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That article where a law professor argues that battered women are morally entitled to kill their abusers has an interesting quote: “ Men can kill women with their bare hands, and they do. Women almost never kill men that way. They can’t. […] While very few women kill abusive men who are asleep or passed out, it’s “unfair” to charge them with first degree murder, Sheehy argues. “It’s not fair to characterize it as the most heinous form of murder, because it may be their own route to survival. ” There have probably been feminist analyses of this already, but it’s worth discussing how the concept of self-defence, especially in domestic violence cases, was designed by men to benefit men. In my country at least, your attack is only considered “legitimate self-defence” if it is a) necessary, b) immediate, c) proportionate. A concept of self-defence that only applies if you hurt or kill someone while they are attacking you, and if you hurt or kill them using the same weapons as them (your bare hands, if that’s what they are using) only benefits people who are likely to be attacked by people of similar size and physical strength, and is utterly useless to women.

When a bigger, stronger male beats up his much smaller wife, it’s almost impossible for her to kill him in self-defence (immediately and proportionately ie with nothing but her fists), and yet it’s the scenario through which she can hope to be acquitted or get a light sentence. That’s not a coincidence. The other two scenarios (and she will be despised if she picks either) are for her to  1) kill him later (when he can’t use his physical advantage, eg when he’s asleep or has his back turned on her), but it won’t be self-defence because it won’t be immediate. (In the Jacqueline Sauvage case, one of the main arguments against her was that she shot her husband in the back at a time when he wasn’t actively beating her up) 2) use a weapon, but it won’t be self-defence because it won’t be proportionate. Obviously this condition also benefits men, because when a woman gets punched by her husband and she punches him back, it’s seen as a proportionate response but it shouldn’t be, because her punch (typically) won’t do nearly as much damage as his. Anything else she does (like use a weapon) to try and hurt him as much as he hurt her will be considered a disproportionate response and will mean it wasn’t self-defence.

The idea that killing your abuser in a honest face-to-face fight with your bare hands is honourable and forgivable, but killing your abuser in any other way is shameful and wrong, utterly benefits men and protects men. It’s also why poison was historically reviled as a ‘female weapon’ and as the most cowardly way to kill someone. Poison has been described as “a great equalizer” - no wonder men hated it. Men have always hated, and will keep hating, shaming, and outlawing, any form of attack through which women can compensate our disadvantage in strength and size, and they will keep praising as the only valid method of self-defence, the method that presents the smallest risk of being effectively used by women against them.

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12 votes!! Have we lost our whimsy?? Have we lost our joy?? Do you remember when favorite colors were the most interesting topic in the world?? What happened to us?? I have 182 followers which means that POINT ZERO SIX FIVE of us remember the joy of the favorite color discussion

reblog for reach please I'm being silly

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Updated version of Boy Who Cried Wolf but there are actual wolves every single time and no one ever believes the boy - they get closer and closer every time he tries to warn them, until it's too late and the whole town screams at the boy for not warning them "enough", and blame him for the wolves at their door.

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Hi sorry can we go back to citing GOOGLE AI OVERVIEW

I find it almost funny how radical “feminists” fight “misogyny” with misandry, most likely because they’re too stupid and self-unaware to realize that, by doing so, they’re giving people more reason to hate modern feminism.

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Do you watch women's sports?

- I follow one or more sports (I watch all/most of the matches)

- I follow one or more teams/sportswomen (only watch their matches and nothing else)

- I only watch big tournaments (Olympics, world championships, etc)

- I'll watch if it happens to be on TV

- No

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girl help they've commercialized our sense of self #cottagecore #goblincore #kidcore #steampunk #dreamcore #dark academia #light academia

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i think the hill i'm going to die on here is that lasting anti-fascist activism begins and ends with unrestricted social services.

protests are great. kind of indispensable right now. but in times when we can be less reactive, you want to know what you're protesting *for*, not just against.

today i saw a post elseweb saying "why aren't white women fleeing maga? they have to know by now that tradwife means sex slave". and like... it's very simple. they can't leave because they would end up like me.

