#But even so I still have limits and things that aren't allowed on my blog.

[l0st-s1lv3r]

You need some uhh air in you. You look flat.

Fucking what.

[formerlyashkatom]

there was a take on my dash earlier that was basically 'wdym men aren't allowed to talk about their feelings, all men do is talk about their feelings, have you ever heard A Podcast, what loneliness epidemic shut the fuck up about it'

and yes, being a woman in Society is worse and more limiting in any number of ways, but as a trans man I gotta say I didn't understand just how bad and lonely it is for men until I transitioned.

it was really eye-opening seeing the way people reacted to me changing. friends I had previously exchanged emotional support with became more closed off. strangers became more indifferent or cautious. this is beyond the transphobic response of losing family and friends because I was trans - this was because even the people who were supportive of my transition had a set response for how to treat men in their head, and were acting according to that. and as someone who transitioned late and got to go through Sexism Hell, I can't fault that avoidance and arm's length distance.

still, at the same time, transitioning has been the loneliest thing I've ever done, and it feels taboo to say that in no small part because of 'lol who cares about men' narratives. it's been to the point where I've questioned whether I should have transitioned at all, now that I've smacked face-first into this wall. I can't imagine what it would have been like to grow up with it. I probably would have made a podcast as well just to talk to somebody without feeling like I was inflicting my presence on the unwilling.

I dunno. the further I get into transition, the more :S I feel about 'men need to shut up' narratives, but maybe that's just male privilege coming into play. maybe this is a post that should have stayed unposted because it's just a man whining about his feelings! but I've been having ~trans feels~ about this for a while now so it gets to go on my blog.

[dearweirdme]

https://www.tumblr.com/dearweirdme/756624824076468224/there-are-some-places-i-hope-to-never-be-and-one

Couldn’t we say the same thing about Jimin though? Wasn’t he the one who said his favourite thing was waking up to Jungkook? He’s the one who also sat infront of Tae and Jk and said Jk spends almost all his time in his room and he is the same one who has constantly taken his face right infront of Jk’s like he was going to kiss him on the mouth with Tae sitting right there, why do you think he would do things like this if Taekook were together and how would Tae have felt about those things? Jimin has done and said way more suggestive things about himself and Jk than Tae has ever done and that is one of the reasons why some tkkrs hate him so much because they believed he was being a bad friend to Tae. Y’all are just witnessing Jimin in his quiet phase. You needed to hear the things he constantly said and did prior to 2021 because if he was still the way he used to before, it would have been a bloodbath between these two ships because while we have tae dropping bombs, we would have had Jimin dropping even bigger ones lol.

Jk too has done a few things with Jimin that wouldn’t make sense for him to do if he was dating Tae, like that naked bed Live he did inviting himself to shower at Jimin’s place, (if you think Jimin should have a problem with Tae’s captions if he was with Jk then how do you think Tae should feel about Jk openly asking Jimin to let him come over and shower infront of 5 million fans?) or when he made that “thirst trap” birthday video for Jimin (many people interpreted it as one), or him making a blatant sexual innuendo Joke with Jimin on ITS “Do you want ramen? ” This is a conversation I probably shouldn’t be in because I personally don’t think the boys are dating each other but I think this logic works both ways and that is mainly the reason why we have jkkrs hating on Tae and tkkrs hating on Jimin because they feel like Vmin are crossing lines.

Hi @causeilikescience !

Posting this ask in good faith and trusting you are actually neutral in this.. please don't go crazy on me.. I just went through that with another blog last week 🙈.

I'm sure that when you are someone who doesn't believe any of the guys are dating all shipping fandoms look the same. I'm well aware that while I am answering this ask right now, most will look at my answer and say 'she's a Tkkr, she's delusional and not give my words any actual thought. And to be honest, most of my beliefs do stem from how I interpret Tae and Jk's interactions and the way their body's speak. My thoughts on that should not actually matter, because I am a stranger on the internet 😂.

I think for me, the biggest difference between how Tkkrs think and how Jkkrs think is that Jkkrs believe a queer couple from the same band are being allowed so much openness. I mean, Jk and Jm are not limited in their interactions at all. We can beat around the bush, but Jk and Jm are the main focus of Bh when it comes to BTS. They are made use of hugely. That does not undermine that their friendship is real (it's making use of your biggest strenghts really) but it does undermine that they are in a relationship, in my opinion. I do not believe that BH (a SK company) would treat an in band couple the way they treat Jm and JK.

I understand why Jkkrs believe though, at least.. to a certain point. The moments they use, like Rosebowl, like hickey gate, like those times Jm comes close to Jk's face and acting like he's about to kiss him.. those look sus when you isolate them BUt, when you look beyond those isolated moments, you know that that is exactly what they are. Jm has those moments with Hobi and Tae as well for instance. Probably not as often, because Hobi doesn't entertain it as much and Tae actually gets Jm flustered when he goes that way. Jk and Jm though have the same type of banter... they are.. matched in that way I think. They aren't actually flirting, they are play-flirting. And these are my words ofcourse and no-one will value those, because I'm a Taekooker, but I do think that that's what it is. Maybe because you are neutral, you recognize that that's what it is also. I don't see anything actually sus between Jm and Jk. I think everything they do fit easily in the realm of friendship. A friendship that has a lot of banter and is definitely deep, but a platonic friendship nevertheless. I never feel the need to downplay anything Jm and Jk do, because it just is what it is and I love that for them.

