embedded media and everything, then instantly autosaved the now blank post

tiktok - i have never posted a video of myself online ever in my life, so i rly dont know where to even start

srhg i missed about tumblr is being able to turn infinite scroll OFF, and instead browse the site in discrete chunks of ten posts at a time that are NAVIGABLE URLS, no more of this "just scroll until the site crashes or you hit the back button at the same time you spy a particularly interesting post you didnt see enough of to ever be able to find again" garbage that has consumed every other website on earth

[yhs-grian-rights]

It’s your choice, I really like your posts and ideas tho, yhs is bad, but it’s concept was ok! Ideas can come from really bad series, and that’s fine

I agree! I was in the middle of getting my whole "yhs but it's a murder mystery" storyline/au ready, but after Sam got in my server to "discuss" with a bunch of teenagers why his distasteful jokes aren't bad actually, nothing really felt the same? And I mean, I tried! I tried to go on and make more posts and jokes and art, but I think I should have let myself take a break long before.

Despite everything, I still like yhs, I wish I could have made more content of it at the time but I didn't get the chance, now I have that chance but I can't draw yhs without feeling a horrible sense of dread.

And in the end, I'm worried that there's a chance that people might go after the community? I don't think anyone would be so dedicated, but seeing Jimbo and Mika's account in that video, it freaked me out- I still think they are both in the right, but this thing was blown way out of proportion, and I really love this community, full of funny and creative people, but holy shit after what happened I'm more concerned with everyone's well-being.

Maybe it's just my anxiety making me prepare for the absolute worst as usual! But if anything ever happens, I don't want to leave everyone, I don't want to leave my friends. So after some thought, I don't think I'll delete the account.

I've made some great memories here! And I've never been in such a great community, who knew a shitty minecraft roleplay could somehow unite some of the weirdest but loveliest people I've seen :) If anything were to happen, I'll stand my ground, but if nothing happens, then expect this account to be innactive for a while. When I'm ready I'll come back, when I'm ready to make jokes and shitposts I'll be back, at least I hope, but for now, yikes yhs gives me bad memories hah-

[spotsupstuff]

hiii! i didnt mean to like, not talk to u before, i would really like the rain world discord link if thats still cool, i would love to see stuff on there! my problem is im new to discord, like... i downloaded it a couple of weeks ago on my phone and only downloaded it on the pc last night, kind of new (i wanted to sort if on pc before i asked for a link). ive never been in a server before and im sure i can work most of it out but my question would be- is it a big or small server? am i expected to like... announce myself? or is it usually quiet? (also i dont know if its like a private/invite only server and you would have to send me a link privately or wether its open to everyone) i feel kind of stupid asking lol, its just, until recently ive used tumblr or like LINE messaging to talk to people, none of my usual friends use discord much but THANKS for letting me know abt the server and i would love to join! (also i watched some of spectakoos stuff fucking 10/10 exactly my sense of humour aksjshdjsjh)

NAH DW DONT APOLOGIZE n i get it bro, new stuff is Strange and Confusin

heres the link: https://discord.gg/rainworld

its a big open server (official servers r generally open to the public), with 10k+ members, which is generally Good because nobody will really pay attention when u pop in. you arent expected to announce urself anywhere and you are free to just lurk in there. it Is active but you can always mute a server so u dont get notifs n can check it whenever u feel like it

(n glad to hear u enjoyed the spectakoo!!!!)

[neutralchaos1]

ramblings about my life.

I've been debating about saying anything because of how personal this is all is and because I'm not sure if i should but... in light of recent events happening in my life, I'm going to anyways. Cw:manipulation and emotional abuse.

So! For those that do not know, about 3 years ago I went through some massive changes in my life. I started to talk to people again. What that's no big deal" You might say but for me it was. You see, before that I talked with only a few people: my coworkers (nothing personal) my Mom, my then husband and my kids. That's it. I had very little contact with the outside world beyond that. How did this start? Well, for about a year now I had been lurking on ao3 , reading stories and leaving kudos as a guest, when I decided after seeing all those authors in the end notes saying to follow them on tumblr, to sign up for it. I made a blog and hit follow for a few of my favorite authors. I was 27.

It took a bit but finally gathered up the courage to start talking with one of those authors, which led me to me other great authors, which led me to a fantastic little community that's been insanely supportive.

But the massive shift/change in my life happened, when I vented to a new friend about my then husband. I thought I was being silly and overreacting when he was getting drunk for the 4th time that week. That I was being upset for nothing when he tried to grope and initiate sex with me and I said I didnt feel like it, only to feel like an asshole when he drew away and locked himself in "His" room to play video games without a saying a word.

They asked me why I felt bad about that. I told them, because I said no and hes upset with me now. They outright told me that him being upset was his issue. I had every right to say no. No Nonono they didnt understand, when I said no, I would get ignored until I said yes. Full silent treatment.

I could go on, but after a few conversations like this, it finally started to dawn on me, that they were right. Why did I feel bad for saying no? I shouldnt. It wasnt like I always said no, I said yes quite frequently even when i didn't feel like it, just to avoid feeling unwanted in my home.

