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Fall Is My Second Favorite F-word

“The secret of life, though, is to fall seven times and to get up eight times.”⠀ ⠀ It was too much. I felt overwhelmed by all the new opportunities. I started to pressure myself to do more and be more. I wanted to do it all, but it was too much for me.⠀ ⠀ I held onto the hope that if I could do it all, I would finally be good enough. I got lost in comparison. I was looking for answers outside of me.⠀ ⠀ This fall, I stopped pushing myself, and I allowed everything to fall back into place.⠀ ⠀ I practiced letting go more and more. It was not easy for me, but I have grown so much because of it.⠀ ⠀ In the forest, I rediscovered myself. I found my inner truth. I wondered: Who do I want to be?⠀ ⠀ Sometimes we first need to allow things to fall apart so we can build ourselves anew.⠀ ⠀ “I can choose either to be a victim of the world or an adventurer in search of treasure. It’s all a question of how I view my life.”⠀ ⠀ I realized that I am not powerless. I always have the power of choice, no matter how painful the circumstances. I can direct the thoughts I think, the actions I take, and how I respond to my emotions.⠀ ⠀ I went to the forest to rediscover who I really am. For a long time, it felt like I was juggling two lives, the old and the new. I needed to let go of the past and create space for the new.⠀ ⠀ I let go of who I used to be, and I stepped into who I really am. I set myself free from the pain of the past.⠀ ⠀ “If you only walk on sunny days, you’ll never reach your destination.”⠀ ⠀ I chose to face my fears one by one. I felt the pain that I suppressed for so long. I allowed all the illusions to be revealed. I let go of the fantasies, expectations, and assumptions that were still holding me back.⠀ ⠀ I can now see clearly again. Everything I am looking for is already looking at me.⠀ ⠀ Whenever I feel lost, I go back to the forest. Nature is my medicine. It brings me stillness so I can listen, and I breathe the life back into my lungs again.⠀ ⠀ I let the wind take my worries away. So I can just be, be here now.⠀ ⠀ I remember I wake up, and as a child, I am born again.⠀ ⠀ Quotes by Paul Coelho

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Awaken The Child Within⁣⠀

What do you love most about children?⠀

I love seeing children play. How they live in the present moment always inspires me. A child is naturally in touch with their intuition. ⠀

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Sometimes I wonder when did I lose this beautiful connection to myself? The capacity to be completely present here and now without wanting to be somewhere else. ⠀

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I think growing up is an illusion. We stay children, no matter how old we become. Our inner child is always within us. When we get older, we need to take ownership of our life, but we don't have to lose the playfulness and creativity that is naturally within us. ⠀

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So after years of neglecting your creativity and playfulness, how can you connect with your inner child again? ⠀

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It all starts with focusing on how you truly feel. Children are naturally in touch with how they feel. A young child expresses its needs by expressing emotions. Through laughing, crying, screaming, and moving, we communicate with our environment far before we can speak. ⠀

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Later on, in childhood, the expression of emotions became suppressed through the process of socialization. We learned the concepts of right and wrong, good and evil, and this influences how we perceive ourselves and the world. ⠀

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A young child doesn't understand the difference between doing something wrong and being bad. We grow up as little meaning-making machines. ⠀

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When you experience pain as a child, you can make it mean that there is something wrong with you. When the trauma stays unresolved, this creates a disconnect with self. This disconnection makes us distrust ourselves and our emotional guidance system. ⠀

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Through healing, we can regain a connection with the self. The first step towards healing is awareness. You can become aware of what was missing in your childhood and how it made you feel. ⠀

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You can ask yourself: What thoughts or beliefs come up when I feel this emotion?⠀

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Recovering from trauma means finding something again. It is unique for each individual. For me, it meant feeling the pain of my inner child that felt alone for so long and finding a way to meet her needs creatively. ⠀

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You cannot resolve trauma with logical thinking only with creativity. ⠀

