#EXCUSE the rant

[yureichi]

I was scrolling through Pinterest when I came across a post about QON chapter 21 and some comments were crazy with purity obsession. There’s people out there who really think that having sex ruins a character. The series is YA, so, not explicit, but the sexually liberated, partying naked, several lovers, staring-at-your-crush-while-kissing-other-people culture of the Folk is often brought up. So I don’t see why people trouble themselves reading the books if the subject bothers them so much.

Someone really said that Jude and Cardan’s first time was degrading and out of character for Jude - I’m sorry, what?? How is a young married couple having sex degrading? Jude had the hots for Cardan from the get go, even in TCP (even though back then she was too busy hating his attitude and his bullshit to realise and that ended up severally repressing and undermining her physical attraction to him), the moment she kissed him and enjoyed it a little too much she was DOOMED. She was raging and furious while simultaneously imagining his mouth on her in the Queen of Mirth scene. She gave in into him in the very first (actual, physical) move he made on her, dude kissed her and their clothes were gone, consequences be damned. They spent months apart, were missing each other badly and were horny. So, yeah, them sleeping together was, in fact, very in character and expected. Jude provoking him with his fantasies and losing her virginity on top was on point with the girl she is and I wouldn’t expect anything less from her lol.

People really need to stop purifying fictional characters so they can fit into their niche needs and they really really need to stop demonizing sex. It’s how you ended up in the world in the first place. It’s normal. Most people do it. If you don’t feel up to it, there’s no need to do it or consume media where it’s portrayed in a nice and positive way. Go find a shape in the clouds before shaming people (both real and fictional) for normal human (and faerie, of course) behaviour.

[ahintofpanic13]

Yet again I'm being reminded how rough it is to be a Thirteen era fan amongst general DW fandom. If i see one more gif set with examples from every other NuWho regeneration except 13 i'm going to throw something.

You want to make multi doctor comparison posts? Claim to be a long term Doctor Who fan? Thirteen's run was the shortest in NuWho. Just watch it!

[wistfulenchantress]

i truly believe in normalizing positive male friendships but also i am sick and tired of my heterosexual father (who always claims sparks are flying between every male and female pairing in anything) saying that i read to much into everything.

i enjoy making people gay in my head. i do the same thing with positive female friendships. you are the one who can't accept that i'm right!

in the three main examples of this argument at least two of these are true:

they make gay jokes about the characters

there are more accurate examples of positive male friendship in there anyway

the actors are on board with the ship

[juliasdowntonstuff]

Just some late night ranting

This will be an unusually personal post for me. I never truly talk about all these feelings and emotions, at least not my own. So this is quite a different post to what I would usually put on here — and it has nothing to do with Downton.

I just think I have to get this off my chest, and I feel like my friends just wouldn't understand. This will also be my own personal reminder that feeling like this is okay.

I contemplated posting this a lot since I wrote it a few days ago. In the end, though, I am putting this on here with the hope that maybe someone else finds this who needs to read this at least partly as much as I needed to write it.

Also, this is the raw, unedited text copied straight from my notes app, so please excuse any mistakes.

This will talk about loss and grieving for a loved one, so take this as a trigger warning if you don't want to or can't read about that.

It’s currently 3:15 am on the 21st of November 2023. I am writing this to hopefully make some sense of at least some of what's keeping me up so late when I am doing just alright during the day, mostly at least. My friends wouldn't understand, and I don't blame them. How could they? None of them have had to deal with this yet, and I am happy for them. I truly wish they won't have to for years or even decades to come.

My mum is dying. Even just writing that sentence hurts like hell. She was diagnosed with cancer in late January this year. She did the chemotherapy, had radiation treatment and then had an operation. Everything was looking so splendidly after that. The doctors said that she was in remission and that should be able to get back to work sometime in the New Year. She truly started getting better after all the treatment, and it looked like she could start her new job after all. She was originally supposed to start said new job the day she got her diagnosis — a job she has worked so hard for all her life, and now she'll never get the chance to do it. Still, there was hope and we all clung to it. We were happy with the progress she made during the summer. And then they found the metastases, most prominently in her brain, and ever since then she has started losing parts of herself and abilities she once had, almost on the daily. Everything she once loved, she can’t do any more. She’s losing her memories and she’s starting to lose her control of words. My mum was always one of the most eloquent people I ever encountered. She was who I always turned to whenever I needed anything, anything at all. She’s not dead yet, but I am already agonizing over all the things I never asked her and the answers I’ll never get. And that is perfectly acceptable.