This started a whole of thinking, like, how I never got to go out on my own. Even if I was with family, I would get phone calls every 1/2 hour, "when are you coming home". I couldn't leave the house without the kids even to run to the store quickly without it becoming A thing. If I was invited to something and he wasnt, I would inevitably wind up not going because he felt slighted. But i supposed to be cool with it if he disappeared for hours on end. That he got to indulge in his hobbies and mine were labeled "Boring". That he got to talk with his friends but mine were scrutinized and had ulterior motives.

When I tried to bring all this up, I was met with 'Okay, let's do more stuff together." Except it was all the stuff he wanted to do. I couldnt play video games for hours on end Because... well, responsibilities. Someone had to take care of the kids. Someone had to tidy up the house. Someone had to make sure we had groceries. And that was an issue, because apparently doing this for an hour or so with him wasnt enough. I tried to get him to do things that we both loved to do. We were both artists, why not make something together? Why not play that card game we liked? Maybe we could invite some people over and have a games night? All were shot down.

It was during this that while talking with people still, i was figuring out that... well... I wasnt as straight as I had been led to believe. I thought I was just Bi because well, I found people in general attractive. But not in an "I would have sex with them" way. Just nice to look at. Well, dont you get in your pants feelings when you see an attractive person?

No?????? I dont know them?? Why would I think that??

What do you like about a relationship?

Well… I like the closeness. I like being cuddled and watching movies together. I like having someone to talk to, coming home to someone…

These conversations led to me doing research into asexuality. And… there was a word for me!!!! This was me! I found an identity! I was so excited!!!! So I went to tell my best friend. The one person that I could trust with this information, my husband.

I was immediately met with, "So, you never loved me?" What! No. Why would you say that!??? I married you! We have 2 children! We've spent the last decade together!! Why would I do that if I didn't love you? "But you just said that." It was then that it clicked to him sex=love. No sexual attraction meant I didn't love him. I tried to talk with him about this, when it was met with him shutting down and pushing me away, I dropped it. We went back to what was happening before.

A turning point came when he said one day "I'm going to move to [The province he was from]for a year" why? "I have unfinished business there and I feel like I can deal with it better there without having to worry about and girls"

This sparked an enormous argument, because essentially to me this translated to "I'm going to go and take a year off from being a father and husband" he threw my sexuality into my face. He accused me of cheating on him. I told him that that's not the way things worked. You don't get to just leave your family for a year!

After a lot of arguing, we decided that a separation was in order. All of sudden I felt… lighter. Yes this was going to be hard, but doable. I had a few months before he left(I pleaded with him not leave until after Christmas], I could get a job and make sure I had childcare while he was still here to help with the kids! Except no. He checked out. He wouldn't look at the kids. He said I had to get used to doing stuff on my own, so to pretend he was just my roommate. While I was trying to secure things for me and the kids, he was getting drunk and… well… for lack of better wording, shit-talking about me to everyone with ears. He was telling everyone that I was crazy, i was brainwashed by Tumblr and the feminists on there. They made me into a lesbian. That I was broken. That I never loved him. That I was cheating on him with a supportive friend…. Etc…  he did this the entire 3 months before he left. He isolated me from people one last time.

In the year that followed him leaving, I would get manipulative text messages from him in the middle of the night. He threatened to use the kids as a weapon against me. He would say stuff that made me feel like shit. It got to the point where if my phone popped up with a notification, I would panic. I finally got the courage to mute him, but I never blocked him because he was the father to my kids. I had to be more mature about it. I never spoke publicly about how he treated me because I didn't want to isolate him. I never demanded he pay child support, I was always happy enough if he did send money my way for the kids. I didn't kick up a fuss when I found out that he was dating an old friend less than a month after he left. Hell, I didn't even get mad when I found out she was pregnant with his kid and in his words he was "starting over with a new family" the one thing I always got mad at him for? In the almost 3 years since he left, he has never once spoken to the kids. Not once. Not a card, not an email, not a phone call, not even a goddamn text message.

Why am I bringing this up now? Because he's coming back. Things arent working for him there, so hes moving here. And I'm so scared that hes going to start shit all over again.

[asexualzoro]

so you want to make a twitter (part 2)

tweeting

i’ve seen a few guides on twitter for new twitter users, which is nice, but something about having the posts being things you had to finds on twitter--a new site for the people who needed those guides--seemed unhelpful to me. so, i figured id make a small series of guides of my own here for anyone considering a move (or just making an account) who dont know how

this is a series of posts, since im going to be sort of detailed, so feel free to use just the pieces you need. ill tag them all “lews twitter tutorials” so you can find them on my blog

this is written under the assumption that youve read part 1 of this mini guide series, and dont know anything about twitter or any other social media site but tumblr

ill put it under a cut to save your space, but here’s the most important feature of twitter: tweeting!