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Reconnecting with your inner child is a process. You have to be brave enough to feel and be present with what you tried to hide for so long. ⠀

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Start focusing on how activities and people make you feel. Explore what you loved doing as a child. Permit yourself to do things just because it is fun. ⠀

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So what did you love doing as a child?⠀

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Do more of that!⠀

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“You are not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean in one drop.”⠀ ⠀ We are all seekers of truth swimming in an ocean filled with depth and mystery. We seek to understand the world because we want to understand ourselves. We seek deeper truths and meaning because deep down, we know there is more to life. We all have a spark of magic inside of us, a guiding light that is always shining. This light knows your true essence. It holds so much wisdom, but it can only speak to those who listen.⠀ ⠀ It is easier to believe the comforting lies than to see the painful truths, but when you choose the path of awareness, you need to confront yourself. Sometimes you are wrong, and you need to set things right.⠀ ⠀ The truth can hurt, but feeling your pain will always bring you closer to your true essence. Not allowing yourself to see the truth will repeatedly cause pain in the long run.⠀ ⠀ When you are choosing comforting lies over truth, you are swimming against the stream. The more you resist your reality, the harder you have to swim until you become too tired of resisting.⠀ ⠀ And so you drown in the depths of the sea to find your trueness again. In moments of great despair, all that is left is the truth. It is essential to trust that the stream will guide you to where you need to be.⠀ ⠀ If you continue to swim against the stream, you will keep fighting yourself. When you are selfaware, you will no longer swim against the stream because deep down, you know that you are the stream.⠀ ⠀ You are not just the swimmer. You are the entire ocean filled with depth and mystery.⠀ ⠀ “Surrender to grace. The ocean cares for each wave until it reaches the shore. You are given more help, then you will ever know.”⠀ ⠀ So do not hide what you fear to see.⠀ Uncover your truthfulness and speak with integrity.⠀ ⠀ Because there will come a day when you will lose your perception as the swimmer, and you will become the ocean again.

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Before my first psilocybin therapy experience, I missed meaningful connection in my life. After doing a lot of inner work and therapy, I still felt stuck. I had this feeling that something was holding me back, but I couldn’t figure out what it was. It felt like I was stuck in a spiral experiencing the same challenges over and over again.

When I was eighteen years old I had a heart attack. My near death experience inspired me to learn more about the mystical and how we can heal through altered states of consciousness. I became fascinated listening to the psychedelic experiences of others, however it took much time before I ventured on my own psychedelic journey.  

I started to read more about the therapeutic benefits of Psilocybin and other substances. The astonishing study by John Hopkins University with advance-stage cancer patients definitely sparked my curiosity.  The study showed that Psilocybin produced decreases in depression and anxiety in patients with life-threatening cancer.

A few months  later, I received a message from a women I knew who had to give up her spot for a psilocybin retreat called The Shift. She asked me if wanted to go in her place to the seven day retreat in The Netherlands. When I looked up the website I learned that Alice & Kerrie used Psilocybin therapeutically and this was what the retreat was about.

After reading their unique approach I immediately felt called to the retreat because I knew it was vital for me to feel safe and supported if I was going to journey with psychedelics, it was evident they too understood the importance of this. It also felt like the right time for me to experience the therapeutic benefits of Psilocybin myself.

A few weeks later I was at The Shift Retreat with a small group of conscious individuals who were all fascinated by the therapeutic benefits of Psilocybin. I remember being both nervous and excited before the first ceremony.

Before the start of the ceremony, we all shared our intentions, fears and excitement. Alice and Kerrie first guided us into the experience with beautiful meditations and before I knew it, I was there being guided by the Spirit of Psilocybin itself.

“GOLDEN TEACHER CAN YOU GUIDE ME ON MY JOURNEY OF CONNECTING TO THE PART OF ME THAT WANTS CONNECTION? I WANT TO LIVE AN ABUNDANT LIFE FILLED WITH MEANINGFUL RELATIONSHIPS”.