Tae and Jk is a whole different story though. And admittingly, you do have to believe in things being hidden and lies having been told. You have to believe that there are ugly parts to their story. I don't even really want to believe those parts, because they are hurtfull and they mean that Tae and Jk (and all members by association) have gone through shit. There will have been many tears and fights, and feelings of shame and insecurity. That's not something I want for them, but I do feel that has been a part of their lives. I think there is no way that a company like BH would allow a queer couple from the same band to freely interact. I think BH would have come up with a way to keep the band from being in a potential scandal. They had big plans for BTS (which they accomplished) and the risk of queer allegations becoming too strong would have been too high in the eyes of those who call the shots. What I see between Tae and Jk fits how I feel a queer idol couple would be treated in SK music industry. It does set us as a fandom up for misunderstandings though, it can't actually be any other way. So our thoughts willl always be hunches and never about having actual proof. A closeted couple can't give us proof. What we do have, is a ton of patterns and a ton of repetitive behavior. It's the shear amount of consistent bahavior that makes us feel strongly about them being together. You can only understand this, if you look into that amount.. it is simply not possible to understand this if you don't. Me explaining this with all the words I have will never do the actual situation justice. So basically this whole ask is just me ranting without actually being able to convey the realness of Takook 😂.

I think many people don't actually realize the amount of times Jk and Tae are holding back movements, and biting away smiles, or are holding back jealousy. It's something Tkkrs know, because we pay attention. It's not something we invent, the moments are there and people can just look them up. You will not find that between any other pairing within BTS. Another thing is that many people also don't realize how much Tae and Jk actually move towards each other. After 2016 they weren't the focus of footage much anymore, so people are quick to miss it. But in the background, when other members are the focus.. they gravitate to each other. Again, not something we make up.. it is all in the footage, people just don't notice.

Without wanting to open this up to Jm hate (and I'm gonna elaborate.. don't worry😁), I think Tae did have a problem with Jk and Jm at times. This is what I mean with the nasty parts that come with this. It's not all pretty, and it probably affected the other members too. It was pretty obvious actually at times. Rolling his eyes and whatnot. I'll do you one better. Jk also had a problem with Tae and other members at times, we can clearly see him annoyed at times when Tae was close with someone else. They were fickle about it though, there's times when they didn't care and there were times when it probably just hit differently. People are fickle in their reactions though. Different situations make for differnt reactions, that are influenced by many different factors. The reason why I don't blame Jm for this is that Jm did nothing wrong. On top of that, Tae, Jk and Jm know each other so much better than that fandom knows them. When Jm and Jk make a joke about ramen in front of Tae, Tae knows how to read that. When Jm goes to flirt with Tae, Jk knows how to read that. These men know each other, they know what each other's intentions are. Tae knows that Jm isn't trying to steal Jk from him.

I'm fully convinced that vminkook had conversations about the shipping wars. I think I see an adjustment in how they deal with it. It is clear to me, that Jm is aware of Tae and Jk. I think these three obviously chose to not let fandom shenanigans stand in the way of them interacting. While Tae was annoyed at Jkk moments at times, he cares about Jk and Jm too much to want them to adjust the way they interact. I can't speak for Jkkrs on this.. but I'd hope it's the same for them.

Comparing Tkk and Jkk is not something that I actually do when consuming BTS content. I know I've done it on here, because I literally get asked to do it 😂. But Jkk isn't a factor for me. Jm is their best friend. Obviously he plays a role in their lives, but I don't go and think.. wait Jm did this with Jk how does that affect Tae? I'm sure Jkkrs want to do the same, but yet everytime one of them comes here they hit me with the comparisons. I do wish that things were different. I think this is very unpleasant for Jm, Jk and Tae. Those men love each other to bits and I think large parts of fandom make it really hard for them to keep loving us.

Well, I'm sure this has been hugely unsatisfactory and I made no difference in your understanding of Tkk fandom😂 . I'm also a very small part in all this, I'm fully aware that there is madness going on everywhere.. Tkkrs are not excluded from that at all.

[couldnt-think-of-a-funny-name]

I like your blog, we've been mutuals for years. But blogging about the met gala when there are children dying in Gaza? Fuck the met gala and your celebrity worship

at what point have I made it seem like I don't care about/support what's happening in gaza? I don't share a lot about it, but that's because most of what I see have graphic images and videos attached to the posts, and while I understand the thought process behind sharing them to make it seem more real to people, I'm uncomfortable with it because I know that if I was in that situation, vulnerable and injured or dead, I wouldn't want people gawking at me online just so they can pat themselves on the back for 'suffering in solidarity' by making themselves uncomfortable and miserable looking at me. I'm trying to be respectful. I've still reblogged things about gaza though. but honestly, if you've been following me for years, you'd know I'm a pacifist and wouldn't need me to make a statement saying I don't support people being killed. my God, dude.

also, celebrity worship? I can't even tell you who half the people at the met even were. I just like fashion. I post about a bunch of different things on this blog, and you haven't complained about that, so where's the threshold for things people are allowed to enjoy while bad things are happening in the world? fashion is off limits, but doctor who isn't? I can still post about musicals and not support murder, but aesthetic pictures are on par with launching a bomb myself? I truly hate to break it to you, but sharing links on tumblr is not going to fix this situation. denying yourself any shred of entertainment or enjoyment does not give you a moral high ground. what's happening is horrendous, but even if this is somehow magically peacefully solved tomorrow, there will still be other atrocities happening elsewhere in the world. that's unfortunately just how life goes. in no world am I saying we shouldn't care about every single atrocity that happens, I'm just saying if you can't find some time to be happy in your own life just because bad things are happening to others, you will never truly live a life at all. it sucks! but that's how it is. it's like when someone close to you dies, and the first time you laugh after you've started grieving feels like you're betraying them. but you aren't betraying them for continuing to live, just like you aren't betraying anyone else in the world who's suffering just because you don't spend 24/7 thinking and talking about them.

I do truly, genuinely, hope this all comes to a peaceful end, and soon. I'm not naive enough to believe for certain that it will. but I do know, at the end of the day, people are already aware of it. people know what's going on. sharing photos of dead and mutilated babies will not make any difference. you, and I, and everyone else online are not going to personally save gaza. pressure needs to be put on the people who can actually do something to make a change, and they don't care about what's online. arguing with people because you don't perceive them as doing 'enough' isn't going to accomplish anything other than getting them to a point of making them eye roll whenever they see you post, because at the end of the day, unless you're literally a top politician, you are doing the exact same amount to help as someone who reblogs less posts than you. sorry.

