#Freudian therapy

[cissyenthusiast010155]

Omg, your response was so amazing and helpful 😭❤ Thank you for taking the time to really get into all that. 💞 It also seems to have kinda sparked a conversation arround it, which is awesome! 😁

And ohhhhh ya, the religious trauma and gilt are real 😳🙄

You mentioned you have more to say if we want to hear it? I, for one, would LOVE to hear anything else you have to say on the topic! ❤

-🫖

Hi hi hi 🫖 anon!!

{Let’s Talk Religious Guilt and Trauma}

I am so glad that my response—Let’s Talk Healthy Solo Sex— was helpful and informative for you!! Of course!!! I want to give every ask and every anon the time and respect that they deserve ♥️♥️ And yes, I love that it sparked more of a conversation!! I’m so proud of you for reaching out and starting these discussions, anon!!! 🥰

I most definitely have more to say on the topic. For one, you can check out Let’s Talk Penetrative Sex and Let’s Talk Trauma in Relationships, which both stemmed from our conversation! And then there’s this response, fyi it will be another longer one 😊

*sigh* Yes, religious guilt and trauma are most definitely real. And those of experiences and feelings are so valid. Trauma of any kind is no joke. If you have any religious trauma or trauma of any other kind, I highly recommend that you seek a professional’s help.

So… What is Religious Trauma and Guilt?

A general definition for Religious Trauma is… “Religious trauma can happen when an individual’s religious experience has been damaging, abusive, degrading, stressful, or traumatic. When a religious experience is traumatic, it can damage your emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual health”. Check out Cohesive Therapy NYC’s article on Religious Trauma for more detailed information! For an article that goes more into Religious Guilt, check out Considering Counseling’s article on Religious Trauma and Guilt…! ♥️

Religious trauma and guilt are especially tricky beasts… Many twisted religious teachings and persuasion is very cult like. (That’s not to say that all are, there are definitely less twisted, healthier religions and practices) But the ones that are rotten and manipulative, they dig deep into your core beliefs, especially if you’re a child, and they replace your identity with the identity of the religion/church/cult.

So, how do you deal with religious trauma and guilt?

Firstly, as I said above, seek professional help (I recommend an EMDR specialist for trauma—EMDR is a type of therapy that works to restructure traumatic memories in your brain)

On your own accord, Processing, Accepting, and then Healing is the overall goal. Talking it out and processing your experience and feelings with a trusted person can be helpful for some. I find that talking to someone who has also had religious trauma or guilt to be even more helpful, because of how they can relate. Sometimes journaling/writing about it can be another helpful tool. The key is to find some way to express those emotions, to get them out of you.

Personally, my own story is that I have both religious trauma and guilt, but I definitely struggle more with my religious trauma. I was raised in a Catholic school and an Interfaith-Christian household. We moved around a lot, and so I went to many Christian churches like Non-Denominational, Baptist, Presbyterian, Catholic, and Southern Christian/Baptist. After the Catholic primary school, I moved to a Christian Charter school for six years. At that age, all my activities were based around my church and religious school; safe to say, religion was a very big part of my childhood. When Covid hit, I had had enough and I used the social distancing and the lockdown as a way to disconnect from the church. I effectively stopped going to church in 2020. I then took that time to explore my religious trauma and guilt, and this was where my healing journey began.

Everyone’s journey is different, and everyone’s journey is valid. ♥️

I began my work with my CBT therapist (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy— most therapy is CBT or Freudian). I found that most of my religious guilt was tied to my sexuality, and that I really struggled with being gay and being religious. So I explored that. I talked about it with lots of people, including my therapist, trusted family members, and other trusted religious people. I found that finding others who struggled with sexuality and religion was extremely helpful, it made me feel validated and not alone in the struggle. Today, I am way further along with my religious guilt than I was 3 years ago, but I definitely still have more to process, accept, and heal from.

Next there was my religious trauma. For this, I started with my CBT therapy as well. It was helpful, but after 3 years, I have run into a wall… It depends on the intensity of your trauma, because “little t” trauma is more easily resolved through CBT, whereas “capital T” trauma requires the neural network in your brain. My trauma is more “capital T”, and so I found that CBT therapy only helped me so much. This is why I recommend EMDR therapy for trauma. EMDR therapy targets restricting your neural network, working out the traumatic memories.

