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sacrifice (2024)

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do you consider exorsexism to be an accurate/coherent concept in terms of describing structural discrimination against nonbinary people?

when i first encountered the term i thought it made sense, but now i’m wondering how it potential could tie into the ways transmisogynists use “binary trans woman” as a kind of dogwhistle. i have certainly encountered interpersonal bigotry from fellow trans people over my being nonbinary… but none of them had any structural power over me, so i tend to not feel particularly threatened by whatever “binary” trans people may feel about me. on the other hand, i do face a lot of structural barriers in a cis-binary world; but is that experience actually distinct enough from transphobia or cissexism to warrant its own term?

There is definitely a structural oppression of nonbinary people that exists and we need better tools to talk about. To this day a nonbinary identity is not legible to basically ANY government ID office, insurance provider, employer, school, hospital, or other large institution, that gender neutral or unisex restrooms and locker rooms seldom exist, and so many other public spaces & institutions are so rigidly gendered, such that nonbinary people are not allowed to functionally exist in society.

And speaking as someone who has inhabited both nonbinary and more binary trans identities, people absolutely do comprehend and honor the familiar binary options more, gender you correctly more often if you are binary, include you more often in social spaces and events, and are flat out more comfortable around you if you are easier for them to parse. It infuriates me when trans people shit on nonbinary folks as being self-centered and fake oppressed. This stuff is so clear.

And none of that erases the fact that TME nonbinary people often harbor deeply transmisogynistic views -- we live in a transmisogynistic society! all people are inculturated into those views and anyone who is not a trans woman does not get targeted by systems of transmisogyny. trans men are just as bad or worse wrt to all of this, so if anything the singling out of nonbinary people as fake, entitled not-really-oppressed trans people who are somehow uniquely bad to trans femmes is itself a manifestation of anti-nonbinary prejudice. theres nothing the "theyfabs" are doing thats any worse or an different from what you see from just about every trans man and cis woman.

Trans men often DO hold power over our nonbinary siblings, because we are men, often with many of the privileges attendant -- but also a group does not need to be positioned below another group on some straightforward hierarchy in order to experience a genuine and distinct loci of oppression. (see for example the differing experiences of bisexuals and gay and lesbian people). Lateral aggression is a thing, cissexism and coercive gender assignment at birth is to blame for virtually ALL of this, and of course, a lot of nonbinary people do in fact transition in some way (not just medically) and so moves to exclude them from discussions of trans oppression are a bad move.

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remaking this post bc the poll ended + i am still in desperate need of help.

if you chose one of the answers on this poll, i would really appreciate the share. i am an afro-indigenous, severely disabled/medically complex person with no support system near me. i was homeless from december 2023 to september 2024 and it was an extremely hard time for me, especially since my chronic illness makes me very vulnerable.

i cant get more gov assistance rn for a few different reasons but i still need help paying bills every month. my storage bill is currently late, i owe klarna a bunch this week, rent is due at the end of fhe month, and i'm running low on food stamps.

notes havent really reflected the amount i've raised recently and its mostly only a handful of people who help. the reality is that even a very small contribution can help a ton! so please, PLEASE help me survive. its getting harder all the time but i would like to eventually have more security/stability in my life 💕

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Hi

We left the last place that kicked us out on Nov 28. We're currently merely crashing smwr, they want us preferably out by January 1, but they said they would understand if we don't find anything. I would prefer if we did, my surgery date for FFS is Jan 28.

The last donation we got was on November 18th. We have a little over a months rent still left in our bank accounts because we never gave them November rent, but we're not sure that that would be enough for rent + deposit at smwr new, or whatever the move in cost of a place may be. Places with higher move in costs usually require proof of income we can't provide so like... Idk. A number of places we were housed this year were cool with the donation aspect of our income, we should be able to find something again. It certainly helped and allowed us to get the surgeries we've been waiting so long for, for which I'm deeply grateful.

I suppose I'll just put a goal of 1000 tentatively and I'll update if we find anything or if there is any update. Thank all of you so much.

