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Not twitter still trying to push a premium subscription on me when i'm literally suspended wtf.

Please let me out of twitter jail I beg

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I have a new-ish YT channel by the way. It's still in its infancy and I don't have great equipment, but I intend to cover

Grief

Burnout Recovery

Finding Passions

Please keep that in mind if you click through, as I will be talking a little bit about those in the video, but not in depth or detail.

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Hello this a long shot call, am a citizen of Palestine. I am here to request for your support to help get my insulin, I was diagnosised with type 1 diabetes and due to current situation in Gaza I'm unable to get my insulin injection as a result I'm here begging for little financial support to help me purchase insulin for this week.My donation link is available on my pinned post

I don't have a lot of followers so I can't guarantee anything, but I'll go ahead and share this. For anyone who does see this and can't or doesn't want to go to the profile, the donation link is here

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As someone who has both been in therapy and been studying to become a therapist, this made me cackle like a cheesy villain in an old cartoon

i saw this post earlier about therapists and it reminded me of my old therapist paul, who in my opinion is one of the greatest men alive and who did not put up with my bullshit for even one second

anyway i go in to see paul one week in the summer of 2016, and i’m doing my usual bullshit which consists of me talking shit about myself, and paul is staring at me, and then he cuts me off and says that he’s got a new tool for helping people recognize when they’re using negative language, and gets up and goes over to his desk

and i’m like alright hit me with that sweet sweet self-help article my man, because i’m a linguistic learner and whenever paul’s like here i have a tool for you to use it’s pretty much always an article or a book or something

paul opens a drawer, takes something out, and turns back around. i stare.

i say, paul.

is that a nerf gun.

yeah, says paul.

i say, are you gonna shoot me with a nerf gun in this professional setting.

he happily informs me that that’s really up to me, isn’t it. and sits back down. and gestures, like, go ahead, what were you saying?

and i squint suspiciously and start back up about how i’m having too much anxiety to leave the house to run errands, like it was a miracle to even get here, like i’ve forgone getting groceries for the past week and that’s so stupid, what a stupid issue, i’m an idiot, how could i–

a foam dart hits me in the leg.

i go, hey! because my therapist just shot me in the leg. paul blinks at me placidly and raises an eyebrow. i squint again.

i say, slowly, it’s– not a stupid issue, i’m not stupid, but it’s frustrating me and i don’t want it to be a problem i’m having.

no dart this time. okay. sweet.

so the rest of the hour passes with me intermittently getting nailed with tiny foam darts and then swearing and then fixing my language and, wouldn’t you know it, i start liking myself a little more by the end of the session, which is mildly infuriating because paul can tell and he’s very smug about it 

anyway i leave his office and the lady having the next appointment walks in and i hear what’s all over the floor? and paul very seriously says cognitive behavioral therapy tools.

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Project Updates

Hey all, it's been a while since I've posted about the status of my ongoing projects, and since I've been doing a LOT for the last couple of weeks, I thought it might be good to do that now!

Patreon/Ko-Fi

Kiwi Kitty Sticker Club - monthly, ongoing

Digital Library - onoging

Sticker Vault - ongoing

Digital Downloads - ongoing

Youtube

Planning & Journaling

Vlogs

Home Management

Zines I'm In

Amores (BKDK Cookbook Project) - Chef

Astrophel (BKDK Anthology/Zine) - Writer

Heat of Our Hearts (KRBK Anthology/Zine) - Writer

My Hero Babysitters (Gen MHA Zine) - Writer

Current Major Projects

A Hero's Cookbook (A Legend of Zelda Cookbook) - Creation Stage

The Alchemist's Journal (A Skyrim Field Guide) - Planning Stage

The Quest Diary: Gamify Your Life (Planner/Game) - Planning Stage

Art Projects in Progress

Alice in Wonderland shaker charms - 1/5

Fanfiction in Progress

My Hero Academia - All Booked Up (Pro Hero Companion Izuku, multiship) - How Pirates Flirt (DKBK Pirate AU) - Let Me Court You (BKDK Omegaverse) - Missing You (TDBKDK Omegaverse) - Oh Mary, Contrary (DKBK Angst) - Quirk Singularity Theory (BKDK canonverse) - The Path Least Traveled (BKDK, Izuku born with a quirk AU) - You Found Me (Polyship Omegaverse AU)

Final Fantasy - Brother Wolf (Demigod!Cloud AU)

The Legend of Zelda - Dark Hyrule Chronicles (Reverse!AU Angst)

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Hello again everyone! It's time for another Thankful Thursday. We didn't get a lot of responses last week, but that's okay. Like I said before, you can do the activities on this blog privately!

