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Daily Check-in: 09/05/24

today was definitely more relaxed, and i'm enjoying it. my boyfriend has been off in alaska for the past few weeks (he's a marine) and today he will officially be home in only ten days! sadly he was gone for our three year anniversary so we will be celebrating when he gets back.

How it went:

woke up at 7am

scheduled an interview at a new job

took a much needed everything shower

went out to eat with my parents and sister

washed my bedsheets

took a nap (also much needed)

made september overview post

set up new laptop wallpaper for september

Plans for tomorrow:

replace downstairs carpet

deep clean pantry

make progress in foundations of veterinary technology module

Reminders for the week:

job interview on monday the 9th

zoom appt. with psychiatrist on tuesday the 10th

aim for 5 hours of school work a day

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September Stuff - 2024

I'm a little late, but I'm doing it anyways. My favorite season is starting and I'm so excited. I plan on doing these each month to give myself an overview of all my plans, goals, and reminders, and hopefully it'll inspire you too. Also the image is the wallpaper I made for my laptop this month, I make one every month so feel free to use it!

To Do

decorate for autumn

update laptop wallpaper

update phone wallpaper

replace living room carpet

schedule cat's spay appointments

Goals

complete foundations of veterinary technology module with a 95-100% by sept. 23

get a second part time job

finish building new bedroom furniture

stay consistent with eating three full meals a day

finish reading the book of genesis

Dates

09/06 - credit card payment due

09/09 - job interview

09/10 - psychiatrist appt.

09/14 - tuition payment due

09/15 - boyfriend comes home!

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10 Non-Cosmetic Methods to Become Beautiful

Practice humanitarian work by donating your time to prepare meals for the less fortunate and hands to send notes to assisted living homes.

Smile at children. Smiles, no matter how they look, are unforgettable.

Tend to a garden. Giving back to the Earth always benefits us by receiving fruit back, fresher air and a beautiful bloom for a pick-me-up.

Gossip about people in a positive way. Give praise unexpectedly instead of private information whenever you talk about someone behind their back to put a spin on the conversation.

For every insult you receive, give yourself 2 compliments back.

Leave a nice first impression. Smile, smell good and be warm when in conversation.

Take pictures of nature, yourself and what you enjoy. We gain enjoyment from looking back at what has happened because no outside forces can change an event that’s frozen in time.

Give appreciation for tasks others do for you, whether it’s their job or not. Adding “so much” after thank you, maintaining eye contact and being gentle receiving something can leave lasting impressions on others.

Allow others to save face. If someone is having a bad day and people are piling on them, allow them to save face by giving them a chance to get through their day without reproach from you, because what others don’t do is more noticeable than you think.

Allow yourself to be helped and don’t be afraid to help. We sometimes feel bad asking for help for the fear of seeming weak or stupid when the person waiting for you to ask is glad that you finally did. Lastly, the worst word someone can say to you if you think they need help is “no”.

Be Luxury, Live Luxury. 💎

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𝐡𝐢𝐠𝐡 𝐦𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐥𝐨𝐰 𝐦𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 *ੈ✩‧₊˚

𝐝𝐚𝐢𝐥𝐲

at least 7 hours of sleep

never skip skincare

use an oil cleanser to remove makeup

at least 30 min of exercise

10k steps per day

take vitamins

𝐰𝐞𝐞𝐤𝐥𝐲

shave face

clean up eyebrows

nail care routine

everything shower

sunday reset routine

𝐦𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐡𝐥𝐲

whiten teeth

get a lash lift

get a pedicure

go to a head spa

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My Daily Non Negotiables

Pray every day

Vitamins + Supplements

3 liters of water

3 full meals a day (so necessary and seems obvious, but a lot of us skip breakfast or just snack all day instead of eating healthy meals)

Move your body (strength training 4 days a week, yoga, stretching, or taking a walk the remaining days)

Skincare routine morning and night

Journal and Bible before bed

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7 Reasons you might be procrastinating and how to solve them:

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Mastering academic excellence

Becoming an academic weapon is about more than just studying hard, it’s about studying smart.

1. The power of a minimalist study space

Your study environment plays a crucial role in your ability to concentrate and absorb information. A cluttered desk or disorganized room can lead to distractions, stress, and reduced productivity. On the other hand, an orderly and minimalist space promotes clarity of thought and focus.