On the journey, I let my intention go and trusted whatever came up for me.

Psilocybin is a very unique teacher whose lessons are deeply profound. Before I was able to open up to connection, I needed to feel the pain of my loneliness first.

During the 5 long hours of my journey, I was able to dive very deep within myself in a way I never experienced before. It felt like opening up to to the most profound emotional layer of my being.

I connected to the part of me that felt sad, unsafe, and unsupported.

I was the person that always supports everyone, but now it was time for me to completely let go and receive support from others.

I experienced different memories from my childhood when my emotional and physical needs weren’t met. I was unaware of the sadness that my inner child felt for so long. It was a part of me that split off when I was very young. She felt unsafe and unsupported. I completely melted into her perspective. I felt the overwhelming sadness washing over me like waves. The tears continued to roll down my cheeks. Eventually I felt like Alice in Wonderland who swam in her ocean of tears.  

TODAY, I LET MYSELF BE SUPPORTED, SEEN, AND HELD.

I almost drowned in the ocean of sadness that was stuck with me, but then I allowed myself to be held and supported by Alice and Kerrie. For the first time in my life, I experienced what it feels like for someone to attune to my needs – a missing experience from my childhood which they provided for me.

In the beginning it felt strange and I wasn’t sure if I wanted it because the child within me feared that she wasn’t worthy of having what she wants and needs. But once I let myself receive it, it felt like a golden eagle flew over to rescue me from this deep loneliness. I felt the protective mother energy of this beautiful strong eagle holding me tight.

Then I was held by the Golden Teacher, (the strain of psilocybin I ingested)  I felt it’s warmth and containing energy. Having this experience made me ready to hold and support the little child within myself with pure unconditional love. She will no longer have to feel alone.

I was able to break through the thick walls that prevented me from receiving love and support. And when my walls came down, I was able to open up more to other people.

I found that psilocybin therapy worked best for me in a small group setting because a lot of my wounding was about feeling lonely. The sharing of my experience with others in the integration sessions felt profoundly healing and it added an extra therapeutic element, which felt just as important as the ceremony itself. I was able to process and integrate the experience more. The trauma integration methods that Kerrie and Alice taught helped me to become clear on how I can use my insights as fuel to create lasting changes in my life.

Even though I have never used Psilocybin recreationally, I don’t think it is as beneficial without the therapeutic setting. A psilocybin journey is a deeply profound experience, and because of the support I received, I got so much more out of it than I expected.

A safe setting was key to my healing experience. Feeling safe helped me to dive deeper into my emotions. It supported me into trusting the process.

Psilocybin therapy was what I needed in order to find resolution for painful experiences of the past. It helped me to dive into my subconscious and reclaim the lost pieces of who I am.

I can now allow myself to be vulnerable and create deep meaningful friendships. In my work I started to collaborate with conscious companies and entrepreneurs so I no longer have to work alone. It feels like I regained my power by allowing myself to be supported.

