#I don't owe you anything

[jordanswitches]

i know i post about this semi frequently but do not come to my dms and expect me to be your dom. don't ask if you can be my pet or my sub. taking on a sub is WORK. i have to give my time, my energy, i have to come up with tasks, rules, rewards, punishments. why would i do that for someone who followed me five minutes ago and is CLEARLY using me. it is a kink. you are a stranger i know nothing about, expecting things of me. you do not know me. you are using me. i don't care if you like my blog and think you like me. you don't, because you've ignored my pinned post where i say not to come to my dms and try to initiate. i will NEVER respond positively to this. ultimately this post doesn't matter because the people it applies to wouldn't bother reading it or would just ignore what i'm saying. but if you do this, if you ignore people's boundaries and try to get people to be sexual with you for your own gain, you are a bad person. that's it. be better. you are not the exception.

[qwerty019283ytrewq]

Go and do some research on the sport if you don’f understand the issues around red bull using their junior team. Not the first time they’ve done it. Go and look at the or history of using them to do their dirty work before running your mouth about things you don’t understand

Dear anonymous, the history of Formula 1 is full of scandals due to selected wins and titles that do not include Red Bull and their junior team.

You're right, this sport has a very long history that is worth exploring. But I also don't see the point in all this hate. Hatred for Lewis, who was champion 7 times in a row, before him it was Vetel, Schumacher, after him Max. I'm going to say a trigger phrase now, but...If Lando hadn't made mistakes, if McLaren had been smarter, then there would have been no question of a personal championship title.

Next year, the same regulations apply, McLaren has a good car now, I'm sure they will cope next year, but this year Lando was able to learn, felt what it was like to fight for the title and will act more confidently and professionally next year.

BUT

He can win the title in this one too.

I'm a fan of Max and Daniel and I'm fucking protecting your pilot right now?

[kharmii]

You’re an incredibly stupid person, who thinks that feeling strongly about your uneducated, uninformed opinions makes them true.

Grow the fuck up.

This is in response to my comments about the possible Two Dude Matchup during women's boxing at the Paris Olympics. Participants Imane Khelif and Yang Liu -both sporting Adam's apples and male levels of strength- smoked all the clearly biological women to go for gold and silver.

It's possible I'm wrong and all the other people suspecting they are males posing as females -or intersex whatever- are wrong. Maybe that Russian boxing organization made them do genetic tests proving they have XX chromosomes. Maybe one or the other has a functioning womb and ovaries. Nobody knows because the information about what criteria got them disqualified in the past is not being released.

I tend to be skeptical about them being biological females just because of all the nonsense surrounding them. If they were proven biological women, then the information about their XX chromosomes would have been released right away, and it would be spread far and wide. Instead, we have the usual leftwing posturing about "you are just questioning them because you are RACIST!!"

Side note: I think it's reasonable to assume a country generally not winning a dick of a dog in the Olympics might be capable of pulling a 'man posing as a woman' scam. To avoid being labeled as a sucker by the worst elements of humanity, it's safe to assume there will always be third world shit farmers taking advantage of the kindness and tolerance of people from first world nations. Case in point....all the gay agenda obsessed girlies willing to harass people on the internet over this issue.

-Or I'm sorry, all you 'nonbinary trans masc' individuals who act just like biological women do at their worst.

Another stupid thing I'm seeing everywhere is the 'women can have XY chromosomes!' (wrong), intersex people exist! (True but they are usually one or the other at the chromosomal level. Anything other than XX, -even XXY or XXXY- should get a person disqualified from women's sports). It's extra stupid intersex people are getting all worked up and offended over this, as if society owes them something for being born with a defect that less than one percent of people are afflicted with. Nobody owes you anything. I personally don't owe you anything.

Wait a minute.....according to Google, "The IBA said that these tests revealed that Khelif has XY chromosomes, which are most commonly found in males." (Wrong: Always found in males)

Instead of trying to argue why it's fair to consider a male with XY chromosomes a 'female' they instead discredit the Russian boxing organization accusing them of only disqualifying the men boxing against women because they are offended that the men beat their Russian women with their testosterone boosted man strength. It doesn't matter if a man spends his life being socialized as a women due to a birth defect or because he's intersex (or because a scam is being pulled), a man is a man. Someone with an XY chromosome is a man.

[k-i-l-l-e-r-b-e-e-6-9]

𝔗𝔥𝔢 𝔖𝔪𝔦𝔱𝔥𝔰 – ℑ 𝔇𝔬𝔫'𝔱 𝔒𝔴𝔢 𝔜𝔬𝔲 𝔄𝔫𝔶𝔱𝔥𝔦𝔫𝔤

[pastelsnakeyy]

Before I start, this is not meant to shame people. Most lgbtq people use and enjoy labels. This is just my experience and feelings as someone who is proud to be unlabeled. I don't usually post stuff, but I've had a lot of feelings lately. I just need to get this off my chest. Sorry for the long post.

Sexuality for me has been a weird struggle. Coming to terms with the fact that I wasn't straight was a big deal. However, after that, it was an even bigger mess, especially when I started to question my gender. For a while, I called myself bi, but that never truly felt right. It was technically true, but it felt wrong.

Could I just call myself bi or pan or omni because a label like that technically works? Sure, but my feelings are more complex. It's not just "any gender but a preference for men." It's way more than that.

Could I find a microlabel to describe my complex feelings towards my sexuality? Sure, and there's no shame in that, but I don't want to. Finding a specific word to use for my complex emotions towards sex and romance feels daunting. So I don't wanna bother. Plus, trying to describe my complicated emotions with attraction with one simple word feels almost disrespectful.

