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I have a couple of asks to answer at the moment but I'm feeling really exhausted at the moment so I might not respond for a while, thanks for your patience <3

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Even as an asexual, I really appreciate classic paintings and statues showing nudity. There's just a sense of normalness- hardly any of them are meant to be seen as sexual. I think it's beautiful to see all of these different body types represented so beautifully. That person is just chatting to their friend. That person is picking flowers. That person is welding a weapon. None of those things are inherently sexual or arousing. But they are often portrayed as naked.

Sure, seeing genitals even in art sort of grosses me out, I don't like seeing that stuff at all. But seeing the entire human body represented in such a casual way makes me feel so much better about it.

I also think it helps to make people more confident in their bodies. You must have seen those statues of Aphrodite, Goddess of Love and Beauty. With her stomach rolls and smallish boobs, I have heard so many stories of people saying "Wait. She looks like me! We have the same body! I'm beautiful!" (have you seen the original Tumblr post about this?). Seeing yourself reflected in these beautiful intricate paintings and statues, its so magical.

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I already did that on a post, but I wanna do that again, so shout out for the soldiers of love (vulgo, the Michael Jackson fans) for unlocking my asexuality for me. If you think that's baffling, I don't blame you, because that's indeed baffling.

shoutout to the soldiers of love!!

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Even as an asexual, I really appreciate classic paintings and statues showing nudity. There's just a sense of normalness- hardly any of them are meant to be seen as sexual. I think it's beautiful to see all of these different body types represented so beautifully. That person is just chatting to their friend. That person is picking flowers. That person is welding a weapon. None of those things are inherently sexual or arousing. But they are often portrayed as naked.

Sure, seeing genitals even in art sort of grosses me out, I don't like seeing that stuff at all. But seeing the entire human body represented in such a casual way makes me feel so much better about it.

I also think it helps to make people more confident in their bodies. You must have seen those statues of Aphrodite, Goddess of Love and Beauty. With her stomach rolls and smallish boobs, I have heard so many stories of people saying "Wait. She looks like me! We have the same body! I'm beautiful!" (have you seen the original Tumblr post about this?). Seeing yourself reflected in these beautiful intricate paintings and statues, its so magical.

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I'm very sex repulsed but at the same time i *want* to have sex.

I have high libido, although i have 0 sexual attraction i understand sexual desire. The concept of sex sounds very nice.

But again, im sex repulsed. I never tried to have sex but porn repulses me so i assume its the same thing with irl sex....?

I'm also trans and i want to go on T, is it bad for me to hope that going on T changes my repulsion? (which can actually happen)

i think wanting sex but also not/being repulsed by sex is normal. its a societal norm and also? sex isnt inherently bad.

t can increase your libido i think, so might change your opinion? also being in a body you are comfortable in can make you a lot more confident with having sex i think. i know hypersexual people who just wont have sex because they havent transitioned physicallly and dont want to have sex in that body?

but yeah. im sex repulsed but like the world is telling me to have sex and it makes me feel weird

you could have a look at this if youre wondering about a label?

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Whenever I'm scrolling on social media and come across a thirst trap, my reaction is usually "Ew, put your shirt back on! Nobody wants to see that!" But then I look at the amount of likes it has and realize that a lot of people want to see it... and I'm the outlier in this scenario.

How it took me nearly 19 years to figure out I'm ace is beyond me

lmaooo thats so realll like i dont wanna see that thanks

i genuinely cant see the appeal??

but anyways yeah i think it takes a lot of people a while to figure this sort of thing out, there is often little to no representation of asexuality and what it can look like

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oh god :o

its ace awareness week

if you're ace im aware of you

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HONK!

HONK!

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I don’t need a Skip Intro button I need a Skip Sex Scene button

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Based on this beautiful Alloromantic asexual pride flag I draw a little angry dragon. I like the colors 🤭

❤💜

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Growing up I didn’t know really what asexuality was. I grew up in a fairly conservative southern town and so lgbtqia wasn’t really a thing.

my first experience with asexuality was through Jaiden animations video about it. At first I thought that surely that couldn’t be me as I was a good Christian boy. Now I’m not even a boy

additionally being aegosexual I constantly doubt myself and doubt that I’m even asexual

its so difficult to grow up somewhere where you didnt even know queerness could exist. if you are queer in that environment, your feeling of being broken or wrong might be really strong and it can be so scary.

but people will love you for who you are. its okay to question your identity, but its also okay to identify a certain way. doubting yourself can be really difficult, but with enough research and experience, im sure you will find yourself <3

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So, my mom kinda outed me about being asexual a while back

In retrospect, it was pretty funny (and she was respectful about it), so I made a meme about it, this is pretty much how it happened

In my defense, I didn't think she knew what the ring meant

hehe

its so alienating when your parents know about stuff like that-

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Garlic Bread for my fellow Acespecs

Here you go!! I love y'all sm <33

Repost if your account is a safe space for acespec ppl

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ik it's kind of a dumb complaint but i wish people wouldn't automatically default to suggesting open relationships/polyamory for aces who want romance but not sex like it's a one size fits all solution... i'm not against polyamory, live ur life!! but me, im as monogamous as they come. like for me exclusivity is a big part of the appeal of romance and without it a relationship flat out wouldn't interest me at all. i just want a loving, committed, and intimate but sexless romance

i'm not okay with the idea of my future partner banging other people <- seen as reasonable and pretty standard when said by a non ace person, but unreasonable and prudish and restrictive when said by an ace person

sorry i can’t be a “cool” ace. sorry i want to experience devoted romance like other people get to. sorry i’m not enough the way i am

i KNOW i'm being whiny but sometimes i wanna cry bc it's like i'm getting constant passive aggressive reminders that no one will ever want to fully commit to me... and that unless i compromise who i am, i'll never be enough for someone. it's funny no one ever says the partner who wants sex should compromise instead. why are my wants in a relationship automatically less important??

people push back against the idea of a romantic but nonsexual monogamous relationship, even in ace spaces! it's so frustrating and disheartening :(

Submitted 06/10/24

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“If YoU’rE aCe ThEn WhY dO yOu WaTcH pOrN?” I mean I like watching boxing, but I don’t feel like getting punched in the face. 🤷��‍♂️

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I don't know what label would work for you but here is a queer dictionary and hopefully if I reblog it more people can see it and help you!!

Being a sex repulsed acespike is like:

*suddenly feels sexual attraction*

"Eww nooooo! Give me back my asexuality!"

Being an sex repulsed aegosexual/pseudosexual is like:

*has a sexual fantasy*

"Ewww. No, no, no. Go away. Please and thank you."

Being aegosexual/pseudosexual in general is like:

Hmmmm. I don't think I'm really ace. I'm probably just faking.

(But seriously. Give me more labels. The more I find, the less weird I feel. I love collecting them, though now my identity has gotten kinda complicated, lol)

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Be Careful ace kings and queens, a witch is after you