#I am ONE HUNDRED percent going on a tangent cause you’ve gotten my brain thinking

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Oh, I didn’t know you were new to Tumblr! Good luck learning the lingo, there’s a lot that I don’t know even if it came about during my time on here. To be real with you, Urban Dictionary has helped me a lot. I had no idea what tone tags were until I checked them up haha

Also, after reading what you said about the “you don’t owe anybody anything” statement, I’d definitely like to amend that (for anyone else reading, it was in the tags of my previous reblog):

If someone is genuinely sharing their opinion, discussing, etc. and things get a bit heated, that’s chill. We can still try to hear each other out and meet a resolution. But, if the person I’m talking to doesn’t seem like they want to consider outside opinions (based on previous arguments they’ve had, what they’ve said earlier in the conversation, etc.) then I don’t feel the need to continue interacting with them. In other words, if I get the feeling someone is just trying to pick a fight with the intent to win, then I don’t want to invest any more time with them. To figure out if that is truly the case is down to an individual's discretion though.

Even then, I wouldn’t necessarily block them, now that I think about it. I’d probably just stop replying. I would block them if they harass me about it though. I guess new and old Tumblr users alike should take away that there isn't really a hard and fast rule about when to block someone.

But yeah, I really like the point you made about forgiveness. It reminds me of this Twitter thread that started out with an offhand comment:

And people got MAD, made snide retorts back. And I’m sure if this happened on Tumblr, a ton of people would've blocked him. Just because they didn't agree/didn't like the vibes of the post. But then they never would have seen the rest of the thread:

He totally reflected and owned up to it! And a ton of people just. Wouldn’t have seen it. Because they blocked him. And that’s a shame, I think, cause it takes a lot to own up to doing something wrong, but it’s something I majorly respect when people do. And I know this isn't a one-to-one analogy, because he was still able to make an apology, whereas that wouldn't be possible between two people if one of them is blocked. But it's the closest example I've got

(Also sorry, I skipped parts of this thread. These are just the screenshots I could find since I don’t have a Twitter account and can't see the original. This thread was a pretty popular Tumblr repost, and that’s how I know it)

So yeah! I'm glad you brought that up, because I totally wasn't considering when a person does genuinely want to make amends. I was only thinking about trolls and those wanting to create discord. And automatically assuming other people have ill-intent is NOT how I want to go about my life.

No joke you guys NEED to get more comfortable blocking people. No more insulting people in public over different blorbo opinions no more making 2k long posts on how whatever ship you don't like shouldn't exist we've grown past that shit. Consistent posts about shit that make you uncomfortable? Block. Rancid blorbo opinions? Block. Is mildly annoying in your replies? Block. Pisses you off for reasons so petty you could never admit it publicly? Block. YOUR mental health will improve from not being upset 24/7, THEIR mental health will not be at risk of you lashing out because you happened to catch their posts on a bad day, and EVERYONE ELSE will benefit from not seeing the most embarrassing arguments known to man on their dash. "Oooh but they didn't deserve it-" dude you're presumably running a personal blog as a hobby not a public service. Who fucking cares.