#BIRTHDAY TRIP

[shlrleystudies]

Cute little cafe in newfoundland

[msterpicasso]

@hossenbaccus

[abroadlifeactually]

Its a Vibe (Free of Ghosts)

Over the last several years my birthday has been a week-long celebration. My 30th was spent relaxing on a beach and partying in Aruba with my best friend, which ushered in the trend to always do something lavish for my birthday. I maintained this tradition with vacations and spa treatments over the years. However, things started to change when I turned 40. One, I was pregnant, and two, it was during the covid years, thus severely altering how I could celebrate.  Last year we took a trip to the Philippines as a 40th redux, and to give me much needed R&R since our move abroad earlier that year was pretty rough. It was an amazing trip, but it wasn’t the “all about me” birthday vacation I had gotten used to. Sunbeam had just started to ween off breastfeeding, so I was pumping for relief and doing my best to maintain her schedule while we were away. On our return home Sunbeam got sick in the airport leaving us quarantined in a tiny hospital room for 2 days with all our luggage, no wifi, cell phone service, or drinking water, and a toilet leaking all over the floor. But that’s a story for another time. 

This past birthday the realization set in that the old days of sipping champagne all day aren’t returning; but it’s okay because my life is evolving, and change is a natural part of growth. At first I felt the need to cling to my old bday tradition to hold on to my “bad b*tch” aesthetic. Being able to splurge on myself and luxuriate for several days made me confident and independent. However, now I’m in a place where trying to uphold those traditions along with my new responsibilities is much harder. It’s not impossible, but definitely requires a lot more effort and planning, which can feel like a lot.

So what does a good birthday look like now? Earlier this year we took a family vacation to the Maldives, and were planning a visit back west around the holidays, so traveling was not an option. I thought about what brings me joy now, as a woman with a family. Hearing the happy squeals of my child brings me life, so I opted to bring Sunbeam to an indoor play gym in the morning, since she’s still a little too young to really enjoy Disney.  We had the place to ourselves. Later that evening, my husband arranged for our nanny to come so we could enjoy the evening out. He planned a beautiful evening. We ate a 6 course meal in a private room at the top of a building with a breathtaking view of the city. I was all dressed up and felt beautiful. I thoroughly enjoyed spending the day with my family.

As my life continues to evolve, my birthday celebration has to take other factors into account. This encouraged me to reexamine my perspective on what makes my birthday meaningful, and embrace what comes with evolution. I’m grateful for the way my life is progressing and all the new experiences it brings, which makes these changes all the more welcome.

Now on another note….this birthday also indicated that an ex situationship has FINALLY moved on. I met my husband back in 2016, and with any new relationship it may take some time for ex lingerers to officially cut ties. But when I was done or over a person, I would totally disappear, they’d never hear from me again.  So when Hubby and I met, I may have gotten a rogue text here or there, but for the most part we just moved forward uninterrupted.

But there was one. An ex? Not sure you could call him that, it really never got that serious, so I’ll just say someone I dated briefly. This person would send happy birthday texts every year to no response. This shockingly went on for 6 YEARS. There were no other messages exchanged in between, because we weren’t in contact. But every year without fail I’d get a random text filled with bitmoji. One year the text came with 6 different Bitmojis…. I thought about responding a few times just to say I’m married, or I’m married and pregnant, or I’m married with a kid and don’t even live in the country anymore. But I couldn’t figure out how to bring that up with a happy birthday text, and also didn’t feel conversing, so opted for cold silence instead.

These messages were especially surprising because he was the “i’m so busy” type. He made it very clear he was suuuper busy with all of his goals, so he needed to be focused. He was the type that presented as if he had it all figured out, while he questioned my ambition. The reality was, we just had different goals. But somewhere between my mid twenties and early thirties I fully accepted that I wasn’t going to be everyone’s cup of tea, which allowed me to stay grounded and not take negative things men said to me seriously. It was usually them, and not me. I’m not claiming to be perfect, but I stand by that assessment. I also didn’t try to change anyone’s mind, so when our communication gradually faded, it was all good. 