Last week I lead you in an exercise of naming what you're thankful for. This week, let's take that a step further and set up a gratitude log.

As a reminder, the purpose of Thankful Thursday is to jostle negative thinking and self-talk out of your mind. We're not going for toxic positivity here - there is a time and a place for acknowledging and dealing with your negative thoughts! Sometimes, however, they can get to be too much, and practicing activities or exercises that re-center your focus on more positive topics can help to break you out of a spiral and deal with those negative things at a later time.

Why a gratitude log?

A gratitude log is great because it's a low energy activity that you can do once a day, and even just writing out a single thing that you're grateful for is enough.

Keeping a gratitude log is also an exercise in mindfulness: by logging at least one thing that you're grateful for every day, you center yourself in the present and train your brain to unstick itself from unhelpful trains of thought. It also helps train you to recognize good things in your life and break out of negativity bias - a distortion of thinking that emphasizes everything bad that happens and minimizes everything good.

Again, we're not trying to deny or repress the bad thoughts, but rather bring them into a healthy balance with the good ones.

How to do it?

There are a million different ways to keep a gratitude log. You can add it to a small section of your daily/weekly planner, dedicate an entire page to it every week or month, or keep a journal just for gratitude logging. You can record the things your grateful for as a list, mind map, brain dump/unloading, or doodles. You could even make a video log instead of a written one, if you want!

As with all activities focused on improving mental health, how you approach logging is entirely up to you, and you have freedom to try many different things before finding the one you want to make permanent.

My personal recommendation, when you're just starting, is to make a 1-month gratitude log that goes in your planner. You can put it in at the beginning or end of the month, and every day just write a single line of what you're grateful for. As you build a habit of logging your gratitude, you can try out fancy layouts, doodles, and spreads until you get a good feel for what you like best.

You can get a free Gratitude Log Printable from my Ko-Fi shop (that's where I'll be putting all of my printables, both free and not!)

Feel free to upload your filled out log and tag us!

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It has come to my attention that a GoFundMe link that I shared in support of a Palestinian family recently may actually have been a phishing link that has been causing some trouble. I want to apologize for my failure to properly vet the link in question, and to anyone who followed the link via my blog I am so sorry.

I have removed the post and blocked the person who sent it.

Unfortunately, whenever there is a tragedy or crisis happening in the world, there will be someone who wants to take advantage of both the people that are suffering, and the people trying to help them. In the future I will do my best to vet such links more carefully, and ensure that the ones I share with all of you are actually helping the people they claim to be helping.

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Because I know that some people prefer to use Ko-Fi, and may want to keep all of their memberships in one place, you can now also join a membership tier on my Ko-Fi Page!

The memberships are identical to the Patreon memberships, and I'll be cross-posting paid posts so that no one feels as though they have to join both to get everything.

If you join either Ko-fi or Patreon by August 15th, you can vote on next month's sticker/merch theme! Join by the 24th to get this sticker set:

Join the Kiwi Kitty Sticker Club!

Today I officially re-launched my Patreon after 5 years of having no time to work on it, and I'm coming in with a bang! All tiered members (so $5.00 or more!) will automatically become a part of my new sticker club. Every month, a sticker pack will be shipped out to patrons between the 25th and the 30th (this gives more people a chance to nab the stickers they want!)

My Patreon now runs on a subscription billing schedule. This means that unlike the previous system where Patreon would charge you the day you joined, and then every month on the first (meaning people who joined on, say, the 30th, would get charged again on the first), you will now get paid every month on the same day! So if you join on the 15th, the 15th will always be your billing date.

