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bought a flat top griddle and a gas grill today and I'm so EXCITED 😌
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I am proud of myself! My back has been in pain for a week and a half. Usually I ignore medical issues until it's really bad but I called my doctor's office and schedule an appointment for tomorrow!
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Fenris has a preorder plushie up on Sanshee and I am losing my actual mind-
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It's never too late to start keeping up on your healthcare! Go me! *waves flags*
Kay, living with my parents for so long, I absolutely internalized that you don't really go to the doctor unless it's an immediate need, despite having damn good insurance through my work. (And I've started poking them, bc they've got Tricare and access to the Madigan hospital, so they really have no excuse! And it really is on Dad, bc his dad did the same (and tbh it killed him, which only reinforced to Dad that doctors can't help, which is bs)).
Whelp. OnO
That UTI, despite how normal of a thing it can be, was kinda a scare for me bc I've never had anything like that before (and whoo boy did the symptoms throw me bc it absolutely didn't hurt, but it sure as fuck felt weird when I peed...) Which notched up the paranoia/anxiety afterwards (and probs should get a doc appt for that too), and lit a fire under my ass to finally get myself a PCP.
I'm 40 (well, 39 and some odd), and there are tests that I've never had and absolutely should've started a loooong time ago. Tests that I need to have once I officially hit 40. Can't find any vaccination records, other than my flu and covid shots (so I got my tetanus and whooping cough done today, gonna figure out the rest at the annual exam).
But on the other hand, as bad as not having a PCP and regular health screenings for the last *cough* 30+ *cough* years, I've finally stopped being so indifferent over my health. Which is good! It's great! Just wish I'd figured this out earlier!
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Cassidy loves to scare the FNAF night guards..
#myart#chloesimagination#comic#fnaf#five nights at freddy's#michael afton#golden freddy#cassidy fnaf#evan afton#cc fnaf#fredbear#fnaf 1#fnaf fanart#ITS BEEN a hot second since I’ve last drawn Cassidy#so I wanted di change that with todays comic 💛#you think Cassidy finds it really funny to scare the night guards#like I kinda get the impression all the ghost kids enjoy scaring the adults#in the context of this comic I think especially likes to scare Michael#in behalf for cc seeing Michael use to scare him all the time#now the roles are reverse they can get back at him#cc won’t outright say he finds it funny but can’t help but laugh about it too#Cassidy and cd are best friends your honour#my game theory is they are besties no matter what 💛💜#ALSO two of my favourite bits I got to draw here fredbear reactions and Michael sprite pff
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In 1999, on the 30th anniversary of the first moonwalk, the members of rec.crafts.textiles.needlework shared their memories of the historic event. Transcripts in alt text.
#apollo 11#moon day#usenet#textiles#long post#been saving these for today!#it's incredible to me to hear where everyone was--#the sort of things kids and teens and young adults remember#it's been almost another 30 years since then#i was a little child when this thread was made#kathy m was right-- it does feel further than any moon
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Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".
[plain-text version of this post can be found under the cut]
Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"
And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".
Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.
At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.
So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!
Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!
Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!
Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.
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Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".
Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"
And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".
Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.
At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.
So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!
P.S. Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!
Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!
Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.
#hlep#original#mental health#my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need.#the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it#i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support#and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist.#the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28!#a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents.#they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of#huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the#longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong.#and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives.#you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead?#or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of.#no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow.#i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel#i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong.#just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop
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my absolute favourite genre of transphobic propaganda is when the caption is like “look at this poor, confused little girl who was forced to mutilate herself :(” and the picture is just the hottest man you’ve ever seen in your life with a full beard and a body that would make thor weak at the knees
#ramble#also like. everything else aside calling any ADULT a ‘poor young girl’ is yucky af#we’re not delicate little flowers who don’t know how to think. i’m an adult with medical autonomy and a working brain#calm down you’re deranged#i won’t get on my soapbox today but it’s just funny how they think they’re the grounded sane ones#also the double standard drives me insane#with trans men it’s ‘delicate abused woman’ and with trans women it’s ‘creepy predatory man’#it’s almost like transphobia is just rebranded misogyny and they don’t actually care about equal rights#who would’ve thought
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Boo(p) :)
#blood tw#zu art#comic#halloween#nightmare!sans#passive!nightmare#adult!aim#maim#>:)#undertale#undertale au#utmv#I had SO many ideas for today I was torn between them even while drawing heh#but then I was reminded of the day of the dead and a new idea came ψ(`∇´)ψ#the (legendary) song is To The Bone (was added at the last moment xd)#the last panel was very bloody (/hj I was lazy :P) so I'll leave it up to your imagination ;)
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When your boyrfren is a morning person.