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"you don't have to transition to be trans": overdone, dull, runs cover for taking away medical care from those who need it

"you don't have to be trans to transition": exciting, poignant, radical perspective on the right to bodily autonomy

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sorry for low quality, lazy today. poem a day 12-26-24

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but would you love the trans woman even if she wasnt your on demand comedian and/or sex toy

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"I’m very concerned about my client’s right to a fair trial in this case.  He’s being prejudiced by some statements that are being made by government officials. Like every other defendant, he’s entitled to a presumption of innocence. But unfortunately the way this has been handled so far his rights are being violated. And as you know, Your Honor, there’s a wealth of case law guaranteeing his rights to a fair trial, but none of the safeguards have been put in place yet here — in fact it’s just the opposite of what’s been happening. 

He’s a young man, and he is being treated like a human pingpong ball between two warring jurisdictions here.

These federal and state prosecutors are coordinating with one another at the expense of him. They have conflicting theories in their indictment, and they are literally treating him like he is some sort of political fodder, like some sort of spectacle. 

He was on display for everyone to see in the biggest staged perp walk I’ve ever seen in my career. It was absolutely unnecessary. He’s been cooperative with law enforcement. He’d been in custody for over a week. He waived extradition. He was cooperative at all accounts. There was no reason for the NYPD and everybody to have these big assault rifles — that frankly I had no idea it was in their arsenal — and to have all the press there the media there. It was perfectly choreographed. 

And what was the New York City Mayor doing at this press conference, Your Honor? That just made it utterly political. And as your honor knows under Loro v. Charles, the Court of Appeals for the 2nd Circuit has held it to be clearly established that these staged perp walks to the media unrelated to a legitimate law enforcement objective is unconstitutional. And I submit that there was zero law enforcement objective to do that sort of perp walk. There’s absolutely no need for that whatsoever. 

And frankly, Your Honor, the mayor should know more than anyone about the presumption of innocence that he, too, is afforded dealing with his own issues. And, frankly, I submit that he was just trying to detract from those issues by making a spectacle of Mr. Mangione. 

And there are consequences to this. 

He has a right to a fair trial. And I just want to put on the record statements that the mayor made publicly about my client. Nothing saying “alleged” for example. And he said “I wanted to send a strong message with the police commissioner that we’re leading from the front. I’m not just going to allow him to come into our city. I wanted to look him in the eye and state ‘You carried out this terrorist act in my city, the city of New York that I love.’” And he wanted to show symbolism. 

Your Honor, he’s not a symbol. He’s somebody who is afforded the right to a fair trial. He’s innocent until proven guilty. And the mayor was talking to jurors — future potential jurors that elected him. Those are the people that elected him that he is talking to and calling this man a terrorist.

So, Your Honor, I just want to make a record of this and put everyone on notice that this has to stop, and my client is entitled to a fair trial and the presumption of innocence."

From the CNN stream (weird video)

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poem a day 12-23-24

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On an August afternoon, Pablo stared down at a foam plate sloshing with flavorless pinto beans and a particularly bad version of huevos a la Mexicana. The simple, usually delicious scramble of eggs, tomatoes, onions and jalapeños is difficult to mess up. But if anyone can find a way to make it unpalatable, it’s the cook at his labor camp. Soupy eggs are the last thing the 42-year-old from western Mexico wants to eat. But after a 12-hour day harvesting tobacco in the brutal and sometimes deadly summer heat, he must eat – and this was far from the worst meal he’s been given. A few weeks ago, fellow farm workers got sick due to raw and moldy food they were forced to purchase. On days like this, Pablo can’t decide which is worse: that he’s forced to pay $80 a week for this slop, or that everything about what he eats, when he eats and how much he eats is tightly controlled by his employer. Pablo, who is using a pseudonym due to fear of retaliation, is one of more than 35,000 migrant workers in North Carolina this year as part of the H-2A Temporary Agricultural Worker Program, a guest visa program overseen by the US Department of Labor (DoL). The program enables American employers to hire foreign workers to perform seasonal agricultural work. Employers in the program frequently exploit their migrant employees, and the structure of the program makes easy work of it. Visas are tied to a single employer who must also provide housing, transportation and access to food, creating a crushing power imbalance between American employers and migrant H-2A workers.

