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romanticizing the horrors all by yourself handsome?

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watching someone who hurt you in a specific way get hurt in that very same way is such an experience

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sometimes i hate myself for being a narcissist and then i remember how i was chronically neglected and ignored by every single adult that should’ve supported me in my childhood and i think. damn no wonder im so self obsessed how the fuck else would i have survived

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questioning npd culture is constantly feeling pissed off, not showing it, and then getting more pissed because youre good at hiding that youre pissed off and nobody notices

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Part of my narcissism is constantly comparing myself to others. Essentially I'll think "if I can't do this or I don't have that skill, I'm worthless", completely disregarding all the skills I do have and ways that I contribute to the world around me.

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Jesus fucking christ so many times someone makes a post saying "stop calling and armchair diagnosing your abusers as narcissists, your dickwad dad did not have npd just because he was self-centered he was probably just an asshole" and there's millions of comments like "well CHECKMATE cuz MY abusers were actually diagnosed narcissists <3 so you are wrong and I don't count and I have the free pass to say anything I want about npd <3" "but im pretty sure my mom was a narcissist and it was so so scary i don't mean to say all people with npd are like that but im pretty sure my mom actually had it and it was so scary :((( i don't think all narcissists are abusive it's just. my mo-" "that is so true op!!! not ALL narcissists are abusers :)) most of them are but some of them do make an effort to not bother anyone with their nasty symptoms and go to intensive therapy to get cured and become normal!!! however we shouldn't erase the very silenced and overlooked experiences of narc abuse victims as many experts from quora can confirm it is indeed real". or even like "i agree and im not ableist and dont hate pwnpd!!! my mom was a narcissist though but its not the npd's fault but her own actions that made her abusive <3" like WHY ARE YOU TELLING US THIS. WHY WOULD YOU BRING THAT UP ON THAT POST. WHAT ARE YOU TRYING TO PROVE. PLEASE SHUT UP NO ONE CARES .

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npd culture is you called me a good person? fuck you, you're lying. called me a bad person? fuck you, I didn't do anything to you.

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watching someone you care about go back to people that hurt them terribly knowing they wont listen to any of your advice and these people will hurt them again and theres nothing you can do about it is the worst feeling in the world actually

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“the trauma made you stronger” the trauma made me into a dog. a bad bad dog. a dog that wants to be loved so very much. a dog that bites (the hand that feeds) and doesn’t know why but will absolutely bite again, every single time.

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i hate when my friends don't stand up for me. I KNOW i am misjudging someone, I KNOW i am wrong and I KNOW i am making every argument a big deal, but can't you just maybe stand up for me and agree w me?? u supposed to b like that ugh

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I hate when people disagree with me. We're all entitled to our own opinions and it's important to not make an echo chamber and stuff but it's still annoying bc wdym I'm not objectively correct all the time???

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NPD abuse advocates: Narcs are evil. They're fucked up. They want to destroy you and turn you into a soulless puppet to fuel their infinite hunger.

Me, a narc: Awhile ago I got the impression I may have possibly mildly irritated a really close friend and it haunts me periodically, popping up in the back of my head to remind me that in that moment I ruined my life forever by dragging their perception of me down a percent of a percent for the three seconds it continued to live in their head before they most certainly forgot about it. I could ask for reassurance but it was so minor and the paranoid fantasy I've constructed so convoluted that it would just be even more mortifying to have to bother them with it.

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maybe it's the like npd/aspd but my brain automatically categorizes people into like little classes. like I meet a person and as I get to know them they get sorted. like there's a class for younger female sibling type friend, a class for older male person who I like but barely speak to, a class for doctors and medical professionals, a class for people my age who are like me, a class for people my age who are nothing like me, etc. and my brain has a predetermined set of mannerisms and vocabulary for interacting with each one

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Mfs when a trauma response makes someone an asshole and isn't just some cute uwu quirky part of their personality

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election night really bringing out my inner alcoholic like please i NEED a drink or 10

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Npd + Bpd culture is needing attention and sympathy from others, but not wanting to tell them, because of they think you're needy, they'll hate you.

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the logical knowledge that IQ tests are bullshit and don't give an accurate estimate of one's intelligence vs. the narcissistic desire to have the highest IQ score possible.