Since this is launch month, I've taken the liberty of picking the theme for the stickers myself, and I've decided to go with.....

My Hero Academia!

In honor of the final chapter of the manga being released, this month's stickers will include this beautiful baddie (printed at 3" tall):

In addition to this one, members of the Sticker Club will also get 2 smaller stickers (2" tall each) of Izuku and Katsuki, as well as a handful (5-10) of miniature stickers! These ones will be more random/doodle type art, and will be printed between 0.25 and 0.5 inches tall/long.

If you join by the 15th, you'll also get a chance to vote on next month's sticker theme. Hope to see you all there!

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I've officially started my Youtube channel! This is just an introductory video to go over where I'm starting (bad equipment, depression house, top 3 focuses) and after this I plan to have a new video out every Friday. We'll see how it goes!

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Join the Kiwi Kitty Sticker Club!

Today I officially re-launched my Patreon after 5 years of having no time to work on it, and I'm coming in with a bang! All tiered members (so $5.00 or more!) will automatically become a part of my new sticker club. Every month, a sticker pack will be shipped out to patrons between the 25th and the 30th (this gives more people a chance to nab the stickers they want!)

My Patreon now runs on a subscription billing schedule. This means that unlike the previous system where Patreon would charge you the day you joined, and then every month on the first (meaning people who joined on, say, the 30th, would get charged again on the first), you will now get paid every month on the same day! So if you join on the 15th, the 15th will always be your billing date.

Since this is launch month, I've taken the liberty of picking the theme for the stickers myself, and I've decided to go with.....

My Hero Academia!

In honor of the final chapter of the manga being released, this month's stickers will include this beautiful baddie (printed at 3" tall):

In addition to this one, members of the Sticker Club will also get 2 smaller stickers (2" tall each) of Izuku and Katsuki, as well as a handful (5-10) of miniature stickers! These ones will be more random/doodle type art, and will be printed between 0.25 and 0.5 inches tall/long.

If you join by the 15th, you'll also get a chance to vote on next month's sticker theme. Hope to see you all there!

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This week, I'm grateful for the friends and family who helped me raise money for my late partner's cremation services. I was making some pretty emotional posts on Twitter and even in some semi-public chats on Discord because of how panicked and stressed I was.

I'm also grateful to my mom, who's been doing her best to help me get out and deal with the grief in a positive, non-destructive way. Without her help I think I'd just wallow away in my room.

What's the point of Thankful Thursday?

This weekly exercise is focused on retraining your brain. Of course, many people do gratitude logs in their daily journaling, if they keep a journal, but we'll only be practicing the exercise once a week here! The idea is to help your mind refocus away from areas of negativity and self-doubt, and center instead on areas of positivity, re-framing experiences when appropriate to find the "silver lining", so to speak.

This exercise is also great for simply acknowledging the things and people, no matter how big or small, that have a hand in making us feel good every day!

How to do the exercise?

You can do this in your private journal, on your own blog, in replies, or as a reblog of this post - and of course you don't have to do it at all if you don't want to!

Gratitude can be a very personal thing, so make sure that you're either comfortable sharing, or sharing something that you're comfortable with, before you post. If you would like to participate this week...

Reblog this post or tag us

Use the #thankfulthursday tag

Let us, and your followers, know what you're thankful for this week!

It can be something big or something small, but think about what happened in your life this week and let us know what you're grateful about!

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Look! It's a zine that I'm in! (Also you should get it anyway because MMM the art and the writing and the merch are phenomenal!)

(Reblogged to the wrong blog last time, oops!)

𓆩⟡𓆪 COLLAB PREVIEW 𓆩⟡𓆪

Celestial Cartography

✩ writer: @herstarlitdreams ✩ artist: @princejael

Preorders close August 10th! Store: astrophelzine.bigcartel.com

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The Hero's Cookbook Layout

Alright, I finished the layout for the Hero's Cookbook today, and I made a few very important decisions:

Instead of multiple categories for ingredients, there's one "Ingredient Profiles" category, and each page in that category will feature multiple ingredients

I've cut down on the repetitive recipes; so instead of "Fish Skewer" and "Copious Fish Skewers", we just have "Fish Skewers", and instead of Meat, Prime Meat, and Gourmet Meat variations of the meaty meals, it's all condensed into a high quality meaty recipe.

