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naamahdarling · 4 days

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You know what? You know what I think?

I think that if we lived as we were meant to, in larger intimate ("extended family") groups and with more shared labor and time to do it (UBI NOW) people like me would not feel so useless and burdensome because there would be people around to help and to do what neurodivergent people can't while making valuable space for the neurodivergent to do what they ARE good at.

The way we live right now, all right, the way we live right now forces units of two adults to be able to do EVERYTHING or PAY to have someone come do it for them. I have to do the housework. I have to do it! But I am having to do a million different things and most of them I am not good at. I suck at them.

I wouldn't feel like shit, okay, if I had more than one other person around who was not a child and who could do the things I can't, like do the yard and cook and do repairs and basic maintenance; and someone else to split everything else that I like but is too much for me. It would free me to do what I am good at and enjoy. Cleaning, as in the sink and toilet, the windows, the blinds. Taking out trash. Folding, hanging, and sorting laundry.

But because all the shit I can do often relies on other shit being done first, and I can't do or have trouble doing those things, the shit I can do often can't be done. And even the shit I can do, I can't do ALL of it. So I can't keep up, and things get very bad.

We aren't meant to live like this. We are not meant to live like this.

That thought hurts so much because being able to flee the birth family is integral to survival for so many people. I'm so afraid that living in larger family groups would create more opportunities for, say, queer kids to be isolated, rejected, bullied, and abused. But if we gave people enough money to survive, and stopped considering children the property of their parents with no system in place to help them escape bad situations except a system that is often just as bad, just different.

I'm aware that communes and collectives aren't all that successful and are kind of a joke. I don't mean that. I mean a fundamental shift to multigenerational families where taking in "strays" (which my family did) is also normalized so people escaping abuse into existing households was accepted, with these families centered in maybe a couple of different larger residences so not everyone has to buy and maintain their own fucking washing machine and vacuum cleaner, and so people can benefit from large group meals that yield leftovers, and so child and elder care can also be centralized.

Then disabled people and the neurodivergent and sick and injured people, and pregnant people, and grieving people, would not have to either labor through all those stressors or consign themselves to living off an unlivable pittance or being put under legal guardianship.

I'm not saying anything new. People live like this in other parts of the world and maybe it sucks and I am wrong. But I'm just really mad right now because I can either do laundry or clean the sink but not both, and I really think we could improve society somewhat by making it so I did not have to choose one without sacrificing the other.

#im feverish feeling (not a real fever just malaise that i have no other way to describe) from the IBS (which can affect you like that #)#and i don't actually want to do ANYTHING #i would have to even living with others but it would be easier #at the very least i wouldn't have had to clean the microwave earlier which is hard because my arms are like the size of a meerkat's #and i can only reach the back with my fingertips #where is my BF in all this?#WORKING FULL TIME WITH BACK PAIN #yes i AM going to want him to have to do as little as possible when he comes home #he's neurodivergent too and struggles with the same shit #it's all a mess #we are doing way better i didn't realize how deep a drain three very sick cats were #but there's still only two of us #if you are disabled physically OR MENTALLY you should at least get in-home household help once a week or so #there's places that do that but the limitations are usually severe and always rule me out #because im not single im not an elder im not a veteran and im not physically disabled #if we have to ration that sort of thing i can see how on the whole it is more caring to allocate those resources to for example elders #but the fact that i celebrate what help there is doesn't mean i don't get mad that more people can't access it #is2g if i was functional enough snd physically sound enough i would start a charity that did intervention cleaning for people like us #who have fallen behind and can't catch up but can MAINTAIN #and who helped people clean for a few months during and after an illness pregnancy trauma major loss etc. so they could stay on their feet

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lotus-pear · 11 months

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i think you guys are onto smth..

