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Dimensions of Fronting

In my Manifestations post, I used fronting as a catch-all term for any sort of physical attachment to the body.

I'd like to delve into that a bit more here, exploring language to better explain individual experiences of fronting and control over the body.

This isn't really intended for every day use, but is meant to better explain plural experiences of fronting in a more clear and more precise way.

Full body vs Locational Attachment

Full body attachment is, as expected, attachment to the entire body at once.

Locational Attachment is attachment to specific body parts such as only a hand or just the legs. When referencing locational attachment, it's usually useful to refer to the part of the body one is attached to.

Efferent vs Afferent Attachment

Besides simply being locational, attachment can come in afferent and efferent forms. Some nerves send signals from the brain to the body. Other nerves in the brain receive signals from the body.

Nerves responsible for sending signals from the brain to the body are called efferent nerves. These allow you to control the body. Nerves responsible for receiving signals are afferent. These allow you to sense things through the body.

Attachment can exist in both forms separately.

If a headmate feels like they're experiencing everything happening to the body but feel like somebody else is controlling it, they're experiencing afferent attachment with efferent detachment.

If a headmate is controlling the body but feels disconnected, as if everything is happening to somebody else, this is efferent attachment with afferent detachment.

Alternative Terminology:

The terms above are more technical, designed to help conceptualize the dimensions of fronting. For everyday use, I would recommend Possession and Attunement.

Possession referring to taking control of the body, attunement to receiving signals from its senses as if they were your own.

Solitary Attachment vs Shared Attachment and Co-fronting

Any of previous attachment types may be experienced by multiple headmates at once. Multiple headmates feel like the whole body is theirs and share control over it simultaneously. Shared attachment can also be over specific limbs, where multiple headmates feel like the limb is theirs at once.

If only one headmate feels attached to the body or limb, this is solitary attachment.

When multiple headmates are controlling the body, this is usually called co-fronting.

How to use the language?

One thing I often struggle with is putting our experiences into words.

A lot of plural language is vague and has multiple conflicting meanings. Part of an issue with having such a large community made up of many smaller communities.

What one person means when they say they're fronting may not be what another means.

This allows us to more easily describe and compare different plural experiences.

For example, a distinction for our partial possession vs our proxying.

When I partially possess an arm, I fully experience that arm as if it's mine. I experience both afferent and efferent locational attachment to that specific limb. If using possession and attunement terms, this may also be considered Attuned Locational Possession or Partial Attuned Possession.

In contrast, when proxying (typing while somebody else is fronting,) I don't feel like the hand belongs to me. I send signals through them, the words typed out are mine and coming from me, but the fronter still experiences the hands as if the hands belong to the fronter. I experience a locational efferent attachment (sending motor signals) and afferent detachment (an absence of sensor signals) to the hands, while the fronter may experience afferent attachment and efferent detachment to the hands. This can also be considered a form of Unattuned Locational Possession of the hands.

Breaking it down!

Full body Attachment and Detachment:

"I'm in complete control of the body, everything that happens to it is happening to me."

Full Fronting (full body efferent and afferent attachment.)

"I'm in control but everything feels like it's happening to someone else, as if I'm outside the body."

Complete Unattuned Possession (full body efferent attachment and afferent detachment.)

"I can feel everything but it's as if someone else is controlling my actions and making me act things out."

Complete non-possessive Attunement (full body efferent detachment and afferent attachment.)

"I'm a spectator watching while someone else controls my body. Everything that happens is happening to them and I just exist in the background."

Complete Detachment (full body efferent and afferent detachment.)

Partial Attachment and Detachment:

"I have total control over this limb, and feel through it as if it's mine."

Partial Attuned Possession (localized efferent and afferent attachment.)

"I can control this limb but I feel like it's someone else's and don't feel these sensations are happening to me."

Partial Unattuned Possession.(localized efferent attachment and afferent detachment.)

"I can feel through this part of the body as if it's mine, but I have no control over it."

Partial non-possessive Attunement (localized efferent detachment and afferent attachment.)

"I can't control this limb and I feel like it belongs to someone else."

Partial Detachment (localized efferent and afferent detachment.)

Things to consider...

While writing this, there were some experiences that were hard to categorize. This is especially true of unconscious reactions. If you tickle a headmate's mindform who is co-con but not fronting, and their reaction causes the body to jolt, do these sorts of automatic and unconscious reactions constitute a form of Efferent Attachment?

