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nudibutch · 5 months ago

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as someone who has unknowingly been in a "mentally unstable femme/do anything for you butch" [i was the do anything for you butch] dynamic i have to say it did severe damage to me and my idea of self worth. i was walked on in horrendous ways. i was not treated like a human or a person with feelings. i was manipulated. i was sexually coerced to do things that no one should ask someone else to do. it has taken me the better part of a decade to recognize the damage this did to me, and it took a strong network of friends (and a particularly supportive and protective femme friend) to help me realize that i deserved to be treated like a person.

i am really tired of seeing butches and femmes alike endorse the idea this is uwucute. its not. its extremely damaging. butches, please find your self worth. recognize that you have needs too. femmes, respect that butches are people. saying mentally unstable femmes use service-oriented butches is downright wrong and disrespectful. i dont care if its a joke or memepost. im exhausted. i know there is a lot of loneliness in being butch and femme. but we don't need to be glorifying unhealthy relationship dynamics, even as a joke. you can get the dynamic you seek (dominance and control) from healthy individuals that respect your personhood. everyone in the community deserves better.

#this is all i have the energy to say for now #i have been in SEVERAL relationships where people that needed help used me instead.#and sometimes in terrible ways.#and i thought i had to tough it out or it was worth it because thats what love and devotion was about.#ITS NOT.#the moment you have to stifle your feelings comfort or self worth is the moment it becomes a problem #the moment we conflate manipulation due to emotional instability with NEGOTIATED manipulation is the moment we are disrepecting all involve #slug.txt

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thewi110w · 1 month ago

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Asagiri thinks he's SO funny giving akutagawa amnesia!!

#its not.#he is not funny.#in shambles.#bsd #bungo gay dogs #bungou stray dogs #bsd akutagawa #akutagawa ryuunosuke #bsd 119 #bsd chapter 119

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justlikearat · 1 month ago

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Idk i feel like ppl constantly comparing valgrace to labaru is weird but whatever.

Like. Yk what. sure, Jason and Laios. Whatever. I can see it. Wolf guys who are blonde and autistic. Sure. If you want to draw comparisons im fine with that.

Leo and Kabaru? The only thing they have in common is that theyre both brown. They're nothing alike and there is really no reason to compare the ships bc the dynamic is also nothing alike!

#Like im actually very tired of people being like #Omg this is so valgrace!#Its not.#Its really not.#It bothers me #Ofc lets boil down two poc just bc the white part of thier ship r kind of simmilar!#This is more a problem with ppl in pjo but.#leo valdez #jason grace #valgrace #like. come on #I also keep on seeing a lot of people finding white guy x hispanic man ships and being like #Valgrace core!!#NO! Stop please #It really gets on my nerves.#This isnt abt any one person i just keep on seeing it.

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zagreus-eats-your-bread · 9 months ago

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Star Trek: New Frontier is so cool. I wish it was good

#if youre here from the star trek tagbignore these #its not.#st:nf if pete wasnt so sexist #something could be said in general about how no one but voyager could write Vulcan characters withiut having their whole thing be:#dont be so vulcan. you need to show your emotions #but particularly in new frontier its like. ok so one of them gets pregnant immediately and the other is really ooc for vulcans and it is #constantly brought up how unusually emotional she is. cant even tell if its a womna or a vulcan thing for the author both seem very likely #also for soleta its like 'well she is half romulan so she is more emotional' WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT #VULCAN EMOTIONS ARE CANONICALLY SO STRONG THEY MADE A WHOLE CULTURE ABOUT SURPRESSING THEM. THEIR BIOLOGY IS THE SAMEE #anyway little rant #i might write a whole blog post about how vulcans are approached for most of star trek #st:nf #star trek

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felidaefatigue · 7 months ago

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Happy Nona Palona Day.

#its not.#im just thinking abt her #tlt

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