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𝐖𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐇𝐞𝐥𝐩 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐂𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐠𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐢𝐟 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐲’𝐫𝐞 𝐒𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐠𝐠𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 ☁︎︎♡︎

NSFW, k!nk or dualcom DNI.

Being a caregiver can be a lot of work, and it can be even more tough if you’re going through a hard time yourself. It’s important to make sure that caregivers are receiving the same care they’re giving! ❤︎︎

-> Ask what you can do! If you’re IRL, see if there are things you can do to lighten the load for them. Even doing “small” things (such as chores or things of that nature) to help out can do a lot.

-> Make sure they’re taking prioritizing themself. As caregivers, sometimes we can forget to take care of ourself when we’re busy taking care of others. Simple check-ins (asking if they’ve eaten, drank water, etc.) can make a difference.

-> Express your gratitude! Caregivers do a lot, and even just getting that acknowledged means a lot. Even simply saying “thank you” or drawing a small picture for them can make a world of difference.

-> Maintain open communication to ensure they aren’t getting overwhelmed. This can be especially true if you are a more frequent regressor, as it’s extra important to check in that your caregiver isn’t getting burnt out.

-> Most importantly, be patient, kind and understanding. Caregivers are people too, and they don’t just exist to take care of others. Respect their wishes, and help them in any way you can! Just asking what they need and showing thoughtfulness makes a huge difference.

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Shout out to everyone who was over shadowed by a younger or older sibling or even cousins due to certain reasons

To everyones that has so much anxiety that walking out your door leaves you in tears

To everyones who forces themselves to go to school or work even though their environment overstimulates them, especially without headphones or some kind of support!

To everyones who seek love and validation from a parent or older sibling for years and still do!

To everyone’s who felt like a burden because of their physical and/or mental health! (You’re not)

To everyones who believes they are annoying others and are scared of society so they hide away behind a screen or hide away in their homes!

To everyones who grew up isolated for whatever reason and struggle to get back into society!

To everyones who refuse to talk to people about their problems and shove it all down and cry of frustration when you’re alone!

To everyone who are so scared to make a mistake that you are hard on yourselves when you make a small mistake and think about it every night even if it’s years later!

To everyones who grew up with emotionally unavailable parents who used or use you as a dysfunctional therapist!

To everyones who grew up with a family who didn’t understand your disorders/disabilities and refused to understand that you find it hard to do things without specific instructions

And lastly to those with undiagnosed disorders that cause your life hell because of life blocking you from getting the help you need!

This goes for anyone !! I go through these things and it is hard and I truly applaud those who relate to this, because it’s been so hard and it’s such a long road and you’re still going strong even if you don’t feel like it sometimes!! You’re doing so well, please keep going no matter how hard it gets, no matter how low you feel.

Da divider : cookie !!

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Everyone wishes they had a friend who writes beautiful fics for them!! (•̀ᴗ•́)و i love you Rocky

For my lovely dear friend ╰(*´︶`*)╯

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There's a hand in her hair.

She's not quite used to the feeling, the lack of nails scraping against her scalp and the missing taughtness in the grip on her hair.

She breathes in deep and lets it out in a contended burst of air, muffled into the warm corner of someone's elbow.

This is new to her, this gentleness, but it comes easily, and she lets it roll over her in tender waves, the weight of the hand in her hair, and the other half of its pair thumping her back.

"Shhhh," he says, "Hush, Bellatrix, you've done enough for today," his hoarse voice beckons, and Bellatrix preens beneath it.

She's good. She knows she is.

She's good for him.

And here he is; he knows, of course he knows, why wouldn't he?

"Close your eyes," he tells her, and she does so obediently, too fast to be anything other than eagerly following his command.

The hand on her back thumps harder, slower, and her eyes grow heavier.

Her cheeks grow warm as she nestles into the dark fabric covering a rising and falling chest and the hand petting her unruly hair edges closer towards the shell of her ear.

"Who knows what to do with you, hm?" He hums, and Bellatrix doesn't bother with figuring out what that might mean.

