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The date I would give you would be...

A private day at the beach!

All that beach fun with no kids, loud couples, or partying teens? Heavenly! You can feel the sun on your skin and the waves at your feet with no worries of being interrupted! It's just you and him, and he wouldn't have it any other way.

There's lots to do anyway! Collect some shells, get creative and build some astounding sand sculpture, and of course, a romantic swim and cuddle together session!

At the end of the day, you two can have a slow, sweet swim together, perhaps, the sky behind you getting pink and the water darkening. Sharing a kiss or two as the water holds you both and laying on his chest. If you want, that is!

Reblog with your favorite image of your F/O, a small blurb about your selfship, and you and/or your F/O's likes and dislikes, and I'll assign you a date with an explanation as to why I chose them!

current status: open.

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The date I'd give you would be...

A visit to a cute little diner!

Almond is always under some stress, some exhaustion, and you're always the one helping him, looking after him, your selflessness is both a source of great admiration and embarrassment for him. He has you looking after him so much, and while you like to do it.. he can't help but get sheepish. He's a grown man, relying on you so much! Isn't that a bit embarrassing? He had to thank you properly at least!

So, it was a bit of a surprise when he came home one day to tell you he had a plan for you. It wasn't anything extravagant, of course, but you knew it'd be from the heart. The diner is a quaint little place, lively and small, and you get to sit upon the leather surface of the booth's seats and eat a nice filling meal while you spend your time with him. Even now he's tired, and even now, you're putting the condiments and salt on his meal when he looks like he's about to zone out, (which doesn't help his internal embarrassment, but he appreciates it!) and even now, he softly tells you his worries as he takes your hand across the table to kiss your knuckles.

Reblog with your favorite image of your F/O, a small blurb about your selfship, and you and/or your F/O's likes and dislikes, and I'll assign you a date with an explanation as to why I chose them!

current status: open.

[cawfeegum]

The date I'd give you would be...

A sit-down in his office!

It's a boring choice, but, he's doing his best! You of all people know how overworked and busy he is, he doesn't have the time for extravagant and romantic gestures, even if he wishes to do so badly.. but it doesn't need to be perfect, does it? Any moment you two spend together is as precious as life itself.

He'd make sure you're comfortable, giving you some time alone with him, even if it's a miniscule amount. Though his time and attention is limited, he made sure you had the basics you deserve: your favorite candies from the most expensive brand, your favorite flower or plant, and a handwritten letter, telling you how much he loves you, and a sweet kiss and embrace before you go.

It's hard to read his little letter, believe it or not, the lines are sloppy and the ink is a bit smudged.. but you get why- he had to make it so quick, to have it in time while he hurries along protecting the world. Not just the world in a literal sense, but you, his personal world. It's rough going, but those tiny moments and actions.. they're worth it, aren't they?

Reblog with your favorite image of your F/O, a small blurb about your selfship, and you and/or your F/O's likes and dislikes, and I'll assign you a date with an explanation as to why I chose them!

current status: open.

[cawfeegum]

The date I'd give you would be...

A picnic to the Slumbering Weald!

It seems like a bit of a boring spot, but it's right off Postwick where you two first laid eyes on eachother, and right where your journeys truly began! It's nostalgic, coming back to such a spot, looking back on how much you two have changed and accomplished in all the time you've taken away from it.. it's not as scary as it once was, is it?

Besides, there's lots of Pokemon! Even now, Hop can still continue his research, with the abundance of Pokemon around! Perhaps you'll meet some ones flying by the tree branches, or some paddling in the river, or maybe even notice some new Pokemon moving on in! Pokemon drawn in by you would be naturally curious from your charisma, and would make lovely guests for Hop and you to include in your little eat and talk!

Maybe after you two are full and packed up, a trip further in to the altar of Zacian and Zamazenta would be worth it. To feel that sun coming down while you two sit together in front of the altar.. perhaps sharing a kiss and a laugh or two.

