#Anti terf

[choicesgoddess]

the craziest thing about being transmasc or a trans man is that people LOVE to say you’re gonna look ugly, gonna turn ugly etc. and personally for a while i bought into this nonsense. but one day i decided fuck it, decided to transition and you know what happened? i still retained the most handsome parts of the person i was before. but i looked happier. i looked more beautiful, more handsome, prettier, stylish, hot. because i finally looked like me & so much happier and confident. anyway, this is just to say - go transition dude, if you’re hesitating. you will only look even more handsome & beautiful, fuck their propaganda.

[nymph1e]

On Discomfort and Morality

My father finds gay men uncomfortable.

He's told me before that it's like a knee-jerk for him. Something he doesn't consciously control. He sees two men behaving romantically, and his body reacts with mild discomfort.

In the 1960s, when he was in high school, most of the boys in his form thought he was gay on the simple fact that he wasn't homophobic. He wouldn't participate in insulting queer people, he didn't care if someone was gay, he wouldn't have a problem hanging out with gay people. So people thought he was gay. That's how prevalent homophobia was in his formative years.

When I was 10, my dad told me very seriously that Holmes and Watson were gay. That it was obvious from the literature and the time period that they were meant to be a gay couple. When I was 14 and I came out to my parents as bi, when my mum was upset my dad ripped into her for it. Told her that she was being stupid, that it was my life to live how I wanted to and that she needed to get over herself.

My dad formed my views on censorship: that being that it was completely ridiculous and thoroughly evil. He didn't believe in censorship of any kind. If I asked him a question about sex, he answered it honestly. When I was 12 and I asked him about homosexuality, still young and uncertain, he told me that there was nothing wrong with it. That it was just how some people were. That there was likely an evolutionary reason for it. And that for some people it was uncomfortable on an instinctual level.

He taught me that just because you're uncomfortable with something, doesn't make it wrong. He also taught me that most people don't understand this.

I see a lot of this on the internet as of the last few years. The anti shipping movement, the terf movement, the anti ace movement. It all stems from discomfort that people have crossed wires into believing means wrong. Really every -ism and -phobia out there stems from this same fundamental aspect of humanity.

The next time you see something and you automatically think it's disgusting, or wrong, or immoral, I invite you to ask yourself: is this actually wrong or does this just make me uncomfortable?

[sjbattleangel]

To quote Rose Tico in Star Wars: The Last Jedi:

"That's how we're gonna win-not fighting what we hate-saving what we love."

You've gotta love Jews more than you hate Nazis.

You've gotta love trans folks more than you hate TERFs.

You've gotta love your unhoused neighbors more than you hate the billionaires.

You've gotta love immigrants more than you hate ICE.

You've gotta love queer kids more than you hate christian fundamentalists.

You've gotta love fat people more than you hate the diet industry.

You've gotta love disabled people more than you hate the insurance companies.

You've gotta love your fellow humans more than you hate the worst that humanity has to offer. You don't have to like every person you're fighting for, and you sure as hell don't have to give up your righteous anger, but hate is ultimately corrosive.

You've gotta love.

[butchbarbieagainstterfs]

this is lara, a cisgender butch woman who was hate-crimed by other women for trying to use a “female-only space”. a space, by their logic, she should have been able to use and is apparently meant to be her safe space.

this is the result of terf transphobia. please remember lara and others like her next time terfs claim that they care about butch women or that you can “always tell”.

I’m so sorry this happened to you, lara 💔 🫂

[mlmshark]

Mfs will be like “Omg I hate radfems and terfs! They’re awful! Radfeminsim and Terf ideology is bad!!!” And then turn around and be like “All men are evil and bad and all women are pure and good! But it’s okay this time because I’m including trans people!!!!”

[anti-kink-queen]

ima chime in here and talk about my experience with terfs

When I was only 14 years old, I started going through tumblr and found out about the terf community. Though yall claim to care about women and girls, they seem to not care about problems within female only spaces.

I once had one terf laugh at my abuse after I anonymously asked a question.

This is the entire conversation which in total, got over 90 notes.

