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the tradwife movement is the same as it has always been - back in the kitchen, back to breeding - it just has better branding.
when i was younger, i hated pink. i was not like other girls. this is now something i'm embarrassed of - this was not me being a "girl's girl."
but it was expressing something many of us felt at the time: i literally wasn't what girlhood was supposed to be. this is a hard thing to explain, but you know when you're not performing girlhood correctly. it isn't as easy as "i liked x when girls liked y" - because there were other girls that liked x, too - but i never figured out exactly the correct way to like x, or to be interested in y.
now there is the divine feminine. this is the same rhetoric it has always been: women are biologically driven to like pink and ribbons and submitting to our husbands.
the problem is that the patriarchy found a better PR team. because yes, actually, i want every woman to have the choice to be a homemaker. i also want her taken seriously for her legitimate home-making labor. i want her to be recognized as also having a job, just unpaid. i want men to have this opportunity, too.
but it is no longer "i made this choice and I love it." instead it is a sixteen-paragraph rant about how selfish it is that my generation isn't having kids. instead it's long videos about how if you feed your children processed foods, you're going to kill them. instead it is "this is what womanhood is supposed to be. i feel bad for any other choices you're making."
the shame spiral is just prettier. it is large houses devoid of personality. it is the implication: if you don't have this, you aren't happy. the solid, everlasting assurance: women are actually supposed to be submitting. this is the default. this is the natural state of things. all other attempts inflict suffering.
but you can no longer say i'm not like other girls. you can no longer reject this image completely. you cannot find it revolting, even if you know that the underbelly is toxic and festering. sure, it is the same repackaged patriarchy. but the internet does not have shades of grey. you should support and reward other women! your disgust is actually internalized misogyny. not because you are seeing a vision of yourself the way they're trying to train you to be. not because you feel her ghost pass within an inch of your earlobe. not because your father will eventually ask you - why can't you be like her?
because they figured out how to make it beautiful: women will sell other women on this idea, and we will find the singular loophole in feminism. sure, she's shaming you in most of her videos. sure, she implies that a different life is obscene. but she just wants you to be happy! you'd be happier if you were listening!
and the whole time you're sitting there thinking: i'd actually just be happier if i had that kind of money.
#spilled ink#writeblr#warm up#this is an incredibly difficult idea to express#but i basically keep watching the same timelooped interaction:#someone makes tradwife content where she's like ''i think it's SO sad when ppl don't have kids EW''#and then the response is ''... go fuck yourself? i think ur life is miserable and bad ?"#and instead of being like ''oh we are all under capitalism huh''#the response is like ''you CANT say that. she made a CHOICE. she is ALLOWED to have KIDS and be HAPPY#unlike YOU who is UNHAPPY bc you don't have KIDS.''#like .... these are people who will throw the first stone. and then when you lob one back#they ask why you're so violent. they tell you that you're a bad activist.#and you're like. PARDON????? you implied being a woman meant i need to submit to my husband???#and they're like - well it's just my belief. so what if i'm invalidating your entire identity.
