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When you realize you're not your bestfriend's bestfriend anymore....

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If I'd never joined choir. Then I never would've met you. You never could've manipulated me into falling for your artificial kindness and fake smiles.

My family never would've known you. You wouldn't have had the opportunity to cause them pain. My family would have never shed a tear or lost any sleep because of you.

I never would have felt this earth shattering guilt because you never would've had the power to take them away.

But I loved choir

And you love power

So now I have a knot where my heart should be and a mind full of tainted memories

And you have them.

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Don't go out of your way to make people feel uncomfortable.

There is literally nothing worse than someone pointing out that you've awkwardly stumbled over something in conversation or making you feel dumb for one irrelevant thing you did; bringing it up repeatedly for hours so they can have a laugh at your expense. Being pinned as a liar even when you weren't lying or being called dramatic over something that really affected you. Being told you're too loud when speaking normally in conversation, implying that you're not taking social cues properly or pointing out that you e cursed. It's an awkward and uncomfortable position to be put in.

It's anxiety inducing because all you can focus on is how everyone around you now must think you're an stupid, awkward, lying, idiot.

They tell you "lighten up" and "learn to laugh at yourself" but they dont realize that they're making that really difficult to do by making you the center of negative attention.

Take a deep breath. Relax. Recover.

Spin the joke around on them, change the topic or call them out for trying to make you uncomfortable.

Fuck that. Fuck them for trying to do that to you.

Everyone has moments where they say something dumb or do something clumsy: it's not anything worth worrying about and nobody thinks about it as much as you think they do.

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Thank you John Updike for this literal pissing contest

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For a High School friend after serving his country

Keep the flame going for those we have lost to suicide. 

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I fucking love this. 😍

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An Open Letter to Tumblr about the Adult Content Ban and How it is Hurting Your Users:

Recently, Tumblr was removed from the Apple app store due to an incident involving child pornography. This incident is incredibly unfortunate, but it doesn’t stand alone. Tumblr was also removed from the app store due to the large influx of porn bots and pornographic spam, users claiming to be proud to be pedophiles, blatant Nazism, racists who are not deleted for sending hate and harassing users, and more. I myself reported someone for harassing me, but because I had blocked the person and couldn’t access the messages where they harassed me, they were still able to send me anonymous asks. Your support staff, with back doors to the website (presumably), claimed they could not access the messages, and I was left SOL. Many features on this website do nothing to actually protect your users from harassment, racism, homophobia, transphobia, Nazis, pedophiles, predators, porn bots, and more. 

You claim in your statement to us that you “have been working on these problems for a long time”. This is blatantly untrue. Please do not lie to us and patronize us. We’ve been here. We’ve seen you do nothing over, and over, and over again. 

We complained to you for months and months about the rampant porn bots, and you did nothing except add a report button on mobile which only reported sensitive content or spam at best. You could have addressed this problem with an effective algorithm, but you did not. We complained to you about being harassed and sent hate speech for being LGBT+, and you did nothing. We complained to you about blogs being randomly deleted, and sometimes you’ve restored them, other times you have not. We complained to you that there were people proudly claiming to be “Minor Attracted Persons”, or pedophiles, and you did nothing. We complained to you about people proudly claiming to be white supremacists, and you did nothing. All of these things are “against the community guidelines”, and yet over and over, you have not found effective ways to handle these problems or suppress the feeling of welcome that these users claim to get here. You have had a long time to work on these problems, but you haven’t addressed them. To say you have is untrue. 

 Multiple other social networking websites, such as Wordpress, Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, and others have effectively dealt with rampant pornography, racism, pedophilia, and other problems without causing massive issues for their users who are not misusing the platform. They are continuing to find new, effective ways to deal with these issues without causing problems for their userbase as a whole.  There is no reason that you are unable to do this effectively other than that you wanted to do it quickly. You have once again chosen your stock holders over your users. And we have had enough. 

You have already started to ban “Adult” content with a new algorithm. Here are screenshots of just a fraction of the posts you have flagged as containing adult content:

Your new system of simply tackling everything at once is not working. At all. And each of these screenshots is proof of your utter incompetence. None of these posts contain pornographic acts, “female nipples”, or any community violation of any kind. 

We, the users, have been asking you for months to deal with these problems - particularly, the porn bots and bots that spam. In order to block a bot from a side blog, I have to do it manually, even though they are in my side blog’s feed. This is a huge issue for mobile - only users. They keep cropping up in droves, taking over our posts and tricking google into making it look like a legitimate blog linked to a pornographic website. We have complained to you for months and months now, and your solution to simply “ban all adult content” is ineffective. I agree that children should not be able to access pornography - but this is not how you tackle a porn bot problem. Your system is utterly useless, allows for racists, pedophiles, porn bots, and Nazis to remain untouched. It also harms sex workers and real people who may use this website for some forms of adult content responsibly. Moreover, as seen above, it harms plenty of users who have in no way violated your terms of service.

