#<< for context sorry ppl browsing the tag

[lesbianismsm]

...........i finished it

[candiid-caniine]

Hey! Long time no see, i know i said id send you a fantasy i thought you'd like but now ive forgotten almost all of it, oop!

Life happened, and uh, i saw that you mentioned your libido being a bit low, which definitely is my case too (im recovering from depression, now that im okay id love to get my FULL libido back, or at least a good percentage of it) do you have any tips on that?

Also any recs of blogs writing in the same vibe as you? (same-ish kinks would be nice but im specifically looking for queer inclusive stuff!) it makes me 10x hornier than the regular video/photo porn!

Hope you're well, you pathetic little thing!

💫

hi friend!! ugh i feel you. sorry i haven't got any advice on regaining ur libido...we just let mine wax and wane as it will, though denial has been a big help in keeping it steady!

i've heard good things abt ginseng and some other herbs. obvs use at your own risk, mind that some herbal treatments can cross-interact with certain medications, remember that pre-packaged supplement pills are often unregulated and may contain toxins, and be aware that some herbal remedies work better on pw certain anatomy than others, and finally that many herbal remedies considered to increase libido are largely untested on trans folx!

finally, sorry it's taken so long to answer this ask...i'm autistic and have been cataloguing lol. i present to you a list of other blog recs under the cut, organized by general vibe! i've tried to primarily include blogs that do their own posts rather than those who primarily reblog :)

note that my headings may provide some context as to what to expect, but you read at your own risk and each blog will typically have its own trigger warnings addressed in the header/pinned. additionally, i've not tagged some of the ppl below because they prefer that "Men DNI" blogs not interact, and idk if "no cis men" qualifies ahah!

all blogs below are queer- and/or trans-inclusive, if not exclusive! there is no detrans/misgendering, at least I don't think - i don't tend to follow those blogs.

hard kinks (blood, knives, etc; includes primarily-cnc blogs):

@puppy-mommy , who also does general t4t kink content, but does state untagged hard kinks!

@visciousest is someone whose blog i scroll when i'm in a Certain Mood ahah,, i won't elaborate

@hell-hound-bites: just. fuck. would drool on his knife blade.

@snuff-fag: its username should give you fair warning as to how wild its content tends to get, so please browse responsibly.

@condor-bait is taking a break right now, and all my love is with him as he takes care of himself. he made me feel so valid and so fuckable as a young trans person learning to love myself in a new way, and i've always been too shy to tell him how much his content meant to me one-on-one (yes, despite its often-extreme themes!), and he deserves as much time as he needs to heal!

@unwillingfvckpuppy for mostly cnc and medical kinks! if you like his style, but not so much their harder content, he also has a more-tame main blog--i just mainly follow/scroll this one!

@vampvictim: top-tier cnc/intox stuff, plus some great knife/bloodplay :)

@cryptidtid is wonderful and holy shit i follow a lot of hard kink blogs lol. incredible

@cnc-pet: i have been following her for a long ass fucking time lol. they post a lot of really good cnc and stories, but you'll also find a lot of aftercare tips and advice on her blog! i really admire blogs who try to balance horny content with best practices

@dollobotomy

general kinky content:

@excessively-queer . just plain old good shit :) there's a good amt of edging and degradation.

@clouded-king was honestly one of my earlier introductions to the queer/t4t kink community on here and how fucking euphoric it can be :) he posts some hard kinks, but generally it's a balance of a lot of different kinks so read his pinned at your leisure!

@ / cottontailx : just good kinky nsft posts :)

@ / digitalpenetration: often specifically t4t which i love!!

@femmelovefemme can step on me :)

@bigothteddies: could not build this section w/o mentioning him :) they had a big influence on my fantasies for a long time!

@hazelj-xoxo: bigtime want her to cuck me. have followed her across multiple blog deletions lol

@transpidered is forever an icon!

@subspaceemo

@writefinch for great stories and text posts

edging and denial, specifically:

@6irlpet is 1 of my go-to hands-down-pants scroll sessions :)

@droolkink is my inspiration!

@flustersluts does exactly what the name implies lol. a good helping of other kink content too :)

@puppycvnt is a 10/10!

