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[mental-health-advice]

Update update my partner needs a break and my abandonment issues aren't taking it well so I'm absolutely terrified that I just ruined the relationship by not being able to confirm the break,,,, -☆•

Hey there,

I am so sorry to hear that your partner needs a break and especially with all that you are currently already going through and with feeling so low! No wonder your abandonment issues are not taking it well at all!

I am not sure in what aspect your partner is wanting a break from (whether it be a complete break from you with no communication or whether you can still contact them but not as regularly) but are you able to ask them directly or send them a message asking if they are just needing a break or if they are rethinking the relationship as a whole? I think that even though doing this will be really hard, knowing first-hand what is going on can be most helpful as then we can deal with things as opposed to dwelling on all the what ifs and what you may have done wrong (which I doubt you have – done anything wrong that is!)

Try to be gently to yourself right now and know that what ever happens you can and will get through this. You have gotten through so much already and hopefully this is just a small hiccup and things will work out fine between your partner and you.

I really hope that this has helped a bit and please do let us know if we can help to support you in any other way and keep us updated if you wish/ want to!

I’m thinking of you and hope that you are otherwise going well!

Take care,

Lauren

[mental-health-advice]

Submission about worsening mental health, schooling, medication and living for another

Idk most of my mental health conditions and its getting bad

I know I've PTSD, Depression, Social Anxiety and an unspecified dissociative disorder. But there is more. Idek how to deal with it - my entire system refuses to go to a mental health hospital as none are in our town and we refuse to drop out of school -

We currently have an episode where every tiny inconvenience makes us want to delete our accounts everywhere, lock ourselves in our room and not come out. Pretend we never even existed to begin with. Every tiny things makes us wish we weren't here - not dead but just, nonexistent .

The only person that gets us to think happy thoughts is our partner system and maybe one close friend. We only want to stay on earth for our PS, they're our world and we so so look forward to living together and getting married one day, we love them so incredibly much.

I'm supposed to catch up on school but I feel like I'm too worthless, I'm supposed to take medication but I feel like I don't deserve it. I want to just lay in bed and rot away forever -(☆•)

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Like, nothing except my partner matters, nobody except them & maybe 1 friend matters.

We always put others first, we always when feeling shit are even more dedicated to our lived ones. It's a coping mechanism to just not think of our issues, make sure the one we love is happy, dedicate our entire existence to them & them only because making them happy and seeing them happy and knowing they feel loved by us makes us happy.

I don't need anyone else, I just need to be the best possible partner I can be.

Idk what causes this, we have symptoms of bpd so maybe there just our FP? Or if were autistic our PS is just our SpIn?

Idk what to do, we wanted them and them only. All ours.

Hey there,

It sounds as though a lot of things are happening for you right now. I’m so sorry that all of you are feeling so low and like that when even the smallest of things happens and you feel you have inconvenienced others, this causes you to want to delete all your accounts everywhere. This does make sense in that you don’t want to feel as though you are inconveniencing others and when you are already feeling so low, you feel as  though it you didn’t exist then things for others would be so much easier and they would be better off.

It's great that you have someone to live for but it makes me wonder if your partner system is enough when you are struggling so much already! You mentioned that you didn’t want to go to a mental hospital as there are none in your town, but is there a possibility you could see a counsellor or therapist that doesn’t work in a hospital? So therefore you will be able to receive the help and support you are needing but not in a place that will stress you or make you feel really anxious? Just an idea!

In regards to your schooling, try to do just a little bit at a time. You don’t have to catch up on school work all at once, ask if you can get an extension on things to help lesson your load and make things easier for you, less stressful.

I know how hard it can be at times to take medications, but please do try. You are on medication for a reason, but if you are finding it really hard to take them then perhaps make an appointment with your prescribing doctor and let them know of your difficulties. Maybe a change in dosage or medication change may be needed as well, it consequently may help you to see things a bit more clearer. But of course, this is a discussion to be had with your prescribing doctor!

Although it can be so much easier to ignore our own stuff and just focus on other people in our life and helping them when they are in need, it’s also important that you focus on yourself somewhat as well as if you cannot work on your own issues/ mental health then things will only unfortunately worsen. Again, I would gently encourage you to see your prescribing doctor and talk to them about your current medications and dosages, as you have no idea how much a slight change can really help! Talking to and seeing a counsellor or a therapist may also be beneficial for you guys as I already mentioned above.

I really hope that this has helped a bit and please do let us know if we can help to support you guys in any other way!

I’m thinking of you and hope that otherwise you are all going well!

Take care,

Lauren