Everyone’s experience is different, so what worked for me and what didn’t work might be different for you, and that’s okay. This is only my experience. But I hope that it was a little helpful, and that you at least feel less alone in your feelings. Because they are so valid. ♥️♥️

So yea, those are my key points for religious trauma and guilt…! Hope this was somewhat relatable, helpful, and informative 🥰 Don’t hesitate to reach out and chat with me, ask or dm! Hope you have a lovely day/night!! 💞💞

Talk with Me ❤️‍🔥

[sendpseuds]

What do you can share about the therapy AU?

This is, more than likely, the next thing I write.

A few weeks ago, I received an anon suggesting I write something with an identity porn element and I couldn’t stop thinking about it. I ran through several scenarios but eventually my brain just locked in on one idea in particular—

A therapist realizes, in the middle of a session, that the internet friend he’s been regularly sexting, is his patient.

I’ve got this mostly planned out [thanks to @palfriendpatine66 for combing through my rambling nonsense] and should be a fun non-linear romp through alternating POVs and DMs full of angst and smut and [of course] too many feelings

I’m not gonna put a timeline on this one just yet but, stay tuned!

[uncanny-tranny]

Talked about this in a tag rant, but in mental health advocacy spaces or mental health awareness spaces, it is imperative that we stop treating cognitive behavioural therapy as the Only Option or the Best Option. As a survivor, having CBT therapists coach me through ongoing abuse was very unhelpful at best. At a certain point, going to my "mind palace" did not help me go home to a place that was a threat to me.

Yes, there are good uses for CBT. No, that doesn't mean that it is the only option for helping people who are struggling. It is dangerous to prop up CBT as the only option. It is dangerous to not inform a patient about all treatment options and what would look best for them (it's also dangerous how insurance may only cover CBT therapists, too. It is extremely dangerous.)

[hampterguts]

i might not be very smart. rung was such a bad therapist that i was convinced that everything he did was some long undercurrent theme of what bad therapy will do to a group of people who need it. but then the author threw froid and sunder in.

[envolvenuances]

I'm gonna try a real diary is just that I take the real diary for my therapist

[fangirlinglikeabus]

other twist i Know is that zarl is actually six...so all the talk about his wife who died and who he's now discovered exists in another form Sure Is Something

[britneyshakespeare]

i rant in the tags boldly and without fear

[nicklloydnow]

“A patient is always surprised when he is told something that unconsciously he already knows. This follows from our designation of surprise as the reaction to the fulfillment of an unconscious expectation. He will take in what was formerly known to him and has only been alienated, as if it were something new, and will repel it. We may now understand the effect, which often does not appear until later, of such a surprising communication, if we recognize it as a kind of psychical shock that it takes time to master.

We shall not be put off by the fact that the patient experiences these surprises within his ego, although he thinks that he is well acquainted with his own inner life. It will seem strange to us that the analyst, too, who has such wide experience, is largely dependent upon receiving such knowledge from unknown powers of the ego, and upon listening for the stirrings within him in tracking the hidden meaning of psychical phenomena. Where the analyst's idea penetrates to the profoundest depths of the other's inner life, it may be recognized as the offspring of what is repressed in the analyst and appears to him as something alien. In short, to sum up the matter: The most vital knowledge obtained by the analyst of the unconscious-repressed is, for him too, a surprise. It is true that this surprise reaction will lose intensity as the analyst gains insight and deeper psychological knowledge. There may come a time when it does not appear at all. But at least in the early years of an analyst's work it remains as a sure signal that his own unconscious is involved in the recognition of unconscious relations. It is not logical reflection and theoretical learning that constitute the core of the preconscious and unconscious knowledge, so helpful to the psychologist in later years in recognizing repressed processes, but the memory-traces of the surprise he has experienced. If, in our analyses of mental effects, we can so often infer hidden, unconscious motives, the inference is of value, not so much as a logical operation but rather as the outcome of repeated insight into the mind that surprised the analyst at first.