@barkwoofbarkwoofbark: we r denial friends imo!!

@strawbrrysub

@blyssful-abyss

@urhighnessbitch is a big fav <3

non-detrans genderplay:

@butchviolence does amazing butch supremacy stuff and i,,, fucking hell. even just seeing their username puts me in a Particular state of mind ahah. they also post hard kinks so be aware as you proceed!

@mtfdomme: i literally just reblogged from her today lol. tbh i want to be their little stupid pupthing. it's not all transfem supremacy undertones/overtones, but that's what i mainly follow her for, plus just general t4t goodness! also, their general personality? and the way she shuts down people who disrespect their boundaries? huge inspiration for me!

@cuntboydestroyer: take me to the animal shelter and neuter me. good lord.

@the-kind-of-dame is the main inspiration for my recent genderplay post lol

@terfbreaking-tgirl (be warned of dykebreaking if that's an issue for you)

@barbarian-lesbian is my other inspiration for the recent genderplay post

@superiorineveryway

weird asf (/complimentary; my favorite type of shit. robots, ND-focused posts, etc):

@specksizedgoddess has introduced me to things i didn't know, like...existed, and that's saying a lot as one of my special interests is kink! never knew how down bad i was to be a tiny buggirl, nor how much i wanted to be someone's stupid little robot... BIG tw tho: there is snuff and gore content here, so proceed with caution if you don't wanna see that!

@sapphling fucked me up real good with some bird!sub bondage posts awhile back lol

@nobelisha: found them through their ghost cnc post so that's why they're in this category ahah! they don't have a pinned so proceed w awareness :)

@devout-cleric: hierophilia/religion kink, and i'm something of an acolyte of hers :) if you've read this far down you may as well know i'm her Little Lamb anon lol

piss/omo:

@latenightomo

@pissheartmybeloved - their URL makes me crack up every time, plus good content!

@hold-it-a-little-longer - good scenarios/imagines!

@ohmyrashi - (i think) my original intro to omo!

monsterfucking/terato:

@septimus-moonlight was my first real introduction to trans-positive terato and i've never settled for half-fun cis-oriented terato ever since :) mind tags!

@eggedbellies as well!

@bredpun doesn't appear to be active lately but still good for a scroll!

@steamandcream

@of-mutts-and-men

[niningtori]

hey nini hope you're ok, sorry im coming as anon, bc im too shy to interact, but i feel like i needed to send you this

i was browsing in some txt tags and i found an iron man and decided to read it. let me tell you: it is so good, so so good. you write in a way we can feel everything the characters are feeling and it's something i could only dream in achieving as a writer myself

since i read an iron man, i decided to read your other works and i ended up reading everything into the night. you absolutely slay, girl

another important thing is that your fics are very captivating. as i said, you write in a way we can feel and as i am part of the asexual aspec, i feel very comfortable reading your stories bc it's not some smut scenes without context, you really build an atmosphere that makes us readers feel really immersed, with the right amount of spicy, fluffy and angst

im gonna stop here bc im afraid im talking too much, but i needed to let you know that your works are seen and very very appreciated by me and lots of other ppl

You're an artist, an amazing writer and i know it's easier said than done, but you don't have to feel insecure an iron man or any other story. they're all absolutely great

i look forward to seeing more of your work and let us know if you're accepting requests, bc im totally contributing

have a great day/afternoon/evening/night (since idk when you'll read this) 🖤

(sorry for any typos and mistakes, english is not my 1st language 🫠)

hi baby!!! don't be sorry for being shy i'm very shy too and i'm so happy you decided to drop by my inbox at all!

thank you so much for taking a chance on an iron man and for telling me you enjoyed it :( i'm flattered that you think so highly of my writing when i rlly don't think i do anything too too special so it's always validating to hear words like this!! but don't put yourself and your work down i'm sure it's better than you think it is you've got to believe in yourself (rich coming from me, i know)

i honestly think i'm some sort of asexual too tbh so i think i understand what you mean!! i experience attraction to only a few ppl on this planet and txt just so happens to be most of them 😭 i'm so happy you're able to enjoy my work while you're on the ace spectrum it makes me feel like i'm doing my job right

thank you for taking the time out of your day to send me this!! asks like this give me the comfort i need to continue to write so i appreciate you more than you'll ever know 🥹

i will always try to take requests but i won't promise anything since it's difficult for me to write without being rlly excited ab a story but pls feel free to send them in and i promise i'll do my best!!

have a wonderful day my love i hope today treats you well!

