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ny mother believes social media made me depressed and gay

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failed a test? not anymore!

i think lots of problems in life could be solved by pinning boys up against walls and kissing them

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there is one joy in life and its seeing ur boyfriend look up at you all sleepy and go "I love you" in his little sleepy voice

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Ways I show romantic feelings between characters (before the confession!)

I'm not big on writing romance, but when I do, I love to show the events and feelings leading up to the big emotional release. Here are a few of the ways I hint at those feelings!

Stealing glances when the other isn't looking

Wondering what the other character might think of a certain outfit/mannerism/activity

Talking about the other character to their friends

Feeling uptight/overly stiff in front of the other character (only in certain scenarios!)

Alternatively (and more commonly), feeling overly at-ease while with the other character

Accidental touches, and then thinking about it for hours or days after

Picking up mannerisms from the other character without realizing it

Wanting to spend an unusual amount of time with the other character

Consuming a piece of media and relating certain characters/scenes to the other character Feel free to add on with other ideas!

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why do you charge money for your art

big fan of eating

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helpful

physical intimacy prompts

holding hands during a stressful situation

smiling in-between kisses

touching foreheads

cheek kisses

slow dancing

intertwining fingers

comparing hand sizes

resting your head on your partner's lap

piggy back rides

standing on your tip toes to reach your partner's lips

kissing your partner's wounds

forehead kisses

falling asleep on your partner's shoulder

bridal carries

spooning

rolling over in bed, switching positions during a kiss

embracing your partner

intertwining fingers when making love

nudging into the crook of your partner's neck

being carried/tucked into bed, after having fallen asleep on the couch waiting for your partner to come home

saying ''i love you'' in-between kisses

nose boops

back rubs

tracing fingers down your partner's chest

hand on chest during a casual conversation

bumping into each other

hugs that last longer than they should

showering together

hands around the waist

straddling your partner's thighs

helping your partner undress

playing with your partner's hair

falling asleep to your partner's heartbeat

resting a hand on your partner's back

squeezing each other's hands

sitting in your partner's lap

cupping your partner's face

tickling

spooning/scooting closer to your partner in bed

linking arms with each other

exploring each other's lips

caressing your partner's face

brushing your lips together, lingering for a moment

jumping into your partner's arms

wrapping legs around your partner

tucking a strand of hair behind your partner's ear

pulling your partner into your lap

hugging from behind

lifting your partner off the ground

holding hands across the table

holding hands under the table

bear hugs

caressing your partner's hand

laying a hand on your partner's thigh

literally sharing a sweater

feeling each other's pulse

glancing at each other's lips

falling asleep while cuddling on the couch

climbing back into bed, onto your partner's body to wake them up

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You know what this means...heterosexual marriage hit the fucking towers. Disgraceful

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Anger

Anger is one expression of fight-or-flight mode — an automatic, instinctive reaction to a threat. In many cases, there is an underlying fear of being harmed. Thanks to autonomic nervous system arousal, the heart rate increases, pupils dilate, and the face may flush. Other signs of anger

Balling the fists

Crossing the arms tightly

Clenching the fists once arms are crossed

Tight-lipped smile

Clenched teeth

Shaking a finger like a club

Stabbing a finger at someone

Attraction

Pupils dilate

Women will cross and uncross legs to draw attention to them

Mirroring – (usually unconsciously) mimicking the other person’s body language

Closed to Conversation

Keeping the hands in the pockets (esp. men)

Arms and legs crossed

Sitting back

Folding the hands together on a table (creates a barrier)

The “figure-four” leg cross (setting the ankle of one leg on the knee of the other) and then grabbing the lower half of the top leg with both hands.

Openness and Honesty

Exposure of the palms

Arms and legs unfolded

Leaning forward

Submissive Signals

Smiling – that’s why some people smile when they’re upset or afraid

Slumping the shoulders

Doing anything to appear smaller

Distress

Men in particular have a tendency to stroke or rub the nape of the neck when they’re upset. It acts as a self-soothing gesture to deal with a “pain in the neck.”

