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Dealing with change

Change is something that is so very scary but also it is inevitable to grow if parts of our lives don’t change. Not to say you have to make yourself change who you are but rather allow yourself to change on your own and learn to adapt. From change within our souls, to physical change, to change in our routines, every aspect of our lives affects our mental health. Learning to deal with change, for me, is never ending. Right when I think I’ve got it down life throws a curve ball and I’m back to step 1. Mental health, to me, is one of the most important things! I always associate mental health with laundry. The more anxiety and stress you have, the more you pile on to your laundry. So it’s important to learn how to constantly be putting things up or away (not as in ignoring the issue but learning how to make it not be an issue) in order to deal with the next pile.

As you may have read in my last post I’ve recently had a couple HUGE life changing events. In 2018 I was a girl who was working on opening her business and constantly on the go. I lived with my parents and had a boyfriend who I’d see on my free time. Now, in 2020, I am someone’s wife, mommy to be, stay at home wife and I can say my life has taken a 360 degree turn. Becoming a wife wasn’t that hard because Javi and I started dating in 2011 and we know each other pretty well. He’s literally my best friend so living together isn’t bad at all. What was hard at first was separating from my parents. Even though I only live 30 min away from them and I can go see them whenever, I was very used to having them around. Getting pregnant wasn’t something we thought was in the cards for us so that is something I’ve received with extremely open arms. (It’s been rough though, trust me. I will for sure dedicate a whole post for that subject.) What has been extremely hard for me is my career change.

I’m verry much a routine person, it helps with my mental health. I like to know what the next day holds for me. I was used to getting up, showering, getting ready, having coffee at the salon and every day I had listed out on an agenda what was going to be done. I knew exactly how to handle and put up my “laundry”. Now it’s kind of you get what you get and you gotta do as best as you can with what you got. I’ve been out of the salon for 3 months and I think I’ve gotten better and handeling my anxiety with not having a specific routine down. At first it felt like when you do a lot of laundry and you’re not quite done hanging it up by the time you already have more waiting for you. So I brought out my agenda again but it was hard to plan out when I didn’t know what’s coming. So I’ve changed from having 2 colors and 3 haircuts, to organizing/ cleaning certain parts of our home. From getting up and going straight to the shower to getting up and packing lunch for my husband and going back to take a nap. This specific change has really taught me to control what I know I can and stop worrying so much of what I can’t. Constantly worrying about things we can’t control will only add more stress and anxiety to our pile. So do one load at a time. It’s ok to not be able to do it all at once!

The more I turn into a “real adult” the more I realize adults really don’t have it together. As a kid I thought the bar was so high that I was never going to reach it and be a “real adult”. It’s all about learning to handle what you’ve got in front of you before you move on to the next thing. Obviously it’s great to have a plan but enjoying each step instead of worrying yourself every time you’re in a new phase in life is sooo much more  efficient. It’s easier said than done and I will probably be the first to make myself read this again on my hard days. But know you’re not alone and we’re all trying to figure out how to handle our laundry. Asking for help isn’t something you should be afraid of and if all else fails, you can always send me an anonymous message through here. Thank you for taking the time to read this. I hope in whatever way it helps you realize we all hate laundry but it’s got to get done <3 speaking of which, I need to go throw my towels in the dryer! Catch ya next time.

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Putting my career on pause

As many of you know, I opened up a salon about a year and a half ago. I had been doing hair since 2013 and slowly as I grew I decided to open up my business. With a little push from my dad, my #1 fan, and lots of help i was able to open up Chic Salon &Spa in December of 2018. After long hours of remodeling and designing and budgeting this day came! It was such a dream come true to see my parents be so proud and my, then, fiancé so supportive was like I lived in a movie. I was able to gather up a pretty great staff and in November of the following year I got married! Everything was flowing so well!

Once 2020 hit we started hearing about COVID-19 and even though at first it wasn’t something super serious we started preparing. January and February where two months of budgeting and rapid change. In March our salon was forced to close down temporarily. This was so supper hard but I knew we’d eventually open up so it was going to be ok. At the end of March I found out I was pregnant!

This was such a surprise for my husband and I because we didn’t expect to be able to get pregnant. Our little mirracle was forming inside of me during a pandemic and I had to do EVERYTHING I could to protect him/her. We started praying and budgeting and after almost two months of being closed and bills still coming in we realized it was going to be very difficult to keep running. I was willing to work long hours once we opened but with the doctors advice I realized I would be putting my baby at risk. Not only of COVID-19 but with extream sanitation procedures, I would risk my baby’s health by inhailing all of the fumes. The long hours of work to makeup for months of incom lost would put my body in stress and that would risk it too. The decision was made, we would close down the salon until the baby was born and my body could heal.

It’s been very tough going from “business owner” and staying constantly busy to “stay at home wife”

But I know it’s going to be all worth it! This little miracle baby is already such a great joy and I know my clients will be ready for me as soon as I re-open. Sometimes you have to put pause on one dream to work on another.

Requested posts to come:

•Dealing with change

•Pregnancy during a pandemic

•Why I got married

If you think of any other topics, feel free to message me on here or my Instagram @juri.459

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Hey there again lol! Reading up on the past two posts really made me open my eyes on how long I’ve been wanting to do this but never really had the time. So let’s catch up! Almost 4 years ago I was single, flying out to Colorado, dealing with a lot of “young, dumb, and broke” drama so I escaped to my safe place. Three days after being there Javi, my old boyfriend, surprised me on my birthday. We were on good terms at this point at had been talking and flirting again but him driving 18 hours to come see 21 yr old Juray really blew my socks off. Fast forward to right now, I’m married to him, (life works in crazy ways) I have a business on pause, (I’ll dedicate another post to that) am 4 months pregnant and have SOOOOO much time. This year has been such a year of growth, I think for everyone, that I wanted to be able to share a few things that have been molding me and maybe someone reading this will know they’re NOT alone. I want to be very clear and raw and vulnerable with you because that is the only way to really express genuine life changes. Anyway I’m super excited for this new chapter in my life and thrilled to share a few of my experiences. Message me topics, questions, and pretty much anything you want me to write about. See you soon!

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Day one

You know that feeling you get when you arrive to your home? Not necessarily a building or house but that place where you feel the safest. For some it's in the arms of a loved one, others it's in a small room. For me, home is in a small town a few miles east from the Rockies. Longmont Colorado. A place where all my childhood memories come to life. A place where I feel so in my zone that it's almost magical. Today as my plane descended into Denver, I could feel my heart beat so fast that I could've screamed! When I got out of the airport and felt that first fresh brease flow through my hair and fill my lungs with joy I knew I was home. But when I saw the glorious mountains coated with that glittering white blanket of snow, I knew that leaving this place would be the hardest thing I would have to do. Day one of returning home and I'm already having anxiety about leaving.

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Hey there! Im starting this blog to fill you in a little bit of my simple yet complicated life. Today I board my flight in Little Rock with the destination my inner child longs for, Colorado. As I wait here (2 hours early because my father insists that’s the right time frame for a flight) I’ve decided to start this novel by Fiona Barton. Stay tuned for this week filled with adventure and lots of caffeine!