#I don't agree with all my mutuals

[thyandrawrites]

i was foolish and checked out the bnha subreddit and it’s maybe even worse than twitter. are we even reading the same story? absolutely everyone despises the villains and unquestionably supports the heroes full stop with no criticism. i feel like the majority feel this way and wonder if we are reading too much into the text or if horikoshi is at fault for unclear narrative framing

The framing in bnha is ass bad. I say this objectively and not just because it impacts my faves because the heroes are also given the short end of the stick for a lot of things. Bakugou's arc is one of the things that started out well enough and then ended in a weird direction for the same reason, too.

But anyway. I don't browse reddit because I'm allergic to reddit takes, but from what I've heard it doesn't sound like a great environment for deep analyses, tbh. Tumblr isn't any different unless you follow the right people, but at least here it's much easier to curate your online experience and blacklist and block the topics you don't want to interact with. Following a restricted amount of trusted creators also helps imho

[bredforloyalty]

honestly um ,. one part of me understands why those posts were made but, are these poser incest enthusiasts in the room with us now

[sweetnnaivete]

the whole drama with people sending hate to jegulus shippers because they don't like seeing jegulus in the jily tag is so ridiculous... just block the jegulus tag? what do you gain from complaining ??

[wlwaerith]

so like are we going to talk about how that "facelift" mod for gortash is effectively whitewash or

[freckliedan]

you’re the only person allowed to say “you don’t know them like i do” bc you’ve never been wrong about those losers EVER your mind

WAH thank you 🥰 i need it to be known always that whatever brain cell i share with dan and phil it's also shared completely with my darling @freckliephil who's the reason i made this blog‼️ i'm just the one of us who's continued posting, for better or worse.

[meadowlarkx]

people online who are themselves fans creatively adapting and innovating with their source material are getting so comfortable making posts like "fandom generally is sooo crazy when they make their blorbos kiss" "fanon is shitty (and whatever i hate counts as it)" and i'm getting 🛌🛌🛌 about it. what fandom. who in it. which fanons? i like meta discussions about the text/characterization/etc, but what's the point of looking down your nose at fans and fandom generally? i saw you at the devil's sacrament!

[unforth]

Y'all (general) really really need to exercise the block buttons more.

An opinion you don't agree with? Someone makes you uncomfortable? Something you don't like? Even just a person whose way of presenting information makes you uncomfortable (even if you agree with them)?

Block.

BLOCK.

B.L.O.C.K.

Look, I get it. I used to think seeing opinions I didn't agree with was important, that exposing myself was a way of staying informed. But finally, I hit a breaking point - I already knew the viewpoints I disagreed with, and seeing them every day was making me miserable.

I've blocked liberally since then.

And the most remarkable thing happened: I routinely see posts where lots of people are disagreeing with the same person...and I already have that person blocked.

Because the most insidious thing about letting myself see the negativity and things that made me unhappy all the time is that leaving it all there gave me the impression that there were a LOT of vocally awful people saying things that hurt me.

But there aren't.

There's actually a surprisingly small number of people who get off on trolling or are so marinated in hate that they have to spew it all around them, and when you block those people, the world gets much more peaceful.

You're not growing as a person by exposing yourself to rhetoric that hurts you. You're just hurting, which is exactly how those people want you to feel: they want you to be in as much agony as they are.

Don't give them the satisfaction.

BLOCK THEM.

(tbh I've hit the point that I think people who willfully, deliberately, loudly, intentionally don't block are engaging in a form of self-harm. seriously, you're not taking a noble stand, no one cares if you don't block except the people hurting you.)

[sastielsfandom]

When I miss a mutual I do this really helpful thing *lurks* *likes their posts* *lurks some more* *wishes to interact with them more* *lurks* *gets excited when I get a notif from them* *lurks some more-

[yamithedumbass]

Hi mutuals, just letting you know that I agree with literally all of your opinions and headcanons.

That character I've never seen in my life? Yeah, that's a trans guy alrighty.

This random side character? Yeah that guys autistic and aroace alright.

You're correct 100%

[three-headed-monster]

we're reaching the point where most people on hockeyblr don't remember wjc 2021, but all the people who DO remember wjc 2021 remember it like it was fucking world war