We mistrust psychologists who declare that they experience no such surprises, that the unconscious of those whom they study is immediately transparent to them and easy to penetrate. There may be psychoanalysts of such a nature. They are, so to speak, professional experts in the depths of the human soul. The netherworld is their oyster. The psychologist "who is surprised" then stands consciously opposed to those for whom there are no surprises left in the inner life. If these gentlemen boast that they find it easy "to read the other person," that the unconscious lies before them like an open book, then they do not know how to read it. The wonders of the inner reality are hidden from their sight. I know that there are many psychoanalysts who shrink from what is astonishing and set up a defense against what is sur prising in the psychological field, and try to protect themselves against it. They put up a barrier of theoretical learning, to parry and intercept it. But the best of our profession, the most valuable of our art and craft, have learned to appreciate the heuristic value of surprising ideas emerging from the unconscious, and gladly welcome them. (You shall be welcome whenever you come.)

The surprise that is felt when the unconscious meaning of individual phenomena is recognized, when the latent significance of individual symptoms, dreams, strange reactions, is understood, may increase at a later stage, toward the end of the process of analysis. When we survey the development of a neurosis or a special character, our surprise does not diminish when we recognize how the co-operation or confict of particular impulses has produced just this emotional result, how inevitably and yet how naturally just this type of character arose in the play of psychical forces. And so, when his task is accomplished, the psychologist is struck with amazement as he surveys what he has seen of the dynamic and economic conditions of the inner processes. His incipient understanding of the methods by which our mental machinery works will not lessen his amazement, but rather increase it.” (pages 245 - 247)

[theflagscene]

Okay so I get the inherent homoeroticism in male on male relationships on television, especially in this day and age when people are desperate for some kind of LGBTQ+ representation in their media, so they occasionally grasp at straws. But! And this is a big but, has anyone at GMMTV ever actually had a sibling!? Like we get that your best numbers come from ‘teh gay’ but just so you know, BROTHERS DON’T ACT THE WAY YOU’RE WRITING THEM!!

I mean, I won’t kink shame, you do you, ya know. But really GMMTV, right in front of my salad? 🥗

[misscammiedawn]

What is "Cognitive Behavioral Therapy"?

[psychicreading-live]

[sendpseuds]

the dichotomy between dr. kenobi and ben is fascintating. the fact that his ex wanted dr. kenobi all the time but he doesn't see himself as dr. kenobi is so interesting! the question of which version of us is our true face and which is the name on the desk that we take off when we leave work. but they're both us, just different facets of the same person. but that begs the question of whether ben views himself as truly separate from dr. kenobi or if that's just how his ex/everyone else sees him and he's just out there living his best life and understood the assignment on being "professional" at work a little too well :P because of course he's not going to be shirtless at work and being able to choose which patients know he has tattoos based on what will make them more comfortable is just being a good therapist.

Yeah, I think there are a lot of layers here that I haven't 100% worked through yet but, hey, let's give it a shot!

So, there are actually sort of three facets at play here: Dr. Kenobi - behavioral therapist Ben - the name/persona he uses online Obi-Wan - the man who is both of those people

Let's start with Dr. Kenobi. I sort of like the idea that this persona is as much a function of self-preservation as it is of professionalism. I could really see Obi-Wan having a difficult time separating himself from his work, at least early on. I can imagine him taking on a lot of his patients' emotions and trauma, sharing more of himself than he should, bringing his work home with him. Eventually, he realizes there needs to be a barrier between Obi-Wan and Dr. Kenobi. So, he creates a "uniform" of sorts to help him make that distinction in his own life. It's less that Dr. Kenobi is a different person and more that Obi-Wan needs to keep that part of his life separate, and when he gets home, he doesn't want to put the fake glasses back on.

Now, Ben— I think Ben more or less is Obi-Wan. Probably a little more uninhibited, though I don't think he needs to be online to be a bit of a freak, but it's definitely a very specific part of him that comes out here.

Wait.

Hold on.

Oh, for fuck's sake am I splitting this man into id, ego, and super ego??

I'm... does this make me an idiot or a genius?

Don't answer that.

Let's talk about the ex before I lose my mind.

