#'if you dont like children get therapy!!!' thats actually not going to make me like children any more. sorry.

[asexual-levia-tan]

anyway cold take but people who act like people who dont like children are the devil are so strange to me

[sapphic-sex-ed]

I know this is just a me problem & I need to just suck it up and deal with it but I feel... incredibly guilty about not wanting to have sex with my friends. For one, I've never had a friend actually want to engage in that with me so a part of it might be me feeling bad about "not being good enough", but another part of me feels like the queer community is advancing to new places that gives them more joy, freedom, and love and it feels like since the topic is so triggering to me (for no good reason mind you) that I just don't really belong? I haven't been able to talk to other queer people or go to pride events because I'm in such a small, homophobic town. But I feel like if I showed up to a queer event, I just wouldn't fit in and they just would not like me. Not only for looking overly masculine and kinda yucky (not in way thats celebrated in the queer community) after my transition, but because the accomodations I would need for my triggers would just be too unrealistic to expect them to accomodate to (I've been in therapy for nearly 10 yrs, unfortunately some triggers just dont go away). And also bc I'm a sapphic trans guy and ,, man idk if that would piss people off.

I just want to ask, is it okay if I still view sex as sacred for myself but don't think poorly of people who have casual sex or sex with friends? If anything, I'm envious of them for being able to have such a connection to their friends that I would never be comfortable having.

I’m glad to hear you’re seeing a therapist, it’s very clear from your ask that you’re struggling with very low self-worth and I’ve been there and it sucks.

As for your question itself — sex positivity and sex acceptance are about finding a sexuality that feels good for you and don’t shame those whose sexuality feels good to them but isn’t the same as yours. If sex is something sacred to you that is for you alone or only to share with a select few then that is always valid as long as it feels good to you. At the same time, having sex with friends and having multiple partners is just as valid as long as it’s what the people practicing it wants. Neither one has the right to shame or devalue the other.

I notice a pattern in your ask, where you make claims about how you feel people will respond to you. This is a normal thing our human brains do, but this anxiety seems to be preventing you from going out and trying. You think but you do not know that people wouldn’t accept you. Thou think but you do not know that you wouldn’t fit in. Internet queer discourse is poison basically and people in the irl communities are usually a lot more accepting. Online we kinda forget that we’re interacting with other people, but irl we can’t do that as easily (although dehumanization of minorities is a thing, so not impossible but it takes a lot more organized, structural effort). In Swedish we have this expression “provtänka” which roughly translates to “try-thinking” or “attempting-think” where we sort of say a thought we had to other people, usually friends, to try it out. It can be something beneficial like “wait isn’t it strange that inflation is up 4% but benefits have only increased by 2,6%?” and then we can all curse capitalism together. But it can also be (and this is a real example of a thing I said when I was 16) “there are so many bad parents like shouldn’t the government like make you take tests and and out a license for you to reproduce so no children get harmed” and your friends will rightfully go “no wtf??? That’s such an over-reach of government power what are you on???”. Like you try out a thought that you haven’t thought about that much or aren’t that invested in and you do a vibe check basically. Like that pregnancy thought was whack but I hadn’t really thought about it. Luckily my friends were reasonable people who asked what tf was wrong with me and explained why that was a horrible thing and I haven’t thought that way since. Online, you sorta either get jumped which has the effect of you doubling down on your not even fully formed opinion bc you get defensive, or you find other whack jobs who agree and that’s how radicalization happens.

So to the point bc I lost it bc that who I am as a person: people are a lot more forgiving offline and if someone has doubts initially, they’re less likely to voice them, and if they do they’re likely to get checked, and if they don’t just spending time with you will humanize you (which is why people from bigger cities are usually more open-minded, bc exposure to people different than them).

And a last point to wrap up: you write that you’re “envious of them for being able to have such a connection to their friends that I would never be comfortable having”. Relationships aren’t a hierarchy. Romantic relationships aren’t superior to friendships, and sex with friends isn’t superior to hook-ups or long-term partners, and partnered sex isn’t superior to solo sex. They’re different flavors and not everyone will like the same thing. I can’t stand olives but I love pineapple on pizza. I once dated a girl who despised potatoes. Neither is better than the other. I can’t really understand why she would hate potatoes and most people I believe find it strange, but like that’s just her preference. And I know many people find me strange for my choices in pizza toppings (pineapple, banana and curry).

That is to say: it sucks when you feel left out of some type of relationship you’ll never have — I’m an only child hand have always been envious of people with siblings — but that doesn’t mean that type is “better” or that that type of connection is “deeper” than what’s possible within the types of relationships that would fit you.

-mod liz

[homosexualmorelikehomiesexual]

goddddddddd saltburn is driving me crazy. specifically the interplay of emotional support and consent and deception and false fronts. elspeth is obsessed with other peoples trauma, but ultimately devoid of whats necessary to handle that type of situation with tact or kindness, because she can only interact with it as gossip. as a hypothetical. as entertainment. so she just sort of flies around it ineptly, tapping at the glass. moth to a flame. latches onto therapy speak buzzwords, the language and trappings of emotional intelligence. allows herself to be reassured and swayed by them when coming from oliver, even as they have no substance, no real meaning, only cheaply playing into her preconceived notions and reframing them as intellectual, moral, just. and she laps it up. shes drawn to other peoples suffering bc its an opportunity to play the saviour, which is why when oliver does it, it works so well on her. (which extends to felix and james as well!! suuuuper big white saviour complex going on there!!!!) and specifically as this all pertains to venetia.. her daughter is bulimic and has been hypersexual since 14. and she *knows* this. but she treats it as hot gossip to a man who is a virtual stranger, thus providing him the exact information he needs to manipulate said daughter. sees all of this mans red flags and invites him in because hes another project. another rescue lapdog to return to the shelter when she gets bored, just like pamela. pamela died. shed do anything for attention. and then we see how venetia ends, and oliver didnt even force her to do it. he just...enabled it. it sort of felt inevitable, didnt it? would venetia have done anything for attention, too? elspeth extending this motherly wing over everyone except her actual children. immediately pouncing on oliver with her whole "you can tell me anything, nothing will shock me" bit, right after everyones heard her ripping his story to shreds. the overbearing offer you cant refuse of motherly comfort that you know isnt in good faith, next to the children whove learned the hard way not to give into it, not to show their cards. and felix doing the exact same thing to oliver, prying until he makes up a sob story that allows felix to position himself as a rescuer. faux emotional support, not offered out of kindness, but shoved into your palms without consent. buy us another round (and we'll accept you. dont you want us to accept you? you ditched your only friend for us.) no really, we insist. dont duck out of your round. hey, i thought you might need some help on this one. god thats so awful. was it awful? it must be awful. you can tell me anything. are you going to behave? youre going to eat. i wont take no for an answer.

