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im aesthetically opposed to a minimum wage job that couldn't care less if i lived or died

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if i aimed to be defined by pronouns then that would be a pretty sad life

that being said, you can use she/her cuz i like it

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i rly hope donna embraces gender in her next book dear god i hope

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people think a person and then BOOM im just a puddle of rainwater on your front porch

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I am the theory of everything; I am a quantum equation that physicists couldn't pin down if they tried because they would go insane

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tsh portraits + vicky cuz i couldnt help myself 🙈 i fucking hate charles' hair and i will be changing it

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my friends are so cool :) i like transcending reality through individuation a lot :))

Spiral vs Loop

While on a hike, I found myself reflecting on how I describe personal growth. I realized my journey felt less like a loop and more like a spiral.

In this reflection, my reasoning was intuitively as follows: a loop suggests I’m going in circles, reliving the same struggles without progress. But a spiral implies movement—a return to similar challenges with a deeper perspective, each passing through of these experiences bringing me closer to the core of understanding, and each time, I grow a bit wiser, stronger, and get closer to the center of who I really am as much as seeing more of this life and the wisdoms I wish for it to share with me than I would otherwise.

Every time I face a familiar struggle, I’m not the same person I was before. Time, space, and stillness gives me new wisdom to look with new eyes. Yes, I still fall into old patterns—that’s human—but the difference is how long I stay tethered to it, the idea of "struggling" that is. Instead of seeing myself as a victim to this thing, I try to sit with any discomfort that arises, to work to a place of accepting what is as it is as much as myself as I am, and to move forward in love, focusing on what I can actually control.

(Then I saw these on Pinterest upon opening, and I figured I just had to try to summarize my thoughts.)

I've come to see just how much so this shift echoes ideas that have been around for thousands of years. Take Advaita Vedanta, a school of Hindu philosophy. It teaches that the separation we perceive—between self and world—is an illusion. At the deepest level, we are not fragmented beings struggling against life; we are life. So, these “repeated struggles” aren’t meaningless—they’re part of the spiral that brings us closer to realizing that underlying unity. Each challenge peels away another layer of ego, revealing the truth that we’ve always been whole.

Buddhism adds another lens with its teaching on impermanence and the nature of suffering. Pain isn’t the problem—clinging and resistance are. Mindfulness becomes the way through observing thoughts and emotions without judgment, without grasping. This practice keeps the spiral moving instead of hardening into a loop. And here’s where modern psychology overlaps. The concept of locus of control—knowing what’s within our power and what’s not—aligns beautifully with this. We can’t control life’s ebb and flow, but we can choose our response. That’s where freedom lies.

Taoism points us here, similarly, urging us to follow the Tao—the Way—by flowing with life rather than forcing it. Chaos and order, yin and yang, aren’t enemies; they’re two notes in the same song. The spiral honors that dance: forward, inward, and around again.

What does this look like in real life? It means releasing judgment—of ourselves, of others, and even of the path itself. Individuation, the psychological journey of becoming your truest self, isn’t about control or isolation. It’s about integration: honoring your unique individuality while embracing your deep interconnectedness with all things. On the individual level, this means facing and accepting your shadow self—the parts of you that are uncomfortable, hidden, or rejected—and weaving them into a whole, authentic self. Importantly, it’s not about choosing light or dark, but about recognizing them as part of a unified spectrum—the All that we are and that simply is. This unity of opposites, this full spectrum, must be accepted as it is, not resisted or divided. On the collective level, this same principle holds: the world’s complexity—its light and shadow—are inseparable facets of one whole existence. True peace and wholeness come from embracing this unity, within ourselves and with the world around us.

Coming to see that you can validate another person’s experience without betraying your own truth or worse yet, becoming someone not in resonation with who you are or want to be. Anyone who says otherwise is usually speaking from their own ego, and place of trying to impose their perspective unconsciously, lost in the motions of everyday.

Living authentically just means living, being, and learning how to more and more easily access a place of being grounded in that so that you can simply release judgments of others and 'let live'—knowing that no one harms you by simply being who they are, just as you harm no one by walking your own path.

Mindfulness becomes the way back to this understanding. It softens the grip of ego—the need to control, to make our way the only way. It teaches us to let go of that illusion and simply be with what is. Peace doesn’t come from escaping chaos or “fixing” life or something within it, but from embracing it as part of the whole. When we see ourselves as one with All, even struggle carries meaning.