More than likely, Obi-Wan's ex here is Cody [I have other plans for Satine, plus talking about his ex-husband is a very easy way for Anakin to realize Ben is gay] I'm thinking this was one of those relationships where Boring Partner marries Fun Partner because Fun Parter is Fun but eventually Boring Partner realizes he kind of wishes Fun Partner wasn't so Fun all the time. So, it's not necessarily that Cody wanted him to be "Dr. Kenobi" all the time, but he would take Obi-Wan to fancy cocktail bars and shows in the hopes that Obi-Wan would embrace the suits and the status as his new normal, but no matter how hard he tried, Obi-Wan would always prefer a worn graphic tee and a rock show in a dirty bar. Eventually, it just became clear they wanted very different lives.

There is so much to dig through here, and it will all have to come down to a "who are you really?" kind of conversation. I'm really excited to find those answers.

[hype-queer-fixated]

don't bring a gun to a 5 foot nothing 60 year old therapist fight

Dr. Florence Seward / Penny Dreadful (2016)

[tanktopbuzzcutgay]

Think I'm gonna quit therapy >:)

[superectojazzmage]

Just back from Alien Romulus and hoooo boy oh boy. Review/analysis.

Easily the best Alien movie since the first two, which isn't saying much, yeah, but it is legit a really cool and well-made movie, competing with Late Night With The Devil, Longlegs, and Cuckoo for title of my favorite horror movie this year.

In a lot of ways it's about harvesting the few good ideas from the post-2 movies that were squandered and doing them right, plus getting the series back to it's healthier roots, kinda the movie equivalent of someone doing physical therapy to get back in the saddle after an injury. This means it's not quite brand new ground like some may hope for and I've heard some people feel it gets a little derivative at points because of it. I can kinda agree and certainly understand that criticism, but I feel it does what it's aiming for really well and sets things up for future works to go in even crazier directions. Furthermore, it takes a lot of time to try and weld together the disparate post-2 movies in a way that brings the series back to a little coherency.

The atmosphere is really intense and cool, swinging between lovecraftian dread and build-up and high-energy chaos. The aesthetics and special effects are gorgeous, taking full advantage of the progress that technology has made since 2 plus really digging in to the used cassette future vibe of the older films. The characters are likable and actually intelligent (or at least understandable) in behavior like in the first two movies, so you care about what's happening to them instead of just waiting for them to get munched. The action and kills were really cool and creative, the cinematography in general was off-kilter in an awesome way - there's a definite attempt to make the movie feel claustrophobic and intimate. Fede Alvarez did a fantastic job in general, I'd love to see him do more with the series.

It REALLY cranks up the series' psychosexual, freudian, and sexual assault subtext, arguably to a point where it's just plain text. So if you're sensitive to stuff like that or if this is your first go at Alien, be warned for that.

More specific notes go under the header for spoilers. Highly recommend you go in as blind as you can.

Andy and Rain were wonderful leads, their dynamic was fantastic and Calie Spaeny and David Jonsson both turned in great performances. I direly hope they join the first two films' casts as "major" characters for the series going forward.

The effects to make Daniel Betts look like Ian Holms were quite possibly the one and only time the special effects failed. It looks very wonky, which is sad because Betts does a really good job copying Holms' mannerisms for Ash while still making Rook feel like a distinct character.

In addition to the usual themes of sexual unease, genetics, and parenthood, this movie adds in some really interesting themes of familial legacy, the rise of new generations, foundations, etc.. Andy and Rain are like Romulus and Remus of myth, orphaned and left to fend for themselves but growing into founders of a new age - both in-story with their carrying the XX121 substance and evidence of Weyland-Yutani's misdeeds to Yvaga and out-of-story with them being the protagonists of a new era for Alien. Likewise, the Offspring is the first example of an entirely new species, neither human nor alien but taking from the lineages of both through Kay and Big Chap, a Romulus-like founder of it's breed that will later bear fruit in Resurrection with the Ripley clone and Newborn.

I'm really not kidding when I say above that the psychosexual undercurrents are taken to the extreme here. This movie basically sees the ways the original film subtly pin-pricked at those themes, says "fuck that", and deliberately rubs it in your face in a way designed to make sure you can't ignore it. It wants you to be grossed out and to squirm in your chair and it knows exactly how to make it happen.