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Conflict Is Needed💥⠀ ⁣Yes, sometimes, conflict is needed. We cannot always agree on everything. It is vital to set clear boundaries and express how you really feel. ⠀ ⠀ Recently I realized how unhealthy it was for me to suppress my anger because I wanted to avoid conflict. ⠀ ⠀ I used to be the Queen of Avoiding conflict. It came to a point where I would rarely feel angry. The truth is that my anger didn't disappear. Instead, it became unconscious. I was stuck in the past, reliving the same frustration over and over again. I turned into someone who was passive-aggressive.⠀ ⠀ I didn't want to feel my fury because I was afraid of it. I thought anger led to destruction, and I didn't want to hurt anyone. At the time, I couldn't see how my passive-aggressive behavior hurt people even more. ⠀ ⠀ A few years ago, I became aware of my suppressed anger. I started to release my anger through movement, writing, and other therapeutic practices. It helped me for a while, but for some reason, I couldn't get rid of my deep resentment. ⠀ ⠀ Until the day came were I exploded big time. I couldn't hold onto the fury that was burning inside of me anymore. I made the conscious choice to no longer avoid conflict anymore. ⠀ ⠀ During my explosion, I yelled, I was unkind, I said some harsh shit, but for the first time, I expressed how hard it was for me to hold onto all this anger.⠀ ⠀ I used to believe that my anger would push people away, but strangely, the opposite happened. It strengthened the relationship because I genuinely wanted to resolve the conflict and find a solution to the problem between us. ⠀ ⠀ You can do all the inner work in the world, but sometimes what you need is to express your emotions directly without holding back. ⠀ ⠀ What I learned from my explosion is that sometimes what we need in order to heal is to throw a facking tantrum. Surprisingly it was an immensely healing experience for me.⠀ ⠀ Of course, it is essential to take responsibility for your behavior. When you are in a state of I am right, and the other person is wrong, your conflicts will ruin your relationship.

Instead, take their best interest at heart without abandoning your needs. Do your best to be honest while respecting them. ⠀ ⠀ Anger is a powerful fuel for change. Bring awareness to your conflicts and magic can happen. ⠀ ⠀ The truth is healing is messy, and sometimes you have to get wild and let off some steam.

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True Belonging💫⠀ ⠀ ⁣“I long, as does every human being, to be at home wherever I find myself.”⠀ ⠀ I used to walk around with the feeling that I didn’t belong anywhere. I thought I was too different and that no one would ever understand me. I felt that I had the hide aspects of me in order to fit in.⠀ ⠀ The truth is that I felt ashamed of who I really was. I thought that the parts of me that were different would get me rejected. I started to hide who I am so I could stay safe and fit in.⠀ ⠀ I feared to feel humiliation more than anything. The feeling of shame made me feel like I was utterly alone in this world. Shame is an emotion that energetically feels like something is pushing you away.⠀ ⠀ What I realize now is that I was pushing myself away by hiding parts of me. My fear of shame prevented me from finding real belonging.⠀ ⠀ You can only find belonging by being who you really are. The more you move away from your true self, the more difficult it is to find true belonging.⠀ ⠀ There is a big difference between fitting in and belonging. You can change yourself so you can fit in, but you need to be yourself fully in order to belong.⠀ ⠀ “A deep sense of love and belonging is an irreducible need of all people. We are biologically, cognitively, physically, and spiritually wired to love, to be loved, and to belong.”⠀ ⠀ I wanted to find a group of people that made me feel accepted. I was always searching for people that were just like me, but I couldn’t find them.⠀ ⠀ What I learned along the way is that acceptance is not about finding people who are like you. We can genuinely belong with people that are very different.⠀ ⠀ True belonging goes beyond all differences and merges all polarities.⠀ ⠀ Stop focusing on who you think you should be. When you think you are weird or unloveable, you cannot see and feel belonging even when it is right in front of you.⠀ ⠀ You can find belonging by focusing on similarities instead of differences. When you recognize yourself in others, you can feel this deep sense of belonging.⠀ ⠀ There is always more that connects you to other people than that separates you.⠀ ⠀ How can you be more of who you truly are?⠀ ⠀ Start finding the parts of that you had to suppress to fit in and let them out✨

Quotes by Maya Angelou & Brené Brown⠀

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The Realm Of Consciousness🌊✨⠀