I don't own anyone a deep explanation or analysis about my attraction. Trying to do so just confuses me and other people. Not having any specific definition to hold myself to feels a lot more freeing. Dating, romance, sex, and attraction are all fluid and complex emotions, and trying to understand it all so I can put myself into a box feels... well... awful...

People should not shame each other for not choosing to label themselves. Why should I feel bad for not having a word to smack onto me? I'm not "queer baiting" you. I don't need to prove my queerness to you. Nobody needs to prove their queerness to anybody. Just because they don't have a single word to describe them doesn't mean they are suddenly less queer.

(Also, queer is not my label. I reclaimed the word queer from homophobes who used it against me. I use it as an umbrella term to describe my sexuality, my gender, and me as a person. Some people use it as a label for their sexuality, I do not.)

For some, labels make them feel better. It feels nice to have a word and flag to describe exactly how they feel. For some, they don't care, but having a label is easier than not. But for me, trying to put a label on how I feel just makes me feel bad. It's confusing and anxiety inducing because not a single word can be used to define my sexual and romantic attraction.

I'm not straight. I'm queer. I'm unlabeled. And I fucking proud of that fact.

[roadimusprime]

Lmao

What?

[chaosteddybear]

My toxic trait is that once I lose trust in you I will even lie about the most random small things just for the sake of it.

I feel strongly about the difference between lies and truth.

And sorry but if you aren't trustworthy then you don't deserve my truths.

Even the smallest ones.

[moocowmoocow]

It's the way I love you It's why I hate you But I don't owe you

[milquetoast-zeitgeist]

[kharmii]

Hey, fuck you! You don't get to talk to people like that. Just because I'm white, doesn't mean that your feelings -and every other got-damned person on this planet- is my responsibility. Just because our culture has made it so people you get to beat people like me down with guilt constantly, doesn't mean it's right, and it doesn't mean I'm going to put up with it. Tell all those white people in North Carolina who are getting screwed over after Hurricane Helene because our government gave away their FEMA money to illegals to care about your feelings. Coming from the same politicians who will walk over homeless people dying of fentanyl on their way to give all our money to Ukraine and pro Palestine activists. White privilege is having to foot the bill for everything while getting nothing but grief and lectures in return. Did I say fuck you? I can't remember so here it is again. Fuck you.

Again, the white woman boot camp race hustler scam.

It's really sad but mostly disgusting how much yt people cling to their right of comfort. I'm not even sure how exactly you can equivocate the anxiety (? debatable) of recieving many desperate pleas for help in your inbox and the fact that the people sending those pleas do not know if they will see the next 5 minutes because a fucking bomb could literally vaporize them. Like honestly truly you people are pathetic. Thin skinned and entitled as fuck. How about you put some work into being able to exist in your relatively comfortable lives instead of placing the responsibility of your comfort onto people experiencing LITERAL GENOCIDE? Get over your fucking selves. And why are y'all acting like you invented anxiety? How many of us on here live with anxiety that ranges from paralyzing to deeply debilitating and a hinderance to functioning? But still are able to have enough compassion and grace to understand this moment is not about us? What about someone like Ibtisams who literally lost her dad in a bombing but was on here doing so much fundraising for other people in Gaza? What about 90-ghost who was actually in Gaza and is still helping others to get out? What about their anxiety and trauma? does that fucking matter or is it just about you being the most embattled person in the universe? Likeee I'm sorry you can't cry about how mentally ill and traumatized you are as an excuse as to why you are so callous and cruel and racist. Your guilt is not a shield and is not any of our responsibility to hold. It is in fact very very useless right now. Find some humanity please if at all it exists

[shivunin]

Because I have just seen this specific thing for the second time, I would like to say:

If I reblog your art, I do not expect you to reblog (or share!) my fic in return

If I comment on your fic, I do not expect you to comment on (or read!) mine in return

My enjoyment of anyone's work does not come with strings or expectations

My friendship is not a bill that you will have to pay later

That's it!

[thesoftboiledegg]

[anistarrose]

there's a type of tumblr funnyperson who's never posted explicit hate/exclusionism towards asexuals and other a-specs... and yet, they like to make up a guy. where the type of guy they always make up undermines any trust a-specs might've otherwise had for them. for example, a common post format is making up a hypothetical tumblr user's bio that's obviously just so cringe, according to the sensibilities of everyone reading — wherein the implied joke is how we've all seen someone in the wild who's cringe like this, right?

these posts always feel the need to slide some a-spec microlabel in there. a lot of the time, it's specifically an ace-spec microlabel plus "heteroromantic," especially if they think that the guy they're making up is trying to be a real special snowflake. to round out the "cringe," they usually pepper in at least one element from the set of: neopronouns, a namedropped mental illness, and a piece of media that's targeted at children/popular for tumblr to hate at the time.

then a zillion people reblog that post, all agreeing haha that's so cringe, and a million a-spec people (and nonbinary and autistic people) shudder — because are they the butt of the joke, to the people reblogging it? or are the people reblogging just laughing about a different element, like a comically long DNI or something, which has distracted them from noticing the fact that OP clearly associates a-spec identities with "cringe"?

if any a-spec people point this out about OP, or ask a reblogger if they support ace people, they are inevitably accused of overreacting — which is great for the aphobes, because they get a new "cringe" a-spec person to point and laugh at. it's just such a nasty cycle, and even people who wouldn't consider themselves aphobes aren't great at noticing and interrogating it.

[ejga-ostja]

Just Dance night at the Van Eck mansion

[crownedwille]

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[nekoning]

even after all this time...he's so careful and gentle with him i- please that's love right there you can't convince me otherwise