Why Minimalism Matters

Reduces Distractions A minimalist setup limits visual and mental distractions. With fewer items in your field of vision, your brain can focus more on the task at hand.

Promotes Calmness An organized space creates a sense of calm, reducing stress and anxiety, which are common barriers to effective studying.

Enhances Efficiency Knowing exactly where your materials are saves time and keeps you in the flow of your work, avoiding interruptions caused by searching for misplaced items.

How to Create the Ideal Study Space

Declutter Regularly Keep only essential items on your desk. Store books, papers, and other materials neatly in drawers or shelves.

Personalize Mindfully Add a few personal touches, like a plant or a motivational quote, but avoid overloading your space with unnecessary objects.

Ensure Comfort Choose a comfortable chair, good lighting, and a desk at the right height to prevent physical discomfort during long study sessions.

2. Mastering active learning techniques

Active learning is the cornerstone of effective studying. Unlike passive methods, such as simply reading or highlighting, active learning engages multiple areas of your brain, enhancing comprehension and retention.

Key Active Learning Techniques

Summarization After reading a section of your textbook or attending a lecture, summarize the main points in your own words. This forces you to process the information deeply, improving understanding and memory.

Self-Testing Regularly quiz yourself on the material. This not only reinforces your knowledge but also highlights areas where you need further review. Tools like flashcards or apps such as Anki can be particularly effective.

Teaching Others Explaining concepts to others is one of the best ways to solidify your understanding. This could be done with a study partner, in a group setting, or even by teaching an imaginary audience.

Mind Mapping Create visual representations of the material, such as diagrams or mind maps. This technique helps you see connections between ideas and organizes complex information into a more digestible format.

3. Study aids for enhanced learning

Study aids are tools and resources that can support and enhance your learning process. When used correctly, they can make studying more efficient and effective.

Types of Study Aids:

Flashcards Ideal for memorization, flashcards help reinforce knowledge through active recall and spaced repetition. Digital flashcards allow for easy organization and accessibility on the go.

Mind Maps These visual tools help break down complex concepts and illustrate relationships between ideas, making it easier to grasp and remember large amounts of information.

Practice Tests Taking practice exams familiarizes you with the format and types of questions you might encounter, reducing test anxiety and highlighting areas for improvement.

Educational Apps Numerous apps cater to various aspects of studying, from organization (Notion, Evernote) to subject-specific learning (Duolingo for languages).

How to Use Study Aids Effectively

Incorporate Them Regularly Don’t wait until the last minute to use study aids. Regular integration into your study routine ensures continuous reinforcement of material.

Customize Your Tools Tailor flashcards, mind maps, and other aids to suit your learning style and the specific material you need to master.

Combine Methods Use a mix of study aids to address different types of content and to keep your study sessions dynamic and engaging.

4. Staying Healthy

MENS SANA IN CORPORE SANO

The ancient adage "mens sana in corpore sano," meaning "a healthy mind in a healthy body," underscores the importance of physical well-being in achieving academic success. Neglecting your health can lead to burnout, decreased cognitive function, and lower academic performance.

Physical Health and Academic Performance

Nutrition A balanced diet fuels your brain, improving concentration, memory, and energy levels. Incorporate brain-boosting foods like fruits, vegetables, nuts, and fish rich in omega-3 fatty acids.

Exercise Regular physical activity increases blood flow to the brain, enhances mood through the release of endorphins, and reduces stress. Even short, daily exercise sessions can make a significant difference in your mental clarity and stamina.

Sleep Adequate sleep is essential for memory consolidation and cognitive function. Aim for 7-9 hours of quality sleep each night to ensure you are well-rested and ready to tackle your studies.

Mental Health and Academic Success

Stress Management Practice mindfulness techniques such as meditation or deep breathing to manage stress. Regular breaks during study sessions can also prevent burnout.

Work-Life Balance Ensure you have time for relaxation and social activities. A balanced life contributes to mental well-being, which in turn supports academic success.

Positive Mindset Cultivate a growth mindset, viewing challenges as opportunities for growth rather than as obstacles. This perspective not only enhances resilience but also keeps you motivated in your academic pursuits.

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you don't want to look back and wish you had worked a little harder.