i unironically got invested in this HELP

#WHERES THE FIC AT IF SOMEONE WRITES THIS I WILL PAY THEM A HUNDRED DOLLARS😭😭#kunikida serving the country while dazai's serving cunt😔#dazai was born to malewife but forced to manipulate and i think that's the greatest tragedy of bsd #anyway some facts i would like to share abt this au thay i came up w while drawing!!#takes place in 1939 (start of wwii) and there was a mandatory draft that required one male over eighteen from each house to serve #both of them are still twenty two and had been engaged for abt two years before getting married that year #newlyweds! unfortunately kuni had to go fight and they were seperated :(#before the war kunikida was a math teacher at the local high school and dazai obviously managed the household and didn't work #he's hopeless at cooking and meal prep even w recipie books so they either get those prepackaged meals or kuni makes dinner when he gets ba #so like when he's making lunch for kunikida he normally just packs a basic sandwich w raw fruit #kunikida always appreciates the effort even tho hes probably sick of having the same thing everyday but he won't complain abt it #when kunikida joined the army he was relieved that the mess hall had better food than dazai #he was the only one in his platoon that never complained abt the food so his fellow soldiers assumed it was bc he came from a tough bg #when in reality he was just used to being poisoned on a daily basis from his dumbass husbands cooking and was hardly fazed from army ration #they write to each other although its more dazai sending and kuni receiving bc hes off fighting and doesnt have time to write back #dazai talks abt life on the homefront and how he has to grow a victory garden (everything is DYING HE CANT EVEN RAISE TOMATOES)#and kuni writes abt his fellow soldiers and how the war is going and when he thinks he'll be home and how he misses sleeping in a bed #ANYWAY yea thought i'd share sry for infodumping in the tags again #this post is for like the four ppl that care abt this specific flavor of knkdz so hopefully this gets four notes at least #bungou stray dogs #bungo stray dogs #dazai osamu #osamu dazai #kunikida doppo #doppo kunikida #kunikidazai #knkdz #lotus draws #bro sry for posting at two in the morning i couldnt sleep until i got this out of my head they have infested my brain

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senseearly · 5 months

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For a moment, imagine yourself in Mithrun's brother shoes.

Your brother - stronger, prettier, more charismatic, but also distrustful and disdainful of everyone especially you - is to be sent to the Canaries. It is the rule, it is the duty of all noble houses. But you know what goes on there, Mithrun knows what happens there. Yet you see him off, bidding a temporary farewell as you do, because someone from the House has to go and it won't be definitely you. Mithrun knows this, you know this. And you wonder, very briefly, if Mithrun hates you now more than he does already.

Your brother - powerful, agile, a good soldier just as he is as an heir, if he could only be an heir - suddenly disappears. The unit he belonged to suddenly disappeared. And you're speechless because - how? why? No one wants to answer you; they will instead try to bring back a body, they promise to you. But that is not what you want. You grieve for your brother. but your own family doesn't grieve with you. Wasn't Mithrun family too?

Then you found out: MIthrun is alive.

Your brother - now weak, despondent, his eyes always looking for something that is not here nor there - is to be sent home where people can take care of him. It is not your first choice, you want him home. But he is - sick. Not quite there. He needs someone who can look after him and you look at yourself - your gait, your constitution - and you know it can't be you. So, you follow the advice of your family and pour out all your resources to find him the best of healers and caretakers. You ask yourself, almost daily, if Mithrun would ever return to who he once was.

Your brother - strong, pretty, uninterested of anything and anyone else aside from what he calls 'the demon' - is now better. He can walk on his own now, eats without throwing up on himself. The color on his skin is back and the scars of his injuries have faded into thick bumps and discolored skin. But he still isn't quite there; still needs help and probably will for the rest of his life. And you can live with that. You can provide that. Just as long as he comes home.

But doesn't. Your brother - now a husk of his former self, and you hate thinking of him that way, but you can't help yourself, the Mithrun you knew is gone - runs straight back to the Canaries. His mission is not over, he says. He doesn't care how long it takes, he says. And you see him off, again, because someone from the House has to go and it still can't be you. Mithrun knows this, you know this, and you can't help but wish, very briefly, if things would've been different if you went instead of him.