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Put those old records on
close upss
#art#they're everything to me#ive seen so many people draw them dancing and that fills my heart#my art#fiddauthor#fiddleford mcgucket#stanford pines#gravity falls#the book of bill#there's something hidden if you can find it ;)#it ain't really that difficult to find there's not much happening lmao
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[ID in ALT] I've made posts before about Talia/Dick co-parenting Damian moments (will never happen but let me dream) and this came to me in a vision. Took me ages to finish for some reason 😭 and then even longer to post
#dc comics#dc#damian wayne#dick grayson#talia al ghul#batfamily#dc robin#nightwing#anyway. yes im a self-indulgent ''dick as damians secret third parent'' truther#like i DO think it's way more complex and nuanced than the schmoopy affectionate fan portrayal of it#they're brothers they're father and son they're partners they're the dynamic duo except only in past tense etc etc#but consider! I'm not immune to schmoopy affection in fanworks. it compells me despite itself#anyway it's technically not that crazy when it comes to dick and damian. they hug! often! at least they did#it's not as big a leap to these types of scenarios#also talia ''somewhat absent for complex reasons on both her and damians part but very loving and loved by her son'' al ghul#you will always be famous to me#son of the demon origin...bwahhh#anyway. someone made a comic kind of like this/like a post i made abt this topic#but way funnier bc dick and talia starting trying to beat each other up#so go look at that as well#anyway. it's been a somewhat difficult few weeks so I'm. desperately trying to take it easy#i got some reading with me (first vol of kevin smiths GA run that i found second hand and jaimes BB run vol 2!)#so we'll see how far i get through those. considering there's demons in my head telling me to re-read things (LET ME OUT!!!)#when i finish GA and BB i do plan on rereading robin 2021. as a treat to myself#it's a run I've really warmed up to as time went on#I'm keeping up w/ the current b&r run even though it is. admittedly very slow w/ some weird dialogue#i read it for the damian content more than anything. also nikas back so that's neat :]#idk I have a feeling that after absolute power shakes out we might get some more creative team switch ups#so if anyone at dc is interested in taking over the reigns on b&r...that could be very neat#mine
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Listen to me Suzanne Collins did not have to give Katniss and Peeta a history before the games. She did NOT have to do that. She could have just had their story begin when Peeta's name was called. She could have had them be total strangers until the moment of the reaping.
Like: "And the boy tribute is... Peeta Mellark!" Katniss: Who's that? Or she could have made them vaguely familiar with each other! Peeta's name is called and Katniss just thinks, Oh, I know that name! He's in my class, actually. Poor boy... Anyway!
Either way, SC could have written the rest of the story exactly the same! I think many authors would have done that! Because if Peeta's purpose in the book was to be Gale's competition, to be one of the 3 corners of a love triangle, THAT WOULD HAVE BEEN THE WAY TO DO IT!! But that's NOT how she did it because that's NOT what Peeta is.
And who is he? To Katniss, Peeta's someone who saved her and her family and received nothing in return except a beating. Peeta's someone she has had her eye on but has never worked up the courage to talk to. Peeta's someone she associates with kindness and hope. And all this before the start of the events of the book! Just because WE, the READERS, met Gale before Peeta and immediately felt a connection with him does NOT mean that was Katniss's experience! And that's what SC is trying to tell us!
To dismiss Katniss and Peeta's past as unimportant or inconsequential compared to whatever Katniss and Gale have in the present is to fundamentally misunderstand Katniss as a character and, as a result, condemn oneself to never fully understand the choices she makes in the future.
Suzanne Collins wrote it that way on purpose because she had something to say. And no one will ever be able to convince me that something wasn't "It was always going to be Peeta".
#thg#everlark#peeta mellark#katniss everdeen#the hunger games#sorry i hope this one's not too harsh#i just has to let it out lol#I'm not saying people only like gale because they misunderstand SC's writing#obviously everyone has preferences and that's great snd normal#but SC wrote Katniss to have preferences too?#and those preferences are pretty subtle at times I'll admit#but sometimes they're so glaringly obvious#i struggle to empathize with people who don't understand these books and honestly that's a me problem#but it really is difficult when people seem to hate Katniss because she didn't make THEIR choices#okay rant over
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going to therapy and venting to my therapist abt finding it difficult to gain motivation despite the adhd meds i'm & falling behind in my studies bc of that + the admin problems when school started & how my mom is contributing to all that and being met with support and understanding and then going home to my mom yelling and venting her frustration about how those things affect her onto me is so jarring even though it happens literally every fucking week
