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I did not read the point of the post as "boys are peer pressured into watching pornography"which is an issue, but is hardly the cause of the social view of power dynamics between these two genders. The post was saying that boys feel entitled to girl's bodies because they have so much porn available. Not too different from the posts blaming homophobia on the "damn fujoshi" (after all yaoi IS porn). People do not learn courtship from porn, porn emulates the most common tastes to sell. Yes, indeed you are right: there are dubious contents on porn platforms, sadly, and that is an issue that must be addressed and solved, but I really think that banning porn would not work, it never has in history and it has been tried times and again. Furthermore such action would only succeed in pushing said platforms into an underground that harms sex workers fist and foremost and, instead of ensuring more control, would make sure that videos of actual abuse would be commonplace. Being critical is right, we should always be critical, especially of things that sorely need criticism (and the porn industry definitely DOES), but it is fundamental to be critical about the right things, otherwise we risk mixing sincere criticism with less than honest points, that only end up harming our argument.

i like when people go “why would you harass someone for nudes lol there’s so much free porn 🤪🤪” as if giving every small male child instant access to an infinite library of internet pornography is not the reason they feel entitled to having access to the bodies of all their female peers, too

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absolutely brilliant

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In my opinion: no, this is a huge fallacy. Every female child has access to all the porn on the internet as well, so that cannot be the difference, logically. The issue is not having access to porn while being male, the issue is socialisation and the way society tells amab people that it is ok for them to insist past the point of pestering while telling afab people that they should be honoured at being pursued. The issue is the idea that the "male" in the relationship should have power over the "female". Besides this argument is very similar to the one where liking violent video games/books makes you violent. Evangelical in form and content.

No, porn is not the issue, it indeed conforms to the shape of the issue because it is filmed to sell in, and appeal to, a society that doesn't value the importance of women's sexuality enough, but male adolescents having access to porn is not what makes many men feel entitled to women's bodies. Parents, peers and teachers telling a boy it is fine to pester a girl if he likes her, regular mainstream movies conveying the same message, the "social worth" ofa man in pop culture being measured in how many women he can have, those factors have far more impact on a young person's attitude towards how to approach "courtship" than any porn. Nobody watches porn to learn how to approach a sexual partner. Porn is taboo, private, courtship is a social ritual and having someone send you nudes is very often about bragging to friends, about the social power it gives you. When someone sees a nude from a porn professional they do not assume this gives them power over that person, they just want gratification. On the other hand: when one asks for nudes from an individual that doesn't want their nude body to be seen publicly, the points are power and trust. We should start caring more about the trust angle and leave the power angle to those who aren't in denial about their kinks and know how to play with them without hurting others. We should teach young people about safety and how to achieve gratification in a way that leaves all parts involved happy rather than waging a new purity battle against porn that would only stigmatise sexuality more.

i like when people go “why would you harass someone for nudes lol there’s so much free porn 🤪🤪” as if giving every small male child instant access to an infinite library of internet pornography is not the reason they feel entitled to having access to the bodies of all their female peers, too

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On the Verona electoral result: I am so glad. Especially since now bishop Zenti can go see how much his voice counts.

Much less than a disagreement among fascists.

If he hadn't written that letter he might have spared himself the embarrassment. Ehh, when your religiosity is all abut hating, one day you will lose the young people, thankfully.

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I think that knox's tweet about "catholic Italy" is a great example of the tragedy of USA wasps. Aside from being egregious since it comes from, well, THAT person and is clearly noting but yet another way for her to try and paint herself as a poor victim. Even when wasps want to actually champion worthy causes, they will do it in the most xenophobic and "any country aside from ours is one step above using donkeys instead of cars" way. Imagine if we spoke that way about the USA. "Even in calvinist USA there is less overcrowding in prisons" "Even in calvinist USA there is a more liberal attitude towards marijuana consumption" "Even in calvinist USA there are more money being invested in road renovation"

You know what happened in ""catholic"" Italy, Mrs Knox? That the young black man who was the only one to take the fall for the homicide you and that other human piece of garbage of Raffaele Sollecito were "involved" in, did spend some time in prison where he got a degree. And, hopefully, began building a better life for himself after paying his debt to society. Unlike what happens in most USA-american prisons with inmates.

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Aiuto ho visto un post mi sono quasi usciti gli occhi dalle orbite

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Aiuto ho visto un post mi sono quasi usciti gli occhi dalle orbite

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i really love that line οὐ μὲν γάρ τοι ἔτ᾽ ἄλλος ἐλεύσεται ἐνθάδ᾽ Ὀδυσσεύς, "no other odysseus will ever come to you," because he's saying not that he is the true odysseus but that there is no truer odysseus alive on the earth. he doesn't say, 'i am the real odysseus.' he says, 'i'm the realest odysseus you're going to get.'

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definitely number 1 over here

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(confused screaming)

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Con le tue finestre aperte sulla strada e gli occhi chiusi sulla gente Con la tua tranquillità, lucidità, soddisfazione permanente La tua coda di ricambio Le tue nuvole in affitto Le tue rondini di guardia sopra il tetto. Con il tuo francescanesimo a puntate e la tua dolce consistenza Col tuo ossigeno purgato e le tue onde regolate in una stanza Col permesso di trasmettere E il divieto di parlare E ogni giorno un altro giorno da contare

Com'è che non riesci più a volare Com'è che non riesci più a volare Com'è che non riesci più a volare Com'è che non riesci più a volare

--Fabrizio de Andrè/Francesco De Gregori "Canzone per l'Estate"

Attempt at a translation by me

With your windows open on the street and your eyes closed on people With your serenity, lucidity, permanent satisfaction Your replacement tail Your clouds for rent Your swallows guarding the rooftop. With your serialised franciscanism and your sweet coherence With your purified oxygen and your regulated waves in a room With permission to transmit And a ban on speaking And each day a new day to add to the count

How comes you cannot fly anymore? How comes you cannot fly anymore?

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For all that I adore Frollo and dislike what Disney has done to him: it is a true pity that no adaptation of Note Dame de Paris ever truly tried to adapt Sister Gudule/Paquette. I LOVE her, she is such an interesting tragic figure. I know her story is steeped in negative anti-Roma prejudices and I really dislike the implications it has for Esmeralda and her "gentler" nature and "more attractive" looks. Still, the woman herself as a character? Amazing. It is not often that a male narrator is so good at giving depth to a deeply flawed female character. You can feel her pain rotting into anger and fanaticism, her need for revenge making her a monster until she realises WHAT she has been screaming for. At which point it is too late. Because what made her feel powerful was not her influence on the angry crowd, but the fact she was repeating what the mass wanted to hear. And she tries to undo the damage, to try and save Esmeralda, she cannot, but she tries, and it moves me every single time the desperation with which she tries.

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ive said it before but it bears repeating now more than ever: no odyssey adaptation, book or movie or whatever, will ever top the 1968 italian one produced by la Rai, starring Giuseppe Ungaretti as the narrator, Bekim Fehmiu as Ulysses and Irene Papas as Penelope. and every cambridge student can die mad about it.

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in italy we don’t just say “i’m angry”, we literally say “i’m out of the grace of god” and i think it’s beautiful

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“Lord it would be great to find a place we could escape sometime”