[theboyandthepeach]

Hi there!

Greetings!

Pelipper Mail is ALLOWED

Magic Anons are NOT ALLOWED (it's my au I do what I want lmao)

This is the ask blog for my Toxic Consequences AU!

Here you can ask questions for the characters in my AU!

Characters Available For Asks:

Kieran

Dokutaro

The Loyal 3 (you can ask them separate questions)

Carmine

Terapagos

Terapagod

Florian and Juliana

Ogerpon

Briar

Giratina

ME, ARI, THE MOD HELLO

Rules:

1. NO NSFW, gore, festishes, all that stuff. I do not tolerate it here

2. Pelipper mail is fine. Just specify who you're giving it to. (They fight over it otherwise)

3. Dokutaro's text is purple like this, it's to tell who's who

4. I'll be drawing things in response to asks, so it might take a while to answer them

5. Long asks take forever to respond to, forgive me for that

6. You can roleplay with your own Kieran AU or any other characters (even ocs)

7. In-character hate is fine, just don't overdo it or have it be out of character, that's not cool

8. All the legendary Pokémon/mythical can talk in this au (Terapagos is baby boi, so his speech is limited)

9. Do not send asks relating to people offing themselves or telling a character to off themselves. That's not cool and is not welcome on my blog. In-character or not, it's a heavy topic that's triggering to a lot of people.

That should be it! Have fun!

STORY TAGS GUIDE:

(Still need to tag some posts, but for now, here)

#Miscellaneous mischief - asks that aren't plot related

#Poisoned mind - Kieran's villain arc seperate from Dokutaro

#Renegade's revenge - Giratina related stuff

#Tera Trouble - Briar and Terapagod related

#Poison Puppeteer - Dokukieran

#Never Rotting Peach- Dokutaro's redemption

#Briar Logs - Logs that Briar made, both before and after her memory loss

#Healing mind - Kieran's not evil arc

[mdhwrites]

Regarding your ATLA bloodbending post, why do you think some fans saying bloodbending is actually good and can be used for medical practices?

So I still don't think you can make the case for it being good but I will admit I was a bit narrow minded in my view of what it could do. One person suggested blood clots in the comments of that blog even and I will admit I'd mostly been focusing on how it is portrayed rather than, yeah, it's control of blood.

So some of the things I missed was that it could probably be used for a form of dialysis, as a way to stop bleeding during a surgery or a way to remove the blood from the body like suction does for us, it could help blood that is having problems flowing through the body and...

Still pretty limited overall. A major problem for it is that the only times it's really necessary is if the blood is OUT of the body. Otherwise, waterbending already heals and probably can take care of things like blood clots. It's not like it's only surface level wounds. MAYBE you could say that Bloodbending is so powerful as to allow for more powerful forms of healing but that feels doubtful given the spiritual and physical properties of it. Like I said in my first blog, Bloodbending mostly goes against the literal themes and spiritual concepts of the show.

They make for a good surgeon's assistant and I guess would be the best ever at drawing blood but it's still limited because it's ONLY blood. However, this wasn't even what first brought it to my attention as being stigmatized. I suspect people who are trying to say it's good actually aren't taking it from my perspective, where if you compare it to other forbidden magics it is just much less useful and much more horrifying at a base level, but instead working backwards from wanting to say the person who introduced us to blood bending is justified.

Like I said in the original blog, it came to my attention first because people were trying to whip up outrage about this victim of oppression having figured it out in desperation was villainized merely for the methods she used. That Bloodbending's origin was actually noble and justified so boo on the show for having demonized the style. The problem with that is that it implies the ends justify the means. It's why I ended the blog stating that if the point is to free oppression, things like the church and what not claim to fight for the greater good all the time. The hawks in the US pushed for the Atom Bomb as a necessity. They believed they were in the right. That they had no other options.

Does that make what they did right? I argue no because your methods DO matter. Flatly. See you next tale.

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These people also like to ignore that the Bloodbending woman didn't then go on to liberate others but to kill innocents and that THAT is her crime. It's not like Katara is ever treated as tainted for having learned Bloodbending besides by the psycopath who wanted to see their twisted art form continue to be used. I'm just saying that their point is essentially flawed on pretty much all fronts, though it's not like I've heard a lot of the argument.

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[scoobydoodean]

i don't know if the trap is when it became clear their relationship was hopeless. if anything, it was cas' deal with the empty that made it so. his deal with the empty was inherently selfish because it's something he didn't let dean on. but their situation was entirely hopeless because of it. he couldn't allow dean to make him happy, not there and then anyway. he couldn't allow himself to believe dean loved him even if they both knew dean was ready to say it there and then but this last part is why that moment in the trap is both beautiful and tragic. perhaps dean was ready to give himself over to happiness (and you want to be happy for him for coming to those terms and for what they could have had) yet cas was not because it'd be like pulling the trigger

anyway, hot take time, cas should've never valued jack over dean. it was like he got brainwashed again

This post I guess? (Plus adding my addition)

i don't know if the trap is when it became clear their relationship was hopeless.

Let's be really clear. I am talking in that post about my personal feelings about the episode. Those feelings are mine. They are feelings I have had since the episode aired and I watched it live. Arden was rewatching the episode as part of her series rewatch and she reblogged a few of my posts about it. No one has to feel the same way about the episode that I do or Arden does or anyone else. I said how EYE feel about it on my own personal blog. How YOU feel about it might be different, and that's fine. We aren't all the same people. We all think different things and have different tastes and limits. You aren't required to find The Trap disappointing just because I do. I'm not required to like it just because other people do.

