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Mossy Leaf-tailed Gecko (Uroplatus sikorae), family Gekkonidae, Madagascar

Photographs by Jean Elisée Christian Rakotondrajoa

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Spotted Turtles (Clemmys guttata), family Emydidae, eastern U.S.

ENDANGERED.

photograph by Andrea Colton The Orianne Society

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Fully obsessed with this lichen covered fence at my sister’s place in coastal North Carolina

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Sri Lankan Frogmouth (Batrachostomus moniliger), family Podargidae, order Podargiformes, Kerala, India

The frogmouths used to be included in the Nightjar/Goatsucker order Caprimulgiformes. As of 2019, they are now in their own order. Frogmouths are not as closely related to nightjars, as previously thought.

photograph by Priya Solcaptures

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The most Zelda-like landscape in China (Fujian's islands and Hangzhou's eco-parks cr 甜茶粥，四维的旅行日记，tzu-hsiao)

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I mean no disrespect to prior toads OK? But this lady has to be the cutest toad I've seen all summer. Looked and felt like a little ball of dough. VERY CUTE FACE! Tiny, unimpressive hops & no reaction to being lifted for pictures. Moved her off the trail and she just sat there. Amazing specimen & perfect in every way. I'll remember her forever

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ANITA BRYANT DIED??????

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Me, an employee: To get the book to the customer sooner, we process the request this way.

Sub who works 10 hours/month: Well I processed it that way because I think it should be done that way. It bothered me to do it the other way.

Result: Regular customer waits extra week for books!

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Annie Lennox (1983)

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Anemones (Anthopleura sola?) and Purple Sea Urchins (Stongylocentrotus purpuratus) at Moss Cove in Laguna Beach

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nosferatu? non. VOSferatu. c'est pas mon problème

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Nona

... just made the softest, most impressive guttural SOUND 😍 as she falls into nap #23 of the day...

However, she is having more trouble jumping up & down lately. I had been advised to get her regular Solensia shots for arthritis, but I stopped because she seemed to be OK without them (and my life got chaotic) - anyway I scheduled another one.

I bought her two (2) sets of cat stairs which she completely ignored as if they were in her way 😼 so I put them in storage, but I guess I'll need to give them a second chance, if she will!

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If you’ve never been all that disobedient before, you can and should start really, really small. For example, you can wear the slightly revealing or gloriously trashy-looking garment that makes your mom roll her eyes and sigh despondently every time she sees you put it on. You will feel judged and disapproved of when you put it on, but that is fine. Your goal is to sit with the uncomfortable feelings and continue with your desired behavior anyway.  Saunter down the steps in that highlighter-yellow Garfield crop top with your chest hair flowing over the neckline, and harness as much courage as you can muster. It’s okay if you feel like a beacon of sin. Just keep it moving. Your emotions are not the target here. Your behavior is. You can feel however you are feeling in the moment so long as you keep acting like you’re free.  Do you have a favorite TV show that a partner or roommate vocally hates? Try watching that show around them without apologizing or defensively joining them in mocking the program. At first, you probably won’t be able to enjoy the show while in their presence. You’ll feel self-conscious about everything they find annoying or cringe-inducing about the show, and so focused on their reactions that you can’t relax. That’s okay. Allow those feelings of embarrassment and guilt to exist and pass through you without giving up. In time, you will be able to ignore these reactions more, and enjoy the activity.  You want to see the needle of discomfort moving down just a little, like Link’s body temperature meter in Tears of the Kingdom when he puts on a breathable outfit in a hot climate. You’re not gonna go from roiling hot to frosty cold in an instant. But after a certain point, you won’t be actively in pain anymore. Things are just gonna slowly suck less, bit by bit, until they are finally okay. That’s true of most major life adjustments, I find.  Probably the best way to develop self-advocacy skills while growing in your distress tolerance is simply by telling other people no. Do this without explanation or hedging. Nitpicky aunt wants to hear all about your dating life? “No, I don’t want to talk about that.” Unreliable ex-friend wants you to do them the tiny favor of moving their entire home gymnasium into a new third story walk-up? “No, I’m not available.” Manipulative shift supervisor wants to cajole you into sticking around for another three hours to close? “No.”  As many advice columnists smarter than me have already intoned, “no” is a complete sentence. “No” requires no explanation. “No” is not subject to debate. “No” can be repeated over and over like a broken record if a disrespectful person acts like they can’t hear it. And you can walk away at any time to make your “no” physical and impossible to argue with, when someone has proven they don’t respect your boundaries. 

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Let's go to bed.

寝よう。