Reblog with your favorite image of your F/O, a small blurb about your selfship, and you and/or your F/O's likes and dislikes, and I'll assign you a date with an explanation as to why I chose them!

current status: open.

[cawfeegum]

The date I'd give you would be...

A campsite deep in a mountain!

A relationship still in it's infancy is a great time to do things with eachother, so a planned camping trip somewhere surrounded by the great outdoors would be a perfect way to spend that time! After all, what's cozier than sitting side to side, leaned into eachother, by a big blazing fire? The answer is, clearly, when you add amazing grilled and prepped food and the background song of your favorite bands!

All alone together in a place like that can be pretty freaky, but why even worry when you two could play, dance, and laugh with the music well into when the stars blanket the world around you? It's like a sleepover with friends, spending all that time letting loose! Not to mention, no judgemental eyes, unless you count a few squirrels! No need for tight fitting, stuffy formalwear and table manners!

It could get chilly up in that mountain, but he'd probably jump at the chance to hold you and look into the wisp of the campfire's flames as he warms you, wouldn't he?

Reblog with your favorite image of your F/O, a small blurb about your selfship, and you and/or your F/O's likes and dislikes, and I'll assign you a date with an explanation as to why I chose them!

current status: open.

[cawfeegum]

The date I'd give you would be...

A private hotel suite!

It's plain, but perfect! A soldier's life is pretty stressful, as you (of all people) definitely know. So on those rare nights where the stars have aligned and you're both granted time to see eachother in person again, he'd want to spend his time with you alone! No loud yapping dogs in a park, or others causing a ruckus in a restaurant, just you and him, in a beautiful room, together.

Silk duvets and cozy, fancy lamps can't compare to the warmth of the air around you two, where you both sit at the bed, in eachother's arms, and talk. Perhaps he has a lot to tell you about something his pals did (who, also, probably influenced his decision, given he maybe asked them what'd be a satisfying date when you guys met up again. ~Guy talk~ if you will, asking this and that on what eachother think for impressing their missus.), or how work's coming, or maybe what he wants to do with you tonight. Whatever you two speak of before the silence of sleep, he'll make sure you're spoiled with a good meal, good company, and a beautiful night after so long apart!

And, well, he'd get some Grade A whiskey and perhaps some wine for himself.. unless you'd like to share in some way, of course! He'd give you the whole order if you wish.. just let him have a glass, alright?

Reblog with your favorite image of your F/O, a small blurb about your selfship, and you and/or your F/O's likes and dislikes, and I'll assign you a date with an explanation as to why I chose them!

current status: open.

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Reblog with your favorite image of your F/O, a small blurb about your selfship, and you and/or your F/O's likes and dislikes, and I'll assign you a date with an explanation as to why I chose them!

current status: closed. Thank you!

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Mentally ill selfshippers, you're not a burden to your F/O.

Chronically ill selfshippers, you're not a burden to your F/O.

Terminally ill selfshippers, you're not a burden to your F/O.

Your F/O loves you, finds you worthy, and is grateful to be here with you- even if some might say being with you is a "waste of time" or "a set-up for failure".

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Selfshippers who's F/Os have little to no merch, you guys are just as loyal and loving as selfshippers who have plenty of official merch to buy.

Selfshippers who take the matters into their own hands to try and make something for their F/Os are so resilient, strong, and creative, taking so much precious time out of a day to spend creating for your F/O! Then again, that time is never wasted on them is it?

Selfshippers who spend long times scouring the net to find the perfect plushie, pin, keychain, etc creator and artists to help them make their custom merch dreams come true are also just as dedicated, just as in love, and just as amazing and creative!

And selfshippers who don't have the time, the money, the resources, or even just the focus or patience to make their own merch or have it custom made? You are just as perfect as the others. Even if you can't scratch an itch to prove your love with custom or official merch, you're showing your love for your F/O spectacularly already!

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Your blog is so lovely <3

Thank you so much!!! I'm happy I can be a nice space in the vast hell of Tungle.com... 🩷🩷🫶

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Various quick selfship related flaming texts. Use at your disrection!

