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Android users, you know those symbols: ☆○□♤♡◇♧ + more on your keyboard? They can be used to organize folders without having to use numbers/letters to get them in an order you like. These are a lifesaver for our own simply plural. Alphabetical order (if you can call it that) is as follows:

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☆

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An example of what it looks like used ft our simply plural under the cut:

I'd love to show more but trying to not show private folders would be annoying for any further down this list

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Abnormal system culture is none of your fictives wanting to meet any sourcemates. Period.

It often feels like in every other system, their fictives want to meet their sourcemates in other systems. But we avoid them, even if there are some of us who want to meet the people they once knew again badly. Because we know that no matter what, it's not going to be the same person they knew. Because each fictive is really just that person's understanding of the character, and since we all perceive and internalize characters differently, they're never going to live up to that image in our head, unless it's from our own system. And the same goes for the other way around as well.

i absolutely agree! i understand wanting to meet likeminded people (as in, someone who shares an interest in xyz media), but sourcemates will never be a real thing, since introjects are always your specific brain's interpretation of source material.

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STOP IGNORING ME

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As someone who dated an endo "system" who used us and tried to force us to split alters of his interests because he wanted to fuck them, you all suck.

I don't care st this point, you don't give enough of a fuck to do your research and understand how fucking hard it is to cope with actually being a system.

We did not spend years of our life clawing at any sense of identity until our medical recognition just for you lowlife scumbags to claim you just formed a system because you wanted to.

Fuck you. Fuck all of you. I hope you get help, I hope you get over your delusions and accept the fact that you'll never have this horrible disorder because you should be glad that you don't.

It's not fun or quirky, it's miserable and you are the scum of the earth. You and anyone that supports you wholeheartedly.

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sorry for having alters with problematic sources i think it makes us Sexier

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- amaranth.

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HAPPY BIRTHDAY PATRICK AND CLEO!!

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age

age is a very complicated matter within systems, but i feel like on important thing to say is that BODY AGE COMES FIRST. i do not care if you're both the same age alter-wise, if your body ages are illegally different (adult and minor, ect) then you should not be dating. yes alter age can sometimes affect the maturity of alters but it differs from system to system and body age should always come first before you start to bring up alter age / consider it

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Narc high / Narc crash Holders

[pt Narc high / Narc crash Holders /end pt]

I couldn't find any so I tried my hand at some narc high & narc crash holder flags

These aren't great and I apologize for that as we are still learning ^^

Colors are based on This NPD Flag, This NPD Flag and This NPD Flag

I also would like to note now ; we are anti-endo, and are not comfortable with endogenic systems or their supporters using our flags along side these flags are not for those who are "transid" or radqueer, these are exclusively for systems with NPD or Symptoms of NPD. Flags are under the cut ^^

Narchigh Holder

A role for alters who hold the systems Narc highs due to their NPD or Narcissistic personality disorder!

Narccrash Holder

A role for alters who hold the systems Narc crashes due to their NPD or Narcissistic personality disorder!

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hi!!

i finally found a name!!

- kairos

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HELP I ACCIDENTALLY TRIED TO SET UP MY PLURALKIT IN A SERVER WE HAVE WITH A FRIEND THIS IS MORTIFYING

-12

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we started working on another section of our system spreadsheet with everyone’s birthdays!!!

theres a lot but its gonna be awesome for everyone when it comes together :]

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*sees new blog abt systems*

"oh cool ill check this out"

*it ends up supporting endos/willos/etc*

AAUUUGHHHHHHHHH

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also!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i did a little bit of googling and came up with this list of types of switches

Forced Switches - Switches that are forced, such as an alter taking control of front without consulting the others and without consent, or when an alter leaves front and another alter is forced to take their place.

Consensual / Natural - Switches that happen when two or more alters agree to switch, or when alters organically take the place of the other.

Triggered / Accidental - Switches that happen when another alter is triggered to front, or when an alter accidentally takes control by getting too close to front.

✪ Rapid Switching - When switches are happening in rapid succession, causing disorientation for the system.

✪ Hard Switch - Switches that are usually obvious and very quick. 

✪ Passive Switch - Switches that happen over a long period of time without the alters even realising that they are switching.

copied verbatim from our google doc (the stars is just a marking system in the doc)

:3

-🪐🫀

Beep

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Pro tip: if you know a narcissist who tends to oscillate between “I’m upset, why the hell isn’t everyone rushing to my side?” and “I don’t want to talk to you, I’m upset” a good solution to this is to talk to us, but as if we’re not upset.

Ignoring us while in a fragile state is narc language for “look how much fun I’m having while you’re busy crying. Look at me being so not concerned about you at all. You don’t even affect your surroundings, because if you did the world would stop until you felt better, but you’re basically nothing and everything is moving on without you.”

Trying to help or comfort us is narc language for “I think I understand what’s going on better than you do, and I’m making it your problem. My advice is to stop being upset immediately and do whatever I think you should. I’m now going to explain things you already know about the situation as if you’ve never known a damn thing in your life.”

So please for the love of god, just come over and talk to us like you wanna hang out. Don’t ignore us. Don’t attempt to solve or even acknowledge our emotions. Just say hi and ask if we want to hear a song or something. Make a joke or a compliment. Talk to us like everything’s going normally, and we’ll more than likely start to go along until we feel fine.

Nine times out of ten, what we actually need is just some basic company and supply.

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i suppress my headmates / mask their behaviour & then im surprised when i feel like im faking because i dont notice switches and we dont have major behavioural differences in public… hello??

not to mention im a control freak host who needs to be forcefully ripped away from front or else i dominate front 99% of the time