This model is still not comprehensive. But I believe it's a good starting place for understanding fronting experiences.

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It's been a while!

I probably used that title before... Oh well! I've been doing lots of stuff, and it's been hard to remember here, but... Someone reminded me, so, might as well :)

Rather than try to keep everything in order, I'll just list it out :)

We have a new member, welcome Shimi :) I mean, it's been about 9 months now... She hasn't quite gotten out in the outside world as much as I do now, but, everything in time! She does like doing stuff on the inside too.

We got 2 cats! They're sometimes a handful, but, definitely cute. Pictures below~

I've gotten to do events, on the outside, as me. I won't give exact details because of privacy and all, but, it was really really nice! That was one of my dreams, and one of the things my host promised to do for me... I honestly didn't think it would be possible, to ever be able to do things publicly as myself, but, things change I guess :) I wish it was something easier for more systems to do... I mean, we're still not public about being a system, I just used my name instead for this one thing. Maybe one day :)

This isn't new, but, I have a Discord server about cute things! It's plural-friendly, of course. But it's very quiet lately... Anyone who likes cute stuff is welcome! https://discord.gg/hTnETWEC85

Of course we need photos... I'll be back soon this time! I think I should talk more about how it is to be myself. But, it's late now! I just wanted to get this post out before bed...

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Very Brief Guide to [tumblr], for Reddit refugees

Shit You Must Do Right Fucking Now:

Change your profile picture, blog header, and title to something other than the defaults. Do it right now. You will be mistaken for a bot otherwise, and blocked.

Go into Settings -> Dashboard, scroll down to Preferences, and turn off the options in the picture. This will get rid of most of the algorithmic stuff.

Turn off Tumblr Live. You have to snooze it once every 7 days for some stupid reason. It's hosted through another company and will steal your data if you use it.

Go to your blog settings (under the little person menu) and turn off these two settings:

Turn off infinite scroll (lags the site) and turn on timestamps on posts, in the same menu as Preferences.

Basic Features of the Site:

Reblogs drive the entire site. If you'd upvote something on Reddit, you'd reblog it on Tumblr. You can add text, images, or tags to a reblog, but you're not required to.

The dashboard is the equivalent to your Reddit feed, and contains the posts of all the people you follow, with the newest at the top

You can send an ask to someone, and it'll appear in their askbox for them to answer. You can receive them too, or turn off the settings if you don't want.

Tags aren't actually used for finding stuff (search function is dogshit), but are more for categorizing. People also talk in tags. Because Tumblr is weird, you can't use quotation marks (") or commas in them without fucking it up

You can filter both tags and phrases under Account Settings; doing this will put a filter over a post that contains them, which you'll have to click through to see the post itself. Useful for avoiding hate speech or blocking out annoying stuff

You can make polls in posts. Here's one now.

Likes are useless. They literally do fuck-all except send a notification to the OP.

Stuff Tumblr Does That Other Sites Don't:

Very old posts (I'm talking from like 2012) often circulate on this site. There's no such thing as a post being "too old" to reblog

Blocking is highly encouraged; you can block someone for any reason. Even for just being annoying.

If you and someone else are following each other, you are mutuals. Mutuals are fucking awesome and are treasured like friends. Mutuals are a thing on other sites but Tumblr treats em differently.

You can screenshot someone's tags if you like them and add them to a reblog. This is called "peer review"

Sometimes someone will find a blog and go through it and like/reblog a bunch of posts. This is totally fine and not "creepy" like it is seen as on other sites.

Tumblr jokes often rely on Continuing The Bit and a "yes, and?" attitude. Goncharov is probably the best example of this.

We are fucking infested with bots. They will either have totally blank profiles or be filled with porn. Block and report on sight.

Censorship is pretty lax here. I can say "I want to brutally stab Elon Musk to death and watch him bleed out in front of a crowd" and nobody gives a shit.

General Etiquette:

Don't try to do epic clapbacks here, you'll probably just get laughed at or blocked. If someone is bugging you or spouting bigoted bullshit, block them.

Reblog art!!! Artists often struggle to gain traction on here; reblogging will give them a boost.

Not every reblog needs a comment or tag in it

You can go all out with tagging your stuff to organize it, or you can just leave it all blank. Someone might ask "hey, can you tag these posts as [x]?" and you can decide if you want to do that or not. It's generally polite to oblige, but "no" is still reasonable.