I also don't think that Cas and Dean's relationship is hopeless. What frustrates me is that The Trap makes it feel that way (to ME), and that's ridiculous, given that I really do think a conversation or two could fix things. That's what made Beren's episode such a let down for me. It takes something that could very easily be solved and makes me feel like it's this huge impossible chasm that could never be fixed and that's insane and frustrating and it's particularly disappointing to me because of the build up to that episode and how it fizzles out into them going back to the same patterns where Cas has already decided what Dean feels, wants, and needs and doesn't actually hear Dean when he talks. Cas not actually allowing Dean to speak/not actually listening to what he's saying because Cas's feelings of guilt are louder than Dean's pleading prayers is something that happens in Purgatory in season 8. In The Trap, Cas reflects on his loud feelings of guilt in Purgatory, but still doesn't see how those loud feelings were drowning out Dean's forgiveness and pleas to reunite. Dean's needs in the relationship are still unaddressed after The Trap. He is still unheard. And that continues to be the case through the end of the series.

if anything, it was cas' deal with the empty that made it so [hopeless].

But that's not incongruous with what I'm saying (which again—are my feelings). It's actually part of what I'm saying. Cas's secret deal is nothing more than another example of Cas not listening to anything Dean actually says he feels or needs. It's another example of Cas continuing to hide things. It's another example of all the ways Cas pre-decides Dean's feelings, thoughts, and needs instead of communicating with him. Does Cas do that because he's just a jerk? No. He doesn't understand, and that's just another one of the frustrating things. It doesn't make him "the bad guy". It doesn't make Dean "the good guy". It doesn't mean Dean didn't need to apologize. I'm not talking about who's right and who's wrong. I'm talking about a communication breakdown that's been harming them for YEARS and that continues to be unaddressed after The Trap and how that disappoints me after the build up. It gives me massive blue balls. Some people like that sort of tragedy but I don't, and that's a personal preference no one is required to share.

I also don't think it was selfish of Cas to make a deal. I also don't think he should have to choose who he's prioritizing (Jack is his adopted son. He agreed to parent him, and has an obligation to protect him as a father) and I don't think he really does choose one over the other by by making the deal. Him hiding the deal is part of the same pattern of Cas not wanting to communicate though, which is a large part of what got them here. Whether he wouldn't let Dean speak because he was afraid Dean would confess his love to him or not, he still continued to do what he always does: apologize for the wrong reasons and keep secrets. The episode was just a huge let down for me and makes me feel the opposite of warm and fuzzy feelings. I don't like it.

[horizon-verizon]

If Helaena was more active, that would require writing new plot bits / dedicate her extra scenes, and who needs that when she is an NPC with no notable actions in this story ? Helaena was not an important character in the book, and it limits her show version because there is no space for her actions in the plot. That’s why she isn’t allowed to actively try and do something, unlike pretty much every other Targ with visions. Writers just noticed that it is impossible to get rid of her entirely despite how passive she is in the book and how non-character she is, so they decided to give her a gimmick ability of pointless predictions that casual watchers may find interesting. Her muttering vague spoilers while being ignored doesn’t require time or extra work, costs nothing but creates some illusion of character depth, mystery and importance.

Basically she is “letting her dreams guide her” to the window instead of boringly jumping into it because she is now fancy cute special magical girl.

Helaena was not an important character in the book, and it limits her show version because there is no space for her actions in the plot. That’s why she isn’t allowed to actively try and do something, unlike pretty much every other Targ with visions. Writers just noticed that it is impossible to get rid of her entirely despite how passive she is in the book and how non-character she is, so they decided to give her a gimmick ability of pointless predictions that casual watchers may find interesting.

I think it's more of what I describe HERE, HERE, esp HERE. Because while she has only two lines/actions of note before her descent into grief-madness and suicide in the book:

Princess Helaena was breaking her fast with her children when the Kingsguard came to her…but when asked the whereabouts of Prince Aegon, her brother and husband, she said only, “He is not in my bed, you may be sure. Feel free to search beneath the blankets."

("The Blacks and the Greens") “Scream and you all die,” Blood told Her Grace. Queen Helaena kept her calm, it is said. “Who are you?” she demanded of the two. “Debt collectors,” said Cheese. “An eye for an eye, a son for a son. We only want the one, t’ square things. Won’t hurt the rest o’ you fine folks, not one lil’ hair. Which one you want t’ lose, Your Grace?” ("A Son for a Son")

you can can still develop a character from these actions/words (again, look to that last linked post). It's not impossible, bc there iss till action and context and how she is used/relates to her family by how they conduct themselves, why they are usurping Rhaenyra, what justifications they use, the entire point of the Dance and its effect, and their own values. To think about the effect that may have on Helaena in conjuction w/what we see above in the quotes: how can/could she have become that.

So if the writers did feel this:

it is impossible to get rid of her entirely despite how passive she is in the book and how non-character she is

they aren't very imaginative or observant as they think. So I also still agree that it partially comes from egotistical, intellectual laziness:

Her muttering vague spoilers while being ignored doesn’t require time or extra work, costs nothing but creates some illusion of character depth, mystery and importance.

Helaena of the orig story may not do great actions aside from kill herself in such a graphic way (GRRM again with the graphic violence women go through being the starkest thing they do), but it's worse when you make her even more passive by making her keep her dreams to herself and using them to make her seem more mysterious than she is. And Helaena actually was important plot wise--mechanically--bc it is her Sophie's Choice then suicide that comes to Rhaenyra's having to flee KL, as GRRM mentions in his deleted Sept 4 blog post.

Because the other thing is that mystery in ASoIaF usually works as a mystery when there is non-revealing information suggested to both the characters AND readers; whereas HotD Helaena's "mystery" is known to the audience but not the characters & thus it really doesn't hit and is not real "mystery" so much as futility and an attempt at pleasing some in the audience at the expense of developing her.

Which is another reason why she feels so empty and is still not that compelling for many people in the audience.