[crplpunkklavier]

ok i'm not going to make this one rebloggable, i'm not looking to have a discussion or start beef with anyone, especially not on a holiday. i just grow another stomach ulcer every time people on here get psychology so, so wrong. and i need to get this out or i'll explode.

that original original post is so annoying. why are you guys out there trying to one-up and gotcha your therapists. "why do all adults need therapy then?" they dont. they dont!!!! not all adults need therapy. what the fuck are you talking about.

the next one is also annoying. implying that any kid that "seems resilient" is simply repressing trauma to resurface later is so harmful?? what are you doing. some children are resilient!! it doesn't mean they'll never have problems, or never need therapy, or that they aren't still repressing something. even if a child seems resilient, yes of course it should still receive help. but acting like there is no resilience in children is going to just make people misinterpret actual resilient children and offer the wrong help. you'll end up digging for issues where there are none. assuming that every well-adjusted child is just repressing trauma and every adult needs therapy is a pointless doom mindset that helps nobody.

that FUCKING addition. first of all, that person sure seems to reblog from a lot of terfs. secondly, id love to see their sources. because, yes! there HAVE been a lot of studies on child resilience! and yes, if children receive social support after traumatic incidents, they come out more resilient than if they dont. thats.... not all though? what are you talking about, "ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS a result of the support they receive"?? its. its not. science doesnt work with "always," first of all. no serious study is going to claim that child resilience is "always" a result of support. we cant prove "always." nobody can. secondly, that is a GROSS SIMPLIFICATION of a VERY COMPLEX phenomenon, resilience. we still dont fully understand it. we have spent decades researching it, and we still dont think weve uncovered all factors that lead to child resilience. it is in fact still baffling to science just how resilient children can be, so i also honestly dont see why people are harping on a therapist for saying kids are resilient!! a big majority of them are!! and a big majority of children in fact receive social support!! most studies indicate that social support is in fact an important factor for resilience, but never the only one. if your parents dont support you, someone else might, or if your parents do support you, you still might grow up in the worst shithole in the world, and then sometimes you might come out resilient, sometimes you wont, and we dont know why. genetics could play a role. probably in some way they do, but we dont know how big a role it is. what im saying is, resilience can be the result of support kids receive, AMONG OTHER THINGS. i also dont understand what the fuck that person thinks they mean by "true resilience." resilience that isnt just ~hidden trauma~ i guess which apparently ~all adults~ have anyway.

ok. rant almost over. shit like this just gets me, because i know a lot of you are struggling, and i dont want you to get the wrong ideas about what did or didnt happen to you. some of you may have wonderful parents and youre still struggling and you dont feel resilient, and that doesnt necessarily mean that your parents did something horribly wrong. it may mean that something in your genes isnt working in your favor, or that every environmental factor was working against you and your parents.

or, an alternative that i personally find worse because i myself have struggled with it a lot: you may have horrible parents who didnt support you and you may still feel resilient. and if someone comes along and tells you that you can only be ~truly resilient~ if you had the social support, youll start wondering..... are you misremembering? were people supporting you, and youre being a monster by painting them as bad? are you maybe not resilient at all? are you really fucked up and are going to need therapy because all adults do?

you might. you might not. answers to these things are too complex for tumblr posts, and i certainly wouldnt trust people whose blogs are 50% terf reblogs and who claim that science has "proven" anything or that things are "always" a certain way. nothing ever is.

its shabbat and rosh hashanah so im going to only do the bare minimum here but since i was talking about sources earlier, i will say that if you'd like further reading on just how complex and undecided the research on resilience has been, i would point you, for example (there are so many sources), toward masten's papers "competence and resilience in development" (2006) and "resilience in developing systems" (2007), and sameroff & rosenblum's "psychosocial constraints on the development of resilience" (2006). peace and good night.

[weeswine]

Stuff I have noticed watching ST season 4 for the 5th or something time:

(Or just my rekindling of opinions and feelings)

Lucas wasn't a back stabber, he sent Jason and the crew to El and Hops old cabin (me too busy just focusing on Lucas (he is babygirl✨️))

Eddie isn't present for like 2 episodes and that is just a big wow [also Erica, miss her :(]

That classic shot of Eddie at the d&d table is not him being a dramatic whore™, rolling dice, but actually congratulating Erica

Why is Erica wearing the flag? Like slay and also the American theme song is playing but like girl?????

Erica supports the gays ✨️ (She probably is a gay 🇺🇲🇺🇸🇺🇲🇺🇸)

Angela still deserves that skate to the head [slayed !]

Murray is slay.

Still cant look at Robins outfit from the psych ward (sorry but yeah nah)

Alexei 😫

Jason is a leader but not a responsible or smart one, like he is hunting down a couple of 20 y/os and their half a dozen 14 y/o children??? And supporting his teammates to do the same (i didnt like him before but jeez dude)

also you can see his style of leadership of basketball and children hunting have some similarities sus

California Dreamin was played because ... *drumroll* THEY ARE IN CALIFORNIA!

The main group are the pick me girls of character developement (they dont develope like other characters~ they get desensitized and are used to death and gore *bites lip, tucks hair behind ear, giggles and pukes little*) but also geniuenly concerned for their sanity:

Argyle: Omg that dude dead, my 1st (?) death, the party is not here my dudes😔, wtf is happening, Ive never been through this, Im meant to deliver pizzas not dead bodies🍍🍍🍍

Byer boys + Mike: Oh my ✨️gawwdd✨️ Argyle get over it already ... like chop chop this agent died like 20 seconds ago move on !

(but they were in danger like Argyle indeed dude chop chop)

Does Yuri always just drug his coffee with sleepy pills? Like my guy thats not what coffee is meant to be used for, and the pills wouldve been low dosage cause unless Yuri is a maths wiz he wouldve been counting his mula for a while

Hop! Just dont have feet. At this point get rid of them! Get those 'orrid manky things outta 'ere!

The most horrific part of ST is not asshole Vecna and his gang, its just watching Hop get his feet dragged or him running around in the snow, no shoes, big cuts, the only thing keeping is feet on his body is Joyce, she is a super glue.

Vecna is more than just a piece of shit, hes the entire digestive system.

But him just targeting traumatised kids and touching them on the fore head, like: "Dw sweetie~ I'll fix you, shh is okay, you be nasty never again <3 Nurse Vecna will make you all better~ :)"

They are not nasty! They just been through some shit. Fuck you twerp

Freds visions with the funeral family giving ✨️Tisphone✨️ vibes ~♡

Early season 4 Mike is an asshole (dw it gets gayer *pats on head*)

Steve 🥰

Robin 😍

Nancy 😘

Eddie 🤩 (star fish boy)

Together united in harmony, they are the power Rangers💕💞✨️✨️

Dacre Montgomery (Billy) was in power Rangers (hes also aAussie which is just so oool)

Conspirewithme: #headcanons

Joyce could totally just go 1v1 brawl with the entirety of the upsidedown, Id pay to see it.

That guy who hired Robin and Steve who also worked at the arcade defo played d&d with Eddie at some point

I need to see El just have a giant therapy dog (think Perrito but Great Dame size)

Mike might be projecting Will onto El butttt he bi af, have you seen his cheekbones??? ( im watching a documentary on "Mike Gay????😱😱")

I am only up to the beggingin of episode 5, gods i hope this makes sense and im not accidently offending anyone

(Im a tag sl**)🐌

[youngpettyqueen]

Hawkeye wraps his arms around BJ’s neck and pulls him into a hug. BJ throws his arms around his middle and hugs back with strength that borders on crushing. He doesn’t complain, though. He just gets one hand up to cradle his head, combing his fingers through his paling hair as BJ squeezes him tight enough to pop his ribs out of place. He feels him inhale deep in his hair, feels his fingers dig anchor points into his back that very well might leave bruises.