#i'm so tired#w the current economy it's smarter to live w ur parents for at least a few years after you turn 18 and can legally move out#plus it'd make it much easier for me to attend university#but i literally can't. like i'm complaining abt my mom specifically here but my dad's a problem too just in a diff way#like i can barely study even now partially bc of the way they treat me#imagine this but w university coursework#they're not abusive or awful parents#but they're so difficult#and i can't explain my pov bc w my mom i have to keep reassuring her bc she'll take things so personally#to the point where i can barely get more than one sentence out without being interrupted or having to interrupt myself to reassure her#and w my dad he listens but he either just doesn't rlly and thinks i should try harder or just makes an awkward face like 'that's life'#like guys i could get better advice from REDDIT#mecore
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yeah okay
He's into blondes
#laichil#chilaios#chillai#pick one please. please#finnsketches#not quite insane about them yet but so far they're compelling to me#suggestive#the style is Difficult#and I forgot chils shirt was black welp. welp#yeah i did trace alot of this i wont hide that. the tongue bit is very recognizable. i ripped the bg off a panel#anyway first ever dunmesh art 🎉🎉🎉#im taking a nap#chilchuck tims#laios touden
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they're nasty
#and they're matching each other freak#i made first edit..... and its these two......#alight motion is so difficult to understand and editing in general too but it was fun tho#leon kennedy#leon scott kennedy#leon s kennedy#oc#oc x canon#resident evil#resident evil 6#animation#edit
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It's funny to see how Fellow suffers in flight lessons lmaoo🥹🥹
#(how difficult it is for him especially with Gidel on the same broom 🥺🥺 aah it's so cute they're so brothers 😭)#twst fellow#twst ferro#twst gidel#twst video#twisted wonderland#.postochie
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he's just 🤚✊ always so fucking happy to see his best friend 😭😭
#sami rambles#the screenshots are so bad im so sorry#i just got really emotional about it#and ryan guzman's micro expressions are so fucking difficult to capture they're too quick#911 spoilers#911 show#buddie#evan buckley#eddie diaz#buck x eddie
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The second installment of this comic right here. In which the gang hangs out :) pages under the cut!
#The thing about repetitive panels is that they look easy but I have no process so they are in fact extremely difficult and I hate doing them#But they're IMPORTANT#Those last few panels look like an edgy music video but Im allowing myself to be cheesy. I can do whatever I want forever (sweating)#rayman#ramon#bullfrog captain laserhawk#dolph laserhawk#captain laserhawk#clh#clh fanart#three's aground#three's aground comic#alcohol#smoking#discussion of death#mentions of violence#violence mention#Like I have no idea how to tag tws hope that's ok#*vine noise* *sweeping hand gesture* look at all those tags#art
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thinking about the sully siblings and how Spider was smaller than them physically, but he was still their big brother, and the pure shenanigans it must cause.
like. they're so much bigger than him, but they no doubt still act like they're little compared to their brother at times.
like you want to tell me they don't hide behind him or lean over so they can rest their head on his shoulder or tuck under his arm. tell me they don't lay on top of him like he's their personal pillow.
its not odd to see all his siblings gathering around him, Kiri resting her head on Spi, while Lo'ak holds his arm, Tuk tucked against his waist, while 'tey rests his chin on Spi's head (he loves all the attention, even if he huffs and puffs like any good big brother). they look silly cause the kids have to crouch and twist and bend to use their brother as a leaning post, and he practically disappears under all their blue.
and that includes rough housing, even if it's unintentional. the kids jumping up for a piggyback ride even when they're nearly double if not triple Spider's size.
Tuk wanting to be carried around by her big brother all the time. Kiri accidentally tugging her brother too hard when excited to show him something. the boys teaming up against their brother when playing, forgetting he can hardly handle one of them, let alone both at once.
his siblings getting the rare chance for a sleepover and cuddling around him like a bunch of big cats. they're tucked around him, under him, on top of him, with just enough care to make sure he doesn't suffocate in his sleep.
when they need some loving, Spider has to beckon them down to give their foreheads a kiss or to wrap them up in a proper hug. Spider likes to tuck his siblings head to his chest with both his arms and squeeze them tight.
when he's got to give them a big brother chat, the kids have to be kneeled down so Spider doesn't have to stare up at them (he tends to kneel too, so they're eye to eye, cause when he looks down on them, they tuck their little ears and he feels bad).
like. they're just big babies that need their big brother to take care of them and love them, even if they're giants compared to him.