[messrsbyler]

Hello!! what do you think about the tag those days? do you have a fav blog? who do you think is saving the tag from dying with posts and theories?

i think the tag is slowly dying tbh and it's sad to see? the reality is that for the past year or so the tag has been kept alive (from what i've seen and my personal experience here) because of art/fic creators and analysis blogs. however, it's been a year since s4 dropped and as i've seen some people around the tag say, everything that could've been analysed or said about byler in the last season or all seasons has already been said. now, i personally LOVE doing analysis even to this day, doesn't matter if i'm probably repeating something someone else spotted and blogged about two months ago. it's fun to make those posts, but we can't ignore that they are becoming repetitive and that side of the tag is burning out. because of that, things like fics/art/headcanons/ficlets/aus are so important now.

we don't have to run out of content to enjoy in our tag, but people should be willing to step outside their comfort zone and accept that canon is limited to what can he done and said about byler. aus however open new doors that this tag hasn't really explored yet, and for some reason there's a bit of resistance? and that leads us to a dead end because then there's no new not repetitive content and the tag starts dying even with its huge following.

another issue is definitely the lack of rb in the tag. i can jump on any post in the byler tag and check the notes and i know the ratio between likes and rbs will be ridiculous. ofc i can't force anyone to rb if they don't want to, but liking a post and not rb kills a post bc it stops reaching new people who will then engage with said post and then it will reach even more blogs. liking does nothing, it's a dummy button.

rb not only allows a post to stay alive, it's also a great opportunity to create conversations in the tags and engage with other people on this side of the internet. and well if you aren't into that or don't like to add tags to every rb, a simple rb still does much more than a like.

i have many fav blogs and i'll probably forget some, but from the top of my head i have @andiwriteordie (writer and au lover) @foodiewithdahoodie (amazing takes and headcanons) @astrobei (writer and artist) @wiseatom (amazing writer) @doriandrifting (analysis and amazing takes) @emblazons (amazing takes and gifs) @mayahawkins (one of the best gif creators in the tag) @perexcri (amazing writer) @likegoldintheair (amazing writer and amazing headcanons/ficlets) @elekinetic (amazing writer and amazing scripts) @kidovna (beautiful art and aus and comics) @noodles-and-tea (art art art i am obsessed) @nnilkyway (again beautiful art) @strangeswift (writer and a fun blog to check out) and many more that i'm probably forgetting right this moment.

if you (anyone who is reading this) have a blog rec pls lmk!!! i'm always looking for new byler content!!

(if you have stonathan blogs recs uh also lmk i need more stonathans on my dashboard thanks)

[thecoramaria]

Hello!

Thank you so much for your blog, it's helped me a lot in writing my fics. It's definitely one of the best fic writing resources out there.

Onto my question: do you have any advice on how to write more quickly + not hate everything I write?

I do writing sprints a lot of the time but I can't help but feel as if my writing has gotten worse, and I feel guilty cutting down my work because I struggle to meet the daily word count goal I have for myself (600 words a day).

I'm about a quarter of the way through my longfic, and I feel like I've just gotten worse and worse at writing. I still love the story, but my writing feels clunkier and flows less smoothly.

Thank you!

I'm glad you're enjoying the channel! It's getting late where I am rn but sleepy Cora is gonna try to answer your ask anyway.

First of all, I'd just like to say that 600 words a day is a lot! (And so is being a whole quarter through your story btw.) While I have won NaNoWriMo a few times (a challenge that involves writing 50k+ words in a month) it's definitely not sustainable for me. Recently, I've struggled to just average more than 300 words in a day. Unfortunately I'm still coming to terms with my chronic pain and the limits it places on my ability to write fic. 600 words a day on average is just... not possible for me.

However, something I have been doing lately is to learn what my current capacity is, which seems to be 300 words a day on average. Note: on average! A lot of days, I don't even write that much, but some days I make up for it by writing a lot. As I say in this short, good writing goals are like persistence hunting. You might find yourself more motivated if you set monthly or quarterly word count goals rather than daily ones. Then it's not a big deal if you write very little or not at all on some days, since you'll still have plenty of time to catch up.

(Also if you tell a non-writer that you wrote like 300 words in a day, they'll probably be impressed!)

So TL;DR: focus on learning what your capacity is, and then set your writing goals around that. Also focus on writing goals that cover a longer period than a day to allow wiggle room for your erratic progress.

Now, onto writing sprints.

I have the flavour of autism that gives me a processing speed deficiency, meaning that it takes me longer to Do Things than the average (usually allistic) person. This means that I'm a slow drafter, but also a more methodical, intentional one.

This means that writing sprints aren't all that helpful to me. I need to ponder every sentence and detail as I write it, because I already figured out the plot points and character arcs in my outline. "Just get the story down in the first draft" doesn't work for me because I already did that. In a highly detailed outline.

So writing sprints may be what's causing you to feel like your writing is getting worse. There are two perspectives on this:

First drafts are supposed to be bad, and writing sprints are supposed to just help you get them done so you can fix them later. If you were previously a slow, methodical drafter, then switching to a strategy that focuses on quantity over quality is going to make for rougher drafts, and thus make you feel like your writing is worse. That's okay though, because you can edit a rough draft. You can't edit a blank page.

Writing sprints are sabotaging the quality of your drafts, so instead, you can ditch them and focus on the slow-and-steady drafting approach. It'll make for less editing time in the long run, and you'll feel more confident in your writing ability if you take a quality-first approach.

But wait! I have a secret third option! One that may not be to do with writing sprints at all!

Could it be that the reason why your writing feels worse... is that your current WIP happens to be challenging you in new ways?

The reason why I bring this up is because this is something I've encountered recently while editing my current WIP. For context, it's the second book in a trilogy, and the first book didn't require nearly as much structural editing and rewriting, so what's changed? Why are my drafts for Book 2 so much worse than Book 1?

It's because Book 1 relied on the Stations of Canon, (warning that this article mentions 'Harry Potter' if you'd rather avoid that) while Book 2 breaks away from them.