(Idk if Connie's not a morning person, but it'd be funny if she isn't.)
Connie doodles (and a Steven!)
#When you wake up already feeling tired 😭#Steven gave her a new blade again.#Pretty knife = Happy wife#Oh my gosh I actually finished a commission today. I;m behind again I only got six hours to draw this week TT-TT But at least I can#sleep early tonight I can finally catch up with my sleep hours#Lol I just realized Connie's new clothes make her look like an overachieving nerd XD#Imagine if she still wears her big round nerd glasses. 'Erm actually it's a [insert what specifically the type of dagger she has now]☝🤓#connverse#Connie Maheswaran#Steven Quartz Universe#Ah nerdcore fashion young adult Connie would be amazing 🤩 . I already headcanon she'd be a more scruffy one tho. 🤔 Guess#that's another alternative style to go off of 🤷♀️#Steven Universe#He gonna hit her up with the 'Hello morning glory! ☀️🥰😘🥰💕' and Connie be looking like a nest#SU#my shiz#animated gif
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prettyracha
#lee know#hyunjin#felix#minho#stray kids#skz#bystay#createskz#*gif#*ccarly#*hyunjin#*felix#*minho#*carly:hyunjin#*carly:felix#*carly:minho#my before work gifset of the day....took yesterday off bc i felt like garbage but. must be an adult today... </3
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That's wizard dinner babey
#not pictured: laptop playing Dimension 20 season 1#which ive been rewatching lately#i have done. so much gardening today. and also made lunch for my mom and some random relatives#ex BF texting about anime&pizza for dinner and feeling like not adulting well#and i am over here teeehee wizard dinner canNOT judge him#what is adulthood if not eating what you want how you want it
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Kunikida's 2nd lesson in handling skk: do not leave them alone unattended.
ps: they were already there when they got to their destination.
thank you @ticklinglady for brainstorming the idea with me!!
#i need an entire series of kunikida struggling to deal with two entire adult children#bsd#bungo stray dogs#bungou stray dogs#bsd fanart#bsd kunikida#bsd yosano#bsd dazai#bsd chuuya#bsd ranpo#bsd kunikida doppo#bsd yosano akiko#bsd dazai osamu#bsd nakahara chuuya#soukoku#skk#nawy's comics#ada!chuuya#ada!skk#when i finished this yesterday i had forgotten what would happen in today's episode#this is just a ranpo in a car kind of day#by publishing this now am i going to get drowned under the new episode hype or#with an edit now because i am booboo the fool and forgot to credit where credit is due
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When I talk about something bad I've experienced, Baked In to my experience as A Woman, I am not "making my little cousins feel like shit for being women", because I am talking in a space with, allegedly, adults. I am not bringing my problems to children in the first place. That said, I don't HAVE to make my baby cousin feel bad, because she's already experienced sexual harassment in her life, and she's only 8, and doesn't even understand what any of it means yet. And everyone in her family can try to instill confidence in her, and never talk about our bodies in a negative way. But she can still feel like she's too chubby, because she still goes to school, and talks to other kids and their parents, and still sees ads, and still watches tv. We can be positive, but we can't fix the root of the problem. And I don't HAVE to tell trans women that "pain is a rite of passage", because that's not a Rule being enforced (by me), because I've already sat and listened to my friend complain about constantly shaving as a Baseline necessity and how it hurts her skin and she has to put makeup onto fresh cuts on her face because going out without a full face of properly feminine makeup would make her life worse, and being anything less than thin and lithe makes her "less feminine", and ALL the things that can make her "more feminine" are behind a paywall. And I can try to make her feel better, and I can hear her experiencing the tenfold version of problems I relate to, but I can't fix the root cause of her problems by just telling her not to complain. Forcing happiness as a core personality trait for women is not the Girlboss Feminist move that you think it is, and no amount of gender euphoria in the world will make you immune to systemic oppression.
#sergle.txt#you cunts learned the term 'toxic positivity' years ago and forgot it instantly#putting a bandaid on a fuckin severed leg is what it is#do i wish i wasn't a woman? no#do i feel pretty in a dress? yes#have i suffered? OH MY GOD YES#do i think any woman alive today has lived without suffering in these ways? NO.#unless she is being raised by wolves. in which case. good for her.#again I am still flabbergasted by that post having used trans woman as a last ditch effort scapegoat.#like. shocked. as if ANY trans girl's problems are because other women complain abt the way they're treated.#she's got her own problems bitch!! and they are directly correlated to my problems!!#it's like. it's infantilizing almost. the way the dickheads in that post went from ''kids'' to ''trans women''.#adult women who know how gender works.#condescending.
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