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An unfair book review from a simple-minded stoic

Dr Jim’s Counselling Blogs 2024: Blog posted on 20th October 2024 More thoughts about how a little knowledge of Stoicism is a dangerous thing… Part 2: The idea that people are upset by their thoughts and beliefs, rather than by the interaction of a noxious event and an understandable reaction By Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling At ABC Counselling and Psychotherapy Services ~~~ Introduction I…

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Navigating Human Predestination: Insights for Personal Growth

The tragedy of human predestination, and the limited scope for escape By Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling Are you struggling with your life goals? Do you find it hard to break out of a trajectory through life that you did not conscious choose? Is your life out of control? Here are some helpful insights for you. ~~~ How we are shaped in life… Human beings are shaped by… Their genes at birth; the…

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The fundamental secrets of a happy, fulfilling life

~~~ Here are my fundamental secrets of a happy, fulfilling life Twenty tips for a better life By Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling Blog post – 27th June 2024 ~~~ If you want to live a happy and fulfilling life, then the following principles will help you: Choose health over material wealth. – This means managing your diet, exercise, sleep, relaxation, and environmental stressors and…

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Reframe Problems: Nine Windows Model of E-CENT Counselling

Blog Post – 14th June 2024 By Dr Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling ~~~ How to roll with the difficulties of life! Nine ways to reframe or rethink your problems The Basic Nine Windows Model of E-CENT By Dr Jim Byrne Copyright (c) Jim Byrne, August 2021 – June 2024 ~~~ Introduction In today’s blog post, I want to share some ideas which I have been developing for several years, about how to cope with…

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Is counselling part of the problem?

~~~ Blog Post – 11th June 2024 By Dr Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling ~~~ Is counselling part of the problem? By Jim Byrne Introduction In November 2002, I was sitting at a big conference table, with several doctoral candidates, listening to a talk by Dr William West, who was then the Director of Studies on the Professional Doctorate in Counselling program. We were in the Ellen Wilkinson…

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Revamped ABC Counselling: New Services and Discounts | June 2024 Newsletter

ABC Newsletter – June 2024 Updates on recent developments within the ABC Coaching  and Counselling Group By Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling 3rd June 2024 ~~~ Overview The June 2024 ABC Newsletter by Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling, presents the revamped abc-counselling.org with new services, narrative exploration, and the importance of physical well-being. Nine major gains of counselling and…

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Couples therapy works better than fast cars to fix your marriage

A marraige is a house that is built every day. You have to serve an apprenticeship in marital housebuilding in order to have a happy marriage - unless your parents had a great relationship and you copied them.

~~~ Blog Post: 4th May 2024 Barry’s couples therapy sessions, and Harry’s red convertible F-type jag A parable, by Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling ~~~ Barry and Harry got married in the same year, in the same small town in England. They were both “happy as Larry”! Nature gave them both 18 months to two years of honeymoon, before they were called upon to now operate their marriages from the Adult…

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I Perfink, therefore I Probably Am, but you tell me...

~~~ Blog Post, by Dr Jim Byrne, 7th March 2024 If you Perfink you do something called Thinking, May I recommend that you Perfink again!? There never was something called “pure thinking”. “Pure thought” is an impossibility for a human being. The concepts of “thought” and “thinking” are useful fictions, but they do not describe the actual functioning of the human body-brain-mind in a physical and…

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ABC Counselling Newsletter, February 2024

~~~ ABC Newsletter – 2024 Welcome to the ABC Counselling and Psychotherapy Newsletter Subject – My Enhanced Main Counselling and Psychotherapy Service; Sometimes called Counselling-Plus: Dated 22nd February 2024. By Dr Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling ~~~ This is the first Newsletter I have written for a long time, possibly since 2018 – because I have been dramatically busy, building a new model…

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Intentionality versus Karmic Surrender? Choose...

How to find your pot of gold Are you happy that you are on the right road? Heading in the right direction? Do you have a choice? I spent some time looking at these important issues, and put the result in this blog post! I hope you like it. Best wishes, Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling, 10th February 2024

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How to find your pot of gold

~~~ Blog post: 7th February 2024 How to find your field of dreams! The paradox of striving in a non-binary world By Jim Byrne, 7th February 2024 ~~~ I am grateful for everything I’ve been given by life. Everything I have ever gained in my life has “come from nothing”. It did not come from having SMART goals – although I have experimented with Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and…

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Reflections upon how to have a Good Life

THE PAGE – Find your North Star

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Make your marriage Christmas-proof!

Blog Post – 18th November 2023 By Dr Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling ~~~ Relationship Crisis in the run up to Christmas Photo by Vera Arsic on Pexels.com The Christmas holiday season is expected to be a time of merriment and joy. “So here it is, Merry Christmas. Everybody’s having fun”, blares out the radio on a daily basis. Families get together to exchange gifts, and to eat special meals –…

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Literature, psychology and autobiography

~~~ BLOG POST – 3rd October 2023 By Jim Byrne ~~~ My literary and psychological writing project continues… Introduction In this blog post, I want to present a substantial extract from the Foreword to my new book (in press). Having previously written an extensive, fictionalized autobiography, and an almost as extensive self-analysis and description of my therapy journey through my “relationship”…

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How to have a happy marriage in 2023

How to have a happy marriage in 2023

~~~ Blog Post – 10th January 2023 ~~~ Couple relationships in adulthood are the core of human happiness; or the core of human misery It depends on how well you manage your side of the relationship! By Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling, and Couple Relationship counsellor, coach and psychotherapist ~~~ Belated New Year Greetings for 2023 ~~~ If you already have a happy relationship, then you do not…

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Using autobiographical stories to heal childhood trauma

Using autobiographical stories to heal childhood trauma

Blog Post 3 – 17th November 2022 ~~~ Childhood trauma causes developmental deficits, which can be made up. Autobiography explores how this was done… By Dr Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling, and survivor of childhood developmental trauma. ~~~ The most important relationship in every human life is that between the mother and child… This book is about one man’s journey away from his homeland and his…

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Autobiography about recovery from childhood trauma

Autobiography about recovery from childhood trauma

Blog post 2 – 17th November 2022 My life was a mess, until I cleaned up my childhood developmental trauma… Autobiographical story about recovery from childhood developmental trauma… By Jim Byrne, Doctor of Counselling ~~~ Hello, and Welcome. You might think you are managing your life from conscious choices, but that life is resisting you. You might be surprised to find that a little child, in the…