Basically, I built my fic around a plot formula from canon that was already proven to be effective, but now, I'm having to build the plot from near scratch. It's like learning to build a house where the scaffolding and measurements are all done for you vs having to do all that yourself. Of course my writing feels worse! I'm learning an entirely new storytelling skill. There's going to be plenty of mistakes along the way.

However, I'm making peace with my first drafts for Book 2 being "worse", because I'm learning just how crucial and transformative editing can be. Taking on these new challenges means that I'm noticing weak spots that were previously invisible to me, and what is a weak spot but opportunities to improve my craft?

I'm a big believer that if you feel like your writing is bad or getting worse, instead of stewing in the insecurity, you should instead investigate why. Why is your writing clunkier or flowing less smoothly than it used to? Is it that you use redundant phrasing and tautology? Do you take 20 words to say something that could just as easily be said in 10? Vague feelings about the quality of your writing is what allows insecurity to fester. Actually knowing what the issue is makes that much harder, because now you have a concrete problem to solve. I do have a partial draft for a video that goes into that more, so if anyone wants to see me complete and film it, let me know!

Thanks for the ask, Nonny, and I hope this helps~!

[nerdygaymormon]

I just found this blog and I'm so happy it exists. I was raised in the church and with the area I live in, LGBT+ people are "accepted" readily but at the same time... No one talks about it in relation to Members being Queer. It's like everyone ignores the fact that there is at least 1 queer member in the area because "Oh they aren't part of the church" or something. It's confusing and difficult to be out as anything other than CisHetAllo. I have found that as much as I try, and I feel better knowing about myself, I have found it increasingly difficult to talk about the same things in Online spaces compared to Church spaces. Something always seems to conflict, whether it is members not being particularly supportive of LGBT+ or those online judging Anyone who is a member. (I have had some people I consider[ed] friends make some... Negative... Remarks regarding the church and its members.)

I'm glad to see a space like this existing, where I know that I can be both Queer, and a Member of the church, without being "othered"

Thank you so much. <3

I'm sorry you're having a bit of a rough time of it, but you're right, unless someone is saying to everyone "Hey, I'm here and I'm queer," most Latter-day Saints assume there's absolutely no one at church who is LGBT+.

The LDS Church does have a reputation for being homophobic, so if I say I'm Mormon, other queer people will nod their head and say something about how they know that had to be so hard growing up. Also, the LDS church isn't exactly respected by other Christian denominations, they like to speak of it like it's the punchline of a joke.

A lot of people are becoming aware of the research that shows social media negatively affects young people's mental health and well being. It interferes with their sleeping habits and they spend less time in person with friends and developing their real-world social skills. Social media for youth is associated with problems like depression, cyberbullying, eating disorders. Calls are being made to place limits on the amount of time youth can spend online.

However, research shows there's one group of youth for whom social media has a beneficial impact, and that's LGBTQ youth. TikTok, Tumblr, Discord, YouTube, and so on, are a lifeline. They go from feeling completely alone and no one understanding what they're going through to suddenly discovering there's thousands of people who feel the same way, which is eye-opening and comforting. Not that it's universally good, we still run into hateful speech.

Social media allows LGBT people to explore their identities and find acceptance and emotional support. Some research shows there's a decrease in depression and suicidal thoughts for LGBT youth who are online. It gives them hope and a sense of control. Even when they do encounter harmful things online, they can turn it off, which they can't do with a school bully or family members saying offensive things.

I think for queer Mormons, the experience is even more so like that when you find other LGBT LDS people online. They get you in a way no one else truly does. It is like finding a second home with friends & family. It helps build our resilience. Representation matters. Reading words that are how I feel, that gives us hope and courage.

I'm glad you found my blog. I suggest doing a search for #queerstake, you'll find more posts from other queer Mormons and former Mormons. We even have a discord server we call queerward which is a lively place. I know for me it gives me a sense of belonging. If this was a ward or stake in real life, I would move so that I could be part of it, but it's online so I can access it wherever I am.

[cats-of-eden-valley]

I absolutely adore this project and since I've been thinking about my own xenomoggy WIP a lot recently, I now have a bunch of very niche questions.

1) How similar to real-world felines are these guys? Like, what things can they eat? Are citrus-like fruits poisonous to them? Are things like mint poisonous?

2) Are they obligate carnivores or do they lean a bit more omnivorous, like canines?

3) Can they taste sweetness? If so, what kind of sweet food do they eat?

4) How technologically advanced are they? Do they cook their food? If they do, what foods are different in each pride? Do they use spices?

5) Can they make tea? Because the idea of someone's mother or friends making them tea when they're upset/sad is absolutely adorable.

Sorry for the obnoxious amount of questions, this project is giving me major brainworms 😅

Don't feel pressured to answer if you don't want to, or the questions are too spoiler-y!

Hope you have a good day/night!

-🦇 (can I sign off as bat anon? I've seen that done on other blogs, but I'm not sure is it okay here)

THANK YOU you're so sweet!! (and yes please join the xenomoggies)

I kinda just dumped these thoughts into point form in the notes app so I'm giving you these answers fresh and unadulterated

There's a solid mix of fantasy and realism. For instance, their colour vision is roughly equal to ours, but they still have good night vision (or maybe it's just that two moons means the night vision isn't actually as good). Overall anatomy and function is otherwise p similar (which some exceptions) and I do have thoughts on what they eat.

Their diet relies heavily on meat, but fruits and mushrooms frequently end up in the mix. Canines are a good comparison!

The acidic aspect of citrus-like fruits wouldn't appeal to them, and they still can't taste sweet, but other more mild fruits have high water content that make them an important addition to the diet even if the taste doesn't appeal.

Mushrooms are important because they are the only thing that really actively grows during the Sleeping Year, but they don't contain much water.  Still, nutrients is nutrients.

There's also a number of plants that can be safely ingested and which can provide medicinal value, but here's something most people don't realize: medicine is usually just poison, but in small enough amounts to help you instead of kill you.