“I’m here,” He murmurs quietly, “Just keep holding on till it feels real. I’m not goin’ anywhere anytime soon.”

BJ’s response is to bury his face in his shoulder. Hawkeye tilts his head against his, turning briefly so that he can plant a quick kiss to the messy hair there. BJ breathes in shaky inhales and shuddering exhales, trembling quietly in his arms like a frightened child. This place has a way of making frightened children of them all.

From Things That Cry In The Night, and—

“No, I call ‘em sexy, smokin’, maybe even pretty. But never beautiful,” Trapper gives Hawkeye’s shoulder a helpful nudge to get him to flop onto his back, “That’s only for you. Even when you look like you want me dead.” He teases.

Hawkeye gives him a dainty little wave. Trapper throws him a wink as he makes his exit, needing to move out before he can make the decision to shirk his duties and play nurse all day. He’d already done that once this week, and he doubts Henry will take kindly to his doing it a second time.

from It’s Not Chicken Soup, But It’s Good For The Soul, for the DVD commentary thing?

—No GFA Anon

you got it!! and dont worry about the 500 words thing anon (I saw your other message) i wasn't planning on being strict with it haha

things that cry in the night-

so one thing about me as a writer is I really really love writing hugs. this is because I think hugging is an elite action and I am a very huggy person. one of the main points of this fic was just to write a really good hug. one of those hugs thats like, deep-pressure therapy that feels like it could put you back together while youre breaking down in pieces. Hawkeye here is physically holding BJ together, gathering him up and trying to fit all those pieces together, while BJ is desperately clinging onto him as tight as he can because he needs to convince himself this is real, and part of him is terrified if he doesnt hold on as tight as he can, Hawkeye's going to vanish

Hawkeye very much gets what BJ's going through here. a lot of inspo for this fic came from Hawk's Nightmare, and me wanting to explore how BJ might react to having those extremely vivid nightmares. its why I had Hawkeye know what to say and what to do- he knows how this feels. I also imagine this isnt the first time this has happened, even if we never got a scene like this in canon

I was particularly proud of that last bit- "This place has a way of making frightened children of them all." I still really like it. I was drawing specifically on Hawkeye's experiences there, referencing how he often feels like a scared kid when it comes to this place and the war. he's seeing that childlike fear in BJ, and he sees it in others. its another reason he knows what to do and what to say- he knows how it feels

its not chicken soup, but its good for the soul-

yeah that first bit I still really, really love. "“No, I call ‘em sexy, smokin’, maybe even pretty. But never beautiful,”-" is the indicator that what Trapper feels for Hawkeye is different than what he feels for the nurses, specifically in that early seasons context of sleeping around with them a lot. I wanted to make it clear Trapper is still very much into the women, because the casual sex in the early seasons is something I actually love a lot and isnt something I would ever ignore in a fic, but it is meant to indicate that his relationship with and feelings towards Hawkeye are different. its romantic, not just attraction

that last part is also very cute for me haha. I did not dive into it in this fic, because it wasn't relevant and I was very very sick while writing so I did not have the energy to expand on a lot, but I like to think Trapper enjoys playing nurse whenever anybody in camp that he knows/is close with is sick/hurt. he's such a caring guy!! he's such a sweetheart, we see that come into play a lot with the kids, but also with Hawkeye and I would even say we see it sometimes with Margaret. so yeah, of course he would want to play nurse and fuss around

and the last bit there about Henry is just a really funny visual for me. Henry of course appreciates the sentiment- personally I HC that Henry did a lot of hovering and mother henning over Hawkeye after the events of Dr Pierce and Mr Hyde- but also. he kinda needs Trapper to work his shifts, if only so he doesnt have to deal with Frank's bitching about it

[teddy-feathers]

i am so upset i feel shakey and light

and nothing is actually wrong

im just still upset with my aunt

from yesterday and the day before

and its like. something really small stupid and petty

but it the day before yesterday

she said she doesnt believe men belong in womans sports

meaning whatever half decent or potentially accepting things she might say about trans people doesn't really mean shit

because she still sees trans woman as men

which. im not getting into the sport shit and like trying to figure out whats fair or not for a competition or how hormone therapy litterally changes somethings or how varied hormone levels are in afab women

im just stuck on the fact that she was like "i dont think children should be making permanent choices but when someones fully grown and gone over it they can do whatever they want"

because like yeah i get what happened to x child who was being given hormone therapy without anyone (including their own) knowledge of it was fucked up, and i get yeah kids do make choices that change and while there are methods of doing things that work around that i can understand why she would be hesitant to really accept that a kid can know anything about anything given her worldveiw.

but then to go "me dont belong in womans sports" tells me it does matter even if theyre adults. it does matter because *nothing* anyone does will make them "really" the gender theyre aiming for in her eyes.

and like. i already have fear and doubts that i am a man, or that im allowed to even try, or that i will every be enough even outside the gender issue.

and like. theres this movie. bicentennial man. where a robot is a person. and wants the same rights as human people. but hes a robot. so he goes through all sorts of modifications to be a human and at every stage hes basically told hes not human enough. and then he dies of old age like a human at 200 years old and theyre like yeah alright youre a human.

it was shitty that he had to go through all that to be considered a human because he was a person the whole time. but there was a fucking achievable goal where he was human enough.

and me who doesnt know if i want to go through all the steps can go "alright i havent done xyz so sure im not *really* a man" and be comfortated by the fact there are steps and i could do all of them and i would be "really" a man - cant even have that. because it will *never* be enough for some people.

which. fuck most people yanno? im doing whatever for me and what makes me happy.

but like. you want to have a relationship with your fam. and like. i dont know enough about anything to explain "hey im a guy because i want to be, always have and even though i definitely dont knee jerk hate everything girl now and will end up being a very "girly" man id still like to start transitioning in baby steps to be a man" in a way that theyd understand because i cant write a hundred page sourced and cited fucking essay about it. but idve liked to think that if i *could* muster up the courage to write that essay or go through all the steps or both itd be enough. thered be a point where it was undeniable

that hey. even if i dont get it, youve crossed the finish line. youve done all the things. maybe i dont agree with you turning into a guy but you did it so thats a thing.

but like. theres all sorts of research and explanations and shit available. my aunt is very smart has.mamy degrees. does her own fact checking when she wants to know something. so like. while she may not agree with it, shes had every opertunity to go "i may not agree with it, but i dont have to to know its a thing that exists or happens even if i dont agree with it."

but nah. trans people are just in expensive elaborate drag for the fucking clout i guess.

and like. i *know* my mom is only ever going to see me as her little girl. and like. shes my mom. shell be supportive but fuck up pronouns because in her head ill always be her little girl. probably even if i grow a full beard. i can accept that.

and my dad is basically like he doesnt care what people do. i dont think he believes in it but if you want to do that to yourself thats non of his buisness yanno? doesnt really effect him. like hes an asshole and im sure hell tell me im being stupid but like at the same time if i want to go through all that on my head so be it.

im sure theyll all have questions i cant answer or want proof that theyll shut down with other things that are also true.

but like. my aunt is going to be a real actual hateful problem.

and she wants to be petty about us promising to play a card game and both sides assuming a different time for it.

i cant even begin to deal with how upset that makes me.

