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[stupldappie4]

Hideo Kojima just reposted bosselot yaoi on his main twitter account

[punkitt-is-here]

Hi, I'm genuinely looking for an explanation here and not looking for an argument /srs

Can you explain how calling a transfem a TERF for spreading ideology that I genuinely assumed was included in the definition of TERFism is othering ? Not to be that guy, but I'm autistic and I'm having a very hard time connecting the points you're making, and I genuinely want to learn and understand what you're saying /gen

Again, I do hope this doesn't come off as hostile, I am genuinely trying to learn and understand better, and I want to be able to fix misconceptions about what a TERF is in my own mind, and I haven't seen anyone bring this point up before /gen

You absolutely do not have to answer this, but I hope you have a fabulous rest of your day, and I do apologize for what I said, as it wasn't necessary for me to comment on the situation.

Yeah totally! Okay, I got a lot of this from Ibram X. Kendi's "How to be Antiracist"* where he talks about describing "racist" as an identity means that hardly anyone is going to ever "identify" with it, even if they are a racist. It's much more helpful to talk about actions being racist or anti-racist. Someone committing racist acts speaks far more to the vulnerability of anyone to cause harm, rather than it being something ONLY reserved for someone with the identity of "racist". For example, Clarence Thomas, a black man, has done untold amounts of harm to the black population in the US. If we subscribe to the "oh, (X) can't be racist, they are (a minority)" train of thought, it means people are less likely to understand that Clarence Thomas commits racist acts. In the same way, describing yourself as an anti-racist is not enough, as it can let people be comfortable with racist actions because they think "oh, I'm an anti-racist, I can't commit acts of racial harm." That's why it's more helpful to describe acts as racist and anti-racist rather than framing them as identities.

In a similar way, describing someone as the label of "TERF" can have a similar effect. Because it's specifically a label centered around being anti-trans, transgender people of all kinds will easily assume they cannot be transphobic, because the label of TERF is ideologically opposed to their existence. It invites ridicule rather than introspection. By saying actions can be transphobic, I think it helps a lot more because it's easier to understand that trans people can be transphobic. For example, Blaire White is right there. Despite being a trans woman, she is actively doing transphobic acts. By calling out an action as transphobic rather than describing someone as a "TERF", it helps fight back against the idea that being trans means you cannot be transphobic. For a super duper simple example, I can step on my dogs tail, but it doesn't mean I hate dogs, it means I committed an act of harm against my dog. Describing me as a dog-hater when I LOVE dogs would invite ridicule more than it would a tendency to watch my step when my dog is in the house. I hope this makes sense!

*I'm not trying to say the Black and Trans experience is exactly the same, just that like any oppressed group, there is a lot of overlap in tactics and thinking, especially for people who are Black and Trans. Reading about other groups can really give you a ton of helpful insight on how to work within your own identity!

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it's cute when the vacuum goes over like a crumb or something and you can hear it go the whole way up her tube

[tragedy-machine]

no respect for edwin's pomade, smh

Happy birthday @rexrevri !!!

[miyakuli]

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[thiamsalphas-blog]

literally me with inglorious roommates and nights like these, those thiam fics fucked up my life :))

respectfully

when the fic is so good you need to exit out of the browser app and scroll on tumblr for a few minutes to process what you’re reading

[punkitt-is-here]

sitcom

[wormzandgutz]

enjoying earthspark

[miyakuli]

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[hunybody]

this post breeched containment so i have apologies to issue!!

firstly: i am so, so sorry i used a jovial, lighthearted tone AND a sports metaphor in the same post. i know that we on tumblr struggle to decipher both those things, and that doing both was cruel of me. i should have said something like 'training your voice for broadway' and i will going forward.

secondly: from the bottom of my heart, genuinely, my bad for not direct messaging each and every user on this website warning them i was about to make this lighthearted post about parenthood. i should have considered all of you had bad childhoods. and that your moms hated you or whatever. going forward, i will make sure to do that.

lastly, and this is less an apology and more of a note: have any of you ever noticed your tendency to see a post that is cheerful, perhaps even full of whimsy, and then turn the vibes rancid? due to your inability to make your own stupid ass posts? why do you think that happens to you? it's never happened to me, personally, so i couldn't give any advice on this. it's just something i've noticed.

thank you all for your understanding and patience as i grow <3

people should talk about parenting like they talk about professional sports. you can do this if you work really hard and sacrifice your body and your sleep and other passions and activities. you've got to really want it. you've got to want it more than anything else. and 70% of the people who THINK they want to be parents actually look at the hard work and think. ok. nevermind i will be a childless barista (equally noble passion). and i think everyone should cheer and clap when parents bring their children home like they would if they won olympic gold. this would fix a lot about society

[fxrmeldehyde]

KIT WE NEED TO COOK!!!!

[0x4468c7a6a728]

doll joint tights are really cute...

[peridotite]

i love arcane

[olympeline]

This is the extremely annoying obsessive bottom!England fans who make him a weak, whiny crybaby vs. the equally annoying obsessive top!England fans who make him either an unfunny one note, crusty old man joke or a flat smirky top who has no personality beyond sticking his dick in weak, uke-fied America