Regardless, most of the plants are made-up (the ones that aren't, still have different names (what im saying is most ppl wouldn't realize they are real)) so the I Do What I Want rule applies to poison vs medicine vs edible uwu

Unsure of the specifics of cooking yet, though it's a tentative yes. Strongly considering giving Goldspring a sort of endless stew situation that they just keep adding to and maintain for the course of a year. Fire is risky business in this setting, but given the fact they live in a volcanic region, there are other ways to cook one's food. Hell, maybe that's what allowed these cat societies to exist in the first place

spices is an interesting question, like I'd guess they would mix foods for the sake of taste so it doesn't seem too much a stretch that they would add in normally non-edible plants to enhance flavour. So yeah, it prolly happens.

Teas would mostly be medicinal, and probably frequently mixed with animal blood.  Everyone complains about it but at least it does what the healers say it does.  Plus, the inability to taste sweet I think would take most of the pleasure out of it??? Listen I don't drink tea but if someone who does has a better take, I'm all ears lol

As for their technological advancement, think of humans around mid ice age era. They have elegantly designed tools (ranging from knives to sewing needles to hammers), impressive leatherworking (tanning, cleaning, sewing), some textiles (associated dyes included), and limited infrastructure (consisting largely of living infrastructure woven from milksap aerial roots and occasional supports and modifications to existing natural shelters, also natural paths are maintained throughout the area)

But they lack weaponry (hard-baked into honour code systems that are enforced by the prides) and anything requiring multiple bodies to build/maintain (can't sustain population density). No farming (though I'm itching for some Weird Bird Domestication taking its first shaky steps in one of the prides, prolly Bogden)

[etaindelaserna]

https://www.tumblr.com/dnana-2809-blog/743741093260230656/what-do-you-think-are-yuuji-and-sukunas-greatest?source=share

Hello 👋

Just found your post. I'm surprised when reading that, as a new fan, you can really understand their personality so much. Now that we've seen the end of Sukuna, and you have read more of the manga, do you want to add something to your previous post?

As SukuIta and Dramione lover, I'm surprised when I found your blog. Hello, kindred spirit! So excited to find someone who love these ships.

Just want to say, I've been blocked by my old dramione group when they find out I also love m/m & f/f ships. Yes, I still love dramione (my first ship) and a lot other m/f ships but now I've come to love m/m & f/f ships too. It's not wrong, right?

Also, thanks to you, I start to love Kakashi/Sakura ship, never thought about them before (saying this as Naruto fan and NaruSasu shipper). I just knew, I really hate Sakura/Sasuke ship since I was young, like he always dislike and disrespect her, how can people like that ship?

Sorry for my rambles...

Hello to you, too^^

Rambles are always welcome here! I think it comes natural to us, when we're excited about things and when we meet someone, who shares our thoughts.

Awww, thanks :) There are most defintely fans out there, who have a way better understanding of Yuuji and Sukuna than I have, but I guess going to university and studying literature wasn't a total waste of time^^

Good question. Do I want to add something about Yuuji and Sukuna's greatest strengths/weakness and their dynamic together? I think Yuuji stayed true to himself even in the last few chapters, so there wasn't as big of development in terms of character as I thought we might get to see. He started out as a Jedi and remained a Jedi till the end. What changed, was, that he understood he couldn't force his will (even when it was with good intentions) on others. He can't save someone, who doesn't want to be saved. And that's not an easy thing to accept. It's not his role. Also this whole idea that people aren't just tools and wortless if they don't obtain a certain role was a big change from Yuuji's mindset during the Shibuya arc. Although Yuuji was a compassionate character from the start, it still surprised me that he was able to offer Sukuna a chance, although he loathes Sukuna for his views. That's ... that took so much strength and willpower. As for Sukuna: he did understand Yuuji's ideal perfectly well but wasn't able or at least seemed to think it's not something he can adapt to or change for, which seems to be the only limitation wasn't able to master. Sooo...Sukuna admitted in the end that Yuuji was right, which I consider a stength.

I mean ... SukuIta and Dramione aren't too far off theme-wise: two characters, whose ideals are clashing. It's perfect!

Shipping m/m and f/f ships doesn't make you less of a Dramione shipper and everybody who think's that needs to grow up. I ship only m/f Harry Potter ships (mostly paired with Hermione), but who am I to tell somebody what he/she can or cannot ship? o_O So no: it's not wrong. Our taste in ships is allowed to change. Period.

I think that's probably the first time that somebody said, I got them interested in a ship and all I can say is: I hope KakaSaku doesn't disappoint you. I always liked about them that Kakashi took Sakura's feelings and pain seriously and that he was there for her when she needed it. It was always in such a stark contrast to how Sasuke treated her that I couldn't help but notice. I did actually ship SasuSaku for a little while. This whole "I can't allow myself to love her that's why I push her away" worked for me until he was actually about to kill her... Sasuke was dead for me afterwards. Character assassination. Kishi was never able to fix it again, because not even in the ninja world you can just brush this off.

[henrioo]

just wondering before i interact with your blog since i don't want to make you uncomfy

if one were pronounfluid (meaning my pronouns change) is it still okay to interact if my pronouns are she/her sometimes or would that make you uncomfy?? i'm genderfluid but never a woman, just fem-aligned, but i want to check just to be sure since i don't want to overstep any boundaries!!

thanks for reading and i hope you have a good day! ᗡ:

So huh, I don't like talking about that because the last time I tried a lot of people got angry so I kinda decided to avoid

I will be honest with you, I genuinely don't know

Gender fluid people, NB, agender, bigender, and more, all those people are allowed here

When I started with masc stuff my goal was "that everyone that is masc or male can have a safe place to read"

So technically I can't blame or fight with someone that uses all pronouns because they also use she/her, it's unfair

Because it's for masc people, and masc doesn't mean male

But at this point, I'm being honest here, fem people are becoming a trigger for me

And with fem and mean women and fem aligned in some way

Women are totally worse in that case because they are women so it doesn't make any sense they be here

