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Started to give my altar a " makeover"...

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Most people, almost everyone, don't understand how complex parenting is and everything you have to do and NOT do (yes, even that's hard). Most parents do tons of things that are harmful and wrong. And these include really subtle, small, seemingly harmless things, too. If you really want to be better parents than 95% of the parents in this world, then there is such an incredibly tremendous amount of effort you have to put in. And people don't understand just how enormous that effort is and just what and how much you have to do/learn/know/be. There is so much you have to learn and know and do and be able to do before you become parents and while you are parenting. And all of that, is literally impossible in this world, system, and society. Because you need so much money, time, resources, support, and much, much more for all that you have to do. And the world you're living in doesn't allow it or make it possible. And even if we were somehow living in a "perfect world", being a "good parent" would never be possible.

Because first of all, you brought a child into existence despite not being able to take their consent. That's wrong (unethical and immoral) in the first place, since you can't take consent (which, even if it was possible, I don't understand how it would work and don't think that concept makes sense) and due to what bringing a child into existence implies for that child, a human being, which is a an entire different and enormous discussion by itself, so there is literally no such thing as a "good parent". It's just like how there's no such thing as a "good criminal". A criminal is a criminal. A parent is a parent. And just like how a criminal can commit their crimes "well" (being a good strategic thinker/planner...being clever and courageous, being skilled, etc) or not well, a parent can also do that, and the thing is, most parents don't do their "job" NEARLY "well" enough. And if you want to do it better than 95% of the parents in this world, then there is an unbelievable and innumerable amount of things you have to do, which the kind of world we live in doesn't make possible to do.

You are a human being with a job and with very limited time, money, and resources, etc. You are also an adult, which means you have been conditioned and programmed in many ways that are not good, that are probably harmful. And you would need to deal with that, which just by itself, is something that requires an enormous amount of time and effort, and we're back to not having enough time, money, and resources (and much more) for that. Even when you reduce the work you have to do to do your "job" as a parent way, way better than most parents, down to something that is possible to do in this world, society, and system, even then it STILL requires tremendous time, energy, and effort, and much more. It's also not something you can do by yourself — you need other people, and that might not be possible for you. And if people think that what I'm saying is wrong, that being a parent doesn't require an unbelievable amount of effort and doesn't require you to do all the things you need to do (grow, change, heal, learn, read/watch/do, think, understand, learn unlearn learn unlearn, do, develop, do, gain, etc etc etc), then those people are ignorant, delusional, stupid, immature, unwilling, and/or very, very selfish. And cruel.

I think if a couple attempted to do all of those things that are essential to do to be the 'best' parents possible, while living in this world, they would lose their minds and cause themselves and each other a lot of damage. Because of our parents, and all the parents before and ever, being..quite terrible and so far from "good parents", it's even more difficult, and I'm saying all that I am considering this fact, of course. Why is it even more difficult? Well, because obviously, everyone is raised by their parents/caregivers (when I say 'everyone' I don't also mean people who grow up without anyone caring for them, etc), and our parents/caregivers, environment, the country, city, state, area we live in, life outside of home (which involves other people who are not raised by close-to-good parents), family, experiences, what we see, learn, hear, are taught directly and indirectly, everything and much more ALL obviously very significantly impact and influence us and shape us as the human beings we become (I mean, you don't ever "become" a human being, you are born as one, but you get what I mean). Oh, and by saying that, I don't mean we are born as blank slates, that's not true at all. However, external factors significantly shape and impact us. Your psychological type is also an incredibly and significantly important factor I'm sure, but no one knows about this or talks about this (this is the first time I include this when talking about something like this..). All this obviously influences and impacts the kind of parents you are going to be, and many, many of the ways you have been influenced, conditioned, impacted, and programmed are harmful and you would need to deal with that first which is a lot of work, and work on yourself, get help from others, grow, etc..

There is so much to do and if you are going to bring a human being into existence, into this planet, they deserve the absolute best (whatever that is), and you owe it to them to give them that (even if you adopt), and since literally no one can do that (they can only give THIER best, which unfortunately is never enough), especially also because of what this world is like and the fact that more things are out of your control than what is, you shouldn't have kids. There are many, many more reasons why you shouldn't than this, of course. I know it sounds like a strong statement, and like it leaves no room for any 'buts', but really, you shouldn't. There are no 'buts'.

When you truly understand what it means to be a parent but also what it means to bring a human being into existence, into this specific world, system, and society, when you understand both of these things truly, when you have thought about it and read others' perspectives, arguements, and views, too; you realize it is 1000% better and the best to NOT have any children, to not become a parent. You realize it's the right thing to do. I haven't even talked about exactly all the things you must do in order to become closest-to-good parents, or what the implications of bringing somebody into existence are, the issues in this world (I don't even know enough about this yet, yet what I know is enough), or just antinatalism. There is still so much I don't know about all that myself. I'm not some "expert". There is a colossal amount of things to talk about here. And I think everything I'm saying is way too complicated to be explained simply or be understood easily, so you either get what I mean, or you don't.

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Bc i want this blog to be my" personal space"

but tumblr without reblogging is only half the fun i made a side blog: @lenialionsoul2

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Todays junkjournal pages

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- Franz Kafka, 1912

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Some abstract stuff i made

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My little altar space today

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One of my faforite shirts i own for a few years...but the seams got weaker and weaker so i stitched over the damages ( and might got carried away a bit...)

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Some more sketchbook pages

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Just finaly happy with how my haircolour came out this time.

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ich will ja keinen Stress anfangen oder so aber wenn alle sagen "ich wähle die Linke nicht weil die eh nicht über 5% kommt" dann kommt sie auch nicht über 5%...

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I'm 49 y old, using she/ her pronouns, living in central europe ( so english isn't my first language)

Married since almost 20y.

Cat mom.

Metalhead but not dressing like it anymore ( bc tired of all this blacj(

childfree by choice bc i don't have any maternal instinct and didn't want to pass on my shitty genes.

I love to be creative with things others would consider junk like collaging, making junkjournals, upcycling or visibly mending clothes I draw and paint a lot and recently started to experiment with printing techniques like linocut.

Chronicaly ill ( Restless legs syndrom) and batteling depression since my teenage years( but only properly diagnosed at age 30)

Trying to find peace through meditation and mindfullness In my spiritual practice i mostly work with my ancestors and do cartomancy .Sometimes i create sigils.I was raised into christianity and i hate the travesty institutions made out of it...but i still think that Christ was a wise teatcher.I'm also influenced by buddhism and recently started to resarch about lucerifanism.

I powerwalk and do yoga a lot to stay healty and in shape.

Currently on a no buy challenge and vegetarian since almost 35y.Self proxlaimed hippy Not loving or better absolutly hating capitalism and facism

I don't tolerate any rightwingers, terfs, homophobics , " pro lifers" ect..!

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#both are absolutly vital...

#how much i l miss our thrift shop...

remember what’s really truly important in life : local bookstore

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..and suddenly i found myself in an internet rabitthole named " Luciferanism"...