#they're big and tall and lanky and he's so little compared to them#but he loves giving them all the love and attention they need#he's the best big brother#he loves them to death#he does all the classic big brother things. even if its more difficult with the size different#and they're just his little baby siblings. they need all the same things as normal little siblings. regardless of their size#they're siblings your honor#and I love them so much its painful#avatar 2#avatar the way of water#spider socorro#miles spider socorro#miles socorro#neteyam#neteyam sully#lo'ak sully#lo'ak#tuk#tuk tuk#tuk sully#tuktirey#tuktirey sully#Kiri sully#avatar#atwow
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it's not that I don't think papyrus would dress gnc, I don't think HE thinks he dresses gnc. like you casually bring it up one day while complimenting his new skirt and he corrects you because "AS YOU CAN SEE, I WROTE "COOL DUDE" ON IT WITH A MARKER."
#which obviously makes it gender conforming. PHEW! THIS GENDER BUSINESS IS EASY. SANS WHY ARE PEOPLE SO DIFFICULT ABOUT IT#beats me. maybe they're just not as cool as you. NYEHEHEHE#<- voice of a man perpetually bordering a body dysmorphia crisis#undertale#papyrus
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The Bedside Manner Duo.
Bonus Poppys cause I had to really practice to figure out how to draw her waahah! Conventionally cute designs are hard for me....
#kamen rider exaid#poppy pipopapo#emu hojo#hiiro kagami#kamen rider#fan art#the show is punishing me for putting them into the 'do not separate' category right now.....#they're eachother's only friends lmao#sometimes i feel like i only draw cool stuff... i like to draw cute characters too sometimes aaahaha!#but i had to really work to get poppy right... not my usual wheelhouse#her skirt almost killed me but i survived#worth it. I love her.#give me the strength to not attempt to draw poppy's rider form... I think all the exaid suits would be difficult#I'm having a lot of fun with ExAid#Everybody else is so MEAN but I genuinely like all our heroes and even our villains!
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They won the lottery and inspired by Mr. Greg, they spent it all in one day by committing identity fraud.
Idk I took a second job and my brain is so fried right now. 😭
#connverse#Connie Maheswaran#Steven Quartz Universe#Lion SU#Body tired and brain fried 😬😵#Messy doodles in between commissions#skedoobles#steven universe#su#my shiz#They went to. I guess still in Empire City. 🤷♀️ And committed identity fraud. Lol#I can already imagine Connie's phone ringing while they're mingling with some rich persons and an anime song comes out. Then she'll#gaslight them about how it's the most sophisticated classy thing now. Or smthing like that RIP#Steven set himself out into making it difficult for himself because he's kinda bad at acting as a serious stoic dude. 😭#In fairness He IS a high profile individual being a son of a billionaire (millionaire?) and a Gem that has an intergalactic empire 🤔😆#Amd he HAS been tired and grumpy (?)#So maybe they can work with that into the act . Lmao I don't actually know what I'm talking about.#When the day ends they bail#Their ship name is peteronica that's so goofy sounding 😂
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if requests are okay, maybe agdt dream comforting/hugging agdt ink?
agdt dream and ink have an interesting dynamic
#they're good friends don't get me wrong#but when one of them sees the other as a masterpiece#a work of art - a symbol of a perfect 'character'#perceptions can get a bit wonky and difficult to understand#agdt#ag ink#ag dream#ink sans#dream sans#this isn't ship art so i'm not tagging it as a ship
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The autistic Stolas headcanon puts so much into perspective. Like whether Viv intended it to be this way or not, this can definitely be interpreted as an autistic man not understanding social cues and lacking empathy which his neurotypical antis just don't understand.
It's not an excuse, but this is what I mean when I say everybody babies autistic people until it comes to the uglier parts they can't romanticize
#“mental health matters” mfs when your social disorder makes it difficult for you to socialize properly#y'all infantilize autistic people so much you forgot it's a disorder that actually fucks up your life#and they're even less empathetic when the autistic person isn't a little kid#no wonder most of his fans are neurodivergent#hellaverse#helluva#helluva boss#stolas goetia#stolas#prince stolas#helluva boss stolas#helluva stolas#stolas and octavia#princess octavia#octavia#octavia goetia#octavia helluva boss#stolas helluva boss#stolitz#stolas x blitz
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