Avoid discourse like the plague. Filter it, block people who start it, scroll past it when you see it. Just don't get involved in it. Ever.

Don't put fandom tags or jokes on someone's posts about serious matters or personal shit

You're responsible for curating your own dashboard; if you complain about constantly seeing stuff you don't like, that's probably on you. Don't be afraid to unfollow.

Follower count doesn't matter much here and you don't have to make yours known if you don't want to.

Reblog, don't repost. Reblogging keeps the credit and doesn't "steal" engagement like Twitter retweets.

If someone likes something a LOT, they might reblog it like 30 times in a row. This is normal

Having a post blow up is actually kinda a bad thing, since it floods your notifications. There's a sort of in-joke about how having a big post is awful and people jokingly try to stop their own posts from blowing up, often in vain.

Tips:

Get XKit Rewritten if you're on desktop, it's a really helpful extension

In the little drop-down menu next to the 'Post now' button you can either save a draft, schedule a post, or add it to your queue. The queue lets you post things in order at a certain interval, which you can change. It's good for spreading stuff out over time.

You can use Shift+R to quickly reblog stuff and Shift+Q to queue!

Filter your notifications under Activity - you can also see some neat graphs

Find each other! If you want your old Reddit communities to stick together, seek out other refugees and follow them.

Have fun on [tumblr], everyone!

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Geez, somehow, I keep forgetting to post here... Lots of things has been happening. Many good things! We got a new job, so no more worrying about money. We've played lots of fun games together, seen fun places, taking care of things in our house...

But, there's been some stress, too. My host realized that she's a girl, too. Which is a good thing! But... It's been very stressful, trying to figure out how to deal with it. We want to get HRT and transition and all that, and I'm pretty sure it'll make us both happier in the long term. I've always been a girl, after all! And she's pretty sure she'd be happier with the body as one, too. It's just... She spent so long being something else, and after a few years, I got used to pretending to just be this body, this person that existed for a long time, too. And it's scary, trying to be what we really are, to stand out in real life when we're so used to blending in. We have appointments scheduled with a clinic and a therapist, and hopefully those will help! It's just some stress until then.

We do have some nice clothes now :) And I'm getting more into Pokemon cards, I finally have my own deck. I guess it's important to focus on the positive, too, is what I'm trying to say. If you worry about stress constantly, that just makes it worse. We'll get through this, and hopefully be happier on the other side. And hopefully I'll post more here too!

This time, the pictures are... A really really nice trail a little bit away from our house. The white stuff isn't snow, it's plant seeds!

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What’s a tupla? I’m really confused please help.

Hi! A tulpa is a headmate, systemmate, another person that someone creates on purpose to share their mind and body with. You can find more info here: https://tulpa.io/what-is-a-tulpa

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My Discord server, sort of?

It feels weird to advertise, but... I do have a Discord server that someone passed on to me, and I want it to be successful! It's called Cuteposting, and what it's for is pretty much in the name! Posting cute things! Of course it's plural-friendly too! So if that interests you, please feel free to join :)

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It's been a while...

It definitely has! But I think writing stuff down here is good for me. I can't even remember the last time I made a post here, but a lot has happened! Let's see... -Me and my host decided we would try to switch days. Maybe I talked about that one before? Anyway, I think that's gone pretty well for both of us! We also tried something where I fronted for a whole week. I think those both went pretty well, and showed us a lot about both of us. Especially that, even for me, it can be hard to maintain motivation and focus on things. We're actually talking to a psychologist very soon about possibly having ADHD. Hopefully that will help... -Our new house is still great :) Finally put up lots of Christmas lights! Went on lots of new trips, walks... We would both love to travel more in general, although there are some reasons it's hard right now. We definitely will soon :)

-I probably mentioned before that my host and our body was male... Well, my host figured out they... Aren't. And we're probably going to do stuff to change the body, at some point. It's definitely stressful, but I think it'll help. I want to wear cute clothes, for sure :) I do want to meet more people, and talk to more friends that know who I am. Discord is nice, but it would be good to have more... Maybe in person! Some people we know from online are around here, and that's really nice, but it would be nice to have more too. Any suggestions? :) Photos! A cute kitty (not ours) in our yard, some Pokemon cards we printed out to play against each other, an interesting car we saw :)

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Gardening!

