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This is how many bullets they shot on a fucking kid.

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imagine, one day, just looking at yourself in the mirror and feeling so happy.

you’re not the prettiest, you know that, but you’re happy.

you don’t have the curves or the hourglass body, but you’re happy.

you don’t have a flat stomach, but you’re happy.

you don’t have a thigh gap, but you’re happy.

and you slowly start to realize,

you don’t have a lot of friends, but you’re happy.

not everyone likes you, but you’re happy.

you’re not the smartest, but you’re happy.

you don’t talk a lot, but you’re happy.

you’re not socially active, but you’re happy.

you’re not perfect, but you’re happy.

that day might not be today but you’ll get there, i know you will.

there will be a day in your life where you’ll be happy with yourself.

happy with the way you look, happy with the way you act, just happy with your life.

that day might not be today but it’ll come.

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I know nobody will read this but life has been hell since the last time I posted here. It just got into a lot more than just losing some self confidence now I'm pretty sure I have depression I find it so incredibly hard to be happy even for a little and it's so rare for me to get out and do anything, I'm always just trying to numb my self. I have zero good thoughts abt myself I even got rid of all my mirrors I just can't bear to look at myself :(.

Lately I have been thinking a lot abt the life I had before and I get excited sloely from the thought of it now it almost seems like it was a dream, I'm thinking abt actually gathering the courage and actually putting in the effort and actually working towards a healed me, maybe get out of my comfort zone or make new friends or make a vision board even, I don't know really. But maybe I have it in me to end this? What if I can actually be excited to wake up one day, I've been delaying sleep later just so the next day would come slower. Maybe if I put in the work I could start to do the opposite. Idk but seeing this blog again kinda gave me hope ngl.

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Hi I have always been super sensitive to people's comments. That is really annoying for me but I don't really know how to deal with those emotions and thoughts because somebody would just make a joke of me (maybe just a funny joke) but that stays in my mind for a long time. I don't want to take what people say personally so, can you please give me how to stop being so sensitive and start treating jokes just as jokes. Hope you have a good day.

Hi love. I'm sorry to hear that people are making jokes at your expense. Please know, though, that learning how to not take others' words personally and expecting others to treat you with respect are not mutually exclusive standards/boundaries to uphold in your interactions and relationships with others.

To not take others' words personally, remember that most people's comments about others are a reflection of how they feel about themselves. Individuals who frequently criticize others or feel the need to put others down for their own pleasure typically are projecting their own self-hatred, negative self-talk, and low self-esteem. Take others' sentiments are a reflection of their self-concept, inner world, thoughts, and experiences – you rarely have anything to do with you.

However, with that being said, you have every right to be upset at someone's "joke" about you and let the person know that their comment upset you. While I don't know the types of remarks people are making towards you and the intention behind these statements, you have every right to share that these comments make you feel upset or uncomfortable. If someone is actively making fun of you or trying to put you down, do not tolerate this disrespect. Stand up for yourself. Call them out.

Please start valuing your needs. While people are still going to do and say these please, you have the right to do the same.

If you're being triggered by very impersonal, benign comments, it's worth exploring why these comments are so triggering to you. Those remarks will come up in life and you just have to understand that it says more about the person making the "joke" than anything about you personally, your appearance, actions, or intentions. Some people will box you into a certain role to self-validate their internal life narrative –nothing you do or say will change their minds, so you just have to understand that this person chooses to have blinders on and has not done the internal work to deeply self-reflect/see outside of themselves.

However, especially if these comments are solely directed at you, once you let others know you're uncomfortable, you have every right to walk away from the situation if your discomfort doesn't make them stop and respect your interpersonal/conversational boundaries.

If you're ever unsure if you're taking a comment too personally, try this gut-check exercise. Ask yourself: If a friend or a loved one told you a similar remark was made to them as you just heard expressed to you, how would you react? Would you be more inclined to tell your friend they're overreacting or be appalled that someone would speak to someone you love in this manner? Let your answer to this question guide you to a more objective and self-loving interpretation/response to these comments.

Hope this helps xx

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do not let your self-doubt stop you. speak up in meetings, introduce yourself to strangers, send emails out of nowhere, ask for people’s number, invite someone to a cup of coffee, apply to jobs you’re under-qualified for. push yourself, bit by bit and day by day. slowly, your limit will extend, and the possibilities available to you will grow with it. you deserve this. do not let your mind tell you otherwise.