[ranhaitanisgf]

I DONT TRUST RYUSEIS FRIEND AT ALL BRO IDK HOW PEOPLE SHIP THEM 😧😧

ALSO I WAS THINKING THE EXACT SAME THING WHEN READING IT BC I WAS LIKE “there’s gotta be a reason this amazingly written character isn’t in the main series” LIKE HES NOWHERE TO BE FOUND EVEN IN THE BACKGROUND ??

IF THEY KILL HIM OFF ILL ACTUALLY COMBUST INTO TEARS HES SO FUNNY AND ADORABLE 😭😭

also YES chifuyu and baji’s friendship is amazing , but i’ll always be so attached to chifuyu and takemichi bond <3

there’s sometime so sweet about how he quit his job for takemichi during the kanto arc bc he believes in him so much , how when he returns to the kanto arc he goes to chifuyu FIRST despite multiple people now knowing about his powers , and how chifuyu was so loyal to him that makes my heart melt everytime they’re on screen.

( when they have to tell toman that emma passed away and everyone starts leaving , chifuyu says to takemichi it’s a double suicide I CRIED BC OF HOW AMAZING CHIFUYU WAS FOR THAT !! HE WAS SO READY TO FIGHT TENJUKU WITH TAKEMICHI ALONE, THATS TRUE FRIENDSHIP )

like i said , i could go on and on about my admiration for chifuyu for literally HOURS 😭😭

(everyone in the show below the age of 17 i have officially adopted, they’re all my children ESPECIALLY YOU KAZUTORA)

PEOPLE SHIP THEM ??????????? 😨😨😨😨 WHATTTTTTTTTT ........ thats sooo crazy to me cause his friend is LITERALLY INSANE like he does not need a relationship he needs therapy ... srsly tho if they kill of ryusei ooooo its gna be how i feel abt jjk .... wakui when i catch you wakui ....

ALSO UR SOO RIGHT !!! chifuyu is literally the ride or die for takemichi !! in that one future where kisaki kills him, chifuyu literally trusts takemichi so much that he leaves toman w/ him even tho takemichi was technically turned bad ??? W/O KNOWING ABT HIS TIME TRAVEL TOO !!!! also the double suicide scene is just ooouuuggghhhh SO POWERFUL !!! +so cute like the way chifuyu always has his back ahhhh !! i cant wait for final arc to get animated too cause its gna show all the other amazing friendship scenes between them !!

+++ the fact that everyone is literally like 14/15-16 ??? CRAZY . i dont blame takemichi for cryin cause even at my big age if i was goin through all that i would be bawling my eyes out too tf !! its scary shit !! (why did michi never learn to fight tho like dawg ... ur surrounded by all these super good fighters and u never learned / asked how to fight ?? cmon now ...)

[3dayweeknd]

this is gonna be another dumb rant. its giving privileged

no tw

during the middle of dinner we were talking about if I move out will i take the dogs and I said if im aloneand long distance at vet school i dont think i could handle it. like maybe right now if it was me and my brother sure but not if its just me while im literally in med school. anyway all of the sudden my dad is all serious like mom if you hate them so much we should get rid of them genuinely. like im serious mom u hate them soo much we should get rid of them. like what the fuck that was so random. shes like no we're not gonna do that like i'm exaggerating i dont hate them etc etc whatever. and he just kept fucking going like nuh uh i know u hate them and if it makes so u mad we should give them up. and shes like ok lindsey is sitting right there. let's not traumatize her by suddenly getting rid of the dogs. and shes right. and hes like i dont give a fuck i'd rather lindsey has to go to therapy to deal with it than see u escalate your "hatred" of the dogs. like what the fuck dude. thats actually fucked up. first of all my mom would never hurt the dogs. she gives them more care than you have ever given. second of all, what the fuck. what the fuck happened to you hating me being in therapy. I know real fucking well that if you for some reason did go through with it, you would tell me to deal with it on my own. you would shame me for needing therapy and for mourning. i never want to be like him it makes me so mad. you got these dogs by your own choice when i was a child this is on you because you were a grown man and you for some reason did not think to discuss with or even notify your wife that animals were coming home. and you think living beings are so easily disposable you are so fucking privileged you think you can drop your animal off with strangers and never think of them again well fuck you. you should have thought of the commitment when you brought them home. and promising your children things just to constantly threaten taking it away is yet another fucked up thing I never want to do and i hope i never have children so you never get the chance to do that to them. oh lindsey let get a dog, oh now you (a 10 year old) won't walk them well lets throw them away. oh lindsey here's a rabbit you love rabbits well guess what even though you're 10 years old i'm making you responsible for a whole living thing. oh no why are you mad at me years later oh no why do you face constant guilt as an adult about some dumb fucking rabbit. stupid fuckinghhhhh it makes me so mad. you can't promise things and use them as threats you cant promise things and take them away you cant promise to care for a living being and act like it's disposable. it's a dog its not a toy its not an accessory you cant abandon them when you are perfectly capable of giving care. you're not even a caretaker you walk them once or twice a day and maybe feed once. you have never seen a vet bill in your life you've never seen a medication in your life you've never trained in your life you don't know anything about my dogs. you never listen you never want to help. if i get the chance i will be getting them away from you. i never want to see you own another animal i never want you to discuss my animals with me again.

[astrayinasuit]

People love to act stupid on purpose, you were speaking facts.

Let me just get this out of the way

'Nothing actually has association to these objects, nothing has meaning, something cant be good or bad' Corny ass arguement, it holds no arguement since this defends everything but also lacks knowledge of concepts and the harms in the world today. Attractions can be bad like ones that involve kids thats why therapy is there and besides that this is just another way of just not giving a fuck about anything.

You make your own morality but these people clearly havent made one because nothing is bad or good to them it sounds very nihilistic to a point theyd let people murder eachother if so

Its things that should be discouraged

Also kinks cannot be queer idk why dumbass people keep saying that😭 Its like saying attraction can be queer. (I dont mean like two gays dating i mean straight people, man and woman dating and saying their attraction is lesbian). Kinks but specifically ones that INVOLVE graphic things and concepts behind them can be critiqued and seen as bad. Think.

In a society like this pedophillia, rape, incest etc. are glamorized, sexualized and romanticized. It wouldve quite literally been seen as normal just as misogyny and racism would be seen as normal. Those things are categorized as normal and are PUSHED.

Heavy on the pedophillia

(beauty standard, media, young & innocent, etc.)

Alot of paraphillias, pedophiles etc. i think are WAY more rare than people think. Its a build up of stimuli, 'entertainment', changing perspectives, porn and harmful concepts (that get turned into porn categories). That usually make people think oh im this im that but its quite rare. Its just what you were forced into within this society.

Its only common because thats what our society has done. People do not know how to dissociate trauma, things that are graphic topics to sex. I had to dissociate my own trauma from my sexual life honestly and it has been way better ever since.

They don't really care for the victims since it is only an attraction to them but therapy should be encouraged for victims who went through things and gained this. It is just turning the trauma into a porn category and associating it with stimuli. It doesn't make you better, you are what makes you better. Your body and you will get use to it and you'll have to learn how to undo it.