But with fem aligned idk how to feel, like, ik you guys aren't women but like, most of you use she/her and like some things that are for "just women"

So it confuses me, maybe I'm too old to understand the LGBTs or idk

But for me it's kinda difficult to understand how someone would like to be a good girl one day and the next day be a good boy

Idk probably it's my own dysphoria I can imagine ME living like that, and only to make clear and not seeing that those types of people don't exist or are doing something wrong ok, if you are happy then it's no one business

But like I said, idk, sometimes I saw she/her in a bio and they aren't women, but it gives me things, makes me uncomfortable idk

In some way for me it feels like they are using this to cheat with my rule dni women

Yk? I already got some people like that, not saying that you are one, but like, people that don't even use male pronouns and like tried to be here just because they use others pronouns like they/them

Idk at this point I'm probably confusing everyone

So to make it easier, if you are a gender fluid (I have some here in the blog) and in some way you are also masc aligned and you feel comfortable in my blog because it's a masc space

Then welcome

Still a little weird and confusing for me, but I don't think it is totally fair excluding you guys (gf, nb etc) just because you aren't totally male

You be the same like some cis boys do excluding trans boys from some places

My blog is for any masc person and that it's not changing

So in some way you are a masc person, enjoy I guess

My confusion about gender and whatever shouldn't be taken out on anyone at

Sorry for this long post, thanks for asking that and taking my DNI seriously, this makes me really happy for someone respecting me and my limits

[lawain-dimensional-heroes]

So I've been reading some post regarding recent happenings on the polls on these recent events.

Agreed, this has become a 'who has the most alt/burner accounts' situation instead of a fun rp event. I think this situation went out of control ever since the moment a few of the polls were tied in the 2nd round. Worst thing is, when it comes to alt accounts-- especially burner accounts it's hard to figure out who those burner accounts came from, especially with the fact that nowadays temporary email services exist.

And to top it all off, I've heard that names in the polls can be seen as tags, which causes the polls to be visible in the searches, albeit shotty at best if my sources are to be believed. If that's the case then those polls basically are popularity polls from the beginning and it just sucks. It's just who's muse is the most recognizable. I've tried to look for it myself but I can't see any polls in the search yet.

But then I thought to myself: strawpoll still exist, why don't we all use it? Sure, it may not have a time limit, but it does have measures to prevent situations like alt accounts voting, like being locked to 1 vote per IP adress. Believe me, I've seen patterns of those kinds of alt blog voting already, so why aren't we using strawpoll to fix the issue?

I actually enjoyed the event the most when my muses does do the thing the event was meant to be-- in this case: fighting and it genuinely does take the fun out of it when the muses that are stronger aren't allowed to show off their power because the mun of their opponent cannot. It has happened to me on the 2nd round and currently is happening now. I only had FOUR fighting threads that I've done this event-- two of them were ones that got me fully invested.

Now I will admit that I have not followed everyone who participated in the event n'or do I see what they all have to say, but the ones that I do are a select few that I do relate on. Both as a participant in the event as well as a mod in the MGT rp event.

I will say: this whole using polls in the event is a relatively new thing and we're all learning the positives and negatives and what might happen from it.

And by recent I meant like a few months at best, with the earliest one I recall is the dancing with the mushroom event where barely any of the issues we have now are present. Now I will admit that I am not the mod, but my personal experiences with it was that it was a pretty nice event all things considered, even if it had it's ups and downs.

I think that's about all I can say? To all the people who are considering doing events with polls added, I hope that these events you and your friends have been are valuable learning experiences. I wish you all the best of luck and hopefully we can prevent situations like this from happening more often.

[visible-traces]

forbidden happiness.

Usually I am not concerned if I repeat myself, lose myself in the rhythm of typing, typing typing words, I just do what feels right, but now I feel this tiny voice inside my head, is it good is it good is it good enough to post online on your blog?

I don't know, tiny voice, does it matter? It's not about being good enough, it's about doing it still. I do it because I cherish the process, I do it because I value this time alone with my mind, listening in to what's going on inside my skull. Hey brain, what's up, you doing fine? There are multitudes living inside of there, MULTitudEs, yes, that's it, the slight mocking of myself has crept in wielding words I feel have no right of using.

What a concept! Words are off-limits, and we decide that they are. I mean, the human creativity to a) create language, and then in step b) deny oneself said language based on arbitrary rules is simply fascinating. We are creatures of endless possibilities, and we use them to limit ourselves, if left unchecked. How endlessly fascinating!

Imagine having so many opportunities you strip yourself of them deliberately in order to- what? To do what exactly? What is the advantage of this, exactly? I don't know I don't know I don't know, the rhythm returns, and I forget what I am doing, becoming a body again, hacking letters onto my keyboard made from wood, bamboo, tacky, nice, lovely, a novelty item, I guess, with regards to the materials used, still, a tool, and useful, why wouldn't I allow myself the joy of owning a bamboo keyboard? It exists, and so do I, we both exist in relative proximity, close enough to let words flow through it onto the screen.

Is thinking about myself all I can do, and why do I feel like it was forbidden? Made up rules, everywhere, what an idea to bar oneself of having a relationship with oneself, ludicrous, ludicrous ludicrous, what a word, it types well once you get the hang of it ludicrous ludicrous ludicrous, typing as a way of stimming, the keyboard hammering on loudly under my attack of spilled words, thoughts fighting to surface through my hands, this body is a tool, such as is the keyboard. I am alive, the keyboard isn't, yet, it becomes literally instrumental to my survival.

Why feel ashamed if you simply could not?

That is, of course, an over-simplification, but let's not dissect this too deeply and rather wrap this up, shall we, we're here to wrap things up, aren't we? Make it through to the end, somehow, without suffering too much. We are versatile tools of thinking, we can make up everything, even this goal is made up by me, for me, with me in mind. Forbidden happiness does not exist unless we summon it in our minds.