#mithrun dungeon meshi #mithrun #mithrun of the house of kerensil #mithrun's brother #dungeon meshi #this is so self-indulgent #because we don't know who or what kind of person mithrun's brother was #but he definitely cared for mithrun (more than their own parents probably)#and i can imagine the anguish of having the responsibility of serving the canaries #be placed on your brother instead of you because of your physical condition #then to make things worse #your brother comes home barely alive and not the person he was and when u ask #no one wants to answer you #then there's the anguish of helping him getter better; wondering if he'll get better #he does #in a way #and the first thing mithrun asks of his brother is 'i want to go back to the canaries'#there is no way mithrun's brother heard that and said 'ok' while smiling #that man would've gone into a hysterical fit just trying to tell mithrun that he was lucky enough to have survived #but he has to let mihrun go #mithrun's brother is probably weeping with joy learning that the canaries have disbanded #only to learn that his brother is staying in a tallman kingdom to slay monsters #he's still very conflicted about that #id say

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yuwuta · 3 months

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gojo would kill your work husband. but if he were the work husband, that's a different story

REAL!! he’s such a hypocrite because if someone mentioned you had a work husband, his entire world would stop and he wold devise the absolute worst plans to make sure that your co-worker, everyone at your job, and everyone in the next building over knew that he was happily committed to you

but if he is the work husband, he’s very........ dutiful in his role. there’s a loose office/lawyer au in my head where satoru is your secretary, and for all intents and purposes, your personal assistant, and he’s good at his job, but mostly because he considers his job to be pleasing you. he has coffee for you when you arrive, he moves your schedule around without you asking, he has answers to questions before you can even ask them, he has fresh flowers on your desk weekly, pokes into your meetings to pretend to hand you a file that’s really just maybe a single document in a manilla folder with candy on top of it—he’s made himself your business, your partner; he’s made himself irreplaceable, and he loves to remind everybody of that fact.

he’s also extremely loyal. sure, he could day a week’s worth of work done in about a day, but that doesn’t mean he’ll just use his talents for anybody. he’s your secretary, so he’s at your beck and call, and everyone knows it. they know he’s the best, but also that he’s off limits—not because you won’t share him, but because satoru won’t let himself be shared.

he also extends his duties beyond work, of course. when he hands you a print out of your schedule for the day and you’re confused by the three-hour block of time you have in the middle of the day, satoru just helps you shrug your coat of your shoulders and smiles, “that’s for the lunch date you have with me, of course!” hanging up your coat in your closet for you, “i’m paying, see you soon, sweets.” and because you’re great at your job, and satoru helps you be great, nobody really questions when the two of you have time for a 13-course tasting menu at 1pm on a tuesday afternoon. and if they did, all satoru would say that you two had a lovely date

#anonymous #he's like donna from suits but worse because he's like if harvey were donna LOL #i have soooooo much to say about him #he doesn't really Have to work he's a nepotism baby supreme #but he met you maybe in undergrad? and he's been obsessed w you since #he knows youre a workaholic so he's dutifully sat by your side all these years through college through grad/professional school #and when you told him you got to hire your own assistant he was the very first applicant #because getting paid to spend his days with you and take care of you? he was already doing that for free might as well make it official #everyone in the office knows satoru loves you except you honestly #he probably has his own masters/JD but elects to be your assistant anyway bc that's so much more fun #what he Really wants to be a househusband but first he's gotta ask you out and propose and all that good stuff (cue him rolling his eyes #and going on about formalities and boring systems and blah blah blah)#also in the office au in my head: nanami (also senior partner) higuruma ofc <3 beloved (managing partner) and TOJI!#WALK WITH ME!#its honestly probably satoru's influence that gets toji into law... as someone who so feverently broke it in the past #idk maybe there's a megumi situation that makes gojo be like yk if ur this good at skirting/breaking the law youd probably be half decent #at enforcing it... or at least helping other people get around it too #and so lawyer toji is born #does he screw around w the rich people who r stupid w their money? absolutely #but you nanami and higuruma just let it be bc he brings in those settlements better than anybody else....#hmmm... i kinda wanna make megumi somebody's associate but also..... yuuta.....#i think i just like sticking yuuta in a tie if im being real #but anyway... satoru is your Work Husband and everyone knows he wants to be your real husband #but they just let it slide bc rumour has it even tho hes just a secretary hes got equity in the firm?? and besides that his heart eyes give #away his hopeless devotion from a mile away #the day you actually start seeing somebody outside of work... oh theyre in for Trouble #satoru x reader #him dragging you out of ur office late at night and u protesting so he just. puts u over his shoulder #and ur telling him to let u down but he's insisting u go home and then nanami pops out of his office #and ur like wait nanami this isnt what it looks like but he's so dead in the eyes when he just sighs