Underneath pain, there is care, and beneath conflict, a longing for love, acceptance, and a safe place without judgment pr imposition.

Understanding ourselves better offers us the chance to not become someone we are not in hopes of obtaining a love that would be snuffed out when we give up the illusion we fought to uphold and live authentically to ourselves. When we accept the entirety of being and living, we can stop fighting life’s complexity, and too, ourselves and others.

We stop needing it to be neat or binary, to work within the confines of what we want to push it into... accepting that it never can and never will abide by any law but that of Nature, which is outside of our understanding without a mindfulness practice.

Peace doesn’t come from sorting chaos into order; it comes from seeing that chaos and order are both parts of the whole. In each breath of air we are gifted, the warmth of sunlight, the music of nature and the world around us, as it is, as much as, as it becomes—these small, ordinary moments become sacred when we meet them fully. Gratitude arises rather naturally the more time we spend here. And slowly, we understand: the spiral isn’t a trap we're locked in; it’s the Way home—to presence, to wholeness, to the quiet truth that all is One.

What's more, here’s the truth: you don’t have to control life to live fully. You don’t even have to understand it. What you need is to develop a peace that is wholly within that less and less disturbs, as well as to begin in redefine reality as it is for you. Coming into seeing what’s right for you—your values, your truth—and allow that to be enough without imposing it on anyone else. Because everyone’s spiral looks different. Different dreams, needs, and timelines. And there’s nothing wrong with that.

This is individuation in its purest sense—not isolation, or purification, but integration. Becoming wholly yourself while honoring that others are doing the same.

One of the most liberating truths I’ve learned is this: you can’t control how people perceive you, just like you can’t control how they experience life. (Even when we want to, however well meaning, this could be taking from someone a defining moment of character development for them.) Often, people come to their judgments already decided and fixed, shaped by their own fears, experiences, and beliefs. No matter how well-meaning one's intent, trying to change their minds or explain oneself is usually a disservice to both us and them. It keeps you tangled in the struggle which denies your authenticity and refuses them the freedom to live their reality as they choose—which they have every right to. The energy spent trying to shape their perception is better invested in accepting you and them as we are and focusing on what truly lies within your control: being present, living honestly, and finding joy where you are.

When you release the need to manage others’ views, you step out of performance and into real life—the kind where peace arises naturally because you’re simply being, not seeking approval or moving from some place of lack or fear, or just attachment, really. I guess that’s at the heart of this too but that’s another post to do when I have the time and energy.

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i want to huff him like glue. i need to cremate him and do lines with his ashes.

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"You gota know about the world if you wana live in it. thats why education is important."

- Alissa, Excerpts From An Honest Conversation

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i hate those ads that think poorly finishing a puzzle is a good marketing tactic. like no bitch you're stupid go solve your own problem and leave me the fuck alone

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"you think you're God?"

"No, but I'm pretty damn close."

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If I were Henry Winter, I'd be confused too about the crashaout the Greek class had.

Oh, now you wanna have morals, sisterfucker/abuser?

Now you wanna be nervous about ethics, Mr. Get An Alcoholic Drunk So I Can Have A Quick Fuck With Dubious Consent?

You wanna have a hysterical fit one second and extort money from me the next, Mr. Felon Manchild?

You people do awful stuff every day, but when I accidently kill one guy when I was heavily inebriated and out of my mind, I'm suddenly evil incarnate and you're all Father Abraham's lambs? As if you weren't all down for that orgy ritual, stop lying. Fake friends. Fine, I'll turn myself in if you all will too for everything you did. *Silence.* That's what I thought.

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me n my dark past bro

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ἀθέσφατος

ἀθέσφατον, beyond even a god's power to express, unutterable: or not according to a god's utterance, unblessed, portentous, awful.

ineffable, that even the gods cannot express, that is to say, whose greatness cannot be expressed, the beauty of which cannot be expressed, also marvelous in quantity. Inexpressible, = the one who transcends God's power to represent it through words, which is impossible to express, inexpressible, inexpressible, wonderful; On terrible or surprising things.

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can i get the henry with sound effects? thanks

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me: pass the j i promise i wont get philosophical

2 hits later: beauty is suffering

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camilla has a sparse but notable history of disregulated, homoerotic, female friendships because she never had a reliable (female, not necessarily though) caregiver or confidant in her formative years and has an absolutely FUCKED understanding of social and platonic boundaries due to years of abuse, sexual or otherwise