My mum attended every single event I ever participated in since kindergarten, all the choir concerts in school and now at uni; every single swimming or reading competition I ever took part in: she was there, front row, cheering me on endlessly. Next week I'll be singing and playing the first ever concert she won’t be able to attend and I am already saddened by her absence even though she is still here. She just won't be there in person. She was and is my biggest supporter. She’s not dead yet, but I’m already grieving just thinking about all the things she won’t get to witness, the milestones I won’t get to share with her. And that is perfectly acceptable.

I'm driving the 300 kilometres home from university every week to help my dad care for her. While I am there, I'm also doing the grocery shopping. People in my hometown have started looking at me and talking to me as if she’s dead already and it hurts unlike anything. She’s not dead yet, but I am already feeling her loss whenever I have to go out and see people who knew her. And that is perfectly acceptable.

I have had some time to come to terms with the reality of it all — that my mum won’t be here forever. Of course, she was never going to — that’s how life works. But she was supposed to have so many more years of life ahead of her. Now, suddenly, she doesn’t. All she has left are a few more weeks. No matter how hard I try, I simply cannot imagine a life without my mum in it, and I don’t want to in all honesty. But the truth is: I have to. Because sometime soon that will be my reality. I am already mourning my mum even though she is still alive. I get incredibly sad every time I look in a mirror or someone takes a selfie with me, because I don't just see myself in there, I also see her. I am the spitting image of my mum, and that serves as a constant reminder of what I'm about to lose and it won't ever stop reminding me and my family of this, of her. My mum is my best friend and I will forever be grateful for this special bond we shared and still share. This is not what life's like for so many people out there. People who don't get along with their parents or have no contact with them for various reasons. That's a fact that makes me even more emotional about it all. I am grieving the person I am and I will be grieving who I was when she was here because I know that when she dies, a not-so-small part of me will die as well. And that is perfectly acceptable.

I am grieving the woman who has been with me all my life, who raised me to be so independent, but who also helped my whenever I needed help and who stood by me no matter what. I am grieving my guiding hand in life. I am grieving the woman I have looked up to ever since I was a little girl, amazed by the effect my mum had on other people, most notably all her students. My mum is the reason I am becoming a teacher as well, her passion for that occupation and all it entailed was the match that lit the spark within me. My mum was my role model — she is my role model. 

I am mourning my mother, prematurely. She’s not dead yet, but I am already agonizing over her loss and the huge gap she will leave in our lives. What I’ll do when the time has come to truly mourn her I don’t know and I wish I wouldn’t have to find that out for a while yet. But I'll have to, and that certainty hurts unlike anything I've ever felt. I've lost both of my granddads to the same illness, so I know this kind of loss and what the weeks and months leading up to the inevitable feel like. But what I felt then and what I am feeling now simply cannot be compared. During our drive home from a visit with my granddad ahead of his death almost exactly two years ago, she said: “We're saying goodbye a little more each time we go, aren't we? Because a little part that was there last time has already gone missing and won't be found again by the time we return. And at some point, there won't be anything left at all.” And she was right. The extent this time around, however, feels so much greater and much more profound.

People in my life I've told about this situation ask me how I am doing all the time. All I manage to get out is a (mostly fake) smile and a forced “I'm fine.” Because how am I to say all of this to another person, straight to their face? I can't and I won't. After all, my mum is still alive. She is not dead, yet. I have nothing to grieve for, not yet.

And still, I am grieving this loss. Which is perfectly acceptable. At least, that is what I have decided for myself.

It is perfectly acceptable.

[sleepy-the-loz-enthusiast]

I genuinely don't understand how or why people are homophobic or transphobic. Like, two girls or two boys wanna kiss? That's their business, good on them for finding love. Someone doesn't like the body they were born into so make changes to feel more comfortable in their skin? All power to them, it's amazing that they've found a way to love themself.

Same goes for racism, like so what if someone has a different culture and appearance? They're still a human being, their appearance and culture doesn't take away from that fact.

[imadumbshark]

I feel like kakuzu doesn't get enough attention. Like this dude was part of a village that had dedicated it's entire existence to defending the greater world from the existence of these weird demon creatures that had superhuman abilities INCLUDING being able to perfectly impersonate humans.