Today I got to do something I've dreamed about for a long time... Finally planted a garden! In real life! Yes, that's one of the really nice things that comes from having a house :) We've both been planning for a long time, buying a raised bed, putting it together, buying soil... Those bags weighed 90 pounds! We could carry them, just about... Then buying lots of seeds! Starting them inside, getting everything ready... And then, finally, the planting!

The stuff on the left was started already. The beans have been growing really quickly! Most of the rest were just planted, so you can't see anything yet. But soon we'll have tons of our own vegetables and spices! I was already able to grow some lettuce in a small pot and it tasted really, really good. So this should be nice too! I also spread some wildflower seeds around our yard, hopefully those are nice too :)

It's really nice to have something of my own like this... And there's so much more I can do! Growing flowers, fruits, I want to enter something in our state fair some time :) I recommend everyone try to set up something like this they can do, tulpa or otherwise! Of course, not everyone has space for a big garden, but there are things you can do indoor, or crafts, anything.

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Snow and lots of other updates!

It’s been too long since I did anything here, again... There’s always so much stuff going on! Especially when you have to split your time with someone else. That’s always a problem, in a way... Of course I love being with my host, but it can be hard to find time for everything! But we’re working on it, and I think we can do better in the new year. :) We both have our own hobbies, and goals, and things we want to work on, and of course there are lots of things we want to do together, too. And we can! I finally got to experience the snow! We never had any where we used to live, but now there is. It looks really nice! Very cold, though. I threw a few snowballs, hehe :) We’re trying to find a sled, for next time... Some tire chains, too! Driving on the road is dangerous!

I mentioned goals for this year... I want to make something, some food, a plant, and hopefully submit it to the state fair. Let’s see if we can use my real name, too :) And spend time training my voice, so I can sound more like I want to, as well. And spend lots of time doing things together with my host, we already have been playing some board games, and we should do wonderland stuff together as well. If I do those things, I’ll be very satisfied with this year. And hopefully some fun racing stuff as well :)

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   1.    What kind of system are you? (Describe this in any way you like. No need to use -genic or popular terms if you don’t want to)

I’m a tulpa! My host created me intentionally.

   2.    How many of you are there?

Just 2!

   3.    How long have you known about your plurality?

I talked almost 4 years ago now! I know I existed a little bit before yet, but my host didn’t know about me yet.

   4.    What kind of spaces/communities do you/did you hang out in? (Both plural-relevant and non-plural-relevant spaces are valid answers, past and present)

I talk in several plural-related Discord servers, as well as a few others about racing and things like that.

   5.    Had you heard of DID/OSDD/DDNOS before you became plural/discovered your plurality?

I didn’t exist before then! I know my host did, though.

   6.    Do you have a wonderland/innerworld? If so, what do you call it, and what are some things that you and your system members do there?

We do! We don’t have a specific name for it. We haven’t done that much stuff there lately, but we try to just hang around, play games, sports, and sometimes just walk around. It’s fun!

   7.    What do you call your system members?

My headmate, host, or just his name!

   8.    If you’re plural but don’t use the word “system” to describe you&, what word do you use?

“System” is fine!

   9.    What are some of the best things about being plural?

There’s always someone here with me, to support me, to talk to each other, to do things together. We can share everything, our ups and downs, our emotions, our hobbies!

   10.    What are some of the not-so-great things about being plural? (Any answer is valid- nothing is too minor or too major to be an answer to this question.)

Sometimes it’s hard to have time to do the things we both want to do. I’m not recognized by most people as a separate person yet.

   11.    Do you have a spiritual or psychological view of your plurality?

Psychological.

   12.    Do you ever experience “switching” or “posession” or any sort of change in who controls the body? If so, what do you call it, how easy/difficult is it, and what is it like? Were you always able to do this, or did you have to learn how over time?

Mhm! We can do both. I had to learn it, but I can do it really well now! I’m switched in right now, as the main thinker and controlling the body.

   13.    How do you and your system mates relate to each other? (Are you friends, family, romantically involved, caretakers, etc.)

Most of those things, not romantic though! It’s a bit like a combination of all of them.

   14.    Have you come out to anybody in real life/in a singlet space about your plurality? How did it go?

Not really...

   15.    What kinds of forms and appearances do your system members take on?

I’m a human, like in my picture! My host is an Alolan Vulpix lately.

