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OYE!

A dog is a man’s best friend

There are two kinds of people in this world, those who love dogs, who absolutely adore them and then there are those who don’t like them. Everybody has their own likes and dislikes, one can’t be blamed for not liking dogs (even though it is a little hard to comprehend someone not liking dogs, I mean have you seen them, furry, puppy dog eyes, small nose, wagging tail and an eager tongue, all that makes you go “awwwwww” in seconds ! ) Anyway, moving onto the point, I had taken Hooch out for a walk today, my big German shepherd and there was something in the way he barked today that got me thinking of Oye, a dark Doberman. Yes, that was his name.

Oye was my father’s friend and there was nothing in the world that Oye loved more than he loved Dad. He was four weeks old when dad got him ( I didn't even exist back then, I met him when he was about 7). My father being in the Army took Oye along with him to all his postings and he always proved to be a great companion. Dad found a friend in him and would talk to him for hours when he sat alone in his bunker in a far away land. Oye even learned to share a drink with him. My Dad would first pour himself a drink then pour a few drops of the same liquor in Oye’s bowl. He came to enjoy it so much that as and when dad would pour his second drink Oye got up and nudged dad’s knee for more! He would sit there very still, when Dad would move for dinner or to a different location, Oye would stumble along or half drag himself as he always sat touching him. He would even sleep just below my dad’s side of the bed.

I remember Dad telling me about this one time when he was posted in the North-East. He got back home from office sometime in the evening, patted Oye on the head and started walking towards the loo. Oye ran past him and stood next to the bathroom, barking. His bark was one of the ‘Attention! There's something in the bathroom!’ bark and not one of the ‘I’m happy, you’re home’ bark! He just wont stop! Finally, Dad decided to go inside the loo to check, as soon as he walked in he saw a huge black snake. So that’s what the barking was about! Smart dog!  There were many such incidents where Oye proved to be a good thoughtful dog.

Oye had varied experiences moving from place to place with dad. There was this time when Dad was posted in Arunachal and Oye and him had to cross a stream called ‘Pagal Nala’ (Temperamental Stream). The stream could only be crossed on an elephant’s back, Dad took Oye and sat on the elephant’s back and as soon as the elephant got up to cross the stream, Oye FREAKED OUT! Luckily, the elephant was most probably a mature one and decided to let Dad and Oye live that day.

Oye even sat in a helicopter! Yes, you read that right. One of those helicopters that were used for dropping supplies to out-posts. Most importantly, they didn't have doors. Dad got Oye by the leash, real tight and waited for the helicopter to take off, as and when it did, Oye panicked and ran towards the door! No, he didn't jump out, he saw the world from a height and once again FREAKED OUT! He didn’t move an inch thereafter. I’m curious, did he really enjoy the adventures or just put up with it to be with his friend.

Would you believe it if I told you, he even got slapped by monkeys! Oye made the monkeys lives miserable by chasing them away, he always did that until one day when the monkeys decided to team up against him and sort him out for all the trouble that he caused to them. Two monkeys got around him, when Oye went towards one, the other would slap his behind. He had to be rescued finally with bruises more to his ego than to his behind.  

Oye grew up to be a big dog, bigger than the average doberman, he could jump across walls as high as 5 feet. He was having a fabulous time with my father till we decided to join him. God! Us joining my Dad meant Oye sharing his best friend with other people. My sister and I were 2 and 4 years old respectively, I was still on my learning to walk phase and Oye already disliked me to a point where he would nudge and drop me with his body. I was not the only one he disliked, he disliked Mom a notch more than he disliked me, he would chew all her shoes, lipstick and also her side of the blanket. He somewhat tolerated my sister, still wondering why.

Thats how I remember Oye. It was his antics and presence which we could never live without and carried on having a dog at home.

I’m sure Oye now sits in dogs’ heaven-if that exists, boasting about his adventures!

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There once lived a Donkey called Eeyore in Winnie the Pooh cartoons ,he was physically one of the stronger animals and was often treated as a pack animal, his house was regularly knocked down, but he always managed to rebuild it. He usually expected misfortune to happen to him and accepted it when it did and rarely even tried to prevent it. If anybody ever asked him about something or said anything to him his usual replies were "Thanks for noticin' me" and “Ohhh-kayyy”. 

The reason of the above introduction is because, these days there are many people like Eeyore. why is that so? Why is it that sadness and depression are overrated these days?

Read how to deal with people who enjoy their misery on foreverbizarre.wordpress.com

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Calling All Lovers! Free Relationship Advice!