Snacks have been redistributed throughout the meal-type categories to bulk them out

There will be both a physical and digital option, with the digital option being not just a downloadable PDF, but a fully interactive PDF that will allow you to click tabs to get to each section, click on specific recipes to jump to that page, and fill in different sections for yourself if you have a PDF editor like GoodNotes, Xodo, etc.

At it's current layout and with these choices to consolidate, using only the recipes available in game, the Hero's Cookbook has 125 recipes.

So my question is, should I include additional recipes that aren't necessarily available in game, but would make sense given what Link is able to create, or should I leave it at 125? I'd love to get some opinions from potential readers/buyers.

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Hey everyone, we've come to pretty much a standstill on this fundraiser. I'm still waiting for my partner's sister to come through as far as the cremation, I don't know what's happening and the funeral director won't tell me anything because I wasn't "real family". Raising funds for the cremation, legal fees, and to keep my household afloat while I hunt for a new job is literally the only thing that I can do to help. If you can spare anything, anything at all, I would appreciate it so much. I'm also putting 50% of my earnings from ko-fi (https://www.ko-fi.com/keyeraronning) toward this fund, if you don't want to just give money away and want something in return.

We've raised $200 through this fundraiser so far, plus about 250 that was sent to me directly. My aunt has offered up an additional 1000 when we're ready to pay the funeral home.

We're still hoping to raise more to cover travel costs for my partners sister, as well as making sure we have enough set aside for any surprises as we alert social security and DCFS about partners passing.

I've also started listing some items on my Ko-fi Shop if you would prefer to go that route:

https://www.ko-fi.com/KeyeraRonning

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NGL I'm not sure how I feel about the new Descendants movie

I wanted to like it, don't get me wrong. Like, Alice in Wonderland is my bread and butter (and frankly it's a crime that I never post about it here). I've loved every iteration of it that I've ever seen.

But Rise of Red was honestly... Not well executed.

Between the amount of previously established Canon that was tossed out the window, the not so great musical numbers (there were a couple good ones but... Yeah), and the extremely abrupt/nonsensical/anticlimactic ending?

I can't tell you how big a part of me wants to go write my own version of the whole thing to post on AO3

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Books in the Legend of Zelda Franchise, Part 7: Miscellaneous

The Legend of Zelda: Trivia Quiz Book

(Independently published), 2000, ISBN-13: 9798632166140

The Legend of Zelda: Elite Trivia

(Independently published), 2019, ISBN-13: 9781695438064

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Books in the Legend of Zelda Franchise, Part 6: Children's Books

The Legend of Zelda: Molblin’s Magic Spear

Golden Books, 1990, ISBN-13: 9780307125712

Note: This is essentially a children’s picture book, comprised of illustrations and a simple story.

The Legend of Zelda: Oracle of Seasons

Scholastic, Inc., 2001, ISBN-13: 9780439367097

Notes: This is the second installment in a children’s “choose your own adventure” book series based on various Game Boy (original, Advance, Color, etc.) games.

The Legend of Zelda: Oracle of Ages

Scholastic Paperbacks, 2003, ISBN-13: 9780439367103

Notes: This is the third installment in a children’s “choose your own adventure” book series based on various Game Boy (original, Advance, Color, etc.) games.

Legend of Zelda Continues: Link’s Diaries (The World Zelda Diaries, Volume I)

CreateSpace Independent Publishing, 2017, ISBN-13: 9781543126686

Legend of Zelda Continues: Link’s Diaries – The Quest continues (The Word Zelda Diaries, Volume II)

CreateSpace Independent Publishing, 2017, ISBN-13: 9781544249988

Link: Legend of Zelda Hero

ABDO, 2020 (scheduled to release August 1st), ISBN-13: 9781098221454

Notes: This appears to be the latest installment in a children’s book series about video game heroes.