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Femme Fatale Guide: How To Build Unshakeable Self-Confidence

Here are some practical, no-frills mindset reframes to help you begin cultivating higher, healthy self-esteem. Consider these tips the building blocks of enduring, self-confidence. Save & share to engage in some self-love and help yourself (& others) feel your best xx

Remember Your Self-Perception is Magnetic

Discover What You Love About Yourself

Invest In Your Appearance & Social Skills

Remember You're Irreplaceable

Remember Your Self-Perception is Magnetic: Others will perceive you similarly to the way you perceive yourself. In other words, you need to tell yourself that you're a confident woman and the hottest, the most well-spoken woman in the room at all times. While it will still take some practice to maintain good posture and conversation, changing your mindset is the first (and most important) step to overcoming this confidence roadblock. Discover What You Love About Yourself: Consider your talents, skill sets, unique personality traits, appearance, sense of style, etc. Write out a list of the qualities you love about yourself. These characteristics can range from a great sense of humor and understanding subtext to a knack for mental math, cooking, or styling an outfit. Remember the valuable qualities that you bring to the table. While we're all of inherent worth, a regular reminder of our special talents can boost our confidence and make us feel more competent in different life areas/situations. Keep this list visible and read it over at least once a day until you internalize this unbreakable sense of confidence in your capabilities. Invest In Your Appearance & Social Skills: Life is about growth, progress, and personal development. So, one of the most practical ways to level up is to be more mindful of how you put yourself together daily and present yourself to others. Always ensure you look clean and polished with freshly-washed hair, manicured nails, and wrinkle-free outfits. Refine your personal aesthetic, beauty routine, and signature scent. Learn how to hold your head up high, your shoulders back, and maintain direct eye contact. Control your emotions, embrace a sense of humor, tact, and smile when appropriate. You will gain respect and instantly become magnetic. Remember You're Irreplaceable: Uniqueness makes the world go round, so always remember that you offer certain qualities and talents that add value and make others feel special. Internalize this truth and allow these gifts to be shown. You're worth it.

Build upon these mindset shifts & fully embrace your self-confidence journey with my guide: How To Cultivate Self-Love & Boost Self-Esteem. Hope this helps xx

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Make A Difference.

(Please read this in it’s entirety. You will make a difference in this world!)

Please don’t feel like you are alone. Please don’t feel like you are constantly surrounded by the darkness of the night.

Why? Because you have an entire network of supporters around you. In person, and through this community.

We are each fighting our own battles, overcoming our our greatest roadblocks, and stepping out of our comfort zones. We are each trying, stretching, reaching to get passed our deepest fears.

First, take a moment to think about something that is troubling you. Something that causes you pain, hurt, worry.

Now, please reblog this post. Who ever you happened to reblog this post from, send them a heart. (❤️️)

This heart is a reminder that there is a support system around each of you. To everyone who is currently battling their own war, there is always someone to turn to. There is always a hand reaching out for you.

You are not alone. So please, if you would like to take a moment to support someone else, regardless of who it may be,

Give a heart. Show your support. Empower strength.

-Nicole Addison

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Just do what you know to do

At some point in your life, you may have encountered unstable people who made you insecure in your ability to live life comfortably and at ease. At every decision and at every challenge, you began to question yourself whereas in the past, you would do what you needed to do with ease and freedom.

This new awkwardness that you feel when it comes to showing up in familiar situations frustrates you. The way you freeze and and hesitate when doing something you have done numerous times before. The way you stumble over your words when it comes to talking to others in a way you have done so many times before. I know how hard it is.

This has happened because you are allowing what others have done to you to live on inside you. The way they treated you differently than they did the others. The way they talked down to you. The way they singled you out just for being yourself. That stuff happened in passing moments and seemed insignificant, but just a single occurrence of that type of thing can be traumatizing. Now, imagine the effects if that type of stuff happens continuously. Yes, it drives itself deep into your psyche.

It's traumatizing.

To overcome this, you must stop looking at yourself through their lenses. What happened, happened. There is no changing that. But you cannot allow their words and their actions to continue defining your livelihood. You can't get inside their head, so you won't be able to figure out why they did what they did, but you do know how it is affecting you. You notice where you hesitate. You notice where you freeze. Be conscious of those things as you make a different choice.

Just do what you know to do. On that same note, just show up as you do. Rarely are people paying attention to you as much as you think they are. People aren't judging you. People aren't criticizing you at every move you make. You had those experiences back then which means that it has become ingrained in your mind that you have to watch yourself to keep others happy with you, which is extremely stressful and anxiety inducing. This is something that you don't have to do, however.

Your humanness is just fine. The way you naturally respond to things is just fine. You don't have to change that to make others feel comfortable with you. You don't have to hold yourself down so that others are happy with you. None of that matters. While you are holding yourself in restriction, others are freely living their lives and being happy. You deserve that too. You know how to live your life. You know how to do what you need to do. You just have to trust yourself enough to do it. Don't think about what they think.

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How to be confident

Confidence can get you incredibly far in life and make everything a lot easier; I consider myself a really confident person, so here are a few tips that might help you get there! <3

Eliminate toxic people. I don't care if it's your best friend, boyfriend, or mom; if they are stopping you from being the best version of yourself, it's time to say goodbye.

Fix your posture! Confident people have good fucking posture, and sweety, I just know your posture is not it rn, so please straighten that back.

Do what makes you happy. Who cares what people have to say about it? If it's good for you, do it.

Tell yourself you're that girl. Nobody will believe it if you don't do it, so hype yourself up!

