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theres actually no rules to transitioning and youre allowed to want contradictory things for your transition. it's fine if you only want some of the changes that come with hrt and take preventative measures for the rest (like wanting bottom growth but not body hair or vice versa). you can want to have vagina AND a dick. you can be a woman and want top surgery, or wear a packer. you can be a man and want to have a pussy. you can change your transition goals one or a million times or not have any goals at all and just take things as they come or as they feel right.

there are no rules.

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honest.. it needs to be better known that you can get phalloplasty without a vaginectomy (= keeping the vagina), you can get phalloplasty with or without 'burying' your t-dick (aka its either in the phallus or remains outside of it/accessible), you can get phalloplasty with or without creating testicles, you can get phalloplasty with or without urethral lengthening, and there are multiple options for graft sites outside of arm or thigh grafts.

i knew pretty much none of this before i happened upon the blog of someone who had phalloplasty without vaginectomy. this is all stuff a surgeon would explain to you - but you may never consult a surgeon if you, like i did, think the only option available for phalloplasty is forearm graft phalloplasty with testicles, vaginectomy, clitoral burial and urethral lengthening, and that doesnt work for you.

phalloplasty in general is misrepresented terribly all over the place and many, many people say "i dont want bottom surgery because phalloplasty cant give me (x) result" and the one thing holding them back will be something thats entirely possible. meanwhile the main thing you hear about phalloplasty in the community is "the technology isnt there yet" "it doesnt look good/natural" "its not functional" etc etc, and while that may be true for many people, i suspect the lack of information about what a post-op phallus can actually look, feel and function like and the options you have regarding the surgery play a big role in the really bad reputation it gets and makes a lot of people completely give up on a surgery theyd really want because theyve been fed outdated and incomplete ideas about it.

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portuguese miku.

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im sorry some of you are too blind to realize big tits no bra is a masculine look for the ages. butches and trans men who rock this are by far gds strongest soldiers

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hiya tumblr, is it possible to be allosexual and sex repulsed at the same time?

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Unpopular (?) opinion:

When I was young and wondering why I hadn't experienced a crush yet, the internet said I was probably just a late bloomer. They urged me not to identify as aroace because I could change my mind later on.

And looking back, like… so?

If I had been a late bloomer, who cares?

I was 13. I felt comfort in the aroace community. I didn’t feel like a weirdo for once in my life, surrounded by people who were like me. But I was urged to not join these communities until I became an adult in case I changed my mind about being ace. So I didn’t. And I paid for that.

Who cares? If you’re young and feel like you’re aroace, then you’re aroace. If you “change your mind” later, it’s okay. No one is going to be born and know themselves 100%. I genuinely thought I was alloromantic once, but now know I’m not.

Speaking from experience, I would rather have kids be “wrong” about their sexuality than feel like they have no place of belonging.

We shouldn’t gatekeep aroace folk because of their age. It hurts. It makes kids feel like they are the freaks society tells them they are.

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a lot of the perception with male lesbians, specifically trans man lesbians, is the implication that Every trans man attracted to women is a lesbian so it’s misgendering. but that’s not what being a trans man lesbian is, it’s choosing the lesbian label. not every trans man attracted to women is a lesbian, but some are because they choose it. i’m not misgendering myself if these are the labels i choose because i’m using them in a way that reflects my own identity. ofc don’t assume every trans man is a lesbian bc that is misgendering but that’s not what being a trans man lesbian is

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pfft first transphobe interaction. and I think they go on the trans tags frequently to be transphobic on random posts. some people really need to get a life

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please remember to bind safely.

I just got my first binder today and it was too small. after wearing for like a minute, I've got horrible rib pain that's persisted through the whole fucking day.

if you're in between sizes, order the larger one. "but the smaller one could fit me" are bad thoughts of unsafe binding practices talking, get the larger one.

if there is the slightest pain, stop binding immediately and don't try again. try it instead with a better fitting binder or consider looking into other options.

so yeah, please remember to bind safely. your body and your future self will thank you.

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Aplatonic (apl for short) flags part 1 :3 ⭐️ (This set uses yellow, there's another set that uses green+blue+purple for apl instead.) (Due to the image limit, this is split into 4 posts.)

I noticed some a-spec flags were missing tertiary counterparts, so I made some. Some of these flags have already been made before, so they're not all original (I still wanted to have all the flags together in a set, and all in the same res).

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greyplatonic | demiplatonic | aegoplatonic

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non sam apl (1) | non sam apl (2) | neu apl

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aplvoid | aplflux | aplspike (1)

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aplspike (2) | apljump | dark greyplatonic

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light greyplatonic | atomoplatonic | delloplatonic

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fictoplatonic | cupioplatonic | bellusplatonic

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reciproplatonic | lithoplatonic (1) | lithoplatonic (2)

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frayplatonic (1) | frayplatonic (2) | apothiplatonic

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orchidplatonic | myrplatonic | aplflexible

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I'll also note that some of these terms can have multiple names, with the "platonic", "aplatonic", & "apl" part being interchangeable. This isn't applicable to every term though. I also chose not to list everything to try to keep it brief. So for example, greyplatonic can also be called greyaplatonic and greyapl.

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[A-spec flag sets masterpost]

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Adhd is having 1000 hobbies and doing none of them in your free time 😎

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Fuck, man. Neurodivergent love. I’m never going to get over it. Depression love says “I will do my best to stay for you.” DID/OSDD love says “Every face of this brain is endeared to you.” Autism love says “I will do anything to reach you, to give you the understanding I never got.” BPD love says “You are a vital organ of mine, and I am one of yours.” Bipolar love says “Wherever I may go, I will come back to you.” Post-traumatic love says “I will always show you gentleness in this reckless world.” ADHD love says “I will try for you, no matter the obstacle.” Anxiety love says “You are my safe space and I am yours.” ASPD love says “I choose to, on purpose, for you.” OCD love says “I will stand guard for you.” Neurodivergent love. Neurodivergent love. Different brains in love, oh my G-d. These colors are uncountable and they are my religion.

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life can be so interesting. turns out these things that cause me immense distress and impair my overall life are actually symptoms. huh.

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♔ || HIKARI KAGURA ICONS

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requested by @magicparade !!

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YOS

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no google, I am not raising a child

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Happy New Lesbian Year!!