So when a human (hashirama) that had mysteriously similar abilities (mokuton), appeared on the scene and started making some BIG changes, they were understandably concerned. Clearly the only solution was to kill him. As you do.

Enter Kakuzu. This average everyday jonin was sent halfway across the world to kill the dude known as the GOD OF SHINOBI. Obviously he failed and was punished for failing his mission.

But like, instead of just waiting out his sentence like a normal person this dude proceeds to:

Break out of prison

Steal a eldritch horror kinjutsu in a can (travel sized for his convenience) from some dusty forgotten corner of the councils closet

Become effectively immortal (thank you eldritch horror kinjutsu)

Get rich (because he's a strong independent shinobi who don't need no village)

And join an organisation that was being led by ONE OF THE DEMON CREATURES HIS VILLAGE HAD SWORN TO DESTROY (zetsu)

AND THIS WAS ADDRESSED IN THE SHOW A TOTAL OF ONE (1) TIMES??? LIKE?? I WOULD LIKE SOME MORE INFORMATION ABOUT THIS PARTICULAR SPITEFUL GREMLIN PLEASE AND THANK YOU.

And he's kinda hot

[i-love-to-draw1]

I really like 4halo

Like I haven't watch bad pov of today I've been trying to catch up bc I had fam over n I promise my bby cousin tht ill play with him so ya know got busy

N rn I'm watching bags but I've been reading the liveblogs whenever I got the time. N I just really like 4halo n how it's developing. I'm not aro or in its spectrum, but my sister is. I like 4halo tht I rant bout the characters n how they are n ll tht jazz like I had a full explanation of wut happen to my sis from the liveblogs n I'm just excited but worried. Mostly bc bags is in sister mode n I get tht as the older Sibling. But I'm worried if bags tell forever tht it might make their friendship [4halo] tense or off. Bc I don't mind where it goes so long as they still care for eachother but I'm worried this might cause some strain n the cc are really good with their acting.

Like I had a full on conversation n my sis who is in the aro/acespec feels seen bc she is also in a relationship. Like she enjoys qbad bc she sees herself in him. She told me how she decided to take the chance in a relationship [r] bc she has this similar mindset like jaiden [if u saw her coming out vid] n she's happy but still has worries n doubts if she's doing romance right n I just bonk her head n say yes bc it's ur form of it. She rooting for them n hopes they can work themselves out but she's also happy if thy dont put a label as well.

I also see my relationship in them but in forever pov bc my partner n I were also slow n oblvious. Lmao like we confessed in December but we didn't got in a relationship bc of some stuff but I was okay with waiting so long as I'm by his side n I didn't even mind if on day it turned to a nvm bc my friendship with them mattered more so lmao. Like we didn't have official tittle till the end of February n we just call eachother partners/r

We ranted bout how it's best tht the two work on themselfs before going in som relationship. N we know it's gonna take a while lmao. We are excited for this slowburn. But wut happen makes me worried tht it might hit some roadblock but I do love m e some angst but my heart is also soft when I get attach so I'll cry if something happens xuebdhdvd

Also I'm sorry if I don't explain myself well lmao like we talked for 2hrs bout them n now idk how to type it. Lol but I do know tht I hope people [Twitter] let them cook, bc this is a slowburn so they should fuk off. 2 don't harass bad n bags bout their characters actions. Let them cook lol. 3 be fuking patient n don't be weird. Like bruh I don't even go ther other then fanart n live update accounts. But reading the discourse om here is annoying people be weird.

[mushroomgothic]

it’s my only “day off” this week (but it isn’t, really- i have to go to work from 5-8pm) and now we have errands to run and they’re gonna take for fucking ever without a car. and my body is sore from digging an irrigation trench for my dad yesterday. and emotionally i have been pushed off the edge of the cliff i’ve been balancing over for months now by a stupid fucking argument i had with my stepmom yesterday, and i can’t stop crying. motivation to do anything with my limited free time today has evaporated. this is the worst i’ve felt in a very long time.