"You're just my girl, aren't you?"

Bellatrix knows there's nothing to say; he knows the answer and so does she, and so she lets herself answer by staying still and letting out a soft breath into his robes.

His cool breath tickles her cheek as he sighs, his lengthened fingernails send ripples of goosebumps down her arms as they trace over the arched curve of her eyebrow and curl around her sharp jaw.

"Working so hard for me, aren't you? So cunningly and wickedly."

Bellatrix's chest thrums with the warmth that his recognition sews inside her. So long she's spent working in complete devotion for him, and here she is. Finally, with him.

"It's time to rest, my dear," he tells her, "It's time for little witches to shut their eyes. You've a big day of liberation tomorrow, and you need all your rest."

Quietly, Bellatrix agrees, but also wants to laze about in the hazy pool of dark emerald robes for as long as her consciousness allows her.

She breathes in slowly, her pace matching is as they take in breath and release it together, sharing warmth, air, space, everything but blood.

It's enough.

It's finally enough.

Bellatrix wakes up breathing heavily.

It's the heavy and manic sort of breathing s that's characterised her for a long time now, and not even sleep stands between her and the adrenaline that pushes through her body at all hours.

Her eyes flicker about the room wildly, making out nothing in the dark aside from the crack of light slithering in from beneath the door, but she doesn't let her widened eyes shut again.

Her cheeks are scarlet and burning hot - even now, even alone, she's mortified.

If someone were to see this- to know she craves this, as in fathomable it is- she can't bear to think of what they would do.

Or, more accurately, she can most easily imagine what they would do, what anyone would do, and finds herself fearing it.

It's stupid.

It's weak.

It's false.

Impossible.

Incomprehensible.

It's the closest she's ever come to yearning for someone.

Is this how normal people feel? Surely not.

Bellatrix knows she's not normal. She takes pride in it.

But this, even this feels too far.

He would never- he wouldn't- not for her.

No one would.

And no one can.

Her finger skirts the edge of her wand beneath her worn pillow, warm from where she'd been clutching it in her sleep.

These thoughts are dangerous. They're weak.

Her stomach aches with the weight of it all.

She tried to banish the thought from her mind, but she knows it'll be back.

She returns to her stiff pillow, her nose breathing in the must and mildew.

Her drab blanket scratches and hitches on the mattress, worn and thin and nothing like-

It doesn't bear thinking about.

It doesn't bear thinking about.

Even if she wants to.

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Everyone look at my friend and their incredible writing!! ♡︎

Another fic for my dear friend! o(^▽^)o

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Narcissa wakes up to the squeak of creaking floorboards.

She's quick to grab her wand, stashed beneath her pillow where she can cast it out at a seconds notice.

For a moment, she thinks it's Draco. It's just a natural assumption now, it's the first think her mind supplies. It's her baby, despite the time it's been since he was, in fact, her baby.

But her mind clears and she remembers he's not at the manor, and neither is Lucius, with the bed so cold beside her.

Her heart spikes with icy adrenaline as her grip on the ebony wooden handle tightens.

There's any number of people who could be outside, who would want to catch her off guard, and she knows better than anyone that the barriers around her home are just as easily broken as the ones her fellow death eaters spend all days and nights attacking.

The creaking grows louder as the soft footsteps grow closer, made timid by the slow and uneven steps. It brings a crease to Narcissa's brow, one less of concern and more of confusion.

There's a shadow beneath her doorway, the dark shape shifting side to side nervously behind the door.

Narcissa watches, waiting, her wand still beneath her pillow.

The door creaks open, and curiously, Narcissa lets it.

The crease in her brow smooths out as she makes out the softened edge of her sister, blurred by the faint light coming from the hallway.

"..Sissy?" She mumbles quietly, and even though Narcissa is quite aware that it's not Draco standing there, her heart beats in the same way that it would if he were.

"Bella," she breaths, sitting up and leaving her wand beneath her pillow. "What's the matter?"