Alvarez noted in the lead-up to release that he took a lot of influence from Isolation and you can definitely see that in how he depicts the Xenomorphs and the general aura of the film. He further described it as a kind of halfway point between the first and second movies and you can also see that; it has the Lovecraft-style tension and horror of the first, balanced with the energy and action of the second, and it does a really good job finding a middle ground between Ridley Scott and James Cameron's styles while also doing it's own dance.

I mentioned way back at the start how the movie basically harvests the good ideas from 3, Resurrection, Prometheus, and Covenant and gives them the room they deserve while dumping the bad. It does that in both terms of themes/style and continuity/lore. Concepts that those movies bungled like xeno-human hybridism, the black goo, genetic engineering as a focus, and so on are done here more creatively and competently. Themes that those films tried and failed to tackle are handled with significantly more grace. It has the atmosphere and characterization of 3 but none of it's baggage and needlessly depressive tone. It has the body horror and weirdness of Resurrection without taking it to the zany, embarrassing areas that movie went. The effects and creativity of Prometheus and Covenant without any of their awful writing and clumsy messages. Alvarez takes on kind of an Al Ewing-esque "repairman" writing style here.

The Xenomorphs are absolutely deranged in behavior compared to most portrayals, attacking like either cruel sadists or raging chimps and rarely bothering to take hosts. I'm not sure if such a reading was intended, but I got the vibe that the idea is Xenos raised without a queen or hive grow to be basically sociopathic like how real world predatory animals grown without parental figures become feral and dysfunctional. Which would also explain a lot about how the Xeno in the original movie, Big Chap, acts there.

The Offspring's design is fucking wicked and I love it.

One of my few major criticisms is that Big Chap died off-screen instead of getting more to do. What was the point of having him be alive at the start if he wasn't gonna be used beyond a backstory point to set up the main story?

All in all, a very impressive effort and a great return to form for the series that I recommend highly.

[fazeruined]

@curseofbreadbear

Even with the comprehensible discomfort of Freddy's dented casing, currently this still was the most comfortable Cassie's felt, further suggested by how her body relaxed in his arms; she really was entrusting him with herself, having come to understand those sharp claws and scary jagged edges wouldn't purposely come to her harm.

In fact, it has been quite a while since last time she was even simply held...

So this moment meant more to her than it probably truly does. It was just really nice to feel such sense of familiarity again.

She just kind of wished Freddy didn't have to twist and put more (possible) strain on his damaged body just to achieve that. But maybe once they figure out a way to pull those metallic junk pieces out of his body, that can be at least one of the first steps in helping him, once they can get to that.

Her free hand went up to once again wipe the cuff of her sleeve over the side of her forehead, further staining the fabric with that darker red shade; that definitely was something the Daycare Attendant hopefully should be able to help with...

" That's really good, then. It means we shouldn't have to wander too far and off our plan to reach the Daycare just looking for a stroller. " It's almost comedic that a kid at her age could still fit in those baby strollers from the PizzaPlex. " I wouldn't know even if I passed by one, though. I was far too focused in just... getting through. " Not to mention a good chunk of her venturing through Fazer Blast was her terrifiedly running away from him, thinking he was going to hurt her, not getting to process what random things were laying around. But of course she doesn't say that out loud, not wanting Freddy to feel guilty.

" You might want to slow your steps just a bit. There is a lot of annoying little things littering the floor. " Cassie heeds. Things like small crumbs of wood or cement and small pieces of junk and scraps, not to mention broken and uneven floor parts, far too many for her to alert him of every single one; Though he probably can just step over majority of them, a slower and more cautious step while doing do lowered the chances of him getting caught by surprise and losing his balance. That was especially important on the higher platforms if they were to cross those again, full of uneven footing and gaps, on top of being high up from the ground level.

" I don't want you to trip and fall off. " She says empathetically; While that was something that would affect her as well if it happened since he was carrying her, she really just didn't want that happening to her new (and now potentially only) friend at all, period.

[Freddy could no longer process the pain he should have felt; whether it be the agony of his damaged systems and missing casing, or the inherent discomfort that came with twisting a limb to an unnatural degree, he didn't feel a thing. It was mildly concerning ( especially with regard to his internal machinery ), but at least it enabled him to "comfortably" carry Cassie without issue. So he hoped. His joints SHOULDN'T be any weaker just because they were twisted like this, but he was a bit worried about that now...]