(This is for victims but ik a maj of people who have those attractions arent victims)

There are better kinks, you didn't automatically go into that. Like roleplay a prostitute and a police officer, complete sadism/masochism full on etc. There's so much and yet you choose the things that harm people.

Youre taking concepts that the victims couldnt even grasp and are taking it away to say hey lets make it into a porn category and distance it from how graphic it is.

These people have never came into contact with a child rape victim istg

This is coming from someone with cptsd and who has been raped by my family members and so much more since i was a baby (aunts since a baby, cousins, school members, teachers. alot okay). And have nieces, nephews and friends who are victims of rape. Even my aunt rapist was raped. I try to be the most understanding. I just hope these people get better or just open their mind more

Fiction / fantasy is broad -

Propaganda, stereotypes, csem and so much more falls under that yet we can see how it obviously effects humanity.

The mind - fiction - Stimuli - Physical world all have connections

Its a branch of harm

It might not be direct or seem so but it still is a concept and has its connections, its a branch of that harm and this product society has made. If society wasnt like this i bet half of these people wouldnt be acting up like this or if they had minds.

It normalizes it but also look into what fits with the mindset aswell

No association exists within these peoples heads. The sexualization of childrens clothes, language, ages and etc. Are fine. Porn is fine because it could be 'bdsm'. (I LIKE bdsm but not this. This is something else in my opinion.). Fiction is okay (Hentai. Fantasy and fiction go hand in hand by the way you have to defend both to defend one). Belle delphine

Like with cultures you get foods, clothing, language, music etc. That are associated with it obviously and this applies to different groups in the world. Including...Children.

I am not talking of age regression

I age regress myself i am talking of the sexualization of children (Yes, children. Everything is associated with children. Their ages, their clothing, their language, mannerisms, etc. You cant pull the 'well no children is ACTUALLY here so it doesnt matter!' And ignore that everything is associated with children. Its like a white person asian baiting tape and all then saying well! I am white so it doesn't count. Even though they say their culture is asian. (Prerending to be the childs age).)

The sexualization of minors clothes has been normalized for years and this will make it continue. Highschool girls cannot feel comfortable wearing their uniforms because it will be sexualized, children cannot wear two ponytails without feeling a bit anxious, children cannot even wear their clothes without having it sexualized.

This gives a whole other

Well... look what she was wearing despite it obviously being associated with children it gives a defendence, and so much more. But what makes this whole thing sad is that it involves people who cannot defend themselves

Also note how all of these people always turn younger and not older? How many old men do you think would use those terms if they were more popular? In a society like this.

You are quite literally the PRODUCT OF WHAT SOCIETY HAS MADE😭 and they think they are minorities when it is what the elders say too. How many old people do you think would be using that if those terms were more popular. Please undo all of that. But anyways you will have to literally deny a very big thing which is stupid but yh i already wrote about this but had to rant

- added

They use the same tactics and arguements my abusers and others abusers have used. Thats what really irks me, i was groomed into this. Seeing the same words my abusers uttered to convince me by these same people is so crazy its enough to dissociate. The way its like 'i use to think like you', 'normal people dont mind pedophillia, incest and rape etc!' and so much. It kind of breaks a part of me. Down playing it because it is a majority.

In a society like this of course no one cares of harm or minorities or the safety of victims but it hurts that in the same breath they act as if they are victims and are not the majority as if a majority of far right winged, bigoted old people, and so many more. Are with the exact same mindset. To see people say they dont give a fuck about victims of incest, pedophillia, rape etc. And nobody cares. Is so numbing, this is literally another way to dehumanize myself i try to stay away from things like that because they are just as stuck in that mindset like far right wings there is no point.

Imagine using the harm done and saying nobody gives a fuck about you.

Its such a level of what the fuck and saying that to the people, to many victims.

Its the same as 'nobody gives a fuck about racism, xenophobia etc irl! Normal people dont care about that'

To act as if people are insane for caring and thinking of concepts to reduce the harm that YOU and SOCIETY push and then act as if they are crazy. And you are the victim is insane.

It actually breaks my heart

thats why i am going to start writing information of others topics more often

Also know that people who are sane (dont hold any hatred for minorities and actually care for concerning topics) there are people like this. In this society where people implement this mindset yes it isnt common but there are still many people who agree. You arent alone <33

My mother who is in her mid 40s to my sister who is in her teens sees this as harm, there are many people in different générations who do care, acknowledge and see this as harm.

There are many normal people and they do see these topics as harm.

Lovely day to anyone reading this

"""incest pedophilia and rape kinks are subversive and inherently part of the queer/trans experience!!!"""

All of these radqweer "kinks" are extremely mainstream and are in fact practiced widely by the world's dominant oppressors. Cishet white men do this shit all the time. These evils are inherent to the system. They uphold the system. They are the bedrock that the whole corrupt system is built on. The system relies on these evils to function.

They are disgustingly banal.

It is not subversive nor radical to have these kinks. Your fucked up brain is the exact result of our society doing what it does best, perpetuating violence.

Will you fight against it? Or will you perish like a dog?

[despair-to-future-arcs]

sorry abt my last ask coming off as a little strong, the woh (especially masaru) are my favorite characters in the entire franchise and i get extremely defensive about characters i like. the anons that were saying kind of really horrible things about masaru and kotoko were what made me upset, so i do apologize. with that said, i still dont like that out of like 25 anons, one of them was trying to reason. whenever child characters do something wrong, i feel like people should at least try to explain to them what they did was wrong and why, and especially in the masaru anon’s case, it almost worked. if masaru didn’t think he was going to be yelled at, he probably would have gone and apologized after that anon, why not just help the other 3 too? if you went to nagisa and explained “hey yes you are very right to feel bad about these adults you hurt and the children, and while i do understand your point, if you wanna be forgiven and are actually sorry for what you did, maybe you should go apologize to the people you hurt and deal with the consequences”, then he could probably understand what went wrong and do what’s right. and masaru anon answer, again, if you tell him “hey they wont yell at you we can tell them not to” i bet you anything he will go and apologize. also, i do NOT like that the first thing they thought to do with the woh is execution. get them therapy, make them apologize, do all of this but don’t kill the kids, dude. i wanna give that one ‘dont kill them bcs then they’re martyrs” anon credit for what they said, ty ilysm. this is getting long and im probably gonna think of more bs to yell about later, but my closing thoughts are that i really hope future foundation changes their minds and just gets them therapy and stuff. (also, if this stuff i talked about was done before, tell me, bcs the only bit ive read from is the recent posts on the masaru tag, so i haven’t been caught up with the whole story as of yet. all i know is future foundation wants them dead for their crimes, saru and koto got beat down and all the anons except for a few hate them, so thats what my problem is. sry for the big block of text!!)

//Whoa, quite the long text you got there man!

//As for your ask - I do understand where your coming from; no one likes their favorite characters getting hurt or dealing with the consequences of their actions but if we don't suffer from them or deal with them then they won't learn from them or the mistakes they made; that is simply apart of growing up.