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Avoid These Tendencies That Conflict With High Standards & Leveling Up:

Hissy fights, arguments with emotional and/or pickme people

Only relying on beauty to get you ahead

Falling victim to your emotions, not thinking logically

Planning for the short term

Procrastination

Comparing your progress to others

Wasting time putting up with people who won’t agree with you no matter what

Being desperate for results

Desperate for attention

Looking at yourself as an outsider

Stagnation, laziness

Not craving knowledge

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having a "me" evening

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one of the biggest things I can advocate for (in academia, but also just in life) is to build credibility with yourself. It’s easy to fall into the habit of thinking of yourself as someone who does things last minute or who struggles to start tasks. people will tell you that you just need to build different habits, but I know for me at least the idea of ‘habit’ is sort of abstract and dehumanizing. Credibility is more like ‘I’ve done this before, so I know I can do it, and more importantly I trust myself to do it’. you set an assignment goal for the day and you meet it, and then you feel stronger setting one the next day. You establish a relationship with yourself that’s built on confidence and trust. That in turn starts to erode the barrier of insecurity and perfectionism and makes it easier to start and finish tasks. reframing the narrative as a process of building credibility makes it easier to celebrate each step and recognize how strong your relationship with yourself can become

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Amen ❤️

i will get that dream job. the husband. the wedding. the children. a marriage founded on God. he’s not done with me yet. he’s rewriting my story. i’m on God timing.🤍

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the veterinary science students

an innate love for animals

always finding pet hair on your clothes

learning the non-verbal ways animals communicate that something is wrong

being unafraid to get your hands dirty

gaining expertise in a wide variety of animal physiologies

educating people on how to take proper care of pets and farm animals

comfortable sweaters with the sleeves rolled up past your elbows

studying anatomical diagrams

a deep appreciation for the bond between people and their pets

a steady presence, knowing how to calm an animal in distress

careful notes, being sure not to miss anything

working to prevent zoonosis of diseases

examining the connections between the health of animal and human populations

steady, confident hands

cool mornings with the dew still on the grass

volunteering at local animal shelters

not being able to pick a favorite animal

arguing against purely aesthetic procedures

frustration with people who don’t treat their animals with respect

memorizing the signs of a variety of conditions and diseases

a commitment to giving pets long, healthy lives

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Hi can you please make a guide on Blair Waldorf please

blair waldorf: a guide

character

romanticize studying and prioritize intelligence; blair is literally the definition of hot and educated.

confidence and self-stability is key; realize you are the only you there will ever be!

realize you cannot control other people, you can only control you.

“you can’t make people love you, but you can make them fear you.”

don’t be afraid to be determined, passionate, and GO HARD for what you want and don’t give it up for anyone.

“if you really want something, you don’t stop for anyone or anything until you get it.”

set standards for all relationships. you deserve to be surrounded by your kind of people and have what you want.

“the most important thing in a relationship is trust. after sex. and hygiene. and earning potentials.”

don’t be afraid to be a little selfish sometimes. if your goals require you to keep to yourself, study all the time, move, whatever it may be, do it and realize there will always be people that try to keep you where you are and stop your growth, but keep your eyes on the prize and don’t let it happen!

“whoever said that money doesn’t buy happiness didn’t know where to shop.”

fashion

old money style!

headbands that match the accents in your outfit

heels, low or high. your choice!

collared tops, especially in fall and winter

black or white tights

plaid! like long plaid coats and plaid skirts

pearls

button-up tops

classy floral prints in summer and spring

bows! both in your hair and around your collar

hair is usually in loose curls

things to do to feel like blair

shop! especially for accessories like bags and shoes

watch an audrey hepburn movie

have a spa day! eat some chocolate and take a bubble bath

take time to make yourself feel pretty and put together

read a magazine

read classic literature

drink tea from your prettiest mug

have a sleepover!

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Haha earlyyy this month when this blog was new I had this ask about how to deal with m3n / misogyny at the workplace and idk if sis still hangs around to read but after watching barbie ;

1. 1/2 of my office thinks I'm connected to some powerful family/politician bc I dress, walk and talk the part plus the higher ups and i are on good terms (social climbing 101) and there's just no reason the bosses would be so nice to an intern unless they have to so most people didn't even try

2. I established myself an unavailable early enough. I'm always busy. Designing on canvas. Writing a report. Scrolling through tumblr. Watching anime. Reading Manga. Once I sit on that desk don't talk to me unless you have to. And I dont mean im a bitch about it, im not. I just don't look up from whatever I'm doing and you have exactly two minutes before I look up with a painfully fake smile and "do you mind? I'm caught up right now" and look back and completely shut you out. When it came to my superiors I was as interested as my job goes. Once the topic strays from my job I'm looking out the window and faking disinterest (faking bc ofc I'll get the tea). People got the idea early enough im just not available.

