#𖩨𖩣 ~ 🤍 Advice and tips ฅฅ

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~ ❛ . . And your own muse . . . ❜

ㅤㅤㅤㅤㅤ ㅤㅤ ୨ৎ 💭 , Tips for healing pain/trauma

ㅤㅤㅤㅤㅤ ㅤㅤ ୨ৎ 💭 , And turning it into a positive mindset

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🍥 ಎ How to cope/deal with pain & trauma healthily ?

୨୧┈୨୧ # 𝟙 ࣪𓇻 , , It's okay to cry, scream, and be emotional. ' '

~ 𓆩𓆪 When it comes to showing any sort of emotional hurt from the event, always show it. You can do this by . . .

Writing in a journal

Speaking to a licensed therapist

Talking to a trusted friend or adult

ㅤㅤㅤㅤㅤ . . . There are many other ways, but this is just a few. Always use healthy, and non-harmful ways to show these emotions. If you need to release anger, find something soft, like a pillow. Even just crying silently alone or with someone is healthier for your mental health than violence towards yourself and others.

୨୧┈୨୧ # 𝟚 ࣪𓇻 , , Always remember, it was never your fault . '

~ 𓆩𓆪 You may believe it is your fault, but it was never your fault. This is a hard thing to sometimes get inside your head for some since you may have thought of yourself as a bad person, but as long as you acknowledge your wrongs and improve yourself , then you are not a bad person. What actually makes a bad person is . . .

Someone abusive

People who see no wrong in their actions or words

Those who, when they did hurt someone, do not acknowledge their wrongs and refuse to improve themselves

. . . At first it may be difficult to see the wrong in your actions or words, However some tips to be more thoughtful before speaking or acting can be useful and helpful in conflict. it's always good to be understanding to the person who you've hurt and acknowledge their feelings, keep calm when in arguments or tense conflict , and never use insecurity as a weapon. Always be sure to constantly improve yourself as a person, but never think you have to change yourself to improve.

୨୧┈୨୧ # 𝟛 ࣪𓇻 , , It's okay to take a step back when needed . '

~ 𓆩𓆪 By taking a step back, this could mean in any form of conflict with a relationship, friendship, or even some stranger; If you feel yourself becoming angered or emotional, take a minute or two to recollect your thoughts and form a more calm and/or logical response to the said conflict. An example of this type of response would be . . .

" I understand you feel (feeling) , I will try my hardest to work on that and understand you better. "

" I will reply in a moment, I feel myself getting a bit (emotion) and need to recollect myself before responding. "

" Thank you for telling me how you feel about (thing/situation). I appreciate your communication so I can understand you better. "

. . . While it can be hard to not lash out in heated conflict and to just leave it for a minute or two, It's always the more mature and healthy way to handle conflict by just taking a step back before responding.

୨୧┈୨୧ # 𝟜 ࣪𓇻 , , Never be ashamed of how you feel or cope . '

~ 𓆩𓆪 If you feel a certain way when someone does a hurtful action or says something hurtful, always speak about it to the person directly and privately. If you cope in strange but healthy/non-harmful methods, it doesn't make your pain any less. So go and eat those chips, or do other things. A few ways to speak to someone about something that hurt you is . . .

" Hello, I just wanted to speak in private about (words/action) that hurt my feelings because (explain). I'd really appreciate if you could not (say/do) that to me. "

" Just wanted to talk to you privately real quick about what you (did/said) to me. It hurt my feelings because (explain) and I hope that you don't (say/do) that again please. Thank you. "

" I'm not sure if you meant to (say/do) '(action/words)' but it really hurt my feelings. I would appreciate it a lot if you didn't (say/do) that to me again. "

. . . While it's good to be understanding to others, you can never let yourself be walked on just because of your kindness. If something hurts you always speak to the person about it, or if it's a situation where it's dangerous to speak to them directly (ie: bully, abuser, parents) then talk to a trusted friend or adult who can get the help you may need.

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🍥 ಎ So, how can I have a more positive mindset ?

~ 𓆩𓆪 One way is to try to see the positive and light in all things. Of course with some things, you can't and that's okay! Some situations are going to be negative, and those are the ones you try to avoid or involve yourself in with caution.

. . . Another way is getting better sleep, participating in self-care, and even something as small as finding a new hobby that's relaxing. I always recommend to stay away from negative parts of social media like vent posts, vent blogs, or just sad social media posts/media in general. Instead try to indulge yourself more in motivational and inspirational quotes, recovery blogs, and anything in social media that is positive.

~ 𓆩𓆪 On the topic of positive media intake, positive media isn't always just your typical 'wonyoungism' pinterest or recovery blogs. If you enjoy tiktok, hopecore is an amazing # to look through and watch that shines light on things to bring positivity and hope. Media that gives you serotonin is also incredibly healthy for the brain and further brings a positive mindset.

. . . Always remember that sometimes, tips from people do not work on some, and that's okay! Everyone is different, and the journey to self-improvement and self-love can be twisty, windy, or just straight on. Nobody is the same, and nobody is perfect. The idea of self-improvement is to improve yourself as a person to begin the road to self-love and finding your own happiness. ♡♡