[voidartisan]

Right on schedule

[ash-isnt-writing]

btw teeth imperfections should not be used to represent an antagonist. it’s something i’ve noticed in media to the point i have to reel myself in assuming that the character with missing teeth is the bad guy (even though, especially in media aimed at kids or a generally younger audience, they usually are) because i was taught a lot that teeth imperfections = antagonist.

like how a lot of shows i watched before we lost access to mainstream tv would have a shady and morally ill character with a golden tooth. how my mother would pull me closer as a man missing his front teeth walked by, telling me that meant he’s a thug. how my father used the concept of braces like it was something to fear, saying it would ‘ruin my image’.

make protagonists with an overbite because they were just born like that and couldn’t afford to get it fixed. make protagonists that have a replacement tooth because they got it punched out in a fight. make protagonists that have braces, and not just because they’re ‘nerdy’.

make antagonists with perfect teeth. make antagonists that have a dazzling, charismatic grin that they use to manipulate a side-protagonist, or even the main character. make antagonists that have the most blindingly white teeth you’ve ever seen.

something people don't utilize in character design enough is the the teeth. And i'm not talking about vampire fangs or monster teeth, but more about crooked teeth, chipped teeth, missing teeth, yellow teeth, retainers, braces, teeth jewels, grills and stuff of the like. not everyone has a perfect array of teeth

[redheadlesbianfreak]

Yes, people do need to take accountability for the partners they choose to date, at least to some extent. And no, this doesn't apply to abusive relationships, that situation is entirely different.

I'm talking about white people who date other white people who are openly racist. I'm talking about "allies" who date other people who are openly homophobic and transphobic. I'm talking about liberal women who date very conservative men. And seeing bigotry as nothing more than a "political issue."

Of course, it's different if your partner lies and actively hides their political views from you. But if your partner is openly voting for people like Trump, openly supporting conservative politicians, openly hating/harming minority groups, then you should leave them. And you should be held accountable if you to choose to stay with someone like that.

[batbabydamian]

wondered when exactly Damian started casually chatting with his hallucinations of Alfred in Robin (2021)

figured isolating himself in a dark tower carrying pictures of Alfred and the weight of his death would do the trick! (Detective Comics (2016) #1032)

[kneelbeforeclefairy]

Okay okay so I used to work in this daycare and I had this one baby I was particularly fond of and she moved up to the next room, and after a couple of months I went to go say hi to her new teacher and we were talking and she said that my girl was very naughty, she doesn't listen, she never sits down, she hits, she takes toys etc and I was like "oh no not my girl! She's the sweetest best baby ever!" And her teacher was like yes , she's just so cute and sweet and she's my favorite but she's really so out of control,and THEN she goes " she's about to move up to the NEXT room and I know she's gonna give them a hard time and I know I'm gonna go there and she's gonna be in time out and I'm gonna be like 'whys my girl in time out?' and theyre gonna be like cause she was being naughty and I'm gonna be like ' yeah but you can't put my girl in time out though she's perfect. But she totally did that.'"

Anyway that's Lestat.

whenever i see people woobifying lestat and saying he's not to blame etc. i'm just like how can you call yourself a lestat fan. his whole appeal is that he sucks massively but is also so lovable at the same time. you don't get him at all

[moraymiso]

the strangest thing to me about the BSD fandom is the fact that the vast majority of people in it are dazai fans, while also consistently assuming the absolute worst of him, disregarding the circumstances around his actions and giving him no grace or consideration of his situation whatsoever.

there's no doubt dazai is a bad person in many ways. he did plenty of unjustifiable, inexcusable things. he's pathologically manipulative with a totally skewed moral compass, most of which was undoubtedly brought on by his upbringing in the mafia. but at the same time, i see such a huge number of people taking that and somehow ending up with - and vehemently defending - this idea that he's a remorseless, indifferent, innately cruel person by nature?

are we forgetting this is the same dazai who was forced to false-witness a murder at fourteen years old? the same dazai who already wracked up numerous suicide attempts barely out of his pre-teens?the same dazai who was referred to by everyone around him as a 'demon' at fifteen years old? the same dazai consistently described as having grief-filled, empty expressions and detached, vacant reactions to practically everything when he was so young? the same dazai that oda described as "a child crying in the dark, alone, left to fend for himself with a hole in his heart as large as the world itself"?

that dazai is an indifferent, heartless, innately psychopathic person? really? i'm not convinced.

[animangalover-writes]

Hating bland ass love interest side characters with my whole hearts, the ones who are just there to be the love interest of a really interesting character but their only other trait is "I'm really nice."

[ikemensweetheart]

Hopped onto my YouTube to find myself subscribed to Tesla. WTF?! Since when was I subscribed to Tesla?!??