Lets talk about relationships these days. Also if i haven't already mentioned, this is strictly young-adults stuff. You could go ahead and read this blog if you’re a parent and are desperately trying to understand you teenage child. Parents- Relationships are okay, they’re not something to be hidden from the world or even be ashamed of! Teens- Don’t hide your relationship from your parents. Yes, they may be a little conservative or not that forward when it comes to these things but you could always make them comfortable, which kid doesn’t know which strings to pull and when. P.S- Mothers can be really great at giving relationship advice.

Here are some tips that one needs to keep in mind when dealing with relationships in teenage:

DON’T CHANGE YOURSELF JUST TO MAKE THE OTHER PERSON ‘LIKE’ YOU

First thing, when you you’re trying to woo someone, remember never try to be what you aren’t. You may get who you want by faking it but sure as hell your relationship wont last. After dating for a while, you’ll eventually get tired of the pretence and will want to be yourself, thats when your partner will say, “honey, we’ve lost the spark.” Why not just be you and let the other person fall for the real you? Believe me, pretending to be someone else, does not end up well.  Been there, done that!    

DON'T TAKE THE OTHER PERSON FOR GRANTED

When you start dating it’s going to be all roses for a while but sooner or later there comes a time in each relationship where one person starts taking the other person for granted. The key- PATIENCE. Don't start torturing your partner by asking them questions or giving statements like, “you seem bored of me.”, “Do you not love me anymore?”, “Have you found someone else?” Asking questions like these will only make your partner more distant. If its meant to be, it will be. Its not the end of the world! Its a relationship not your entire world. It may or may not work!  

PUBLIC DISPLAY OF AFFECTION (PDA)

You may be too much in love and i’m happy for you, seriously! But then why torture all the poor single people, keep your love lives to yourself. A picture once in a while to show all is hunky-dory is okay. It’s a common practice among teenagers and even adults for that matter to delete all the ‘couple’ pictures from social media when they break up, why reach that part where you first upload pictures and then end up deleting them when you break up. Don't be negative about your relationship but also don't be a fool. Play smart, keep it casual!

ABSOLUTELY NO SEX

NO SEX! You don't know whats going to happen in the future. You may feel like your relationship is forever and that both of you will love each other till the end of time and its okay to have sex! Don't go that far, not in your teenage, the only thing you feel after having sex in your teenage is regret later in your life. Boys and girls both are equally yearning for sex these days, obviously, you’ve had enough of the hormonal changes and STDs talk with your parents but then, its not worth it! Having Sex when you’re more stable emotionally and when you have more sense in that little head of yours is a way better option and time. Why not be a unicorn? Parents- yes being a virgin these days is almost as rare as seeing a Unicorn. If your partner forces you for sex, then thats what your relationship has been about and thats what it will be, it’ll never be more.  

GIVE EACH OTHER SPACE

Being in a relationship does not mean you have some kind of ‘This is my Human’ rights on your partner. Your partner has a life too. It might not seem like it, but they’ve had one since long before you waltzed into it. Its okay, don't panic! Give them space, sometimes its the best thing to do. Giving your partner space does not mean they’ll forget about you. It simply means they’ll come back missing you even more and if they don’t come back missing you or don’t come back at all, you’ll simply know where you stand in the other persons life. You could either give it more time or choose to split, you’ll never be alone! Keep your relationship healthy don't make it an obsession. (Still trying to follow my own advice)

LEARN TO LET GO

Let go off the little things that bring trouble in paradise, relationships and marriages are built by love and compromise. Know when to let go off an issue. Letting go does not simply mean ignoring the problem, it means forgiving and forgetting. Remember letting go isn't about your ego or your self respect, its about knowing that your relationship matters more than your ego and self respect. Respect yourself enough to not tolerate any kind of mis-behaviour but then also let go of it sometimes when your partner is PMSing or is angry at someone else and takes it out on you.

KNOW WHEN TO WALK OFF

Somebody once told me, you know its time to walk off when you close your eyes and thinking about your relationship only makes you remember all the fights and sad things that you’ve been through with your partner. There’s no point dragging it to a point where you have an ugly break up and swear to never see each other again. Knowing when to walk off will help you break up in time and save your friendship to a limit where there will still be chances of starting over.

According to me relationships are all about the timing, love, understanding, communication and knowing when to walk away. There’s no certainty in any relationship especially teenage relationships, so don’t take it to heart if your relationship doesn’t work. It’s okay, learn your lesson and move on!

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