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19 year old me was so right about aesthetics. When did I get so cutesy, cottagecore this ballet pink that. I need autumn forests and Marcus Aurelius quotes.

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On this morning two years ago.

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foaming at the mouth rn i need a 4 year old and i need to help them in a buffet line and be so patient and nice and motherly to them and ask if they want an egg roll and let them hold their plate as i get it for them and to tell them it's ok when they drop it and that we can just get another, ok, i need that. i need that. please. i need a babby. i need to teach them algebra. ok. do you understand me. i need to take them to the woods and watch them fill their pockets up with acorns. ok.

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bruleed figs, creamy salty feta, toasted pine nuts, tender thyme, olive oil. a very crispy toast. iced double espresso. a very good morning

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Decorative Jewish cloth from Italy with depictions of holy sites, ca. 19th century

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being in the pool while it’s raining should be considered an emotion

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What is this type of fabric called?

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@mmasha.i

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Natalie Shakur

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Actual serious question: why is it specifically people high in narcissism/poor with theory of mind reasoning that describe themselves as "empaths'? Like it's not just average people, it's people who are actually pretty bad at empathy. I keep seeing this. Is it an insecurity thing? Are there other phenomena where people who are really bad at something defensively start identifying as being really good at it by focusing on their rare successful moments? Are people mistaking hypervigilance or poor emotional boundaries as empathy, while the traumatized development of hypervigilant people tends to negatively impact their actual theory of mind?

I feel like the most insightful replies are going to come from people who previously called themselves an empath and grew out of it.

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Family money/access to wealth seems like the #1 determinant of success.

Yes and no. I’ve seen spoiled brats grow up and suffer because their parents didn’t teach them things properly and they couldn’t handle the family wealth, which either led to the family company being led by professionals or bankrupt. I’ve seen grounded rich kids grow up and expand their family’s empire. It’s all a part of your calibre to have ambition.

A boy worked as a security guard at a prestigious conglomerate. He didn’t speak a word of English, he only spoke his native language. He hailed from a small village in an Asian country, and provided for his family.

However, his boss, the main security head, had a feeling that he was smart. And when a prestigious financial company came knocking on the company’s door for some hiring purpose (my memory fails me exactly why they���d visited the conglomerate), the head security took the opportunity to talk to HR. He asked him if the boy could give the exam that the financial company gave for hiring candidates.

HR thought that the security head had lost his mind.

“Are you insane? He can’t even speak English!” argued the HR.

“Sir, please, if you just give the boy a chance, just to give the exam… I’m sure he’ll do well,” pleaded the security head.

The HR thought for a second.

“Very well,” he decided. “The boy may give the exam. Let’s see if he’s as smart as you say so.”

The exam had two components to it. One was a theoretical test and another, a spoken interview.

The boy aced the theoretical test and was only one of two people from all the candidates to do so. But his lack of English failed him in the spoken interview.

Still, he had impressed the financial company’s panel. They told him that they would hire him, under various conditions - one of them being learning English in a mere four months.

For four months, the boy toiled and toiled, until he grasped English. The company was ready to pay for the English tuition expenses. And in four months, when they were satisfied with his level of fluency, he joined the company.

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When I was 16, I began working. One of my first internships was at an education firm. A very kindly man mentored me and I learned a lot under him. He was passionate about education, especially educating backward, rural communities and previously had worked in a prestigious financial company. I was surprised to hear that he had left such a big job at the finance company to come and work in education. He said that the stress, burn out and lack of empathy wasn’t worth it. He told me how he would have to fire people in the most unsympathetic way possible - the company would provide him with a script, he would have to recite just that and watch the other person’s face fall. He couldn’t take the pressure that his job had anymore and felt stuck in his life. He wanted to create impact on people.

I learned plenty under him, and he was always ready to take me to business meetings and trips. He didn’t treat me like a child or as a teenager with unbalanced ideas - he would listen to my suggestions as a whole and give me genuinely honest feedback on it. I grew as a person under him.

My father later told me about my mentor’s backstory. You should have seen my face. There isn’t a single thing that gives away that he came from humble origins - his English impeccable, his knowledge vast, the way he dresses and carries himself with confidence - everything screamed “privileged upbringing” to me. I would have never guessed that he came from a challenged background and had to literally work his way up.

My former mentor now does social work. Him and his brother have created a project where they provide rural children who struggle to feed themselves with food.

The more calamities that exist, the more opportunities will come up. To survive in today’s world, you need to be able to solve problems. In an economy where we can see tiny start ups disrupting massive family business legacies, and with so much access to information and the net - if you don’t take advantage of every single thing you have to climb up, then you don’t really want what you truly want.

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Doesn't EVERYONE know this is an ecological disaster that's going to impact the long term health of anyone in the radius, regardless of what the company and agencies are saying? What's confusing me is how much attention this particular event is getting, because while horrifying, this isn't exactly rare.