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I am a mother of my children. I want your help to care for them. Please, I want to escape outside the country to treat my child and

start a new life away from the destruction.I have an autistic child who suffers from chronic kidney failure. I need medicines and health care, and because of the war on my city, I am unable to bring expensive medicines.I am suffering. I see my children sleeping without adequate cover or food, and skin diseases are spreading among them and me, and no one cares. I cannot buy detergents or medicine. I have a sick child with autism, who does not speak or hear, who is physically and mentally disabled, and who has kidney failure.

and Please, you are our only hope in this situation we are going through.Please, I do not have the money to buy a bag of flour for my children. I am really in dire need of feeding my children. Please help me as much as you can. A bag of flour costs $100 alone. I want rice, pasta, and some vegetables. I don’t know the extent of your ability, but be of help to me.We are suffering from hunger

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Viv's beautiful blessing in Tefilat Trans formed the initial inspiration & core of this amulet, which will be printed on 2.5" square cards that can easily fit in your wallet, inside a phone case, or whatever you're carrying (i probably can't be the first person to think of making amulets using a print company's business card template, but i bet it's not their usual fare).

planning to have them with me at the upcoming Hanukkah market on a sliding scale / by donation (down to $0!). if you're trans/GNC & Jewish, you're also welcome to just print one for your own personal use! i may eventually make a higher-res download available on my itch.io for that purpose.

these were also visually inspired by historical Jewish written amulets in the Gaster & Gross Family collections, which i highly recommend browsing if you love antique Judaica as much as i do!

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בבא קמא פ״ב א:י״א

ת"ר חמשה דברים נאמרו בשום משביע ומשחין ומצהיל פנים ומרבה הזרע והורג כנים שבבני מעיים וי"א מכניס אהבה ומוציא את הקנאה:

Bava Kamma 82a:11

The Sages taught in a baraita that five matters were stated with regard to garlic: It satisfies; it warms the body; it causes one’s countenance to shine; it increases one’s sperm, and it kills parasites that are in the intestines. And some say that it also instills love into those who eat it and removes jealousy from them.

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I know I haven’t been online much so it feels a little gauche to ask, but I’m really broke rn like my account is overdrafted and client volume has been very low, but if you love your local mouthy Ho I could use a little help. venmo: @borkaborka

cashapp: $MilaO47

PayPal: dm me

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been talking a lot about gender dysphoria as a transmasc butch lesbian with my transfem friends. it’s something that crosses my mind frequently, the overlap between our experiences, but it made me realize something important. i notice a lot, especially in transmasc circles, the big push to be in extreme solidarity with trans men / liken our experiences to eachother as transmasc dykes. fair, yknow? similar arc in transitioning. but i as a butch, personally, feel like i have far, far more in common with trans women than anyone else. the similar sense of being violently denied your womanhood / degraded FOR your womanhood due to how you navigate sexuality and gender. the similar experience of being forced into a role during sex. being put in very familiar boxes. not the same struggles, but i relate a lot to what my friends say. double for trans butches. it just doesn’t sit right with me to be compared so much to trans men. I might be on t too but the way i navigate and the way others navigate are different. the way i view my gender is different. how i *feel* is different. i wish i could word my thoughts better. hope this is coherent. just curious about your thoughts on the matter.

i have found over the course of the last four years that some of the most meaningful leaps in understanding i have made wrt myself and other trans people have been as a result of sentiments voiced by transmasc butches that speak to me from an inverted angle. i often feel that the transmasc butches in my life whether i have platonic or romantic relationships with them make a sort of foil pair of lived experience for me to bounce my own off of. i think this is a lot more acute for me because i am a femme dyke first and foremost and so naturally i feel compelled toward the reciprocity that exists socioculturally in butchfemme dynamics. i would hesitate to make that parallel bw the violence used to deny trans women's womanhood were i you but i do understand the sentiment.

i think the suggested proximity of butches to trans men in experience as a default is...odd? there are cis butches, there are butches who are realistically nonbinary but for whom butch subsumes that so much so that the she/her stays intact out of sheer obstinance. the femininity that constitutes Femme and the masculinity that constitutes Butch are subversive, and not all transmasculine or transfeminine people are subverting masculinity/femininity respectively.

it sounds like you're around a lot of mostly transfem lesbians and this is mostly an aside not directed at anyone in particular but even straight dolls get it bad. let's not act like being straight saves you from the consequences of moving through the world as a trans woman