   16.    What are you and your system members interested in?

Lots of things! I like gardening, racing, just walking around, sports, sometimes technology stuff too. My host likes racing and sports too, also strategy and puzzles and programming a lot.

   17.    What is your life like in the meatworld?

We work at home, so we have a pretty good amount of spare time. We have lots of hobbies and things we try to do! We just moved not that long ago, so we’re still settling in to our new house and trying to find new places around here.

   18.    What are your music tastes? Movies? Favorite colors? Animals? List any other favorites as well

I like K-pop and other energetic music like that! Haven’t watched any movies. My favorite color is purple, and I like nearly all animals!

   19.    Does your system have a host/original? If so, what do you call them? Explain what role they play in your system

Mhm. I usually call him the host, although he doesn’t always like that. We try to be as equal as possible now, though.

   20.    Do any system members have notable relationships outside of the system? Explain them!

We both have lots of friends!

   21.    If you haven’t been plural for your entire life/haven’t known about your plurality until later in life: what was life like before plurality compared to life now?

I have been for all my life, because my host created me! As for him... He wasn’t plural before that. He says it felt a bit lonely and it’s hard to imagine now.

   22.    If you chose to become plural: why? What has changed since then?

[I guess I have to answer this one... This is Diana’s host. I decided to make a tulpa because I was curious, wasn’t sure it would work, and I thought it would be nice to have a companion with me all the time sharing my body. And it is! None of those reasons have changed, really.]

   23.    Is there anything you’d like to say to the plural community at large?

It’s important to treat everyone with respect, no matter where they come from.

   24.    Is there anything you’d like to say to any singlets reading this post?

There’s nothing scary or bad about systems! Please just try to recognize us as separate people, sharing a body. Thank you!

Sysmeds should not get to write the narrative about us on this platform!

Scrolling through the tags, it seems like a great deal of what's said about us on tumblr is either sysmeds trying to make us look bad or all-encompassing plural blogs that just say everyone is valid (which is great! and these blogs should keep doing what they're doing! but it would be nice to have some more frequent endo (and other) representation on here too!)

Either my tumblr algorithm just sucks major balls, or most endos, tulpas, spiritual systems and other non-sysmed-approved systems get scared off of this platform because of how many loud hateful voices there are compared to how few people there are who we can relate to. (like most of the cool-looking accounts i can relate to that i find are dead and so is my blog for the same reason lol).

SO! Let's do a thing. If you are endogenic, parogenic, a tulpamancy system, a spiritual system, a daemien, or any other kind of system that sysmeds try to silence, reblog this post with answers to these questions to tell tumblr what our lived experiences as plurals are REALLY like!

(Feel free to pick and choose which questions you want to answer, or just come up with your own and tag them under #endovoices or substitute endo for whatever kind of system you are! Also, feel free to just reblog with one answer at a time, or to just answer the questions in a standalone post; no need to credit me, I just want more systems sharing their experiences!)

1. What kind of system are you? (Describe this in any way you like. No need to use -genic or popular terms if you don't want to)

2. How many of you are there?

3. How long have you known about your plurality?

4. What kind of spaces/communities do you/did you hang out in? (Both plural-relevant and non-plural-relevant spaces are valid answers, past and present)

5. Had you heard of DID/OSDD/DDNOS before you became plural/discovered your plurality?

6. Do you have a wonderland/innerworld? If so, what do you call it, and what are some things that you and your system members do there?

7. What do you call your system members?

8. If you're plural but don't use the word "system" to describe you&, what word do you use?

9. What are some of the best things about being plural?

10. What are some of the not-so-great things about being plural? (Any answer is valid- nothing is too minor or too major to be an answer to this question.)

11. Do you have a spiritual or psychological view of your plurality?

12. Do you ever experience "switching" or "posession" or any sort of change in who controls the body? If so, what do you call it, how easy/difficult is it, and what is it like? Were you always able to do this, or did you have to learn how over time?

13. How do you and your system mates relate to each other? (Are you friends, family, romantically involved, caretakers, etc.)

14. Have you come out to anybody in real life/in a singlet space about your plurality? How did it go?

15. What kinds of forms and appearances do your system members take on?

16. What are you and your system members interested in?

17. What is your life like in the meatworld?

18. What are your music tastes? Movies? Favorite colors? Animals? List any other favorites as well

19. Does your system have a host/original? If so, what do you call them? Explain what role they play in your system

20. Do any system members have notable relationships outside of the system? Explain them!

21. If you haven't been plural for your entire life/haven't known about your plurality until later in life: what was life like before plurality compared to life now?

