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i love you girls who are monotone or blunt. i love you girls who refuse to be people pleasers. i love you girls who are called "selfish" and "uncaring" for not being nuturing. i love you girls who aren't passive by nature, but stubborn and "bossy." i love you girls who are "frigid." i love you girls who don't make yourselves small. i love you loud and "chatty" girls. i love you cold and "emotionless" girls. i love you girls who are unashamedly proud and pleased with yourselves and get labelled "cocky" for it.

i love you girls who are considered "off-putting" due to people subconsciously thinking your personalities aren't "feminine" enough.

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I see how hard you've been working. It's okay to rest for a while, now, I promise. You're doing so well.

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shoutout to systems with anxiety disorders! anxiety can be difficult to cope with and is often not takeb seriously, so here's your reminder to do what you need to help ease it.

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If you hurt someone’s feelings, it’s super valid to be upset about that and have feelings about it.

It’s not so valid to make it so they have to comfort you because of your guilt, which may make them reluctant to come to you in the future with problems.

It’s okay to say “I’m really sorry I hurt your feelings. I feel really bad about that because I’d never intentionally want to hurt you”.

It’s not okay to say “oh my god, I’m a terrible person. You shouldn’t even be friends with me.“

Even if you’re genuinely feeling the second one, it can lead to the other person feeling bad they expressed their feelings, feel a need to comfort you and may lead to their feelings having to take a backseat.

It’s so valid to feel that way, but it’s important to try and regulate how we react to our feelings. If you need to talk it out, I think that’s okay but how you do it matters and please let the other person feel heard.

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happy new year plural community! if its the new year for you, anyway :D i hope this year has been kind to you, and if it hasnt, i hope the next one will be!

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shoutout to syskids. shoutout to really young syskids who like stereotypical kid stuff. shoutout to older, teenaged syskids. shoutout to sysmates who practice age regression. you are loved and safe here ❤️

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if youre fat and queer i hope youre having a really good day

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remember to be nice to sourced sysmates with sources you dont like, and to not judge people for their sources - yes, even that source! this includes yourself, too! youre no worse than anyone for your source(s).

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pinned post because ive gotta get this blog started already ☆

this is a plural positivity blog. we write posts. because fun. we take suggestions but we are busy and may not get to everything (but we'll try!) so keep thay in mind. ALL plurals welcome! let us know if we do anything that seems .. uninclusive? thank you!