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those few months after you get out of a relationship and have to learn to flirt with people who don’t know your banter is so mid. why am i nervous? why am i worried if he is going to get it? i miss being able to crack a joke and my partner looking at me in shock and immediately serving it right back. i haven’t even met this new guy in person yet, this is sick

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this is going to have me on my hands and knees dry heaving

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“Happy in Gaza. The Palestinian desire for life.”

Photographed by Laura Junka-Aikio, 2004.

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some of my favorite tiny love stories

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i need these

Christian Dior Spring 2024 Haute Couture

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“i know a spot” takes you into my arms under a soft blanket

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“Oh Rascal Children of Gaza,” by Palestinian poet, Khaled Juma, 2014

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having to come to terms with the fact that love is not an everlasting performance in which you attempt to retain the attention of your significant other but rather a release of control and putting faith into them and trusting them to choose to stay with you no matter what you have to offer

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The entry cloister, with vaulted roof, looking toward the entrance. A glazed metal door to the central patio is to the right, and the door to the living room can be seen on the left. The lanterns are from the Mizner studio.

The Los Angeles House: Decoration and Design in America's 20th-Century City, 1995

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I need a sign from God and not some wishy washy vague shit I need a vision beamed directly into my brain with clear instructions please and thank you

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love is real. i hope i am too

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I have an end-of-life patient to whom I spoke today. She burst out laughing and said, "It was all such fun. I just had so much fun." I wish this for everyone. I wish that we each would meet death laughing, with little regret and even less fear.

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florence pugh giggling and flirting with cillian murphy in that one interview…. she’s just like us

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recs directory

all my book / articles / film recs !! please check before sending an ask for recs <3

books

essay collections women in translation MET art books on loneliness / pt. 2 lithub syllabi arthurian + atmospheric on internet culture gentle books underrated favs 2022 reads fav prose quarterly book recs summer reading list: 2021, 2022, 2023 monsoon reading list: 2022 yearly tbr: 2022, 2023 random fiction, pt. 2, pt. 3*, pt. 4*, pt. 5*, nonfiction yearly fav reads: 2019*, 2021 on colour theory* drive link to books* related tags: ref: mine, ref, book recs, book log

articles

misc readings tag random recs related tags: readings, articles

films

short films horror films random recs fav first watches: 2022 related tags: movie log

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via Joseph Fasano's twitter

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2023 maxims:

1. read more

2. it’s fine to accept the bad parts of you without guilt bc being flawed is not morally wrong

3. anti-aging is stupid

4. being a bit cringe is good

5. actions towards others should be motivated more by care for them than concern for how it makes you look

6. communicating needs is so painful but we should do it anyway