(don't be sorry about anything you are very smart and your wording was just perfect!!!)

[evilvarric666-archive]

This is gonna be long, so sorry in advance, but as someone who enjoys long fics here are my two cents:

I get why some ppl may not want 75 tags in fics, but this is gonna hurt long fic writers. On a long fic there are probably gonna be more relationships that are central to the plot that aren't the main ship. And side pairings that may be a squick to some ppl. Not to mention trigger warnings and tone tags.

For example: a long fic with the pairing Y x Z. Z had an abusive relationship, and that's gonna be explored. So the author tags abusive relationship, bc that's a trigger, but an explanation next tag saying "not current ship" or smth.

Then Y has very important friendships with some of the cast. These are central to the plot so they're tagged too.

Turns out, character W is controversial in the fandom, but they're central to the fic too. The author is gonna tag after the character tag W positive/negative; so ppl who don't wanna see positive/negative things about W can skip this.

And guess what? Ship A x B appears in this fic too. Maybe it's not that central, but this ship is also disliked by some people, so the author will tag it, so ppl can filter through.

Another problem is with media that has different mediums, like, the media Y, Z, etc are from has movies, and books, and games and a tv show. All these things actually have different stories, different enough at least that ppl may only want to see fics written for the movies! But the author wants to take plot from the movies and the books. So instead of just tagging the all media tag for that media, they also tag media (movies) and media (books)

These tags end up accumulating. And especially in long fics. The author could make the first chapter a list of tws and stuff that they keep updating, but that destroys the purpose of ao3 tags: you can't filter content like that, you can only filter tags.

I honestly think they should just find a way to delete the fics with the trolling tags, or make a readmore thing so it doesn't hurt the browsing. At the very least make the tag limit longer.

sorry in advance that this is going to be rambly and weird. I have a lot of thoughts.

I get where you're coming from but I also still disagree. Like it's definitely going to change the way longfic writers tag, but I really don't think it's going to hurt them. I think it's going to encourage more effective tagging and that that's going to be better for everybody in the long run. If anything, I think that overtagging is what's hurting longfic writers, it makes their works look unappealing, and actually important information gets buried in a wall of text.

i will admit though that I do understand better now why less room for trigger tagging is going to be an issue. My preferred tagging style is "General/umbrella warnings in the tags, with whatever elaboration/specifics the author deems necessary in an author's note/author's notes at the beginning of each chapter" (example: "animal death" in the tags, so that the filters catch it + people who can't handle the subject At All know to keep scrolling, and then the author's note specifying that its in the context of game hunting & not a pet death, so that people who were uncertain and needed more info could click in and get the specifics.) and I thought that preference was pretty universal? But apparently a lot of people use the tags as an exhaustive list of warnings, which I didn't know because when I see a work with more than, well with more than 75 tags, I just start scrolling until it's gone.

(this is a tangent and I get that my experiences are not universal. but I genuinely dislike full warning lists in the tags because, for me at least, it makes it harder for me to figure out if the story is something I can/want to read. The things I Really Do Not Want To Read about are rare, and rarely tagged the same way twice, so the exclusion filter isn't really helpful for me. I have to actually read the full list of warnings and if the things I'm looking for are sandwiched inbetween a bunch of trope/character tags in a big wall o text I am going to miss it. This has happened to me multiple times.)

I think that that's an ineffective tagging style, basically. Lots of tags is kind of the opposite of useful tags, imo. Short, to the point and consistently worded warnings are better and I think having less space will encourage people to do that. I understand why people do this other style, though, and also why it would frustrate them that they can no longer do that. I think it really sucks that ao3 let everyone wild west their website for so long that it managed to spawn like three distinct groups of people who all use the website in completely incompatible ways, and now it's at the point where any new rule implemented is going to screw a lot of people over no matter what. But I digress.