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Non-white selfshippers are amazing.

Black selfshippers are amazing.

Brown selfshippers are amazing.

Asian selfshippers are amazing.

Indigenous selfshippers are amazing.

While white folks tend to be overrepresented in this community, non-white selfshippers have always been apart of the community and have always belonged! Just because a lot of selfship things are made for thin white women doesn't mean you don't deserve to be here!

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Having only one F/O and one F/O only is valid.

Having many F/Os from the same source is valid.

Having many F/Os from different sources is valid.

Having an F/O list that spans well into the hundreds if not thousands is valid.

Falling in and out of love with F/Os quickly is valid.

However you experience your feelings, your care for these characters, is unique to you, and no matter what it is, it's valid.

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Your F/O loves that sketch you did!

Your F/O loves that portrait you drew!

Your F/O loves that pixel art you drew!

Your F/O loves that comic you drew!

Your F/O loves that drawing you drew!

Your F/O loves that poem you wrote!

Your F/O loves that letter you wrote!

Your F/O loves that fic you wrote!

Your F/O loves that playlist you made!

Your F/O loves that moodboard you made!

Your F/O loves that edit you made!

Your F/O loves every creative endeavor you take to try and express your feelings for them! They think it's cool! They think it's cute! They think it's clever and smart! And they hope you make more and more! They want to be the subject of your affection forever!

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Selfship spaces tend to be fem-focused, and while it's great to have a fem-focused space, here's to all the mascs out there in this community.

To the mascs who are "boyfriend" and "husband" rather than "girlfriend" and "wife".

To the mascs who can't find any self-insert fic or art of their F/O where the self-insert isn't fem.

To the mascs who are "brother" rather than "sister".

To the mascs who wish imagines of their F/Os weren't meant for fem people.

To the mascs who are "father" rather than "mother".

To the queer mascs who feel their masculinity stronger when a scenario involves their F/O.

To the mascs who are made to feel guilty for having female F/Os.

To the mascs who are trans.

To the mascs who are cis.

To the mascs who are nonbinary.

To every and all masc in this community. You are all welcome here, and deserve to be here!

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NSFW POST. MINORS AND AGELESS BLOGS PISS OFF.

cw// racism, transphobia, fatphobia, homophobia, misogyny, and ableism mention.

Having kinks or fantasies revolving your F/O being bigoted or saying bigoted things toward you is fine, actually.

It's totally fine to be a POC yume who fantasizes about your F/O saying racist things to you.

It's totally fine to be a be a trans yume who fantasizes about your F/O saying transphobic things to you.

It's totally fine to be a woman yume who fantasizes about your F/O saying misogynistic things to you.

It's totally fine to be a disabled yume who fantasizes about your F/O saying ableist things to you.

It's totally fine to be a gay/lesbian yume who fantasizes about your F/O saying homophobic/lesbophobic things to you.

It's totally fine to be a fat yume who fantasizes about your F/O saying fatphobic things to you.

How you personally deal with and process the prejudices that exist around you and in our societies as someone who is an oppressed group is your own business. It's up to you and only you when you are the one hurt by it in real life. Your F/O cannot actually hurt you, and you deserve to deal with your feelings in your own way.

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It's completely fine to be a non-sharing yume. It's completely fine to be upset with other people who love your F/O, and block them to maintain your peace. It doesn't make you "sick", "delusional", "evil", "entitled", "greedy", or "childish" to have boundaries, even if those boundaries seem odd. While it's becoming more and more popular to bully people for being non-sharing, as long as you block people who share your F/O and leave them be, you're doing nothing wrong.

Anyone who tries to say otherwise is blatantly disregarding other people's boundaries and consent, and you should block and avoid them at all costs.

Non-sharing yumes are as valid as people who share, and they deserve to have a selfship space where they feel most comfortable. Non-sharing yumes are part of yume culture and they deserve to be here.