[Speaking of which, Cassie didn't complain or cry out when he swooped her into his arms, meaning that he hadn't harmed her. Thank goodness; his plan had worked. They would be able to safely traverse Fazer Blast like this, at least until they stumbled on a stroller.]

[Freddy was given pause as she held off on being his eyes, noting that the Pizzaplex was full of "dark and scary" places. Could she not see? He recalled their earlier encounter, in which he had retrieved a flashlight for her -- did she still have it?]

[Answering his question for him, Freddy heard a distinct "click." She then agreed to play the part of his eyes, now that she could actually see in front of them.]

T̶̮͠H̷̭̀À̶̬N̵͚̆K̴͖̕ ̸̙̒Y̴̦̾O̸͎̒U̸̞̓.̵͓̒ (THANK YOU.)

[Freddy began to walk forward, reversing the route he'd taken to get here, but paused as she offered the smallest bit of guidance; this was a "back room" for Fazer Blast. There was a door ahead of them, to the right. He "nodded" in acknowledgment -- it was the polite thing to do, even if he was already fairly acquainted with the inner workings of Fazer Blast. It was also...nice, having a picture painted for him. He might be able to feel his way around, but it was nothing like being able to see it for himself.]

[Freddy carefully made his way through the door, making sure not to let it touch Cassie. He continued on his preset route, waiting for her to call something out, but engaged her as she inquired about his stroller knowledge.]

I̶̠͑ ̴̻͋H̸͙̽A̸͇͛Ṿ̶̋E̵̖̒ ̷̺̀D̶̗͐Ë̴͚́T̶̥́E̸̻̋C̷̦̋Ṯ̵̍E̷̢̕D̶̛̻ ̶̰̈T̸͙̄Ḩ̵͒E̸̬̒M̵̘̑,̷̟̒ ̵͓͆Ý̶͍É̴̹S̵͇̽.̷̩̂ ̶͎̽T̵̫̈́H̸̲̍E̸̖͊Y̷̋ͅ ̸̰́M̵̬̐Í̶͕G̷̟̒H̶͓͋T̸̗̋ ̸͚̄N̶̺͂O̵̺͌T̶̯̊ ̵̹͠B̷̻̈́Ȩ̴̈́ ̸̗͂A̶̦̽Ļ̴͝O̴̭̽Ṉ̴̏G̵͙̓ ̸̓ͅT̴̡̀H̴̅͜I̸̻͗Ş̶̎ ̷̗̕P̷̩̊A̷̟̍T̸̮̕Ḥ̶̽,̵̜̍ ̷̤͝B̶̦̀U̶͇͛T̷͉̈́ ̸̾͜T̷̯̀H̶̻̾E̶̬̓R̵̞̀Ẹ̶̀ ̷͚̓S̵̰͠H̴̨͋Ö̶͔́Ū̶̪Ļ̷̒Ḑ̸͠ ̴̰̾B̵̬͊E̶̢̓ ̴̫͆Å̵ͅT̸̫̅ ̴͕̍L̶͕̆Ę̷̿Ȧ̶̘S̸̩͋T̴̢̕ ̸̬́O̴̟̎N̴̞̔E̷̻͑ ̸̙̇I̷̩͘N̴̮̄ ̸̖͠F̴̘̅A̶͒ͅZ̵̡̅E̵͔͆R̸̉ͅ ̷̗̐B̷̳̅L̴͍̽A̷͇̍S̶͙̕T̸̥͒.̵̮͛ ̴̤͗I̵̦͝ ̴̭͘Ạ̸͝M̷̰͐ ̸̣̀C̷̤͂Ẻ̷͉R̸̒͜Ṯ̸͂A̷̛͉Ǐ̶̼N̴͔̈ ̶̯̃O̷̠̔F̶̟̕ ̶̝̏Ḯ̷̯T̴͎̾.̷̗͋ (I HAVE DETECTED THEM, YES. THEY MIGHT NOT BE ALONG THIS PATH, BUT THERE SHOULD BE AT LEAST ONE IN FAZER BLAST. I AM CERTAIN OF IT.)