Bellatrix stays where she is, a hand fisted in her skirt as she rocks from left foot to right. Her wide eyes scan the darkness of the room, her tongue darting out to wet her lips.

"Bella?"

Narcissa sits up properly, squinting at her sister. "What are you doing awake?" She asks, receiving no answer. "Bella?" She tried again, but nothing.

Timidly, Bellatrix steps into the room, her hands clutch onto the door handle, and then the edge of the door, and similarly around the walls until she comes to the bed beside Narcissa.

"Sit," Narcissa says, and gingerly, Bellatrix does.

It's strange to see her older sister like this sometimes, but never wrong. This is what she needs, what she does, and so this is what they do.

"Did you have a bad dream, Bella?" She asks, but gets no answer.

Bellatrix sits where her feet usually are and picks at the bedding, her wand clutched tightly in her fist.

Narcissa sighs. There's not much to do, not much she can say to her. They've been here before, and at least this time it's just the two of them, meaning Narcissa can give her the gentle hand she needs.

"Come," she says softly, patting the other half of the bed beside her that's been cold these past few weeks.

Bellatrix stays put for a moment before shifting, crawling up the bed in a manner not so dignified and settling beside her sister.

"There we are," Narcissa says quietly, reaching out to pet her wild mop of hair. "You settle down there, you hear me? You need to sleep."

Bellatrix curls in on her side, huffing and puffing as she presses her cheek into Lucius' pillow and pulls her knees to her chest.

That's how they go to sleep, Bellatrix curled up in a ball on top of the covers and Narcisss watching her, the only sign of Bellatrix's comfort being the fist wrapping tightly around Narcissa's wrist.

"Sissy," she slurs, and Narcissa nods.

"I know," she whispers, and Bellatrix seems to take that as enough convincing to sleep.

Narcissa sighs as she watches the dark rings under her eyes twitch, the heavy line of her dark eyebrows shudder as Bellatrix slips into sleep.

For tonight, Narcissa will let her rest.

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ruuufff arf arf !!

— 🌙🦴 [ can I claim this ? ]

Of course you can claim that anon emoji- I love getting anon asks! I hope you are doing well, teeny friend- or puppy friend ? ▼・ᴥ・▼

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if you dont mind me asking, what exactly does "dualcom" mean? i tried looking it up but couldnt find anything that made sense...

Dualcom refers to an individual who age regresses and is a part of the age regression community, but also participates in ageplay / DDLG / ABDL , or variants of ageplay kinks. Some individuals separate the two, and some mix them interchangeably. But-

Regardless of how “separate” the individual claims it is, THEY ARE NOT WELCOME ON MY BLOG- THIS INCLUDES IF THEY FOLLOW ON A COMPLETELY SFW BLOG. AGEPLAYERS ARE NOT WELCOME TO MY SPACE.

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baaababbabaaab hic baaa! baababa!

Oh my goodness, is there a babbling little one in my inbox? :o How precious you are! (≧◡≦) ♡

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𐙚 buying a little who plays an instrument a baby version of it ! watching them smile and giggle about the new song they’ve made just for you , happily plucking strings and hitting keys (..◜ᴗ◝..)

maybe it’s a playdate with another tiny , and they make something together !!

my goodness baby , you’re such a good little composer !!!

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[ 🤕🩹❤️‍🩹 ] ——— [ 🤕🩹❤️‍🩹 ]

support & normalize chronically-ill carers. 🤍

— 🤕 be open to accommodations when ur carer is having a pain flare, like a chair next to the tub for them to sit when they run u a bath. have a pillow ready if they are kneeling to tie ur shoes or snap up a onesie.

—— 🩹 offer to help out more! clean off ur plate without asking, double down on chores, maybe take one of theirs off their plate. doing things without asking will make u feel like baba’s little helper & also probably be much appreciated.