[elytrafemme]

i wrote a long post about this and i maybe shouldn't have deleted the entire thing just now (oops) because it was insightful but i do like... i don't know. there's literally no way i say this that doesn't sound shitty so i just need benefit of the doubt here but like... i have so many complex feelings about the DSM5 and diagnoses Already... both in my own life and just like, generally, that sometimes i think about my own trajectory going from "you have BPD -> i am convinced i have BPD and nobody can tell me otherwise -> i have complex trauma not BPD". and i don't know how to describe it without sounding shitty to people who genuinely value and have benefitted from having the diagnosis of BPD, that has derived insight and help and resources and validation from it, but i can't help but think about how being so fucking convinced i had a personality disorder when i was like... 15? 16? 17? led me to developing this internalized voice i still don't really understand but struggle with daily that is like CONVINCED that i am overreacting, that i'm splitting, that i'm too emotional, that i'm lashing out, that i'm going insane and lacking any and all logic-- all the time, when i am actually behaving normally. because it was ingrained in me, and not entirely by the fault of other people (example: none of my present mutuals/online friends enabled any of this bad stuff because this preceded the time i was really present here, and by then it was so entirely self driven nobody could draw me out of it), that i was just Fucking Crazy. so i spent two years of my life convinced i was "irrationally splitting" on people when i was actually feeling mixed emotions about my literal assaulter and was feeling mixed emotions on everyone around me because i didn't know how to handle that trauma. but i was just like no i'm insane. i don't know.

i can't really emphasize enough that i know this isn't other people's experience with it and i'm just speaking for myself.

[watermelinoe]

and see how dialogue isn't possible when you block someone who doesn't even disagree with your movement, just with certain premises behind it? see how it doesn't allow for practicing harm reduction or nuance? when i'm struggling to get myself to eat anything at all, which can last for days or weeks at a time, what i do eat needs to count. sorry, i'm eating the cheese stick because it's the only thing that sounds palatable and it gives me seven grams of protein. sorry there's no room for women with eating disorders and deficiencies because "eat less animal products" isn't good enough when your ideology values non-human animals more than women's health. but of course the burden falls on women to make ourselves tired and weak while the male-led industry overproduces and overconsumes. at least you stayed true to your logically inconsistent, female-socialized emotion-based beliefs and allowed for zero compromise! there's no way your airtight ethical philosophy has blatant logical flaws at the slightest nudge of critical thought, the people who point out fallacies are just heartless!

[danmeichael]

"i want to reblog this but i'm scared of what my mutuals will think"

it's your blog, why are you hiding from the panopticon of negative opinion in your own home?

your job as a blogger is to be completely yourself and rb whatever makes you happy so you can curate mutualships with people who are the exact same kind of freak as you and who understand what a genius you are.

you shouldn't live your life and curate your space around avoiding the imagined disapproval of other people no matter how beloved those people are.

you should not fear your friends.

you deserve to have friends you're not afraid of.

[hellonoblesky]

i unfollowed you bc you reblogged that post about the spotify wrapped thing being some antisemitic conspiracy. it's really telling that a bunch of white american jumped on the palestinian op of the original spotify wrapped post and harassed them because of this extremely self centered need to be right instead of compassionate. ibtisams wasn't even directly declaring correlation, just pointing out that spotify still decided to release wrapped on national day of solidarity with palestine. if what you care about more is making sure no palestine supporter EVER shares a CRUMB of misinformation while palestinians die by the score and israel churns out gallons of misinformation constantly, you're not an ally, you just care about what makes you look most morally correct. i don't think spotify put out wrapped on purpose to cover up palestine, but the ceo of spotify IS anti-palestine and that's a fact, and even if it is misinformation, i can't get behind the incredible harassment ibtisams experienced because of the reaction to their post.

Dawg I agree with you why are we fighting

[tellmegoodbye]

I've had some time to collect my thoughts after a couple of days so here they are even though nobody asked.

I really loved the finale. It was devestating, no doubt, but I think this is their best one yet and I absolutely loved how they handled it. There was so much grieving in this episode, not just from Carlos, but from Owen and Judd as well. But despite everything they chose happiness and the wedding ending up being beautiful and bittersweet and joyful all at once.

There has been the question of deleted scenes but there's really only one we've seen so far that I would have loved to see in the episode. Other than that, I'm just glad we get to have them all as extras. I don't think the wedding needed them though.

Another thing I'd like to add is that yes, sometimes storylines can feel rushed in shows where you have a lot of characters and especially if there are clear favorites within a fandom. There was a lot going on, but that doesn't necessarily mean any one character's storyline is less valuable than another's. I guess I'm speaking as less of a fandom member and just more as an enjoyer of the show if that makes any sense. I love all of the characters in this show, and while I would be lying if I said I liked every single storyline, that doesn't mean I wish they didn't happen. In this case, however, I loved all of the storylines and I think they all made sense together given the theme of this episode. I personally don't think any of them shouldn't have been there in favor of getting more wedding content.

Honestly, my only regret is not getting off of tumblr as soon as the final bts stuff started coming out. I'm pretty bad when it comes to guessing things so if I hadn't been aware of the theories I literally would have had no idea and it would have hit me so much harder. It still got me pretty good though.

Again these are just my opinions so feel free to ignore everything I say if you didn't feel the same. I'm happy though, and I'm going to continue being incredibly annoying about this show. ♡

[feralparsnip]

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