//As what Future Foundation will do, well... don't worry there is something that's going to happen and I do recommend to read the blog as I got some stuff plan for this blog. ^^

[raincamp]

08 05 2023

shall i talk about the dreaded intake appointment from thursday? the one i spent weeks avoiding? the one that's been the catalyst for my intense feelings of grief and rage for the past month?

uneventful, absolutely nothing happened, there was no fucking justifiable reason why i was so adamantly against it, why i made myself go through so much pain just to avoid doing it. my paranoia got the best of me again

the dude's fine and has made no effort to piss me off so far. he graciously took the third-chair in my treatment team, and refers to my primary therapist as if she's the one he's reporting to— because he is— and i really appreciate his recognition of the hierarchy here.

he said something like "i totally understand that you dont want to be here and you're just here to tick a box so you can get back to work with [primary therapist]," after i expressed my disinterest in his treatment plans. like. thank you for acknowledging the fact that i dont want to work with you, at all, and am here against my will.

he does IFS which I didn't know beforehand, i've actually always wanted to try IFS but prioritized DBT because i know that it works for me already. so im excited to try that? surprisingly? or at least just learn more about it. im a therapy nerd what can i say? i could talk about it for hours. i have talked about it for hours before, i have spent entire sessions talking meta about therapy.

idk why but i was kind of paranoid he would try to replace my PT but he hasnt made any effort to do so. i was able to talk about her, and mention superficially how my relationship with her has been a trigger for my cough dependence cough and like, it was kind of weird talking to a therapist about my sessions with another therapist? but he was totally chill with it, didn't say anything like "maybe you two aren't a good fit" (we are though) like the people at the hospital did. it was refreshing to say the least

hes very Christian though, went to my dad's rival Catholic highschool, has mentioned me doing 12 step, im a bit hesitant to trust for these reasons. he mentioned how he thinks addiction is a lack of spiritual completion or whatever, i think thats total absolute bullshit and i'm gonna tell him that the next session that i don't spend 76% of the time dissociating while he talks

hes a lot more personable than im used to, he started the intake by spending 8 minutes self-disclosing information about himself, which was such a weird experience to me. he told me he has a family and children and a wife, i have literally never had a therapist tell me about their home life before unless it was in context of my treatment.

another thing thats annoying me is lack of admistrative coordination. i was supposed to get emailed an ROI for my PT yesterday (still haven't) and a signed excuse note so that i can actually go to my session with my PT next week, and if I don't get those im fucked. like. i'm actually going to be so mad if his lack of organization prevents me from being able to see her. i am going to stab him.

he also has a lot less boundaries than im used to which i feel like might be a recipe for disaster considering the fact that im borderline. he mentioned in detail how he doesn't like the power imbalance between therapists and clients and how he thinks it should be more like we're on equal ground. he described this visually with his fingers interlacing. and like, i get it, but also, i need that seperation there. i need therapists to recognise that i cannot keep myself from becoming attached, and create that distance between us, and keep those little boundaries stable and reinforced so that i don't get triggered or somehow fuck up the relationship with my symptoms. yk?

like we can have a close therapeutic relationship without making it so that we're on equal ground or enmeshed with each other as per interlacing-finger-visual-description.

the lack of boundaries just worries me. like he just gave me his phone number and was like "text me if you need me" like do you realize that if there ever comes a time that my PT has abandoned me and i need help, you have now opened yourself up to me spam texting and/or splitting on you over the phone? i already abuse my phone coaching privileges and annoy the fuck out of my PT, if there weren't by-the-book boundaries in place with DBT our therapeutic relationship would have gone to shit by now. he also kept me 15 minutes over time even though he had another client after me? if i were that client I would've split on him and left. its giving unprofessionalism.

im definitely going to have to make him set clear boundaries with me, for saving my own dignity.

i dont hate him rn tho i think thats the most important thing

- andrew

[butch-bakugo]

Thats it, im talking about the perisexist aka intersexphobic side of terfs that needs to be addressed more often.

Like terfs fucking hate drag and call anyone, trans or cis, male or female, participating in it "sexual perverts" for wanting to expose children to it but claim you'll die a thousand deaths for gnc women? Bs. Drag is just gender nonconformity on fuckin steroids and it's not inherently sexual. Like why is a woman in a suit only ok to you if she walks around stateing that she is a woman but not ok if she dosent? Like yall are so trigger happy, you shoot at cis butch lesbians with short blue hair who arent actively talking about womanhood and vaginas and accuse her of being an evil tranny whose either a traitor to her fellow woman or a "tim" trying to identify as woman and making a mockery of gnc women.

Yall are so caught up on fuckin genitalia that you dont see the numerous poc cultures, non-christian religions, gnc people and intersex people you drown in your wake who were never aginest feminism but are too "trans-similar" for you to chill tf out. Ive had people tell me im "obviously a non-passing trans woman" just because im intersex with a beard.

Every single time ive addressed intersex people who can not, no matter how much you try, be sorted into male or female, ive been told we dont matter. Intersex people DO MATTER. Your not helping anyone but perisex, hormonally stable cis white women. Hormonally intersex afabs arnt gonna fucking want you, your telling them they dont matter. Physically intersex people raised as women arnt gonna want you, your telling them they dont fucking matter. Hyperandrogonious cis women dont want shit to do with you because your already accusing her of "clearly being a trans woman" because she can naturally grow a beard. The only femininity and women who benefit from terf shit are cis white gc perisex women.

Im not gonna throw away my native culture's gender variance for some white terf just because most white cultures are patriarchal. Im not gonna throw out my genderfluid religious practices for some catholic raised "anti-theist" terf who is one sentence away from saying islamophobic and anti-Semitic slurs just because she believes all muslims and jewish people are sexist and follow the sexist portions of their holy text.

I mean fuck, ive seen terfs advocate for hormonally intersex women to TAKE ESTROGEN so they look less "male" and act less "male". Ive seen them advocate for intersex (mostly afab) babies with intersex genitalia to go through Fgm, a thing they VEHEMENTLY hate just so shes more "female" and can fit their boxes better. Ive seen them say that testosterone makes you inherently violent and angry without dareing to see the actual fucking medical evidence that thats entirely untrue. Ive seen them adovocate for putting 10 year old sons of female rape victims out of shelters because "hes a man at that point" and "other women's safety comes first".... Over a hypothetical and soon to be hypothermic 10 year old boy. Some of them fully and shamelessly base their ideology around genuinely killing all men and male fetuses like... Fuck dude. I think you might need some therapy. Like i get feeling that way, im a victim of many men in my life and if i could choose a world where i can only interact with everyone but cis men, id choose it but im not advocating for the complete genocide of an entire group of people.

The way they talk about trans people smells all to familiar to any group thats gone through genocide and governmental oppression. Its similar to gay people, disabled people, women, poc, non-christians, everyone can see abit of the bigotry in their argument they see in their own oppressors and that should be a real big flashing sign that maybe terfism... Isnt the way to go. When i explain to people that radical feminism can be trans inclusive and its simply and active and deeper form of feminism, i get laughed at by both sides but its true. Tirfs do exist and they include trans and intersex and nonbinary people of all kinds and yes, that includes amabs and many progressives today would fall under that label. But heres the thing, modern day and previous forms of feminism in america have always benefited white cishet women. Susan b fucking anthony supported slavery and did not advocate for black women to be able to vote. Anti-gender variance ignores many poc cultures rich and accepting histories of transgenderism, nonbinarism and intersexuality. So many "pinnicles of feminism" that terfs hold up were racist or homophobic or anti-Semitic. Trans, nonbinary and intersex people are just white cis feminism's shiny new chew toy and they will get bored and pick a new target maybe 10 years from now. Probably disabled people.