Practice eye contact. I can just tell someone is confident if they can look me in the eyes while having a conversation. It seems much harder than it actually is; pick one of their eyes and just focus on it while you talk.

Speak with tone and expression. Talking in a quiet and monotone manner doesn't necessarily make you look insecure, but talking with expression just sounds more confident.

Make your hand visible. When you hide your hands, it makes you look insecure and uncomfortable.

Mind your own business. This one is really simple; I don't think I have to explain, lmao.

Don't tell people your insecurities because 99% of the time, they didn't notice them before you pointed them out.

Accept compliments. If someone says you look good, don't be like, "oh nooo, I look AWFUL" just say thank you and accept the compliment :)

Stop over-apologizing. Only say it if you actually did something bad or feel sorry.

Visualize the person you want to be. It's pretty simple, think about who you want to be, then think about how that person acts, their routine, how they talk, etc., and slowly start adapting those habits.

Don't be nervous to ask for help. Instead, change your mindset; people want to help you!

Authenticity radiates, be true to yourself, and you will attract good people like a magnet.

No one is out of your league if you act like it. This entire 'league' thing is made up, so don't put yourself in a box.

Trust yourself. You have a bad feeling; you know it and act on it. If you feel like something is not right, it's probably not. Trust yourself.

Stay calm under pressure. It's crucial to not freak out under pressure; even if you do, try acting as if everything is under control.

When entering a room, don't be on your phone. Look around, introduce yourself, greet people, etc.

smile more :)

walk like you know where you're going, even if you don't lol.

Live for yourself. Constantly work on not caring what other people think. If you like it, you post it. If you want to go there, go. If you like that outfit, wear it. Make decisions for yourself, not for others to validate you. It's your world, and every decision you make is because you want to make it yourself!

✩‧₊*:・love ya ･:*₊‧✩

[confie3babyy]

Just do what you know to do

At some point in your life, you may have encountered unstable people who made you insecure in your ability to live life comfortably and at ease. At every decision and at every challenge, you began to question yourself whereas in the past, you would do what you needed to do with ease and freedom.

This new awkwardness that you feel when it comes to showing up in familiar situations frustrates you. The way you freeze and and hesitate when doing something you have done numerous times before. The way you stumble over your words when it comes to talking to others in a way you have done so many times before. I know how hard it is.

This has happened because you are allowing what others have done to you to live on inside you. The way they treated you differently than they did the others. The way they talked down to you. The way they singled you out just for being yourself. That stuff happened in passing moments and seemed insignificant, but just a single occurrence of that type of thing can be traumatizing. Now, imagine the effects if that type of stuff happens continuously. Yes, it drives itself deep into your psyche.

It's traumatizing.

To overcome this, you must stop looking at yourself through their lenses. What happened, happened. There is no changing that. But you cannot allow their words and their actions to continue defining your livelihood. You can't get inside their head, so you won't be able to figure out why they did what they did, but you do know how it is affecting you. You notice where you hesitate. You notice where you freeze. Be conscious of those things as you make a different choice.

Just do what you know to do. On that same note, just show up as you do. Rarely are people paying attention to you as much as you think they are. People aren't judging you. People aren't criticizing you at every move you make. You had those experiences back then which means that it has become ingrained in your mind that you have to watch yourself to keep others happy with you, which is extremely stressful and anxiety inducing. This is something that you don't have to do, however.

Your humanness is just fine. The way you naturally respond to things is just fine. You don't have to change that to make others feel comfortable with you. You don't have to hold yourself down so that others are happy with you. None of that matters. While you are holding yourself in restriction, others are freely living their lives and being happy. You deserve that too. You know how to live your life. You know how to do what you need to do. You just have to trust yourself enough to do it. Don't think about what they think.

[confie3babyy]

Confidence is walking in a room knowing that everyone already likes you.

Confidence is to not allow any negative thoughts abt yourself in your head.

Confidence is knowing the future is on your side.

Confidence is knowing what you can and what you can't and embracing all of it.

Confidence is living the main character and never take less than it.

Confidence is building trust with yourself.

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i went out to meet a friend of mine that I know online, it's been a while since I hung out with people that aren't my best friends or my family (where I'm most comfortable around),

It was so disappointing bcz lately I've been feeling high self-esteem I thought maybe I got some of my confidence back, but today I showed the exact opposite, I could barely act like myself, kept avoiding doing things I love, and kept feeling like a side character, I didn't exactly feel insecure but not confident, at all.

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I felt so confident today!! Idk why but I genuinely felt so confident and it was very easy to kick negative thoughts abt myself :).

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Hii tumblr!! I've had this account for a couple of days now thinking what to post and didn't even decide on anything lol.

I made this account to record my confidence journey, I endured indirect bullying and severe mistreatment last year that made me lose all my self confidence, So now I have one and only goal in 2023 and it's to get my confidence back!!

Happy to share my journey and thoughts with y'all, seeking encouragement and support :).