#I don’t post TMF on Tumblr a lot

[rubytheyubi]

TMF DOODLE REQUESTS I DID A WHILE AGO !!

[rosypenguins]

Have you considered posting your fics on other sites like AO3? Or do you prefer keeping everything you've made just on Tumblr? Just curious! ^^

Actually, yes I have! This has been something I’ve considered for a while now, as I do want my fics to be able to reach a wider audience, but as of right now, I don’t really think I’m ready for that yet. (I’ll put my reasonings underneath this, but as a TLDR: I just need to grow some balls lmao.)

I’m gonna be honest here. It took me a year and a half just to start this Tumblr. Social media is genuinely a terrifying place to me, and the reason I choose to post exclusively to Tumblr is because to me, it feels safer. The TMF community here is tiny. I recognize 90% of the users who like and reblog my stuff, and I know everyone here’s pretty friendly. Freakblr genuinely feels like a safe space for me, since it’s not a large platform.

But A03’s a lot bigger to me. More people tend to use that platform to read or share their fanfics, and that’s more people I don’t really know viewing my stuff. Which, on one hand, I want, because I want to reach a wider audience. But on the other hand… people scary somethings. (I’m a huge over-thinker if you couldn’t tell lol.)

And not only that, but there’s a lot of… icky stuff on A03. Like, for every literary masterpiece that changes the trajectory of my life, we’ll have 10 other fics about the characters getting harassed or doing things minors really should not be doing.

And this is a problem I feel’s been getting worse. Like, when I first got into the fandom and read through, most stuff was pretty tame, but now about 60% of it is just awful. And to post my fics on a site that has all of that stuff just doesn’t really sit right with me.

I know A03’s not all that bad. It’s just a few bad apples. But as of right now, I don’t really think I’m ready to face those just yet. Hopefully one day, but not any time soon.

[rey-reyned]

INTRO POST

The blog for all my artworks (basically)

My name for most of my socials is rex/rey, so those are the names i prefer you use ^^

can’t believe my alt account got an intro post before my main account…

notes:

— I have lots of blogs/side blogs on tumblr, and because this blog is more focused on my art, i have other blogs for reblogging/conversations/rants and the like. heres a list for all my current blogs:

@rextile < main blog (disorganised for the most part, but you’ll mainly see tmf/pjsk on it)

@pjsk-voca-centric < self explanatory, focuses on pjsk’s version of the vocaloids

@impeet < focuses on genshin impact (sorta inactive for now??)

@grammil < focuses on milgram

—For the most part, my personal info isn’t important. But here’s the general stuff you’d normally need:

pronouns are She/Her

i’m a MINOR.

sexual/suggestive language towards me in NOT appreciated — even as a joke. same thing goes to romantic/flirtatious talk — even as a joke. both things make me greatly uncomfortable so please be mindful.

i accidentally miss a word or two when typing. so sorry if i don’t make sense

That’s the end. It’s really. short. but thats what i intended. See you!

[toadallytickles]

Any advice for someone who’s new to the tickling dating world?

Oh gosh! I may not be the right person to ask! (〃▽〃)ゞ Clay’s my first romantic partner ever and I wasn’t seeking! Though I’ll do my best, and it’s definitely valid to seek a partner in the community! Honestly now after having sessions, I couldn’t primarily date someone outside the community. I need someone who understands the love of tickling too!

Give yourself some love and be a friend to yourself! I think navigating the dating world can be daunting and self-esteem draining! Be kind to yourself and give yourself a boost! Remember you’re wonderful the way you are! You’re a human being just like everyone else! Keep your standards high, and don’t think you’re out of anyone’s “league” or you’re less than others! You are worthy and deserving of the relationships you want!

Seek a relationship because you want to share your life with someone, not because you feel you need to. A lot of us grew up believing we need “our second half” to be happy and fulfilled; this is incredibly untrue. There is nothing wrong at all with being single and/or being uninterested in dating and having a romantic partner.

Don’t dedicate your life to seeking a partner! Continue to focus on your life, enjoy your hobbies and discover new ones, go out to events, hang out with your current friends and family! Find a way to balance your life with a partner!

Have an idea of what you want. Nobody's a perfect person, though you can have an idea of what kind of partner you’d like! Have an idea of traits you really admire, and dealbreakers! Saying that, a lot of people have to date a little to learn what they don’t want in partners!

Openly communicate! It's a green flag when someone can openly share their feelings and can effectively listen! Let others know what you’re looking for. Don’t lead anyone on. Instead of ghosting, let them know it was nice to meet them but you don’t feel that “spark” with them. And if that happens to you, don’t take it personally. That just means you’re closer to what you’re looking for!

Seek the person, not the dynamic! Don’t focus on a person’s role or the dynamic you could potentially have with them! Get to know them as themselves outside of kink!

A lot of people prefer to be known and treated like people first and want no mention of kink until they’re closer and comfortable! Though some people do like to kink talk as a way of getting to know someone! If that’s your style, seek those people! Always respect people’s boundaries! Always ask questions and check boundaries rather than assuming!

Decorate your profile! Make yourself approachable! The internet is great for finding multiple people in the community! It’s okay to want to remain private online, though a lot of us (especially women) are wary of who they engage with online. Have your age on your page! Write a little ‘about me’ and what you’re looking for in the community! Engage with others to make yourself known and trustworthy!

Attend tickle events! The in-person community is a ton of fun! You’re getting to meet tickle people in-person AND potentially able to play?! This is also a great way to get familiar with the community and get vetted!

Websites that may be of help:

Tumblr, of course! I’ve seen many relationships flourish here!

TMF, the Tickling Media Forum has a personals page!

r/tickling does a monthly personals posts for you to comment what you’re seeking! There’s also r/TicklingPersonals!

Fetlife can help you find locals and events!