I understand the anger many terfs carry but sympathy isnt needed here. Many of them actively ignore actual fact and relative understanding towards anything that questions their veiws and they are HAPPY to uplift racists and anti-semites and homophobes(See jk rowling) as long as their anti-trans messages are still singing. Someone who partners with the enemy to hurt others despite the enemy also supporting the things they supposedly advocate againest has no loyalty or shame. They are happy as long as they have a platform. Terfs would go on fox fucking news watching tucker carlson chuckle under his breath at their feminism and "pro-same sex attraction" ideology as long as they get that soundbite of a feminist not supporting trans pple to make all feminists, trans people and gay pple look fucking stupid.

Jk rowling isnt your fucking friend. Shes a mirror held up to YOUR community. One ive heard echos of sedmients made from outside it being ignored. Your litterally femcels. Ive seen terfs get upset at the ableism and racism within their own community thats upheld by white neurotypical women get utterly ignored. I have so many screenshots of white terfs saying the n word its not even funny yet when a tranny like me shows you evidence of the underlying racism in anti-trans/nonbinary rhetoric, you claim that theirs poc terfs. Ive seen white terfs call me a teepee n****r because i said native american people respected all genders and werent inherently patriarchal. Ive seen white terfs advocate for full on ETHNIC FUCKING CLEANSING of certain poc cultures because they had some patriarchal portions. BRUH. If your scrambling to find some crumb in your community to excuse its actions and cover up the evil everyone already pointed out, you should do some introspection into what your supporting.

Terfs dont even see the humanity in trans people or intersex people. Quoting a jewish youtuber talking about oppression he faced after trump endorsed the nazis in south carolina and said that jewish people and nazis should come to a compromise "when one side will never be happy unless their opposition is completely erraticated, there is no compromise. They simply wont stop until they are all dead or 'rehabilitated'. There is no conversation, there is only the eradication of the victims or the offending group.". Terfs are advocating for trans genocide and detranstion of those who remain. They shrink our numbers to deny us humanity and when they arnt celebrating the high trans suicide statistic, they are minimising it. They are no different from holocaust deniers, they just dont have as much support and the more of their own stances they are willing to let go of to take advantage of their shared opinions with alt-right and fascist platforms, the more their feminist and gay rights mask slip off to reveal the racist, antisemitic and hate filled rot underneath.

[icarusredwings]

It gets to the point where they start argueing about this and Wade is so angry and so upset that through grit teeth and hot tears

"Well, no one came to rescue ME!.... and I'll be damned if they ever feel abandoned like that."

And it's a big therapy moment. A massive "oh.... ouch... yeah that makes sense.." moment.

"But baby you dont even give me time to try. I-... I dont know.. how to do this I.. im learning."

And so, still full of anger and paternal rage he bites he starts biting his tounge. Coming and just.. standing there. Sometimes he's glaring simply because this type of crying just dosn't sit well with his Ptsd and immediately wants to put a stop to it and give the child justice. But he waits. He waits and watches as Logan fixes it.

Once the crying stops it kind of deactivates that little soilder inside of him that so desperately wants to keep his kids safe.

"I'm their father-"

"And that didn't fucking stop mine! Now, did it?"

"But Wade, I'm not him. I'll never be him."

"My mother stood there and watched it all without a word Logan. I won't-..." He's choking on his tears. "I- REFUSE.. to be like that."

"I get that, but you have to understand that you are not her. And I am not him. I would never hit them"

"Yeah because if you did I'd fucking kill you! Like actually find a way to kill you. I would put you under, drag your ass to the middle of the fucking ocean, and watch you drown! And when they ask where you wen-"

"Wade... Wade! Stop. Breathe. I know that you're scared and I know.. that.. your brain dosn't want to trust me. That you will never be able to trust anyone 100% with them. Ever... but please. I need you to trust me at least 90. Can you give me 90?" He asks, hands on his shoulder as he can already see his husband dry heaving, tears running down his face as hes already about to slip back into that state of protective violence.

"....you get 5 minutes." He states, walking away before he ends up saying or doing something he will regret.

So he starts getting 5 minutes to fix it.

5 minutes to make it all better.

5 minutes for his actions to prove to Wade that he can be trusted. That he doesn't have to go all winter soilder on his ass the moment he hears one of the kids crying.

"Kids cry wade. Its what they do."

"Youre their father. Youre not supposed to make them cry..."

But now things are better.

Now his head will snap the other way, and watch. Staring in that direction rather if someone is talking to him or not.

"Hush."

"Excus-"

"SHUT UP... one of my babies is crying...." so he stares. Watching as Logan comes to scoop up the little tyke that skinned their knee at the park and give them kisses. The crying still happens because obviously theyre spooked and probably hurt a wee bit, but seeing him fully take care of it switches off that instant rage and he turns back like "what were you saying?"

He just can't silence that scream in his head, telling him that Logan (or someone else) is hurting them, so it needs proof that he isn't (as bad as that sounds)

Hurting his poor little babies.

Esspecially if it IS a baby. Wade would be extremely over possesive over a baby. The older the kid gets (and if they have healing factors or not) the more chilled out Wade gets. At this point he expects Laura or Gabby to say something back so when one of them run off crying without a remark it really throws him back into that "What the fuck did you do!? You have 60 seconds to explain- Go." Mode.

He knows Ellie is a little more sensitive because of her truamas kids making fun of her for not being a mutant at a mutant school, but thats what chuck wanted. He wanted humans AND mutants to succeed in his school. Though sometimes Wades voices convince him that Logan loves Ellie less because shes not his "real daughter" and so they convience wade that logan is mean to her on purpose (this is a very VERY big effect on mental health type of HC)

With their other children, depending on how young, he can't help but have dreams of Logan killing them before their powers even come through or abandon them. Hes terrified of logan just deciding one day that he doesn't want to be their father anymore and just... dipping.

Traumatized🤝Not ideal parents 🤝 Traumatized

I can imagine something happening at the school and the MOMENT Logan hears about something happening instead of going to the kid he instantly has to track down his husband like Eliza Hamilton.

"I gotta go I gotta find Wade."

"Let him know we're on his side?"

"No- He'll consider this a personal slander, I gotta stop a homicide."

"OH-"

Thinking about how protective of his kids Wade would be. Like he does not give a fuck. Logan could be a little bit too harsh and make their child cry, and Wade would unload his gun plus an entire SECOND clip into his gut and then put his foot on his throat, lean in, and be like:

"Don't you EVER talk to my fucking kids like that ever again if you want to stay in this house. You're here because I let you be. I don't need you* I can just as easily replace you** and I sure as hell won't let you treat our children like how we were raised. Do I make myself clear?" And if Logan doesn't agree within a certian amount of time, Wade would just shoot him in the head and walk away.

"....Papa?"

"Yes sweetheart?"

"...what happened to daddy?"

"Daddys taking a nap honey. He'll be alright in a couple minutes don't worry baby. Hey are you okay? You know daddy doesn't mean the things he says, right?"