3. No one in that office knows anything about me. I'm not even private 80% I'll answer a direct question I just learned the art + seductive power of making the conversation about the other person. So now I have info and they feel like I'm interested in who they hate and they know nothing about me and when I have to answer a question I give the vaguest answers known to man.

"Soo what do you do at night?"

"Sleep mostly. You? You have party boy vibes. Do tell".

Familiarity breeds disrespect. Never forget that.

4. In cases of direct misogyny I speak to men the way they stereotypically speak to women

" Why are you being so emotional "

"You're overreacting"

"I can't speak to you when you are acting like this"

"Get a hold of your emotions this is embarrasing"

"Talk to me when you're done blowing up"

WORKS EVERY TIME

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"Why can't I stop doing X and Y?"

Because it keeps you safe.

Ladies I need us to understand there is no such thing as self sabotage, it doesn't exist. Your body, biologically, mentally, physically, works to ensure your survival and it does that by keeping you safe and comfortable, whatever it takes. It doesn't matter if it's good for your growth, is it good for survival? We keep that.

I need you to understand right now even when it's fucking up your growth your mind is literally doing it out of love, and you should be thanking it, not condemning it. When your brain remembers the last time you went camping at ten and everyone laughed at you and you were in pain so that risked your survival it will never allow you to go to camp again, doesn't matter if it's part of a retreat. You may have forgotten but ah your brain your brain keeps score and it will do everything, every single thing in it's power (which is a tremendously huge amount of power) to keep you from that pain so you bulldoze through your anxiety but fall sick the morning of that camp and you wonder what's wrong with me am dumb and no that's literally your brain fighting for you. When you have an intruder in your blood your body raises its temperature to fight it and you call that a fever and it's bad when it's literally your body saving you. You get pregnant and stressed and your body decides nah see we need to survive so it gets rid of the baby to ensure you survive and you hate it for it.

Your habits keep you safe. Your triggers keep you safe. Your fears keep you safe. Time is an illusion and your brain is still six years old completely terrified of men and you forgot because it blocked that memory out to keep you safe but it remembers so when your boyfriend, kind, loving, understanding boyfriend hugs you you push him away and run and you get home and think okaaay wtf was that and that, Ma'am, is the only thing in this planet capable of protecting you doing just that.

I'm telling you your brain remembers everything you chose to forget, and even what you remember. It's still three when dad raised his hand at you and it'll never allow you to be in the same room as him. It's will eight when a person in authority hurt you so it will never bow to a boss. It's still eleven when your friends pranked you so nah we aren't doing that friendship thing anymore no. Its still yesterday when you fell down the stairs so nah elevator or anxiety, your pick.

The first step to change is to kick off self sabotage from your dictionary, that doesn't exist. The second is to fall irrevocably, irreversibly undeniably in love and gratitude with your mind, your bad habits and your triggers, a security system dedicated to keeping you safe. The third, and most important, is to find her.

Her.

That ten year old in your head that got pranked. Close your eyes and go to her. Give her a hug, tell her they're dumb af and you love her. Sit with her and let her talk. Listen to her, then softly, lovingly, bring her to 23 year old you. Tell her she was worthy of love then, she is now, she will be in ten years, and bring her with you. Show her hey that sucked, but its over, this is who we are now. Grown and strong, and we want friends. Will you allow us to have friends ? If they hurt us? Oh we ruin them obviously. THEN and only then will you be able to go out and do all that.

You can bulldoze yourself through anxiety and triggers and you can medicate it down and you can CBT (and that helps, tremendously) but until you find the part of you trying to keep you safe and let it know you are safe now, we aren't four we are twenty six and we are gods, your planners, reminders, journals, commitments are useless. Your brain will keep you safe. WhateverWhatever it takes. Your best bet is to let it know you are safe. Let that girl rest. Take her to her safe place and bring with you permission. Dumb bitch points if you try manipulate or gaslight a part of you into submission you literal psychopath.

Hypnotherapy. Shadow work. Memory trips, whatever it takes. Find her

What is wrong with me? Why am I like this?

What happened to me for me to turn out like this?