"The feeling of co-creatureliness with all things alive should enter our consciousness more fully and counterbalance the materialistic and nonsensical technological developments in order to enable us to return to the roses, to the flowers, to nature, where we belong."⠀ ⠀ The more we connect to nature, the deeper our understanding of the interconnectivity of all life.⠀ ⠀ We live in a society that keeps us alienated from nature, each other, and our true self. It is filled with meaningless activities that separate us from our divinity and humanity. ⠀ ⠀ Our fear programming can create anxiety, loneliness, and isolation. The more we let fear into our hearts, the higher our walls to connection.⠀ ⠀ These walls prevent us from giving and receiving love. The fear keeps us small and prevents us from living a meaningful life.⠀ ⠀ Trauma keeps us stuck in the past and prevents us from moving forward. The fear is that it will happen again. Our protector aspects can build walls around our hearts that prevents us from getting hurt again. Later on in life, these walls can start to imprison us. When you prevent yourself from feeling pain, you also withhold yourself from receiving love and experiencing pleasure. ⠀ ⠀ When we explore altered states of consciousness, we can get a new understanding of the world and ourselves. During these journeys, we can find the root cause of our current pain. The more we integrate these experiences, the richer our life gets.⠀ ⠀ Integration is merging both polarities into your being and finding resolution for your pain. It is becoming aware of these lost parts and giving it a new purpose in your life. True integration occurs when you can see yourself and others with compassion and acceptance.⠀ ⠀ Integrating the parts of you that you have suppressed about yourself will bring you back in touch with your true essence. ⠀ ⠀ It all starts with connecting with yourself and how you really feel. ⠀ ⠀ Are you ready to explore the deeper realms?⠀

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Quote from Albert Hoffman⠀ Source: How To Change Your Mind by Micheal Pollan⠀

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Feeling Is Understanding🙏🏼✨⠀ ⠀ ⁣The path of least resistance is allowing yourself to feel and experience every emotion.⠀ ⠀ Emotions are visitors. They come and go in waves. Know that no matter what feeling state you are in, it is never permanent. It is essential to understand that you are never powerless to the way you feel.⠀ ⠀ We can experience a vast range of emotions with a lot of variety. What is essential to understand is that one emotion is not better than the other. ⠀ ⠀ Joy is not better than anger. ⠀ Gratitude is not better than sadness.⠀ ⠀ We need to be able to feel all emotions on the spectrum in order to navigate our world. Emotions are powerful messengers. When you listen to your feelings, you are connecting to your internal guidance system. ⠀ ⠀ In our current society, we are conditioned into living in our heads. Growing up, we are usually not taught how to interact with our emotions. We learn to suppress, reject, and disown the way we truly feel. ⠀ ⠀ When we cut ourselves off from how we feel, we shut down our most crucial guidance system. ⠀ ⠀ Let me give it to you straight. We are not rational beings. We are emotional beings. ⠀ ⠀ When we get in touch with our emotions, we will realize that we need each other. We are a social species. Don’t expect yourself to do everything by yourself. We all depend on each other, and this doesn’t have to be a bad thing. ⠀ ⠀ We all need to express ourselves and share our experiences with each other. ⠀ ⠀ You are not just your emotions, but your emotions are part of you. You can see yourself as the container for all your experiences, thoughts, feelings, and emotions. ⠀ ⠀ When you can interact with your emotions, you create a stronger container. So you can feel more, be more, and experience more. Your life experience will become deeper and more profound. ⠀ ⠀ The deeper you go, the higher you rise.

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There Is NO Destination

he truth is you will never stop learning, growing, and expanding. Challenges will arise, wounds will open up, and suppressed emotions will surface. The healing journey never ends. It knows NO destination. Healing yourself is loving the aspects that you have pushed away. It is creating the opportunity to experience the opposite.

It is experiencing meaningful connection after you experienced loneliness. It’s to experience health after experiencing illness.

Healing is about finding your truth and stepping into your power. It’s peeling away all the layers of illusion. It’s reclaiming the lost pieces of who you are.

The key is to not be attached to the results of healing. It will not get more comfortable, but it will get better. You will feel more, experience more, and go deeper within yourself. You will discover things you never knew.

It’s time to release the fears that have secretly been holding you back from experiencing more profound healing. When you acknowledge your fears, it can actually help you to move forward.

Be brave enough to dive in again. Intense emotions and experiences can teach you great lessons. Healing is a life-changing experience that never ends. Knowing this truth:

What do you want to experience next?