Crossed arms – arms act like a protective barrier

Self-hugging – arms are crossed, hands gripping upper arms

One-arm cross – one arm crosses the body to hold or touch the other arm – women keep a hand on a purse or bag strap to make this look more natural

Clutching a purse, briefcase, or bag with both arms

Adjusting cuffs or cuff-links (men’s version of the purse-strap grab)

Folding the hands together in front of the crotch (men)

Lying

Lying causes a subtle tingling in the face and neck, so the gestures below are attempts to eliminate that feeling

Covering the mouth – can be like a shh gesture, or they may cover the mouth completely – some people try to cover it by coughing

Touching or rubbing the nose or just below the nose – often a quick, small gesture, not a scratch

Rubbing the eyes (especially men)

Scratching the neck with the index finger

Superiority, Confidence, Power, Dominance

Steepling the fingers (aka setting the tips of the fingers together)

Folding the hands behind the back

Thumbs sticking out from pockets when hands are in pockets (can be front or back pockets)

Hands on hips

Straddling a chair

Hands folded behind the head while sitting up (in men)

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PLURAL TOOLS!

I felt like this is important for every plural system out there. These are useful tools (which can be as well for fun)

Pluralkit on Discord: Pluralkit is a bot on discord that helps you make "multiple accounts" without having to sign in or out or switch accounts. With just typing a symbol in front or after a message the bot will indicate which account has to post the message. The absolute great thing about PluralKit is that you can connect your pluralkit-account to other websites and apps, which means you can use it on multiple places and multiple ways. link to website

Simply Plural: honesty, I don't know much about this one. But the app will help you keep track on switches! (Connectable to Pluralkit) link to app

Twinote: Twinote is an app that is basically exactly like twitter. EXCEPT the fact this is not online, it is fully intern. It was originally made to keep notes, but you can easily make multiple accounts and 'tweet' stuff. It's pretty practical for keeping notes or just if your gang is switching a lot and want to keep track on what happened during that time. you can even comment, favourite and retweet posts. link to app

Private Discord Server: A private discord swerver is a must for your system. You can make chats for specific usages. Personally I have a "chat" chat. a chat to keep a ranking (using pluralkit's message counts, so I can see who has been more active that day). Note channels, all my mindmates got a specific channel where we can put notes about or for them, things to keep in mind.

Plural discord servers: There are a lot of plural discord servers you could join, either for socialiation or for information about plurality. Just try to find that certain server that suits you and the gang.

Tumblr: Tumblr, well I assume you know tumblr since this post is on tumblr. But the option for making multiple blogs are a great purpose. Half of our gang has a tumblr page (and of course we have our grouppage).

spotify/youtube playlists: well, a good way to get to know each other is listening music together. Of course it can be you have different music tastes, so make a playlist on spotify or on youtube!

Daylio app: Daylio is a mood tracker, something that I have been using since 2015 (which is now 6 years ago), for a mood tracker you can make categories, one of my categories contains the names of each person. we just click on the person being in front or effective for the mood/activity we are currently doing. with the search button you can look for all 'mood's' made by a certain person. It's a good way to keep track on health and figure out what the role and function is about the system member for the system. link to app

I hope this was a good help!

Please feel free to comment/reblog/send-an-ask with other sites and apps useful for the plural community. (so it could expend this post)

- Ann

posted: May 23th 2021

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the best thing in the entire goddamn world is the fact that human beings have hands perfectly capable of giving amazing scritches and there are hundreds of animals out there who just love being scritched

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you ever suddenly get really sad

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just you wait until I get over my writers block you guys are gonna read the best most unique thing you have ever read

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love admire adore cherish yearn for fancy treasure

laugh chuckle giggle snort crow chortle guffaw cackle

shout cheer screech scream bark call yell

move run walk back away sprint turn jump duck

look glance focus eye survey study sight spot

whisper murmur mutter breathe intone hiss mouth

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⭐ New in DID/OSDD community ⭐

Hey,

I created this post for people who are new in DID/OSDD community and want to know more.

DICTIONARY

🍒 DID (dissociative identity disorder)

A mental health condition.

🍒 you have to be traumagenic

🍒 have at least 1 alter (=you+ someone)

🍒 have amnesia

🍒 dissociation

🍒 OSDD (Other Specified Dissociative Disorders)-1A

Does not meet the full diagnostic criteria for DID. Most commonly, this describes people who have dissociative parts that are not sufficiently differentiated.