——— ❤️‍🩹 spend some time nourishing them the way they nourish u. temple massages with tiger balm for migraines or an ice pack & a scalp massage. lotion their feet & ankles if they are swollen. rewrap their bandages for them.

———— 🩹 incorporate their mobility aids into ur regressive relationship, such as drawing them with their wheelchair in pictures or covering their cane with stickers! (with permission, of course.) normalize their illness as just a part of who they are.

————— 🤍 most importantly, remember that ur carer is human just like u & has limits, even if they feel like a superhero to u. be sure to remind them every day that their illness doesn’t define their ability to be a good caretaker.

[ 🤕🩹❤️‍🩹 ] ——— [ 🤕🩹❤️‍🩹 ]

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you should do an informational post on caring for neurodivergent and/or chronically ill littles!!

caring for neurodivergent and chronically ill littles ! [a guide]

written by a neurodivergent little and a caregiver to a chronically ill little <3

[it should be noted that everyone experiences different symptoms/has different needs; i'll be focusing on sensory issues and chronic pain in this guide]

Be understanding !

It's important to remember for both caregivers and regressors that while something's may not make sense to us- that doesn't mean you can't be understanding.

You might not be able to feel the difference in fabric textures but your little/cg can.

Your legs might not hurt after walking short distances, but your little/cg's might.

These are real experiences your little/cg may deal with that you will have to be understanding of.

There may be times where your little/cg cannot play and need to rest, or times where games may need to be modified to ensure both of you have fun playing- reassure your little/cg that they are not burdens for needing accommodations !

Get creative !

"But Quinny, how can I make accommodations for my little/cg?!"

I'm glad you asked!! For neurodivergent littles/cgs, you may want to take extra time explaining the rules of a game or turning down the volume of shows/movies!

For chronically ill littles/cgs, low-movement activities such as arts 'n crafts or cozy pillow forts.

[There is a really great post by @mortuarymorticia about chronically ill carers that you can find, here!]

Be patient !

Flare-ups/Bad sensory days can lead to fussy littles.

Flare-ups/Bad sensory days can lead to caregivers needing breaks.

These are both okay! It's important to listen to each other's needs and limits; healthy cg/little dynamics work together to find compromises.

Tips & Tricks !

Finding dolls/books/toys with disbaility inclusive storylines/characters/features can do wonders!

Keeping fun/cute water bottles or sippy cups nearby! [Bonus points if you have some liquid IV on hand -- or just a electrolyte drink in general]

Mobiles are great for kiddos who need lotsa bed-rest!!

being chronically ill/disabled/neurodivergent does not make you a bad regressor/caregiver <3

[dividers creds to @softandsleepyboy]

-- with sparkles and love,

quinny 💌

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shout out to the regressors that smoke weed, drink alcohol, and smoke cigar(ettes). especially the ones that do this when regressed!

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*raises hand* It’s me. I’m the caregiver who’s even more clingy than my teeny :3 (≧◡≦) ♡

𐙚 clingy cgs !! caregivers who are always holding their tiny’s hand , caregivers who share a bed with their tiny to protect them from nightmares , caregivers who always want to know what their little’s doing !!! caregivers who are even clingier than their bitty !!!

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hi milo :))

So I'm new to being a caregiver and I have anxiety and children in general tend to make me very anxious and stuff. Do you have any tips for like becoming more comfortable with being a caregiver and not becoming so stressed and nervous about it?

I want to support my friend and be there for them but I tend to kinda get nervous about it when their regressed even though I've literally known them for so long so idk? I'm not very good with kids because I feel I never know what to say and I'm bad at like talking to kids like kids and they make me very nervous. I don't have young siblings and idk im just not good with kids. I'm kinda bad at communication but I've been trying to get better and i communicate with my friend more than anyone so thats good. I know my friend being regressed is very different then just some kids that make me anxious because they are my friend and I trust them and understand them but I still keep freaking out about it. I'm not sure what u could say to help but like just wanted to say smth about this idk