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Connect With Your Heart

Surrender to the rhythm of your heart. Every beat of your heart is a rhythm of your soul. ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ It’s the center of wisdom within you that connects you to all that is. The more you connect with your heart, the more powerful you become. ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ You were never meant to play small. Your heart is here to remind you to not let fear and doubt weigh you down. ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ You have to be courageous to choose love over fear over and over again. To be brave, you have to be conscious and confident in your abilities. It is learning to trust yourself in the most difficult times. ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ When you are facing challenges, it can be easy to fall back into doubt and fear. This is why it is so important to connect with your heart.⠀ ⠀ ⠀ Whenever you are experiencing anxiety, know that you can always connect to the energy of your heart. It will guide you when you need it the most, but you have to be open to surrender and receive.⠀ ⠀ ⠀ Your heart will help you to trust yourself more. It will remind you that you are wiser and more powerful than you think and believe. ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ Let your heart be your greatest guide and teacher. Listen to your heart because it knows you better than anything or anyone else. 

It knows your deepest desires and your greatest fears. 

Your heart is you. 

It’s an expression of your most authentic self. ⠀

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Be WILD and be BOLD. Do not let your daily tasks, problems, and challenges hold you back from enjoying life.  Give yourself permission to be your crazy BADASS self.

⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When problems and challenges arise, we can easily take life too seriously.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

Let go of your need for control and perfectionism. The truth is life is messy and chaotic, and it doesn’t always make sense. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Having fun won’t make your problems instantly disappear, but it will help you to see things from a new perspective. ⠀⠀

⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Like Einstein said: “We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.” ⠀⠀⠀

⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Try taking on the perspective of a comedian. Start seeing your life as a joke. It might sound weird, but it actually works. ⠀⠀⠀

⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It will help you to see the situation you are in from a new perspective. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It can help you to understand the situation you are in, find a solution, and come up with your next action step. ⠀⠀⠀⠀

Life isn’t always easy. It can be facking hard and challenging but do not let this weigh you down. Do not let this take away your joy and happiness. ⠀⠀⠀

⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Laugh at your own mistakes, foolishness, and ignorance. Embrace the uncertainty of life. Create space for yourself to breathe, lighten up, and HAVE FUN.

Now is the time to get out of your box of seriousness. Start doing more of what makes you laugh, spread your wings and shine your light as bright as possible.

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We All Need Support

Even if you are not aware of it, you need support. We all do. It took me some time to understand what support is and why we all need it so bad. Already from an early age, I was miss independent. I always loved figuring out how I could do things myself. I admired people who seemed independent like superheroes, entrepreneurs, and athletes.

What I wasn’t aware of is that support didn’t feel safe to me. When someone would help me, I felt like a burden or thought I owed them something in return.

Even when we need support, there can be a pattern that keeps us from receiving it. Painful experiences of the past can continue to influence the way we think, feel, and act.

When we experience trauma, we get conditioned into thinking and believing that we are not supported. It can prevent us from seeing and receiving support when it is here.

You have the power to break free from these patterns by first becoming aware of when you feel unsupported and why. There can be a lot of different reasons why we uphold a pattern.

Sometimes you first need to see and accept the reality of what your childhood was really like and allow yourself to feel the pain of your needs not being met. Then it is about becoming aware of what kind of support you need in your life right now. You can ask yourself: How do I want to be supported and who can I reach out to for help? Be brave enough to be vulnerable and reach out for help when you need it. In the beginning, asking for help and allowing yourself to be supported can feel really uncomfortable. Know that it’s ok to feel scared and it will get easier.

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Do not let anything stop you from moving forward. When obstacles arise know that they are just reminders that you care about your path and that you have the power to move beyond your current limitations. You are never given more than you can handle.

Do not let fear and doubt weigh you down.

Allow your challenges to push you into being your best and brightest self.