 If you keep this up, you threaten your website and company as a whole. Many of us are backing up our blogs and planning places to go to. 

You already have a content filter for “sensitive” content (content inappropriate for younger viewers). You could have improved this, instead of attacking your entire user base. It seems to be a very lazy “solution”, if you could call it one at all, and one that harms your entire userbase.

If you are going to keep this filter in place and make Tumblr, a website that has never been known for being family friendly and has never claimed to be, you are going to lose millions of your users. We are already planning our exodus. It isn’t hard to follow. Censor us, and we will go somewhere else. That is not a threat. It is a promise. 

Sincerely, 

The users of your website. 

@staff @support

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Growing up fat, you get made fun of for everything you do, even basic shit like eating and laughing and breathing are funny when you do it because youre fat! And its so hard to not carry that with you as you get older, like I’m still embarassed to eat or dance in front of people or smile in pictures and its ridiculous and I hate it and I wish I was treated with more humanity

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1) Being Trans/gay doesnt make you worth less than a straight person. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect. Discrimination against the lgbt+ community is rampant and defended by religious homophobes hiding behind their idea of morality.

2) Racism is alive and well in this country. Profiling of African Americans, Latinos and immigrants is a huge problem with the police force, Trump supporters and just your general assholes about town.

3) Yes, it must be so hard to get away with RAPING an unconscious girl behind a dumpster because the judge didnt want to "ruin his potential". And that wage inequality must really be hurting you economically, huh?

4) Yeah openly admitting she cant speak fully to the struggles of people she doesnt fully understand really just makes her a jerk. Also acknowledging and being grateful she has the privilage to speak at all just makes her sound super pretentious 🙄

Love is love 🏳️‍🌈 I hope you find it in your heart one day

nowthisnews: Watch Anne Hathaway beautifully explain the levels of privilege in American society, and how we can move toward equality for all.

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The fat friend

I couldn't have been more than 11 or 12 years old.

Middle school is rough for everyone. Everything is changing and we've all been thrust into the awkward in between childhood and adulthood without so much as a map to navigate the chaos.

I wasnt popular but I had friends. I had music and I got good grades. I was nice to anyone who was nice back but I was reserved.

You see, being the "fat friend" always weighed on my mind. Every move I made was calculated. "Will this make me look weird?" "Will this draw attention to me?" "Will I fit in that seat at the lunch table bench?"

I was the biggest girl in my circle of size 0 friends. They never brought up my weight and I usually felt comfortable with them but I never went on their mall trips. I couldn't shop in their sections.

Until they brought up their own weights. Hearing your XS size wearing friend who couldnt have weighed more than 105 pounds soaking wet say "God, I'm just so fat!" is so damaging

If an XS is considered "fat" then what is my XL considered in your mind? Disgusting? Ugly? Huge?

I told her I didnt like when she talked like that.

She asked me why

I pulled my eyes off the floor and told her

"Because if you think you're fat, then what do you think of me?"

Her eyes widened and she immediately panicked.

"No, no, no. That's not what I meant. You're beautiful and I love you!"

She didnt mean to hurt my feelings and I knew that but she did. If someone who claims to love me thinks that way, what do people that dont know me think? Can I not be fat and loveable and beautiful?

We resolved an moved on but I still think about that conversation often.

Moral of the story: be careful with how you talk about yourself. You never know what kind of impact it has on others.

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Brain: Things are gonna get good again

person: *uses you as a punching bag for their issues

Brain: Scrap that. Spike the anxiety and have a cry

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Hollywood: *shows me more Jennifer Lawrence movies*

me:

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Trend them on Twitter guys

hey guys! tonight at 10, there’s a short documentary about us douglas kids and stories on freeform!! try to tune in! if you need to know what channel freeform is on for you, i can try to find out for you just send/ask me your cable company! thank you for the unconditional support🧡

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Dear parents,

If your child has a fever and has vomited in the last 24 hours CALL OFF YOUR BABYSITTER. It is not my responsibility to spend the whole day walking on eggshells worried about whether or not I'll have to clean up puke off the floor. It is not my job to hold and comfort your child, exposing myself to whatever bug they have. It's a health risk for me and everyone I live with. For you to not disclose the information beforehand is SELFISH. Take the day off work and deal with your child. It's your responsiblity.

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BECHO IS REAL THE BLORKES ARE SALTY AND THE CLEXAS ARE USING THE BLORKES SALT FOR THEIR POPCORN

They actually think Bellarke is going to happen I pity them imagine having to watch half of your ship be with a girl that isn’t the girl you want him to be with throughout the whole season. Their suffering is my home cooked meal.