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secretsimpleness · 2 months

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Sometimes I want to bring Morrigan but then I remember I play as a face-tanking rogue and I bring Wynne. Warden Cousland, Morrigan, Wynne / Dragon Age Origins (c) Bioware

#dragon age #dragon age fan art #comic #morrigan #warden cousland #healer #bioware #dao #dragon age origins #hero of ferelden #cousland #wynne #I'm back. I guess.#I did not notice at first but apparently I took a break from tumblr. I've already had several breakdowns over the dashboard.#(turns out I was on the 'for you' tab rather than the 'following' tab. the theme had changed as well. absolutely insufferable.)#I've felt really unconnected for a while but it actually feels better now? as if my tumblr mutuals was the missing link.#very healthy and hot of me ngl #so. I had a two week holiday this year and they were instantly slurped up. it went so fast!#there was this big football thing the week before my holiday - basically teams of teens come from all around the world to play etc.#I heard a girl tell her teammates that 'I'd love to travel on this bus every morning; happy people all around you; just add some music...'#she was also very excited when the bridge opened. the 'happy people' around her sighed bitterly and leaned back for a ten minute wait.#it is thankfully over now. the bus home is no longer stuffed full of football teams. but it's a fun experience for the players etc etc etc #well. in other thrilling news I went to spy on our sister shops during my time off. to see what they do differently. maybe steal some ideas #one store was like an instagram post with fancy teacups and stylish outfits. who knew a second-hand store could be so boring.#the other was like a man-cave with furniture and a passively-aggressive note by the toys stating that 'if u break it u pay. idiot. tnx<3'.#the man-cave was my favourite :)#rant over now! take care and bye etc!

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smile-files · 1 year

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she then started wiping his face with a handkerchief, confused

#dandy's doodles #welcome home #welcome home poppy #poppy partridge #welcome home wally #wally darling #kin #i have been so awfully sneezy lately!! oh dear!!!#i would rather like to be tucked into bed with a bowl of soup by sweet ol poppy...#just her taking care of me would make me feel better :)#for the record i have been okay!! above all my cold has just made me tired and runny-nosed #aside from that i'm alive and well and perfectly capable of going to work at camp #which is great!!! but of course the sooner this cold goes away the better #anyway. poppy is rather fun to draw isn't she? she has such nice colors and textures :]

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kindaasrikal · 3 months

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Guys I’m going to cry the ninjago writers are pure evil.

Season 1, episode 2, is named ‘Home’

And its the episode that shows the ninja finding their new home (the bounty) and Zane finding his home and family.

AND THEN THESE DAMN WRITERS PUT BABY LLOYD AT THE END STARING AT THE BOUNTY ALL SAD AS THE NINJA LAUGH IN THE BACKGROUND HAPPILY. AND THEN HE WALKS AWAY SO DEJECTEDLY.

WHAT.

THATS NOT FAIRRRRR NOY BABY LLOYD HE DESERVES BETTER GUYS OMG.

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anghraine · 3 months

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You'd think the worst part of being immunocompromised would be catching All The Things, but honestly, the actual worst part is not being able to visit very sick loved ones because they're afraid of you catching the sickness :(

#i just discovered an hour ago that my mother was hospitalized last night and my dad mentioned 'the ambulance gave us nebulizer equipment'#by force of will i didn't say 'WHAT ambulance?!' because they don't need more anxiety right now #they were driving home together and my mother sounds awful and said she still didn't feel like she was breathing properly #dad was like 'she's really tired so i was thinking of giving her the nebulizer and getting her to lie down'#me: 'WHAT NO KEEP HER UPRIGHT' /calms slightly 'and tell her to take her nebulizer and be careful and i love her.'#'but seriously. don't let her lie down and don't let her go to sleep.'#i hate her pathetic fucking doctor so much though #she was doing better after i bullied her into seeing an asthma specialist but she caught some awful ... something and then this happened???#anghraine babbles #asthma

