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Having only one F/O and one F/O only is valid.

Having many F/Os from the same source is valid.

Having many F/Os from different sources is valid.

Having an F/O list that spans well into the hundreds if not thousands is valid.

Falling in and out of love with F/Os quickly is valid.

However you experience your feelings, your care for these characters, is unique to you, and no matter what it is, it's valid.

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Your F/O loves that sketch you did!

Your F/O loves that portrait you drew!

Your F/O loves that pixel art you drew!

Your F/O loves that comic you drew!

Your F/O loves that drawing you drew!

Your F/O loves that poem you wrote!

Your F/O loves that letter you wrote!

Your F/O loves that fic you wrote!

Your F/O loves that playlist you made!

Your F/O loves that moodboard you made!

Your F/O loves that edit you made!

Your F/O loves every creative endeavor you take to try and express your feelings for them! They think it's cool! They think it's cute! They think it's clever and smart! And they hope you make more and more! They want to be the subject of your affection forever!

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Selfship spaces tend to be fem-focused, and while it's great to have a fem-focused space, here's to all the mascs out there in this community.

To the mascs who are "boyfriend" and "husband" rather than "girlfriend" and "wife".

To the mascs who can't find any self-insert fic or art of their F/O where the self-insert isn't fem.

To the mascs who are "brother" rather than "sister".

To the mascs who wish imagines of their F/Os weren't meant for fem people.

To the mascs who are "father" rather than "mother".

To the queer mascs who feel their masculinity stronger when a scenario involves their F/O.

To the mascs who are made to feel guilty for having female F/Os.

To the mascs who are trans.

To the mascs who are cis.

To the mascs who are nonbinary.

To every and all masc in this community. You are all welcome here, and deserve to be here!

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NSFW POST. MINORS AND AGELESS BLOGS PISS OFF.

cw// racism, transphobia, fatphobia, homophobia, misogyny, and ableism mention.

Having kinks or fantasies revolving your F/O being bigoted or saying bigoted things toward you is fine, actually.

It's totally fine to be a POC yume who fantasizes about your F/O saying racist things to you.

It's totally fine to be a be a trans yume who fantasizes about your F/O saying transphobic things to you.

It's totally fine to be a woman yume who fantasizes about your F/O saying misogynistic things to you.

It's totally fine to be a disabled yume who fantasizes about your F/O saying ableist things to you.

It's totally fine to be a gay/lesbian yume who fantasizes about your F/O saying homophobic/lesbophobic things to you.

It's totally fine to be a fat yume who fantasizes about your F/O saying fatphobic things to you.

How you personally deal with and process the prejudices that exist around you and in our societies as someone who is an oppressed group is your own business. It's up to you and only you when you are the one hurt by it in real life. Your F/O cannot actually hurt you, and you deserve to deal with your feelings in your own way.

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It's completely fine to be a non-sharing yume. It's completely fine to be upset with other people who love your F/O, and block them to maintain your peace. It doesn't make you "sick", "delusional", "evil", "entitled", "greedy", or "childish" to have boundaries, even if those boundaries seem odd. While it's becoming more and more popular to bully people for being non-sharing, as long as you block people who share your F/O and leave them be, you're doing nothing wrong.

Anyone who tries to say otherwise is blatantly disregarding other people's boundaries and consent, and you should block and avoid them at all costs.

Non-sharing yumes are as valid as people who share, and they deserve to have a selfship space where they feel most comfortable. Non-sharing yumes are part of yume culture and they deserve to be here.

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‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ 💌 || Aries // She/Her // 4/4/03.

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New proselfship blog. I'm embarrassed about losing all my login info for my other blogs. If you know who I am, no you don't.

Posts may be NSFW, involve hardcore kinks, etc. Everything possibly triggering will be tagged with "cw// (thing)".

One of my platonic F/Os and the blog mascot is Iggy from JoJo Part 3. Feel free to DM or tag me in Iggy stuff.

DNI if: Anti-ship, MAP/Zoo/Necro, Anti-MOGAI or transmed, exclusionist, radfem, ed/shblr, or a minor.

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