#Cleaning out the inbox

[lxgentlefolkcomic]

what is the relationship between sherlock and irene?

they get along well

[circular-bircular]

I wanted to bring up how difficult the whole pro/anti endo situation has been since finding the did/system community even as a traumagenic system…I feel it’s done so much more harm than it seems good in the months I’ve been in the space…I came in knowing a bit about it and knew it was going to be there but it’s disheartening that even just looking for help/advice/answers for symptoms or experiences can bring such a negative and limiting view with it I guess I was also shocked at such a strict belief/sides when our system doesn’t even fully agree on how we feel about it and it’s just sad cause I feel like it’s limiting everyone on finding what’s needed for them

I understand why origin topics come up and that a traumagenic system is going to need some different types of help/info compared to endos but I do believe that as far as helping or just supporting eachother as systems/plurals is possible…of course bad actors will always be in the mix but I just hope that somehow it’ll be easier to find help/advice/answers on symptoms and experiences without being thrown into the endo vs traumagenic thing

Sorry this is kind of not explained as well as I’d like but it’s just been on my mind

Fully agreed. These spaces have been hellish for all types of systems, and I am so, so sorry that I participated in them for so long. Mostly for myself -- I deserved better than this shit.

I think everyone really needs to work on their kindness. Everyone needs to work on being nicer to everyone else, and actually providing the insight people are looking for. But... we're a bunch of traumatized people together in one space, making stupid choices together.

I guess what I"m saying is, have grace with each other. Have some compassion. Which is funny, because both of those concepts are trauma concepts for me. I wonder how related they are?

In any case -- I'm hoping my new blog will be a bit better for that sort of thing. I want to share my experiences so others can see them. That's all I ever wanted to do, and now, I might just get the chance to do it. <3 Let that be a reminder to everyone that they can get out of this hell anytime. Just... do it. Do it scared, let it go, it doesn't have to be cold turkey, but just move on.

[destinyc1020]

I’m really worried that fans will start a war when Challengers doesn’t do really well at the box office. That RomCom with Sydney did so well that they will compare them.

I also worried that Sydney will pass Zendaya she is the IT girl more now than Z. More roles now a boxoffice pull and extremely active on socials.

Z is way to quiet on social media, people lose interest unfortunately. Movie stars rely on social media in this time. And she doesn’t promote or give us something

I’m really worried that fans will start a war when Challengers doesn’t do really well at the box office. That RomCom with Sydney did so well that they will compare them.

First off...You're assuming that "Challengers" won't do well at the box office.... 🙄 I love it when asks start off with ASSUMPTIONS and base their whole argument on an assumption that will most likely be FALSE lol. 😅

I'm personally not worried about "Challengers" and the box office numbers btw.

"Challengers" was also directed by THEE Luca Guadagnino btw... So, it's not JUST a "rom-com". This man is an Oscar-nominated Director... HELLO?? 🥴 To me, you can't even compare "Challengers" to "Anyone But You" with a straight face lol.

I also worried that Sydney will pass Zendaya she is the IT girl more now than Z. More roles now a boxoffice pull and extremely active on socials.

Chiiiiiilllllle....Now I KNOW you're full of it lol. 😅🤣 Sydney? More of an "IT Girl" than ZENDAYA??? Chiiiile please. Most people wouldn't even be able to recognize Sydney by name if you mentioned her to most people in the streets, let alone pick her out of a lineup lol. 😅🤣

Sydney is NOT an "IT girl", and she's certainly not one over THEE Zendaya lol.

Z is way to quiet on social media, people lose interest unfortunately. Movie stars rely on social media in this time. And she doesn’t promote or give us something

Girl WHAT?? 🥴 You do realize that actors have been acting LONG before social media was even invented?? 😄

Anyway, did it ever occur to you that maybe (just MAYBE?!) Sydney HAS to promote herself so heavily on social media because she doesn't have the same fame level and notoriety that Zendaya has? When you have to constantly post on social media in order to remind people that you exist or of who you are, that kinda tells me that you're not at a certain fame level lol.

Zendaya (and Tom btw) are at a certain fame level where they do NOT have to post on social media 24/7 anymore in order to garner fans/followers/or people to notice them. 😏

Some awesome actors out here don't even have social media accounts, and they do JUST fine. Thank you very much lol.

[jacenotjason]

new language drop i guess? /j (referring to the fact youtube offers to translate)

first i steal the month of november. now i have a language

[onlyhereforghosttrick]

Hello, my good man!

GHOST OR TRICK!!!

wait, no.

TRICK OR TREAT!!!!

Lamp from ghost trick!

Doing his silly little jig!!!!

Here ya go;

[bruh-myguy-what]

Hey,I’ve read your Thrawn x Readers,And I was wondering if you could read the ones I’ve posted?I haven’t gotten as many notes as I’ve hoped for,Even for the ones I posted in March,And I’d really appreciate some suggestions or support.

Hi there!

I'm so sorry I never got to you! I took such a long break from Tumblr and writing that I didn't even pay attention to any of my inboxes...but I can absolutely look at your stories! I know it's been a ridiculous amount of time but if you're still wanting the look over I'd totally be cool with doing that. I love reading other peoples writing. I can't imagine anyone wanting my suggestions when it comes to writing but I am so flattered you asked! If you want to tag/link your writings, I would love to read them and message you my thoughts!

[askchnt]

Question for jedidiah: what are your favourite video games?