The child nods, wiping tears from their eyes as Wade hugs them and kisses their head. "Daddy wasn't hugged as a kid, that's all. Hey! We should order pizza! Would you like that?"

And they nod softely but are still concerned with the fact that they saw their dad (who by now is sitting up) bleeding out on the floor two seconds ago.

"Oooh, Heeeyyy. Well, mornin' sleepy head! How was your nap. I think you had something to say to you. Don't you, Wolvie?" 😃

"I... uhm... Sorry kiddo.. I- i didnt mean to yell at you like that.."

"Awww! Great! Now we can go to Vinnies as one big happy family! Yaaayy!" 😊

The moral of this story is- Wade Wilson don't play when it comes to his kids.

*lies.

**another lie.

[homeofhousechickens]

what's your opinion on keeping domesticated birds (like pigeons) vs non-domesticated birds (like parrots) inside?

I'm asking bc I really want a bird, and I have some experience with budgies from my childhood. But I'm morally conflicted about having non-domesticated birds indoors, even with all the enrichment and walks (flights?) I can give these birds. I've seen people say that it's more humane if they're bought from a breeder or refuge, but I'm still unsure.

(Keep in mind everytime you bring a bird outside there is a biosecurity risk and your bird could get sick especially a parrot)

Pigeons easily thrive in indoor conditions and can safely bond with their owners with no health repercussions.

Keep in mind when i say bond i mean mate bond. Fluffernutter and Loki see me as their wife and their is no negative health benefits for pigeons associated with that.

Below is a picture of Fluffernutter brooding a fake egg at my desk. This is something you absolutly shouldnt do with parrots as it can and will effect them negatively.

My pigeons are from various backgrounds and they all make great pets. I dont think that parrots can be so adaptable the same way.

Loki was orginally a feral, Fluffernutter was bred as part as therapy bird project, and Emilio was retired from that same project, but before that he was a show bird.

But back to parrots, I believe most parrots are not ment for captivity at all especially Cockatoos.

My friend has a Cockatoo that he loves very much, but he regrets having her, he regrets that Cockatoos are apart of the pet trade in the first place. They are so intelligent but are so prone to fungal infections and self harm/plucking, it doesnt matter if you have a really good set up like my friend does sometimes the bird just becomes obsessed with mutilating itself.. that shouldnt be so common.

I also think birds like cockatiels and budgies do "alright" in captivity but they are at the mercy of mill breeders and people who raise imprints (if you raise purposefully human imprinted parrots you make me want to rip my hair out)

Cockatiels are prone to hormonal issues and reproductive issues where hens are prone to chronic egg laying and prone to SCREAMING when hormonal almost constantly. Both Cockatiels and budgies are such a shit show health-wise due to the mill breeding.

I believe parrots just do best in a large outdoor aviary set up with lots of constant changing enrichment, parrots who are raised by their parents in these sort of setups seem to produce more functional children who are less prone to mutilation. If you ever met a wild caught parrot who has been tamed down the differences between them and a typical mill bird are like night and day.

I also have seen so many parrots bring their owners stress and mental breakdowns due to their noise, health issues and destructive capabilities. At some point its unethical to the human for them to have a parrot.

Can you handle your parrot destorying your electrical cords and technology? What about your walls? Can you handle it if the parrot hates you and bites you and screams at all hours? Could you still provide it the constant enrichment it needs even for a lifetime?

In my opinion i just feel like the average pet owner cant handle that, and thats okay! Parrots really shouldnt be seen as easy or common pets as they are wild animals.

If you still want to open up your home to one I feel like there are 2 ways to go about, rescue a bird who is in need of home, or buy from a breeder who doesnt imprint and is actually working towards domestication.

Sometimes i get people who message me afraid and ashamed that they own parrots and that im going to judge them and that makes me sad.

I just believe their is a bunch of unethical stuff going on in the pet parrot trade for both humans and parrots.

It sucks that both parrots and owners suffer due to mill breeders and poor ownership education.

Pigeons and chickens are just alot quieter and less destructive. You can cuddle them and safely diaper them and they just make phenomenal pets.

They have lived with us in our homes or in a coop/loft as our livestock/pets for thousands of years and are very adapted to us and we are honestly adapted to them as well.

If your interested in pigeons or chickens feel free to dm me but if your still more interested in parrots im sure i have some wonderful followers who may be able to give their opinion or help you find a parrot for your home. As this is a chicken blog and my specialty is chickens.

(I also think its a bit strange so many people have birds who are from countries that dont allow those same native birds to be pets, instead those people get domesticated pigeons, canaries, chickens, ect as pets so im wondering why the rest of the world cant do the same?)

[andy-deer]

Redemption in characters like Belos and shadoweaver is suicide most of the time. I like to think redemption irl happens a lot more, people has bigger growth potential and learning mechanisms than characters.

But lets be honest people are stupid af, more often than not they think redemption must be an equal recieved dmg, and they fail to aknowledge what an "inprove" is or how to be "at peace" at all.

I dont blame them, is not easy

Aknowledging the extent of the dmg is hard enough, with profesionals, training and a perfect comunication there aare still biases of interpretation

More often than not we will hurt people not noticing the dmg at all, firends, family. Blinded by your own way of thinking or by the objective fo the time being.

Im getting philosophical, King Andrias self exiled working the land as a self imposed punishment, and thats an acceptable redemption(?)

I think once dmg is done, its done. there is no going back and you can change and all you want, but its to late. And its interesting the kind of characters that go redeem with OTHER characters and then meet the abused in a now reformed state, but didnt give closure to the previous abused ones.

Like shadoweaver going allie and Catra meeting her

Oh the feelings the drama

Sorry for the long ask

Definitely a punch in the gut, to meet someone who neglected you or abused you, you know that scene of the Good place where Eleanor finds about her mom changing to live a better, honest life with a new family? " If Donna Shellstrop has truly changed, then that means she was always capable of change. But I just wasn't worth changing for." It's definitely an interesting dramatic and sad scene to have in your story.

And yes, the problem with today is that we look at redemption like that, equal punishment, when it's not, i don't want people who hurt me to go through pain I want them to recover. As much as I hate that person, because it means no other person has to go through what i did, that's redemption, actual change in future actions, the regret is not enough. (But we've been doing this since always and that idea is too knotted into our society, just look at prisons)

Also personally, I think redemption irl is not common, and less in people that are you know too far gone in their own self righteous way of living. It might be pessimistic but I don't think most want, or can afford to get help from a professional in today's political climate. My dad, my mom and me we should all get therapy but we can only afford mine. Which sucks because my father really REALLY needs it, and it doesn't help that he's overworked and does not want to be therapized because God knows why. I've known friend's parents who are addicts and misstreated everyone around them and refuse to change or even take two minutes for self reflection, who will cover their ears when their children points out their mistakes because they see every conversation as a fight instead of a possible introspective experience. (Which reminds me a TikTok of a psychologist talking about how speaking with a narcissist will make you feel crazy because the tactics they use is to specifically win the conversation and have more resources for later damage)

My point is I have that perspective of people not being able to change for the better because I think it's quite exclusive to being lucky and privileged. Too many personal experiences against it. (Not saying people can't change, just saying it's difficult and most adults don't, heck most adults don't even know what's going on with them because we're taught the emotional intelligence of a brick.)