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paunchsalazar · 5 days

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Dean should have been the new new Bobby… I’ll kill myself

#also running at auto shop/junkyard like… the cover is already built in #but I mean he is constantly being shown taking care of kids and clicking with them even if he claims Sam is better at talking..#I think he is way too fucked up to intentionally father a child let alone find someone to want to do that with..#but I do think he would take in kids who have lost people… Hunter next gen… the boys home episode is so fucking sad..#he is The Caretaker even when he tries to avoid it… teaches..#how to drive… how to shoot.. how to play poker and win..#Garth semi retires anyway… though I love Garth…#I’m not even at the finale but getting so mad about it #I get if he didn’t make it to his 80s but at least 50s… maybe… i just want him to know his nephew even for a moment..#again… I don’t think he would father kids but I think they’d be named after Bobby and Charlie if were following Harry Potter rules…#dean winchester #supernatural

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naamahdarling · 1 month

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Well, fate sure didn't drag her heels in calling on us.

Got a call from my dad yesterday and a relative's mother-in-law has entered hospice and had to place her pets in other homes with very little notice.

There's two 4-month-old kittens and my relative has enough other pets that they just cannot keep them so guess what's in our bathroom right now.

Am I happy about it? No.

Will we be keeping them? Really not sure.

Are they cute? Oh my god. Oh my god, they're gorgeous.

I wasn't ready to bring anyone in yet, but I would have thought worse of myself for walking away when we could help them and help my relative and their previous owner who all deserve to know that these babies are safe and getting the medical care they need.

So brace for helping us offset some of this, I guess, because they need to be vaccinated, wormed, and neutered ASAP. This wouldn't be a strain except for the cost of losing our boys all three at once and sending them on their way over the Bridge. Our poor boys.

I'm so stressed out, but they are so beautiful and so incredibly sweet and they needed help. And I think you'll get it, when I post pics. They're angels. I'd have helped any kitten, but these are silly little angels.

And yeah. Yeah, I do hope it works out.

#im really conflicted on this one but they needed someone to step up and help them right away #and we are at least better placed to get them the health care they need and help them find forever homes if they can't coexist with Fancy #god someone tell me this wasn't stupid and irresponsible #god what the hell have i done

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theheartintheshow · 3 months

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Headcannon that’s been stuck in my head for years: Brennan actually stole the iguana

#she took it because the original owners were not taking care of it properly #it doesn’t need a name….its an iguana #iguanas take a lot of work #why would our girl commit to that if not another stray #the image of twenty something Tempe walking into some frat house or somewhere and just straight up taking their pet is so funny to me #but damn it needs a better home #temperance brennan #bones tv

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sallytwo · 3 months

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Jennifer nearly jumped into the water / and she was tired like no one's ever been tired

#myart #wesley crusher #jennifer is on her way home. then she remembers her life is like a nightmare!!!!#geniunelyyyy thinking about the post-first duty years of wesleys life is so miserable.#he killed his best friend and ruined his friendship with everyone else and lost picards respect (the only thing he ever cared about)#and then you just. dont hear about him at all for 2 years.#trying to capture the extremely specific existential dread of knowing something is deeply wrong in your life but not being able to change.#JUST THE LOOK OF A YOUNG MAN WHOS PROFOUNDLY UNHAPPY AND DOESNT EVEN KNOW WHY!!!#the quote from that novel. where he says “jaxa knew better than the rest of us the only way to escape this thing was to die”. ITS SICK!!#like leaving starfleet was not even on his radar until journeys end. he didnt even consider that as an option. so what could he do.#man. theres a reason for the prominently placed golden gate bridge. jennifer nearly jumped into the water.... cuz she got no way to get out #the photos in the bg are him and picard. jack. two of joshie (the ski tripppppp) him and bev and the entire nova squadron up top #do i think he would have his room this nicely decorated while horribly depressed NO!!! it was just for the compostion of the piece #like trying so hard to keep up appearances. being surrounded by pictures of all the people who love him and still not able to get out.#some of the papers lying around the desk are like. intended to be letters to bev that he just gave up on writing.#OKAY sorry i just wanted to finish this before i leave tomorrow. i spent such a stupid amount of time on this. never again #you people should always talk to me forever about my friend wesley . im soooo normal. lies facedown on floor #OH AND THE VERY SPECIFIC. EMOTION. LYING ON BED IN FULL UNIFORM. WE'VE ALLLL BEEN THERE.