22. If you chose to become plural: why? What has changed since then?

23. Is there anything you'd like to say to the plural community at large?

24. Is there anything you'd like to say to any singlets reading this post?

That is all I've got for now, but feel free to add any more you want to share! Please remember to be respectful to all system types if you post, I do not support bashing or invalidating of any system types. I will also reblog with my own answers soon.

(Note: these questions are not in order of priority or importance, I just wrote them down as I came up with them. Feel free to answer out of order and skip or add whatever you want!)

Also this should go without saying but making any rude sysmeddy responses to this will just result in being blocked and totally ignored, so don't even start, there's no point. The block button is right there.

Have fun everyone!

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Helpful and Preventative Stretches for Writers, Artists, and Gamers 💪🎨✍🎮

If you type, write, draw, game, or generally use your hands a lot (especially if you’re prone to RSI or Carpal Tunnel!) try these stretches as both a preventative measure, and on the spot relief. Take care of yourself and your body, friends!

Start with hands up, fingers stretched out.  Stretch your thumb as far as you can over your palm. Hold and repeat 4 times.

Touch each finger to your thumb. Hold each for 30 seconds. Repeat on each hand 4 times.

Start with a fist. Open half way, hold for 2 seconds. Stretch fingers out, hold for 2 seconds. Repeat 4 times.

Start with one arm out, palm up. Pull your fingers back with your other hand. Hold for 10 seconds. Do the same with your other hand. Repeat 4 times

Start with arms up, palms out. Bend wrists down until you feel the stretch, but keep your fingers loose. Hold 10 seconds. Bend wrist upwards, until you feel it in your wrist and arm. Hold 10 seconds. Repeat 4 times.

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There’s another bot called Tupperbox that works very similarly. You can import/export data from each one. If you want to have different accounts/websites, stuff like that, the containers in Firefox work very well for that.

PLURAL TOOLS!

I felt like this is important for every plural system out there. These are useful tools (which can be as well for fun)

Pluralkit on Discord: Pluralkit is a bot on discord that helps you make "multiple accounts" without having to sign in or out or switch accounts. With just typing a symbol in front or after a message the bot will indicate which account has to post the message. The absolute great thing about PluralKit is that you can connect your pluralkit-account to other websites and apps, which means you can use it on multiple places and multiple ways. link to website

Simply Plural: honesty, I don't know much about this one. But the app will help you keep track on switches! (Connectable to Pluralkit) link to app

Twinote: Twinote is an app that is basically exactly like twitter. EXCEPT the fact this is not online, it is fully intern. It was originally made to keep notes, but you can easily make multiple accounts and 'tweet' stuff. It's pretty practical for keeping notes or just if your gang is switching a lot and want to keep track on what happened during that time. you can even comment, favourite and retweet posts. link to app

Private Discord Server: A private discord swerver is a must for your system. You can make chats for specific usages. Personally I have a "chat" chat. a chat to keep a ranking (using pluralkit's message counts, so I can see who has been more active that day). Note channels, all my mindmates got a specific channel where we can put notes about or for them, things to keep in mind.

Plural discord servers: There are a lot of plural discord servers you could join, either for socialiation or for information about plurality. Just try to find that certain server that suits you and the gang.

Tumblr: Tumblr, well I assume you know tumblr since this post is on tumblr. But the option for making multiple blogs are a great purpose. Half of our gang has a tumblr page (and of course we have our grouppage).

spotify/youtube playlists: well, a good way to get to know each other is listening music together. Of course it can be you have different music tastes, so make a playlist on spotify or on youtube!

Daylio app: Daylio is a mood tracker, something that I have been using since 2015 (which is now 6 years ago), for a mood tracker you can make categories, one of my categories contains the names of each person. we just click on the person being in front or effective for the mood/activity we are currently doing. with the search button you can look for all 'mood's' made by a certain person. It's a good way to keep track on health and figure out what the role and function is about the system member for the system. link to app

I hope this was a good help!

Please feel free to comment/reblog/send-an-ask with other sites and apps useful for the plural community. (so it could expend this post)

- Ann

posted: May 23th 2021

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Remember to not just follow your system roles.