Anyways, as long as someone isn't putting Revolutionary Girl Utena levels of warnings in their tags (and if your fic needs that much... maybe you should just put yur top 10 biggest warnings on there and slap a Dead Dove Do Not Eat on the end there, yknow?), I think that 75 tags will fully accommodate them. I get that tags start adding up, but also I think a lot of people are underestimating how many tags 75 tags is.

Like to just add up how many tags are used in your example: three / pairing tags, lets go crazy and say three more & pairing tags, tag every character tag in those pairings that's twelve, #abusive relationship + #not main pairing tags, three fandom tags bc multiple source mediums, a #[controversial character] positive tag... that's 24 tags. Like all the necessary character & pairing tags are handled in less than a third of the space given (and personally I consider this slightly over tagged. I think the only character tags you should put on a fic are the very mainest/pov characters, but yknow) and honestly if you can't then figure out a way to communicate the rest of the necessary information about your fic in 51 tags and a 1250 character summary then I really don't know how to help you. I personally would have to really push myself to figure out how to put more than 75 tags on one fic, regardless of the length of the fic. And I can't help but notice that a lot of the fics I could find with over 75 tags while searching last night had a lot of... unnecessary duplicate tags, often for information that could've been easily otherwise intuited (tagging #mandolorian #mandolore #mandolorian character and #mandolorian culture on a Jango Fett pre-series fic, for example)

I do have some criticisms about the current change though. I think it would've been better to have individual tag number limits for each individual field (x number of fandom tags, x number of character tags, etc.) instead of a 75 tags over all limit (or make a "warning tags" field that's separate from "additional tags" but that's a separate essay and would... probably mean overhauling the whole site. so not very practical.) A readmore option would be good too, and I'm not sure why they didn't go for that? I also think that this change will be most effective if done in combination with other changes. Like posting very loosely or not at all enforced official tagging/style guides for the site. I really think that even a tepid attempt at standardization will increase the site's usability like, A Lot.

I'm not sure how cohesive that was. TL;DR I appreciate hearing your thoughts, mine are that I still think this is a step in the right direction. And that cutting back on overtagging will lead to more concise, effective tagging which will make browsing and filtering easier in the long run.

[leonbastralle]

Dragon-Sized Replies

Hey friends, thanks for all the comments ♥ hope you’re all alive and well!

bouquet-of-scissors replied to your photoset “T: Do you…do you think I’m a bad mum? S: *gasps* Trellis, please… T:...”

Trellis.... ;-;

alfalfalegacy replied to your photoset “T: Okay. Well…you know what this means, then. You’re doing it now. And...”

Poor Connie. But also...poor Trellis :(

nernershuman replied to your photoset “T: Okay. Well…you know what this means, then. You’re doing it now. And...”

Tween drama.

I hope you guys don’t mind that I threw your comments together but they seemed to sum it up pretty well! Trellis might have been a bit too much of a serious adult, but Connie, like kids do it, really overreacted to a simple prohibition and in the end nobody was happy xD so yeah, poor both of them! But (which I didn’t show cause...Idk why) they sorted it out.

pixeldemographics replied to your photoset “S: Trellis, stop. I mean, maybe don’t stop because we need to talk...”

Im dying scoob theyre so good :’)

;_; IM SO HAPPY YOU LIKE i was like ‘this is her jam but also its not as good’ anyway how dare you dying this isnt the time not yet

melien replied to your photoset “T: Do you…do you think I’m a bad mum? S: *gasps* Trellis, please… T:...”

SHINE GIVE HER A HUG FOR ME

HE DID I PROMISE

melien replied to your photoset “T: Okay. Well…you know what this means, then. You’re doing it now. And...”

Trellis why :( but Connie girl you could have written down your ideas on paper like we all did back in good old times so no need for drama

I know, kids these days right?

melien replied to your post  “Do you love... Yourself?”

You should go and love yourseeelf

xD out of context it’s nice but if you keep it in the song it isn’t really

melien replied to your photoset “This would be so cute if the hair colors had actually stuck.”