so, tweeting. this is something you obviously have to know how to do.  this is how to make a tweet, differences between tumblr and twitter, and how to interact with a tweet

so, making one! when you make a new tweet on mobile, the screen looks like this

(the icons are p much the same whether you use mobile or desktop, so it doesnt matter which i use)

first, the tweet itself! tweets can only be up to 280 characters, and cant be edited once you post them. theres no feature to bold, italicize, underline, or add linked text in twitter, so its not as good as tumblr for stuff like that, unfortunately. 

here’s what the icons at the bottom do, from left to right

- pictures! this is sort of straightforward: it lets you add pictures. a tweet can only contain either 4 pictures, 1 gif, or 1 video. you cant have a gif and a picture, or a picture and a video. 

a note for artists! twitter is known to compress image quality when images are uploaded, BUT there is a workaround! if you have even one single transparent pixel, your image wont be compressed. 

a note for everyone! you can enable image transcription captions in settings (Settings > Accessibility > compose image descriptions). this allows you to type a short image description to any image you post, if you choose to. it’s a feature i recommend you have on and try to use for your followers who might have worse vision!

- gif keyboard! this image is a search for reaction gifs, basically. i almost never use it bc i can usually never find the specific gif im looking for...

- polls! tis is a feature i like about twitter! it allows you to conduct anonymous polls with up to four options. you can set a time limit and leave it up to allow people to respond. settle arguments between you and your friends or get opinions!

you cant post an image and a poll in the same tweet, so if you want opinions on something in an image, just have the poll be a reply to your tweet

- location! you can add your current location to any tweet. ive had this disabled for so long i genuinely dont know like... anything about this.

listen, im trying my best

- the little circle at the bottom which is grey with a dot of blue is the character counter. the circle is grey when empty, and gets bluer as you tweet. it wont count out how many characters you have left until youre within 20 of being full, in which case itll let you know so you dont go over the limit. 

- finally, theres the + icon, which is for making threads. it lets you edit multiple tweets at once, connected in a string. threads are helpful for a lot of reasons!

if you have information to share, then put it together in a thread! if one tweet in a thread is retweeted, it’s marked as being part of a thread. this will encourage readers to look at the rest!

if you like to livetweet series, put it in a thread! this allows you to keep all your livetweets in one place, and also allows people following you to mute the thread if they arent interested

- i also know on mobile if you close out with the X, you can save a tweet to drafts to edit and post later. i dont know if you can do this on desktop because i never use desktop, and when i have, i couldnt ever find the drafts thing. i know if you delete the app, all your drafts are deleted, too

WELL, now that youve got the basics on a tweet....

interacting with the tweets of others

okay, heres a bit on what buttons do what, and some Twitter Manners

here’s our sample tweet, posted. this isnt how it appears on the timeline, but how it appears once you click it, so i can show the full range of things you can do with a tweet.

you can see the tweet, who posted it, and the date/time, and other stuff

- profile. top left. if you click the icon/display name/handle of the op, you can go to their profile!

- menu. see the little arrow in the top right corner? thats a menu. 

on your own tweet, you can delete the tweet here, pin it to your profile, or mute it. muting a tweet means you no longer get notifications when someone interacts with it

on someone else’s tweet, you can follow or unfollow the op of the tweet, mute the op, block the op, or report the tweet

in the bottom row....

- theres tweet activity. it only shows up on your own tweet, and lets you see how many people have seen your tweet.

- below this would tell you how many likes and retweets your tweet got, but no one liked or retweeted my wonderful tweet for some strange reason, so i cant show you

worth noting, if your account is on private, you wont show up in the notifications of people who arent following you

now for the buttons

- the speech bubble is replies! that lets you repy to the tweet

worth saying, if you reply to a retweet or conversation, its important to be sure to un-@ the people who you arent talking to. when you reply to someone, at the top of the reply it will list everyone youre replying to. click the little names and unclick the check boxes by the names of those not involved, and youre good to go! not doing this is considered rude/annoying

- next, retweeting! retweeting is sort of like reblogging. you retweet another tweet so it shows up on your own account. you can retweet without comment, which brings the tweet as is, or with comment, which allows you to add your own sort of caption. the op of the tweet will nto be notified for any replies, likes, or retweets on a comment retweet

a note! people often do retweets with comments on stuff like news stories to add their own commentary/jokes

another note! DO NOT do this to art by artists, even if youre doing it to be nice! a lot of artists, especially international artists, find this incredibly rude, as it takes away attention and retweets from the art itself. if you want to share art, just retweet. if you want to say something nice, just tell them in replies!

its not uncommon for people to retweet something without comment, then make a tweet of their own to comment on them.these tweets generally start with LRT (last retweet)

- likes are pretty simple. you press the like button and you like the post. one thing thats different from tumblr to twitter, though, is twitter has a feature that shows your likes (and that you liked them) to your followers (if they havent disabled it). 

- the share button allows you to share tweets! you can DM them to your friends, bookmark them (this is good for articles and such), or copy the link to share elsewhere.

and... that concludes tweeting!