I had a panic attack over this once :(( I feel like as I caregive more, I'll get better at it but I've haven't been very good so far because i freak out aboutit:(( idk if I'm really cut out for it considering I'm not doing very good rn mentally but I really want to be there for my friend and I feel like it's not that big of a deal to be a caregiver maybe and I'm over reacting a bit because I do that alot. I don't take care of myself very well, and I feel like if I start taking care of myself a little more, I'll be better at caregiver to another person. I mean I already do alot for my friend and they do alot for me and we see each other sm and we are already very close and I think I'm definitely over reacting but yet this is how I feel 💔

Sorry, I just kept ranting on, you can ignore this I kind of just needed to say it, I think

Hey friend! So every little is different, so communication is very important to make sure the dynamic works out for the both of you- and so there isn’t a situation down the road where one of you becomes unhappy.

Now with that said, it seems like you’re still adjusting. First thing I want to note is to not feel pressured to interact with someone regressed- if you’re just not comfortable with it, then you’re not comfortable with it- nothing wrong with that.

But it seems like you want to be doing this- which is awesome! My advice is to take it slow. You don’t need to jump right into a committed dynamic as a caregiver. Start with babysitting every once in a while, and see how you feel and where your comfort level is at after trying it for a bit.

Also, important side note: not every caregiving role is parental. Plenty of caregivers have more of a friend dynamic, or an older sibling dynamic, or maybe one where the caregiver has more of a teacher type of role!

It’s perfectly okay to not be comfortable with stepping into a parental role, and keep your caregiving to a more older sibling or friend kind of dynamic!

Good luck- and I hope this helped! | (• ◡•)|

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Hi, hope this isn’t a weird question, I’m not a little but age regression sounds really nice, I tried it once but i couldn’t really get in a little headspace and it felt awkward, i don’t know if anyone can do it or if it’s hard to get in that headspace but i feel kinda sad because I think it would help my anxiety and it seems really nice to regress, do you know if there’s anything I can do to help?

I don’t think it’s weird at all, my friend! What’s important to keep in mind is that every person is different, so my advice may not help you specifically- but hopefully it will! I’d say that if you’re at a stage where you want to regress but it’s feeling awkward for you, start with age dreaming.

It can be very helpful in terms of slipping into an actually regressed headspace, and can help you get adjusted to that initial awkwardness. Good luck! ♡´･ᴗ･`♡

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i love scrolling through the agere tags and coming across an obviously very self indulgent post, bonus points if it has so few notes because it's so niche and personal to op. it's just cool to see others indulging in their personal interests and such in order to heal bc they know it'll help them. and that's what truly matters above notes and relatability, looking out for and helping yourself heal with what you know will bring you such results, bc who knows what you need/like more than you?

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petnames for carers & regressors!

☽ cg’s: mama / momma, dada / daddy, bubba, papa, baba

☾ tinies & pets: angel, darling, peach, lovebug, honey, princess / prince / royal, [your cg]’s baby, little one, tiny, pumpkin, my ___ (the pet they regress to), muffin

remember to ask if theyre okay with the name before fully using it! :)

leave some petnames you call ur cg, tiny or pet below if it’s not listed! i’d love to see your responses <3

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self care tips for tinies who struggle with taking care of themselves

this account is a safe space for those who have "gross" habits if you're going to be rude kindly block me

plan out showers / baths, if that's too much of a struggle that's okay you can always use baby wipes

use sweet smelling soaps so you smell nice & clean

dry shampoo is a good alternative to washing your hair

use body sprays to smell nice

put flavor packets in water so it tastes good

have granola bars / shakes near your bed if you get hungry

keep self care items (baby wipes, body spray, etc) near your bed as motivation to use them

drink water, chew sugar free gum, floss your teeth, or use a disposable toothbrush if brushing your teeth is too hard

take it day by day, sometimes it's easier one day but difficult the next and that's perfectly normal listen to your body & don't force yourself to take care of yourself if it's too much

if you can't fully wash, wash under your armpits

eat an apple for dental hygiene