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syncast-err0r · 2 months

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cheater. (repression)

#same timespan as her husband cheating on her #she knows. she's relieved she doesn't have to keep the loving wife facade up. but she still has to be home by 12 #amanda doesn't care. she knows lynn likes her better. she'll come around soon enough (she always comes back for more)#been in a lesbian mood lately. miss eating my girlfriend out soooo much #actually old art but I just never uploaded it sorry teehee #saw movies #saw 3 #amanda young #lynn denlon #lynnmanda #shotgunshipping #my art xoxo

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hanafubukki · 9 months

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I wonder if the cottage Lilia had was given to him by Maleficia?

He was in exile for awhile no? Maybe later on, Maleficia gave it to him as a place to call home since he couldn’t come to the castle.

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(I’m taking these out of the tags, and I’m too lazy to rewrite them 🤣)

#you know before the whole secret mission she has him do #maybe it was her way of taking care of him #from afar but nonetheless it was something better than nothing #it showed she still cared you know #and in time it became a home to not only him but to silver and malleus and sebek #diasomnia #maleficia draconia #twst book 7 #lilia vanrouge

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beginnerblueglass · 4 months

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I was telling my sister about Titans, and she was like, “the whole Bruce/Dick/Jason storyline is like the prodigal son story, with the older and younger brothers' positions switched,” and I was like ohhhh???

#bruce is a VERY imperfect substitute for God the Father but CONSIDER the older brother — the heir #takes his inheritance (his supersuit and tech and weapons and porche)#and leaves telling his dad not to contact him #and the younger son receives everything that once belonged to his older brother #knowing how fortunate he is while also having to constantly hear ‘your brother did it this way’ ‘your brother was better at this’#all the whole looking up to his absent brother as his hero #he goes to meet his older brother while he is away and is met with a barrage of ‘our father doesn’t care about you or me’#‘our father will destroy you to accomplish his own ends’#‘no you don’t really know him — *I* know him’#‘being the eldest son isn’t an honour at all its a curse’#and THEN a little while later that same older brother returns and is welcomed home with open arms #their father gives EVERYTHING back to his oldest #ALL the privileges and love and honour and money and even a new supersuit #all is forgiven and given back in full — more than in full #and that’s wonderful and beautiful but what is the younger brothers perspective?#and THEN their father gives the younger brother into the older brothers care #‘go see how your older brother does it and then come back to me’#so he feels cast off by his father #and his older brother barely pays him any attention being preoccupied with his own issues #although he never abandoned their father and always did everything he was asked it’s his older brother who receives all the praise #after being beaten down again and again he finally returns to his father #and is welcomed but not with nearly as much fanfare as when his older brother returned #what is that going to do to him???#titans #titans tv show #titans tv #jason todd #dick grayson #bruce wayne #the prodigal son

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leopardom · 8 months

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it’s definitely not the right time to do this but it’s bugging me so much i need to ask

would anyone still be interested in reading more analyses/interpretations about Damon’s photoshoots with Nace/Jan and Jure after many days or maybe i shouldn’t even bother to write them?

#if this post comes off as me searching for validation then for better or worse yes. yes i do #i still feel insecure af about whatever i wrote about Kris’ and Bojan’s photos and what i have in the drafts for Nace so far #i see everyone writing and i wanna write too because i’m ✨thinking✨ but then i’m like #“who cares you’re late and you write shit. not interesting. move on”#but yet i won’t be home until Monday #and i don’t have time to write right now so this is getting pushed back more and more #and if i do end up writing stuff i don’t want it to end up hitting a wall and just. go unnoticed #and i’m so sorry for bringing this in the band tag but as i said it’s bugging me so much……#this is emma speaking #joker out

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