Sensitive topic #1

I know :/ this gen was tricky again with sleepwear, sleep and formal is usually most buggy for me. At least everyday sticks...and I’ve found that mismatched brows/hair are actually less buggy??????

melien replied to your photoset “HEY WHO’S THIS”

The F's are the best wink wink

I LIKE WHERE YOU ARE GOING TRUST ME I HAVE BEEN THERE TOO

melien replied to your photoset “HEY WHO’S THIS”

Eternally missing this face

;_; I know...he’ll be back tho I already have more pics!

melien replied to your post “What’s in my Sim’s bag?”

Ohhh it didn't come up in my notifications fsr but thank you! Wish I was as creative as you with these lmao

I’m not creative, it’s just the Miracles xD (also you can totally tag me back if you do it, I’m feeling more of these)

melien replied to your photoset “I figured I should give these three at least some queue time as well!...”

BANNER CHANGE

YES I KNOW I HAD TO BC I LOVE THEM

amixofpixels replied to your photoset

Baby girl, you need a hug, and love. Let me give it to you!

okay we got a hug for Trellis, and one for Connie, we’re good now!

pixeldemographics replied to your photoset “T: Okay. Well…you know what this means, then. You’re doing it now. And...”

Oh no :’(

monets-pumpkins replied to your photoset “T: Okay. Well…you know what this means, then. You’re doing it now. And...”

O:!

trust me this is all very relevant...also not but I wanted this Shine/Trellis scene and I had to get it somehow xD

amixofpixels replied to your post “Do you love... Yourself?”

I will come hug you and my magical slat powers will make you love yourself.

pixeldemographics replied to your post “Do you love... Yourself?”

I swear i will go up there and smack u and teach u to love urslef

guys sorry I just HAD to have a (figurative) side by side comparison of these two very different methods to get me to love myself xD I LOVE YOU BOTH OKAY

(also catii honestly if thats what it takes to get you up here ill continue)    

amixofpixels replied to your post “For your Y or N, is it true that you are a magical stached slotter? I...”

It's because I demand to be special, and get more than a simple yes or no answer. ;)

either that or I really need to make EVERYTHING about vampires, you get to choose xD

pixeldemographics replied to your post “is mal’s back hot y/n???”

Also im proud of u lmao

pixeldemographics replied to your post “is mal’s back hot y/n???”

Wow I’m Sure That Absolutely Independent Anon will be so proud to see this!!

SO MANY PPL ARE PROUD OF ME :,)

opheliasim replied to your post “Do you love... Yourself?”

I love yourself! So love yourself too ❤❤❤

;____; awh thank you ♥

pixeldemographics replied to your photoset

BOOOOII WORK HARD FOR THAT FUCKING ASPIRATION

HE WILL tho hes not gonna complete it my salty friend...he has no room for his own rocket (ok that kinda...sounds really special but ill embrace it)

SHINE MIRACLE HAS NO ROOM FOR HIS OWN ROCKET PASS IT ON

maybe trellis can accomodate it somewhere hmm

alfalfalegacy replied to your photoset “Getting ready for work!”

chug, chug, chug

it’s liquid energy! How handy

evanurisandruil replied to your post “do u love me (for Y or N)”

how dare u browse

I mean...what do you expect, that I simply repeat the obvious? Brah NAH

treason-and-plot replied to your post “Annie of Green Cheeks says Hi”

I would steal your gorgeous face and make it my profile pic but that would be creepy, right? :P

Slightly! I feel very loved tho ♥ MUM MY OTHER MUM LIKES MY FACE

pixeldemographics replied to your photo “AAAAAAAAAAAAAA THANK YOU SO MUCH ;_;  i usually dont pass on chain...”

;) ;) ;) ;) i feel especially honored :')

you should! im being a better person just for you (and because i feel bad)

blueossa replied to your photoset

Gorgeous pics!

@melien forwarding this to you ♥ it’s true, the aesthetic is just YES

[queerascat]

the #Jughead mess masterpost

this post marks the last time i’ll be responding to asks about / reblogs of the post i made about the fight for Jughead’s correct portrayal on the CW’s Riverdale. after 3 days of responding to nearly 15 asks / posts on the topic and the anxiety that that has caused me on top of everything else going on in my life, i’m calling it quits on that post. while i still stand by the admittedly unclear point that i was attempting to make, i do apologize to those who were hurt by my unclear wording. i’m also done with talking about asexual representation in general or fandom-related anything anymore. while i appreciate the kind words of encouragement i received, it’s not worth the cost to my mental health to talk about even my own representation anymore.

this post serves as both a future point of reference on the mess that took place on this blog and as a “self-serve” response to the future questions, accusations etc i’ll inevitably receive.

if you’re seeing this post because i linked you to it instead of actually responding to you, sorry not sorry. i’ve already tried my best and am now out of “best” to give. chances are the answer to your question(s) / response to your accusations can be found here. help yourself.

original post: what you mean is “keep Jughead true to character”

questions / accusations / responses: (quotes are not always direct)

“jughead is aro too holy shit.”