Not only that but this radfem siren account has also told a young teenage girl on how mature she is for her age (ofc no-one said anything bcuz she's a woman)

I also looked through an account called "butch-peace" discussing with other terfs on why trans men should "eat some pussy" if they're REALLY gay. (Which is rape culture)

In total, as someone who's cis. I do not feel comfortable around terfs.

i really really really don't care about trans shit anymore. like it's just not a thought in my mind. I'm terrified. i went on instagram and the first post i saw was "trump said there are only two genders! that's awful" I DONT GIVE A SINGULAR FUCK? I'm terrified. I'm terrified for the earth, there's a nazi in the white house that gets control of a whole department, 4 hours into his presidency there was a sieg heil by musk, he will leave everything to states and i will have no protections. I'm scared that my birth control will be taken and i eventually die alone and bloody from pregnancy complications. im scared for how bold nazis and racists and misogynists are going to be. i don't want more drilling.

i don't give a fuck if he said there's only male and female. he's trying to distract you from all the horrific shit he wants to do

[etchif]

I love trans women reblog this if you love trans women

Whenever I see one of those videos of women playing online games, getting insulted by other players and then proceeding to beat them I can't help but just feel angry because why the fuck do women need to prove their skill at video games in order to play without being harassed. Women should be allowed to be mediocre at stuff like this they shouldn't need to prove their worth for other people to respect them. A woman that was called a whore and told to make someone a sandwich doesn't deserve it even if she actually does suck at the game. Not saying that that's the point those videos are trying to make not at all but... Idk it's just kind of a grim reminder of the way many people view women and it makes me sad. I hope you understand what I'm trying to say

Trans women are wonderful

[owo-writing-man]

I dont think being a woman means being a baby maker.

You know what I did when I was a woman?

I did wrestling. And I won. My team went to championships and I placed in states. Could have gone to college over it. But I didn't. I didn't want to. There was something wrong with my body and the singlets showed too much of it.

I also did MMA and ji jitsu. I learned how to shoot a gun.

I learned how to be strong. And I learned how to be independent.

I don't think being a woman makes you weak. I think it makes strong. It made me strong enough to come out as trans. Because if I could pass every hurdle I already jumped over because of the body I was born in this was one of them.

There has been something wrong with the person in the mirror since I was young. But I grew up in an environment where boys were boys and girls were girls. And being a girl wasn't shameful.

So obviously I was the problem. I wasn't proud enough of who I was and that's why I couldn't look in the mirror.

Then puberty hit and it got worse. And I learned what trans was but that didn't matter because boys were boys and girls and girls and I was born as a girl. And that was the system I wasn't allowed to fight. That was the truth.

But I had already overcome so many hurdles based on who I was. And this was one of them. So I looked in the mirror. To the young boy in front of me. And I promised him i would not stop overcoming hurdles. And being in the wrong body was a hurdle on the path to be the strongest and happiest person I could be.

I am so proud of the girl I used to be. And I know she's proud of the man I am today. Because she sat there in front of the mirror promising me that.

I have never been ashamed of the woman I was. I'm so glad she overcame so much because without her I doubt id ever been able to come out as trans. But I'm not her anymore.

And I'm actually sorry to you and to her. Because you think just because I am a trans man I'm ashamed of her. And being a woman. When I never have been. It was just not the path I was destined to walk anymore.

I wonder if trans radfems realize that Conservatives hate them as much as any other trans person, and that they're seen as "useful idiots" that exist purely to deflect accusations of transphobia.

"We can't be transphobic, we have Jenner and White", they say, as they pass laws that will be used to remove the rights of queer people, and eventually imprison anyone who isn't a cishet WASP.

Shitting on trans men won't save you, all it'll do is put you 5th in line for the firing squad, instead of 3rd.

[anti-terf-posts]

it's dangerous to go alone, take this!

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[opossumanon]

So I'm just sitting here listening to screechy violins doing their thing and I have now decided to impart some wisdom on you all (My fellow queers):

If we as a community want everyone to be accepted, then we have to accept cis men too.

"Oof trans men are being shat on for "basically being cis men" and it's so annoy--" If we love cis men then it won't be an issue.

"Oof amab nonbinary people are constantly shoved out because they're mistaken for cis men--" If we love cis men then it won't be an issue.

"Oof transfems in the beginning of their transition are being rejected for looking like cis men--" If we love cis men then it won't be an issue.

I could list hundreds of more examples, but the point is that a lot of our infighting is because of this strange hatred of cis men, to the point where people do everything in their power to make sure that a cis man can never enter a queer space.

We can't clear up some of the transmisandry in the community if we still try to remove cis men.

We can't clear up the misgendering and exclusion faced by amab nonbinary people if we still try to remove cis men.