they're, we're, deliberately made unemployable so that we'll have to marry whatever mediocre white man picks us out. as it happened, i was unappealingly intersex, fat, butch, and autistic, so none of the mediocre white boys of my generation ever took a second look at me, but that didn't give me job skills or career connections.

i knew multiple women whose husbands divorced them and took the house as part of their midlife crises. they had to send the kids to live with relatives and take dead-end jobs like bagging groceries because they were in their forties with zero job experience. if they'd rejected the worldview, if they'd alienated their families and what few friends didn't victim-blame them for the divorces, they'd have had nowhere to turn.

it's been over twelve years since i got out. psychologically, medically, i'm healthier. but i've chased a fresh start through half a dozen states. i spent my inheritance getting a degree. none of it helped. there are no supports for abandoning (or being abandoned by) your support network.

you won't defeat fascism until my people are free to leave the cult if they realize they want out. until we can access free housing to get away from financial abuse, free comprehensive job training and placement services to help us start careers, national healthcare so we can flee across state lines if necessary without losing any medical care we're lucky enough to have access to, protections for children and teens so they can flee without needing a parent's help... universal basic income would be really good but there are smaller steps that could help with financial independence.

and it all has to be available to everybody, including people you think are "unworthy". people who hold the wrong opinions. drug addicts. people whose husbands or parents make too much money. people who aren't from around here. unrepentant bigots. if they want out, you have to give them a path out. minds can change later, once people are less scared and less pressured.

(i'm ex-catholic. do you want to hear about what happens when you force people to profess certain beliefs in order to access basic assistance? i have two thousand years of examples.)

"but if they really wanted out they'd do the Right Thing and leave without support!" Better to be one man's sex slave than turning tricks on the street. "staying just proves they're actually evil and there for the bigotry!" Live in your car for six months in 100°F heat, twice, and then talk to me again. There's no virtue in cutting yourself off from society just to prove some kind of moral point. All that does is get you dead or worse.

("JT, you're not dead" I'm a fucking cockroach. Most people would be dead by now. Survival bias goes both ways; we're not all the same model of airplane.)

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"what we need in this political climate is for chappell whose audience has a whole lot of teenage girls to release an anthem encouraging giving sexual favors to the group with a higher rate of sex crimes than normal men"

I can't read the lyric "got pussy on my tongue and it cost a lot" any other way then being about eating out a postop girl

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The sheer number of TIMs who are "equally comfortable with she/her and it/its pronouns" . . . it's because they see them as the same thing

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Fixed it for us 👍

Can someone please explain the logic behind all the transphobia on this website and in feminism in general?

Excluding trans women just weakens every argument in feminism. Solidarity among women, advocacy against violence, the deconstruction of sexist gender roles, all these things are pillars of feminism, and transphobia spits in the face of all of them.

Trans women are more likely to experience sexual violence and assault. Why are we hating on them, excluding them, accusing them of being the predators with no evidence at all?

It just doesn't make sense to me. Where is the empathy? Where is the solidarity for your fellow women? Why all the hatred and misgendering?

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im gonna be real i think we’re good on “vengeance is bad” stories. i think we’ve had our fill on portraying every victim who wants retribution for their suffering as disturbed. i think its time to ask who benefits when the media we consume constantly reminds us on how “evil” it is to fight back and how its “always” doomed to fail. especially now in a post ceo-shooter world. just something to think about. just my hot take guys.

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Delibfemified it for us a little bit (including the grammar come on guys I understand struggling but like?? proofread if you're making a graphic??)

One of these things is not like the others

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(whispers conspiratorially) you should come to an event on the Land...Michfest doesn't exist anymore but they bought the Land from Lisa Vogel and they still have events there in the summer...Big Mouth Girl is essentially Tiny Michfest 2.0 and that's far from the only thing...you should come to an event on the Land.....

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You can only reblog this today.

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Hang on is Micheal spelled Michael

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Trump’s golf course in Turnberry, Scotland was vandalized overnight by Palestine solidarity activists.