“i understand what you’re saying, but i’m upset because Jughead won’t be asexual.”

“…you trying to act like aces (and aros) are reacting to these news wrong bc they are not rejecting the idea that asexual ppl can’t do romance at all is honestly nonsense bc jughead is not only asexual, he is aromantic…” ie. why i chose not to explicitly refer to Jughead as aromantic & why my post was only about (his) asexuality.

“I appreciate that you voiced the separation between ace and aro…”

“it makes sense to shorten [keep Jugehead true to character] to “keep him ace"”

“My main concern is that the media is really bad with asexual representation, so my immediate thought is that since they’re giving him romances, it’s less of a "find yourself” journey and more of a “he’s straight now” situation.” ie. i also think CW is probably going to fuck up and portray Jughead as heteroromantic heterosexual.

the submission to Fuck Yeah Asexual by the anon i pissed off

“it is CLEAR from his wording that he means aromantic asexual and yet here you are, trying to strip this rep from us. you couldn’t have chosen a worse character to talk about while raising your flag of diverse ace rep, you arophobe.” ie. my usage of “character” was not meant to treat Jughead’s sexuality as a personality quark and i understand that aromanticism can be an intrinsic part of a person’s asexuality, but why does that forbid me from talking about only one section of that intersectionality?

“So what if aroaces want to conflate asexuality with aromanticism? How dare you demand that I be two pasted together orientations, actually.” ie. i still don’t understand how i did this and would still love to get some clarity on this (i suspect i understand, but?), but at this point am calling it quits on this particular post.

“how can you say aro aces have plenty of representation compared to romantic aces??? When have aces ever been explicitly aromantic in the media???”

“I’m not fighting for any “One True Asexual Narrative”, I’m fighting for Jughead’s Asexual Narrative. I am fighting for the narrative that could allow others to empathize with me, and give me something to relate to so I don’t feel like shit about my asexuality after watching too much TV. Please don’t attack us for wanting to see people like ourselves on TV, thanks. There is a huge difference between wanting to see someone like yourself and wanting “one true asexual narrative”–I honesetly do not understand how you came to this conclusion, this is one example, and there really are not any others in this medium? so how is there a pattern?” ie. yeah, fucked up and should have been clearer and not suggested that people are of a hivemind and are all fighting for a singular thing for a singular reason. that said, the pattern i spoke of does exist and here are some examples of it.

“You have no right to be upset, no one even did the stuff you’re claiming. Your reaction to Jughead’s erased aromanticism is “and?” You didn’t even care and that really hurt and made me feel attacked. I see the pattern you spoke of, but that has nothing to do with Jughead because he is canon ace and all those other examples are headcanons. Aces fighting for an already ace character to stay ace (in a way that includes his aromantic tendencies) is nothing like your examples.” ie.  ……once again, no matter how intersectional your or Jughead’s asexuality might be, my post was about one thing and one thing only and that was not aromanticism. it’d be nice if people would acknowledge that. also, there is a pattern with Jughead that ties into what i spoke of and the pattern affects more than just asexuals. 

“It still sounds a lot like you honestly think romantic aces are the ones being erased. My problem with this is that aro aces and especially allo aros are erased so much of the time in ace communities, yet when aro aces make something about them romantic aces scream erasure while completely ignoring the context.” ie. i do not think that romantic aces are “the ones” being erased. i was attempting to point out that more than one group of asexuals can be hurt by something, that the response to something hurtful can in and of itself also be hurtful to others if we are not careful. nothing i said was even about aromantic vs romantic aces and aces aren’t even the only ones being hurt.

or you could just browse my entire #Jughead tag in chronological order.