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I often say before I met my wife I was going to heaven, and she turned me into a whore 🖤. Before her I had missionary sex and ate out nice femmes, not a stone top but I rarely took my clothes off. Nobody ever asked me to. When my wife and I started dating the sex was fun, but she could tell I was just going through the motions, even if I couldn't. She kept asking me what I wanted, and at first that made me uncomfortable. Men made me accustomed to being a vehicle for somebody else's pleasure and the women I'd been with never pushed back on that. But she did, over time topping me (gasp! was the service top a bottom??) and introducing elements of kink. As we got more into kink and power dynamics it just clicked, I wasn't going through the motions to complete a task, I was fucking and being fucked by a beautiful woman. I finally understood why people like sex so much, what all the fuss was about. We're both bottom leaning switches these days, with our own style and flair to domming. She can be sooooo mean in a way that makes me shiver 🫣. We're both extremely theatrical and love a character and plot above all else 😈. I still love making pretty girls feel good but now there's a hunger to it, something feral and vulnerable that I never felt before her. In most public facing ways I'm more of a protector, more masculine, I carry things and open doors and keep her safe from wolverines and unkind men. But she took me in her hands and taught me how to really feel pleasure, and she'll have me following her around like a puppy dog for the rest of our lives ❤️🥺❤️

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Gabriel Mark Lipper, "Martique", ("Alla Prima" series) Oil on panel.

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source: The Little Butch Book by Lesléa Newman

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source: The Little Butch Book, written by Lesléa Newman

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i don’t know who this woman is. but these two nameless photos of that i think are both of her have shown up in two separate threads of photos of lesbians, a month apart. and i picked them out to attach to without even realizing it was the same woman at first. and i am hopelessly attached to her

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edit — her name is asia. both photos were taken by chloe sherman in san francisco, in 1996. [x] [x]

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the butch/femme scene of 1990s san francisco by chloe sherman

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“Dykes and Their Cars” by Chloe Sherman

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female separatism isn't necessarily possible for every woman to do immediately, but I think steps towards it are.

if you can't control if men come on your property, restrict where they go- have your room off-limits if you're in an apartment. if your social circle has men in it, organize a "girl's night" where you can congregate without men around. read books only written by women for a few months. refuse to sit through songs or movies with misogynistic themes. if you can't shop at women-owned businesses, due to cost or availability, start leaving good reviews for female staff and encouraging management to promote them. recommend other women for jobs if your employer is hiring. talk to your female coworkers about sexual harassment laws. learn landlord-tenant laws and tell your friends to do the same- some US states allow you to break a lease w no penalty if fleeing domestic violence in some cases. know where you can get free menstrual products, where women's shelters and clinics are, and let other women know.

none of this is full separatism, and a lot of it isn't separatism at all, but they're all steps that can be taken.

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Butch Lovin' Artists Masterdoc!

have you ever mourned the lack of easily findable butch art on the internet? today is your lucky day... for I have begun to make a master spreadsheet of artists across the interweb that draw butches

there's an ok amount on here for now mostly consisting of my mutuals and their mutuals... but it is a lot of work to sort through and find more. thus why I recruit you. SUBMIT ANY BUTCH-DRAWING ARTIST (including yourself) and they will be added to the spreadsheet. together we can end this butch shortage. just take my hand.

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Source: The Butch/Femme Photo Project , by Wendi Kali

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made a lesbian version of that one Gerard Donelan comic

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Source: The Butch/Femme Photo Project , by Wendi Kali

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Source: The Butch/Femme Photo Project , by Wendi Kali

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Source: The Butch/Femme Photo Project , by Wendi Kali

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Lydia Pettit (American, 1991) - What Lies Beneath (2023)

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Alcoholics Anonymous/12 steps is so inherently insidious and predatory towards women who struggle with addiction. Misogyny, rape culture, unequal power dynamics, and the literal patriarchy thrive in AA. There is a reason why AA is overrun by men.

I’ve heard stories from women who want to get sober and attend these meetings, only for the men circle them like fking sharks. Men offering to be a woman’s sponsor, and then trying to manipulate her into sex. This is so prevalent in the culture of AA, that getting a newcomer woman to have sex with male members is called the “13th step.”

God forbid if you call out this behavior, because 12-steppers will accuse you of “taking inventory” or straight up gaslight you and say That doesn’t happen. Meanwhile, they struggle to retain female members because AA attracts problematic men, and the program ultimately fails to address the nuances that go into female alcoholism/addiction.