Dissociated parts are more likely to present as the same person at different ages, in different modes, different versions of the same individual.

🍒 OSDD-1B

Without amnesia between alters but with emotional amnesia.

🍒 DDNOS (dissociative disorder not otherwise specified)

Person doesn't fit the full criteria for any of the specifically identified subtypes.

🍒 ANP (apparently normal parts)

usually don’t remember the trauma and are highly avoidant of it. these parts deal with daily tasks.

(DID system may have a main ANP)

🍒 EP (emotional parts)

They handle trauma/ stress. They may be highly emotional. Often they cannot adapt to everyday life.

Individuals with DID are far more likely to have multiple apparently normal parts (ANP) and multiple emotional parts (EP) while individuals with OSDD-1 are likely to have only one ANP but multiple EP. emotional parts (EP)

🍒 DISSOCIATION

Disconnecting from thoughts, feelings, memories or sense of identity.

🍒 AMNESIA

The loss of memories.

🍒 DISSOCIATIVE AMNESIA

Person cannot remember important information about their life causes by stress, which may be caused by traumatic events.

🍒 EMOTIONAL AMNESIA

It's the inability to remember emotions associated with events.

🍒 SYSTEM

Group of alters in one body.

🍒 SUBSYSTEM

Subsystems are systems within systems.

🍒 HOST

The host is the alter that most commonly uses the body. It doesn't mean that the host identifies with the body or that he was first.

🍒 COHOST

Another alter that also often uses the body.

🍒 ALTER

term used for identities within a system( also-parts or headmates). Alters often have their roles in a system.

🍒 FICTIVE (fictional introject)

Fictives are Alters based off of fictional. character.

🍒 FACTIVE (factual introject)

Factives are Alters based off of real people.

🍒 INTORJECT

Tterm for both- fictives and factives.

🍒 FRAGMENT

May exist to hold one specific memory. They may have a single "job". Fragment can develop.

🍒 INNERWORLD

A place (or scene) where alters can interact .

Some systems don't have it.

🍒 FUSION

A point in time when two or more alternate identities experience themselves as joining together with a complete loss of subjective separateness‘.

🍒 FINAL FUSION

Final fusion means a person no longer has alters - they have one ''singular identity'', with all relevant material from other parts incorporated into their own sense of self.

🍒 INTEGRATION

This means the lowering of dissociative barriers, increased communication between parts, parts ‘sharing’ previously hidden traumatic materials and memories, and the individual with DID as a whole taking ownership of the memories, facts, feelings, and thoughts of separate alters.

🍒 SYSTEM HOPPING

‘‘System hopping is where an alter 'hops' to a separate individual outside their body.‘‘

IT DOESN'T EXIST ❗

🍒 FRONTING

When someone is here, in control of the body.

🍒 COFRONTING

When someone is here with another alter- they front together.

🍒 CO-CONSCIOUS

When one alter is fronting, and one or more alters are aware of what is going on (they can't control the body).

🍒 BLURRY

When you can't say who's fronting.

🍒 SWITCH

when fronter is changing, someone else front.

🍒 SPLITTING

When new alter arise.

🍒 POLYFRAGMENTATION

✔ Large amount of alters + fragments

✔ Splits occur often

✔ (Often with) Subsystems

BOOKS <- LINK

You can also follow this blog for doing such a good job.

SYMPTOMS

🍒 ‘’voice’’ inside your head. Of course, you can talk to yourself in your thoughts, it’s normal, but is more like ‘’you didn’t take keys, take keys’ or ‘open the window, you are about to fall’ ‘hey, stop, you wanted to wash this cup, go back and take it’’

🍒 you don’t know your orientation/gender, you are questionging it all the time

🍒 gaps in memory

example:

someone is mad because you were talking with this person and you forgot that she/he wanted to see you

🍒 you get the impression that you can’t control what you do, say and feel

🍒 feeling unreal

🍒 feeling like you’re going to pass out

🍒 you running out of time

🍒 you don't remember when you change a place

🍒 you can't recognise faces

🍒 forgetting important personal information

🍒 dissociation ~~~

🍒 feeling like there are different people inside you

🍒 having different voice, handwriting, style, taste - preferred food

GROUNDING TECHNIQUES (MAY HELP YOU WITH DISSOCIATION)

🍒 deep breathing exercises

🍒 in for 5 seconds hold for 5 seconds out for 5 seconds

🍒 try to focus on breathing with your stomach

🍒 look around you and name 5 things you see, 4 things you hear, 3 things you feel, two things you smell, and one thing you can taste

FROM - LINK

🍒 try to describe one thing. for example a flower. it is in a pot, it has green leaves, it has roots, it is in the ground...