At first, the birthday messages made sense, right?  We were cool, there were no hard feelings. So the first time I got a text after all communication completely stopped I responded “wow, I can’t believe you remembered, thank you”. The following year, “thank you!!!” But in 2018 I decided, I wasn’t going to respond anymore messages, to send the message, MOVE ON. But he continued, he sent birthday texts year after year, to no response. I was slightly amused, but more so confused. Like, what was the reason!?!  We weren’t friends. I’ll never know what his motivations were, but for the first time in seven years the birthday texts finally stopped. I think he’s finally got the hint and moved on, good for him.

[lauratheghost]

Just got back from my birthday trip a few hours ago 🥰

Here's a recap:

- The drive was really chill- less than two hours and not much traffic.

- Our hotel was great. Perfect location in the middle of everywhere we wanted to go.

- Albany is a cool, strange city. I think we were in a historical district. We were right near the state capital building, the Empire Plaza, and a bunch of really cool old buildings (like churches with gargoyles!)

- For how large the buildings were, and how big the city seemed, it was... so quiet and empty??? There was hardly any people anywhere. There's almost no people in any of my photos 😂 it was kind've eerie but I honestly liked it.

- I didn't expect so many hills? It was so hilly... like a little San Francisco or something (I've never been to San Francisco, don't quote me on that)

- The concert venue was so cool! But we did have a hard time finding the right entrance. (It was called Empire Underground but I didn't realize it was literally kind've underground lol.. like under a building or a tunnel or something.)

- Once we found it, everything went great! The venue was so, so tiny. We saw Colorblinds, Wind Walkers, and Caskets- all amazing live and sounded just like the recordings. There were no bad spots to stand really. The place was so small that you could see the stage well no matter where you were.

- Another odd thing was that this morning we were searching for coffee shops, and there were tons of them nearby, but most of them were closed Sundays and Mondays? Idk, I just found that really strange. Also not a single convenience store in the area we were in. Didn't see one the entire time we were there. But we eventually found the most perfect coffee shop that was such a vibe with beautiful plants everywhere. 🥰🪴

Here's a couple photos!

[paled-out]

💕🇵🇷🥥

[loll3]

✷ Happy Birthday to me 🖤🗝️🌿✨

as every year I’d like to spend this day visiting magical places with my fam…this year we anticipated our family trip one day, so, yesterday, we have a really great time in the nature! walking in an enchanted woods, surrounded by beautiful plans and flowers…and eating some yummy foods! 🌞✨

…so I’ll probably spend my bday relaxing and recharging my energies…

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✧ I’d like to celebrate this special day even with you! so, I’ll give away a super cute auto-adhesive patch with each order of €20+ on my shop during all this week!

and you’ll still able to take advantage of the 10% off on orders €50+ on my small shop 🐈‍⬛ || so, if you want to treat yourself with something special, save some money and support my small biz, 👉🏻 go check my etsy shop 🌜🎀🌱

• you can find the awesome tee I’m wearing in the first pic currently available on hot topic || now 40% off for a limited time! 🌿

[flybishnewz]

It’s a genre🥛…

[the-fault-in-our-regards]

Ya girl over here living it up in Cozumel for her 25th birthday 🥳✨️🎉🌊✨️🥰

[sadbabe2007]

i miss vegas :( someone take me back

[alldudsnostuds]

@bobbiflekman i feel like you will appreciate

[vivalaroza]

First stop in Seoul ✨

📍Cheongsudang Bakery, Seoul, South Korea

[virtie333]

First Day

Not a puddle jumper, but I got the emergency exit. 😳

[likedaylighht]

Omfggggg I remember when your bday trip to Costa Rica happened I felt soooo bad for you!!! I totally forgot about that and your post just reminded me of when that happened lol….u are stronger than I am that’s for sure lmfao

Listen if you were around for the Costa Rica Birthday Trip lore then you are a REAL ONE haha also I still don’t know how I survived the mental abuse from that trip and made it out with good memories but I did!

[x-gemziiee-louu-x]

4 days until my birthday trip to Edinburgh......can't bloody wait!!!!!

[ecstasy-of-you]