We can't make transfems feel protected and welcome at all stages of transition if we still try to remove cis men.

And yes, I meant what I said earlier with "love". Just tolerating cis men won't be enough, we have to actually appreciate their existence.

There is no way, no reality, where we can cling to the terf idea of cis men being satan without dragging queer people into the crossfire.

[oarfishing]

Alright, I'm sick of seeing TERFisms on my dash, so here's a handy list of TERF dogwhistles and talking points to think about before you reblog a post.

I've seen a few of these before, but it doesn't hurt to make more. Especially when we're seeing a lot of radfem rhetoric popping up in LGBT spaces from people who might not know better.

SCREENNAMES: these are terms that commonly appear in radfem usernames across the web

rad or radical

fem or femme

vulva, clit, uterus, womb, ovary, vagina, etc.

febfem

anything along the lines of "angry woman"

xx or chromosomes

wombyn, wimmin, womyn, etc.

LGB

feminist

BIOS: things that show up in radfem bios

♀ or ⚢

febfem

female separatist

female, human female, adult human female

xx

something along the lines of "the scary feminist you were warned about"; being an angry woman, being sick of being silenced, being an evil woman, being an angry lesbian

detrans (NOTE: detrans people are absolutely not always transphobic)

dysphoric female

males/men do not interact

LGB✂️

misandrist

feminist (NOTE: again, very few feminists are actually terfs, but this is commonly in terf bios alongside some of these other terms)

TERMS: terms that radfems use in their circles

TIM - trans-identified male, a way of saying transfems, trans women, and other trans people

TIF - trans-identified female, same as above but the other way around, less commonly seen

DSD - disorder of sexual development, a way to avoid saying intersex and to categorize intersex people as "still male or female" (you might see "males with DSD" or "females with DSD" for example)

females or males instead of women and men

alternatively, women and males to dehumanize men

"peaking" or "peaked" - referring to becoming radicalized as a radfem or TERF

womyn, wombyn, wimmin, wo**n, and any other spelling that takes "man" out of the term woman

mentally ill men/women

sex-based oppression

gender critical

"TIRF" - trans-inclusive radical feminist (don't be fooled by the name, they're very much not)

TRA - trans rights activist, derogatory

sex-based rights

female separatism/"women's land"

WBW - womyn-born womyn

autistic girls/children

troon - (ridiculous) slur for trans people

RHETORIC: general ideological themes in radfem rhetoric

men are inherently more violent than women

women don't or rarely rape men

(woman on woman rape is ignored by almost all radfems)

being nonbinary is a way to "stop being" your assigned sex while still acting as your birth sex

lesbians are not attracted to men/penises and can never have sex with men/penises (otherwise, you're bisexual)

men can and will never be lesbians

there is no such thing as a bi lesbian, only lesbians and bisexuals. labels are rigid and sex-based

all of the world's suffering is driven by men

women would be better off separate

an all-female society is utopia

sex is binary, and intersex people are "glitches" or "still male or female but DisorderedTM"

men should expect to be feared by women

female/female relationships are safer and more pure than straight or gay male relationships

men and women are more different than similar

intersex people should not be allowed in sports

intersex people and trans men are never in men's sports

terrible world events wouldn't have happened if women were in charge

men are stupid and aggressive

being a man is not a positive thing

men's problems are lesser than women's

penises are disgusting and vaginas and vulvas are beautiful

trans women are performing at being girls

trans men see themselves as above lesbians

attraction is sex-based

porn is rape

porn is inherently violent

watching porn makes you predisposed to inflicting abuse

BDSM is inherently violent and misogynistic

transitioning children (whether socially or medically) are being abused

"bitch" and "cunt" are slurs against women

only gay men can say faggot and only lesbian women can say dyke

When you see a few or more of these together, RUN! It's a terf.

[fangirl-nadir]

I hate how much of the feminism tag is overrun by terfs. Feminism is for everyone, bitches.

[butchbarbieagainstterfs]

they died after being attacked in a bathroom.

hey “gender criticals”? this child’s death is as much on you as it is on your conservative attack dogs.

rest in peace, nex. I’m so sorry. my thoughts are with those who loved and supported you 💔

[lgbtqtext]

[boreal-sea]

Actually feminists want you to shut the fuck up about how much you hate men and males. Yeah we voted. We decided it's actually super uncool to hate half of humanity due to something beyond their control.

[fixing-bad-posts]

♡ always, "death to terfs" ♡