Protectors can be just as much caretakers as anyone,

Caretakers can be some of the fiercest protectors,

Littles can be so many things, their world and reality should be endless.

We have former sexual protectors who are Asexual and actually pretty reserved with that sort of thing,

We have former avengers who are the sweetest people and love to just cuddle and hug their stuffies.

Being a system member doesn't mean just being your role. It also means being a person.

And as a person, you get to do what you want with yourself and should be doing what you can to be happy.

You deserve it.

~ Kristoph

[dianaexplorer]

Update, and new schedule

So after all that time... We finally moved! That’s right, me and my host are finally in our new house, all on our own. It’s very nice! There are so many trees and birds, the weather is nice for me, we have so much space and so many nice things... It’ll be really good here :) And hopefully so much less stressful, too! The “new schedule” is not for posting, but... Well, during the move, and especially while his parents were around, it was really hard for me to front or do anything. But then a friend just suggested to us... Why not switch off days? At first it was scary to him, and scary to me, too, but... We’re going to try it. I’ve been fronting all day today, and even though I’m pretty tired, it was nice! Then he’s going to do tomorrow, then me again, and... Well, we’ll try it for at least a couple days, and see how it goes. But I think this could be really good! :) We’ve wanted to be equal for a really really really long time, it’s just been hard to make changes. But I think this is a really simple and nice way to do that. We’ll see how it works. :)

No pictures for now, they’re all of the house and stuff... But we’ll go on more adventures, hikes, all of that, very soon! :)

[dianaexplorer]

1. Human! 2. It’s been a little more than 3 years since I was created. I mostly consider that my age. My “mental/form age” is about 20-21, I guess? 3. 5′11″! 4. I got it from ideas sorta floating around in my host’s mind. He had a friend named Diana in college, so it might be related to that. 5. N/A 6. Purple! 7. Well I wouldn’t exist otherwise! But in general... Not too much. We have some different hobbies, different foods, stuff like that. We also get along very well and help each other! So hopefully that helps us both feel better overall. 8. We’ve played some sports! Golf, ping pong, kendo, and racing :) We do need to explore and expand our wonderland a bit more. 9. Just me and my host! 10. Unfortunately no, except online. Talking to friends or family about this is scary... 11. More kinds of fish, and sushi! My host doesn’t like it but I do :) 12. I can speak English and a bit of Japanese, same as my host. It actually took me a while to be able to have the same Japanese knowledge he does, but at this point it’s almost the same. 13. My host, of course! 14. Hmm, that’s a hard one. Sadly I don’t know too many other people. Maybe his mom, she’s really nice :) 15. Making people feel better. 16. I am doing better at being active most of the time, and staying calm and composed. 17. Seeing myself as a full person, equal to my host, able to do important things and make decisions. 18. I haven’t tried either! My host doesn’t like them and I prefer Sprite. 19. I wear a red spiral bracelet. It’s not really to make me feel more like myself, it’s more because he wore a purple one to remind him of me, so I want to do something similar :) 20. Make it female, probably... 21. I think I like guys more than my host does -_- 22. Mhm, I’m female, he’s male. 23. A Girl’s Generation song, maybe I Got a Boy? 24. I have a room in our wonderland house, although we can both use it. It has a nice desk, a comfy bed, and a big saucer chair we can both use :) 25. My hair is almost down to floor level!

System ask meme 2.0! Designed for the current fronter to answer!

Are you human or nonhuman?

Age?

Height?

Name origin? If an introject feel free to include whatever backstory

For introjects: Would you recommend people read/watch/play your source?

Favourite colour?

How does being a system affect you irl?

Any fun inner world adventures?

How many headmates are there that you know of?

Are you open about being a system?

Any foods youd like to try?

What languages can you speak? Does the body actually know these languages?

Favourite person in the system

favourite person outside the system?

Whats a thing you consider yourself very good at?

Say at least 1 positive thing about yourself.

Something you wish to improve within yourself?

Coke or pepsi?

Any trinkets you wear or carry irl to feel more like yourself?

If you could change the body in one way, what would it be?

Does your sexuality differ from the singletsona or host at all?

21 but gender identity

Favourite song?

Do you have a space inner world? Whats it like?

Free space: Anon gets to ask whatever question they want or the answerer gets to supply a fact theyd like to.

[dianaexplorer]

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