You are stronger than you think and braver than you believe.

When your mind is unclear see the situation you are in from the birdseye view.

Look at your life as an observer.

Rise above your obstacles to see more clearly, then ask yourself: What is the next step I need to take to move beyond these obstacles?

Trust yourself, take action and move into the unknown!

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Seek To Understand

You cannot force yourself to forgive. Forgiveness is a natural result of healing. When we heal the hurt beneath the anger, frustration or blame, we can move into a state of compassion and forgiveness. This process cannot be forced or rushed.

⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Set the intention to understand someone instead of trying to forgive someone. Understanding will lead you toward forgiveness. ⠀⠀

⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Be brave enough to step into their shoes and see the situation for their perspective. When you do this, let go of your judgments. The process is about finding resolution for your current pain. You don’t have to forget what happened or approve what they did. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When you forgive or seek to understand someone the way you feel, think and act will change in a loving way. You will no longer have to hold on to all the anger, frustration, hurt and blame. You will set yourself free from the pain of the past. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Please don’t be too hard on yourself. Don’t expect yourself to always be loving, understanding and forgiving. Of course, there will be moments when you experience different emotions. It’s also ok to express your anger and feel hurt. 

Actually, when you connect with your pain, you will become more compassionate towards others that are in pain. ⠀⠀⠀⠀

⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Also, don’t forget to forgive yourself. You were doing the best that you can. What is just as important as seeking to understand the other person is seeking to understand yourself. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Give yourself full permission to let go and move on. You deserve to live a fulfilling life without feeling haunted by the pain of the past.

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Choosing something you have never done before is like opening a door into the unknown. Fear is like the monster behind the door. All your habits of hate and doubt make the monster bigger and bigger. This monster keeps us from feeling free to chose what we want. It prevents us from going in a new direction.

Instead of running away from fear move towards it. If you practice this long enough it will become a habitual pattern. Your habits of fear will be replaced with new habits of love. I am not saying it is easy, but it will be worth it. Your fears will no longer control the decisions you make.

It is now time for you to choose your own path that aligns with who you truly are. By accepting who you are at this moment you will be able to tap into your desires. Negative thoughts and situations aren’t here to punish you. They are here to show what you want in life and who you desire to become. Open the door to the unknown. You will realize there was never a monster in the first place.

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Burn Away The Fantasy

We all sometimes wish our life was different. You might wish that your parents were different, that your relationship didn’t have a painful ending, that you didn't experience heartbreak, that you didn’t get sick, that you didn’t experience the loss of someone you deeply love or that your career turned out differently.

Every person walking on this earth has felt pain, faced challenges and experienced disappointment. It makes us human. It’s ok to wish it had never happened. It’s ok to imagine how things could have gone differently, but don’t lose yourself in the process.

When you live in a fantasy, you lose your power to create something real and tangible in the here and now. You can set yourself free by letting go of your "if only's." Then you empower yourself to move beyond your fantasy and create a new life for yourself that is real.

Stop trying to fit your life into an idea of what it should look like. Stop changing yourself into who you should be. Stop expecting other people to live up to your expectations. Try to see people for what they really are separate from your fantasy.

I am not saying this is an easy process. You might feel sadness, and you might go through a grieving process. Be present with any emotions that come up and allow yourself to express how you feel.

When you release your fantasies all that is left is real. When you lose the need to escape what is, you set yourself free. Then you can be who you really are and embrace your life the way it is right now.

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Lost in thought I see no form

I can feel the thunderstorm

The wild mother calls me back home

She says You are wild my child

Born in the chaos of the light

Come back home into my heart

You shall be reborn

The light lost in the darkness brings me back home

Held by the loving warmth of the Universe

Suddenly I remember all

All that was lost

All that is found

The light carries me higher above

Into the stillness of the chaos

Deep in my heart, I remember

I am the stillness in the chaos

The thunder and the storm

I no longer have to fight 

I am reborn

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