🍒 take something in your hand. what shape is it? is it cold or warm?

🍒 put your hand under the warm water (not hot!), take it out, then put your hand under the cold water, take it out. Repeat it several times

COMMUNCATION AND HEALTH

It's ok if you can't communicate with your alters or you can communicate few of them. It's ok if you feel like a mess because you had to do something and someone front + didn't do it.

WHAT YOU CAN DO IN THIS SITUATION TO STABILIZE YOUR LIFE?

🍒 Leave a note in your room with instruction + explanation.

🍒 Use helpful apps

You can create a discord channel for your system and write done everything you have to do 'this day'.

You can also add a bot named PluralKit to your server. It will help you with system stuff. You can choose avatar and name for each one of alters and you can switch between them.

You can use simply plural. Choose who's fronting, add comments, add important things to your calendar.

Bewet- This app will remind you to drink water. You can control what you drink day by day. You can set your weather and lifestyle, and the application will adjust the water consumption based on it.

Wysa- this friendy app is full of exercises that will allow you to work on your problems. This app will help you relax and look at your problem from a different perspective. Despression? Can help. Anaxiety? Can help. Feeling hopeless? Can help. Trauma? Just open your app and try to comfort yourself.

Forest- This app will help you with your phone addiction. Sometimes we have to do a lot of things but instead of it we are spending time on the phone, usually wasting it. We are doing something important but friends messages us or we want to check our profile. You can open this app and plant your tree! You can set this app for 25 minutes and your tree will grow during this time. Don’t touch the phone or it will stop! After this time, take a break and go back to what you did again 😊.

Daylio- This app is a simple diary on your phone. You can set a reminder so you don’t forget to complete it. Shows your humor, sleep, what you did and what you ate that day. You can also see the rest of the days and statistics so you will know which month of the year is the worst for you and you will be able to do something about it.

Remember that sometimes each of us is tired and needs rest. It doesn’t mean you’re hopeless! It means you need rest, that’s all. Focus on your health, focus on what you have influence today. Meditate, take a few deep breaths, eat something, drink water and take a warm bath. If it’s too much, okay! Life is too short to keep thinking about what you can’t do.

🍒 You can also use traditional journal LINK with explanation.

MYTHS- THE TRUTH

🍒 alters don't have super powers

🍒 the split movie is not a credible source of information or an educational move about DID

🍒 people with DID are not dangerous, they can be like anyone of us but that's all

🍒 DID/OSDD systems are traumagetic systems

🍒 if you can't remember your childhood/your trauma it doesn't mean you are not traumatized. It means YOU CAN'T REMEMBER and this is why DID exist

🍒 every type of trauma matters

🍒 just because abuser is nice for others or for you sometimes doesn't mean that what they did was ok. They are still abusers

🍒 It's ok to cut off your life toxic people, even your family

🍒 just because people saw you as one person doesn't mean they are right. When we are talking with someone we think about one integrated person, this is in our nature (human nature*)

🍒 poeple can tell you that you act different after telling them about your diagnosis. It's completely natural, the alters no longer have to pretend to be you and they feel more comfortable

🍒 intojects, fictives, factives are ALTERS.

Don't treat them like they are stupid, treat them with respect. They don't have to act like their source

🍒 system hopping doesn't exis

THERAPY

🍒 If you think you are DID/OSDD system tell it to your psychologist

🍒 It's ok to change your specialist if you think you are stuck

🍒 It's ok to ask another specialist about your diagnosis

🍒 It's not okay to work with your traumas and ask about details, psychologists currently have other methods of therapy

🍒 Therapist shoudn't only focus on the host

🍒 The final fusion is not the goal of therapy

SOURCES

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🍒 my own knowledge

Thank you for reading, hope it was helpful.

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is it like offensive if we copy the sound animals make kinda like how its offensive to copy the sounds of a language