I like a lot of different stuff but I’ve always been a big fan of Skyrim- the gameplay is fun and I really like the characters, soundtrack, etc. I’d say that’s probably my all time favorite. Uhm- Sydney and I play Stardew Valley together sometimes, Minecraft too. I also really like the old Lego Star Wars games- like the ones on Wii, I played them a lot growing up. I generally tend to like most Sonic, Zelda, and Pokemon games too.

-Jedidiah A.A. Martin

[bakerstreethound]

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[onceknownfriend]

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[disastrouscanasta]

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Thank you :)

[practicecourts]

This is the Tumblr hug 🫂🤍 Please pass it on to 5 mutuals to brighten someone’s day!

thank you lovely!!! x

[lxgentlefolkcomic]

Have Inspector Fix and Inspector Lestrade ever explored each other's bodies?

this is a strong contender for the funniest fucking ask i've ever received

[circular-bircular]

hello there! hope you're okay with takes in your inbox. just putting my two cents into something, and if you have some insight, yours is always valuable <3

something that we noticed in syscourse is the absolute disregard for different structures of systems, even if those systems have the same opinions on syscourse, so it's not all ascribable to "(pro-)endo on (pro-)endo violence" or "anti endo on anti endo violence" (<- not literal violence it's that meme we like).

the first example that comes to our mind is: assuming created alters/parts are something that only endo plurals can have, and if you have created parts, you're endogenic. that's just, blatantly false?? DID, OSDD, P-DID and other traumagenic systems create their parts all the freaking time, be it because they need a specific part to carry out a task that no alter currently can do, or to facilitate a split that's being particularly distressing, so they manually finish something that was automatically started. it's not rare, it's not uncommon, it's not a prerogative of endo plurals, and it's not something to be fakeclaimed about.

another is being introject heavy, any kind of introject, but I'll be talking about fictives especially since that's what we're heavy on. this too is not an endo prerogative. Complex DID systems tend to introject a lot and in clusters/groups as part of their polyfragmentation! hearing people saying that you can't be traumagenic if you have [insert amount of introjects, or a particular XYZ introject, or a particular ABC source that the introjects "come from"] is just silly at this point and I try to not let it go to our silly little C-DID head.

it just sucks to be treated like a carpet to be stepped on because of our structure 🧍🏼

(sorry it came off more vent y than intended)

(May 12, thanks for your patience!)

I agree. Some of this comes down to norms, system culture, or straight up bigotry...

But I choose to believe the best in others, and tend to assume it's simply a lack of knowledge. And I will be honest -- this isn't always the case... but it's also never led to a somehow worse experience.

For instance: Let's say I see a system saying online that introject-heavy systems are an "endo thing." I could go out of my way to assume they are a bigoted asshole, and respond in kind (typically by just blocking, but potentially by reblogging with a frustrated tone). Or I could respond with kindness, patience, and genuine concern for their understanding.

If I follow the first path — and I’m not going to lie and say I haven’t — then I will inevitably get people pissed off. It has been very few and far between that I’ve gotten a response that wasn’t assholery, and in those times, it’s because (from my perspective at least) I’ve triggered the other individual into a fawning response instead. Not fun.

But if I take the second path, I have the option of convincing them. Does it always work? Obviously not. It’s working less and less nowadays, even.

But it does work.

Hate does not work as a platform or a learning tool. It doesn’t work as a way to convince others of your cause. It’s great at making blind sheep who follow you, sure, but… I’m gonna aim for actual acceptance and understanding over fear.

We deserve so much better than that, though. We shouldn’t have to try to fight to be accepted. Nobody should have to fight that way.

Idk. Musings I guess.

[destinyc1020]

Side note. I know some actors are asses. But the fact that people across the internet think it's weird or are amazed that Tom took the high road publicly about negative reviews or is personable and talkative in promo interviews (the thing a chunk of his paycheck is for) makes me wonder how non-celebs act at their jobs. Do others not put your best face forward when you're on the clock and then go home and eat your feelings and complain later? Maybe I'm doing professionalism wrong.

Same for when people get annoyed with Florence, Elordi, Z, and Austin Butler. What do people think they'd be like if someone stuck a mic in their face and told them to be entertaining?

Side note. I know some actors are asses. But the fact that people across the internet think it's weird or are amazed that Tom took the high road publicly about negative reviews or is personable and talkative in promo interviews (the thing a chunk of his paycheck is for) makes me wonder how non-celebs act at their jobs.

LOL 😅🤣 Right??

Yea, like I know SOME actors can be jerks when it comes to harsh criticism for their work, but most that I've seen are usually not like that. This is a profession where you've been told "NO" and been rejected sooo many times. I think a lot of actors are pretty much used to the fact that this comes along with the territory.

Does it feel good? No! But are actors going to be jerks about it and complain? Well....most probably aren't. Unless, you're Sam Levinson, and then you'll just put it in one of your screenplays and complain about "the white woman from the NY Times" ROTFL 🤣

Same for when people get annoyed with Florence, Elordi, Z, and Austin Butler. What do people think they'd be like if someone stuck a mic in their face and told them to be entertaining?

I didn't quite understand your last part here. Who was mad at Florence, JE, Zendaya, and Austin? And for what?? 🤔

[remthalas]

Hey Remmy, hope youre not mad I gave you crabs. *releases an ungodly amount of crustaceans into your enclosure*

They lasted a very good amount of time and were made into a variety of dishes, thank you. Dave got pinched a few times, but that's a lesson every child needs to learn eventually.

I've saved some of the pickled ones for you; I know those go down the easiest.

[onlyhereforghosttrick]

trench for the ask game :3

Thank you!! You're cool too imo!