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Hi. I'm sure that nobody expected me to come back, and I'll be honest, I wasn't expecting to. I'm just so disgusted with recent events that I want to post my thoughts in a location where anybody will understand what I'm talking about, as nobody in my day to day life even really tolerates kpop

As everybody knows, a lot has happened recently. And yeah, I've got a lot of emotions. I'm devastated to find out how much of a disgusting human Taeil is, and just in general, the wave of disgusting misogyny that's been going on in South Korea is absolutely horrifying.

However, I'm here to talk about my disgust in the state of kpop fans and the abysmal behavior some show. Mind you, i know very well that its very much not everyone. I've spent enough time in the community to know that there are plenty of people who are capable of being normal about their relationship with the idols, even while being a stan who cares about nothing but them. I have a history of parasocial relationships and I firmly believe that you can absolutely obsess over celebrities without being a psychopath. That being said, it's also a very fine line and I've seen some absolutely disgusting shit here.

None of these men belong to you. None of these men owe you a fucking thing. They are there to make you music, give you dances that you can enjoy, and serve you looks, depending on your style per era. They don't owe you abstinence and this is frankly something I've hated even while I was frequenting this site. I know full well that i personally have gotten a little too deep into shipping and crushing on idols. Do you know what happened during the two time an idol that i obsessed over/shipped with people referred to being in a relationship while being an idol? I felt a pang of disappointment and then I decided that as long as they're happy, I'm happy. Do you know what happened to them? One of them could only talk about it after leaving the industry, and the other lost their contract at their company. There's absolutely zero reason why an idol can't live their life alongside being an idol. They're not dolls, they're human beings with human lives.

Now, I left the community years ago. I still listen to the songs I used to listen to, but that's about the extent of where my kpop Fandom journey is anymore. I've also technically started rewriting some of the story ideas I had while excluding the kpop aspects, but that's an entirely different thing.

However, I do still like the occasional kpop post on Twitter, and today, my page was full of learning of a man named Seunghan from a band Riize. I've never heard of him, nor have I heard of this band prior to this controversy. However, the shit that's going on with this is unreal. You're telling me that this 21 year old got bullied into going on hiatus because he smoked a cigarette and dated someone? And then as soon as he came back, people sent funeral wreaths to SM over it? That's abhorrent. The girlfriend thing I've already touched on, he doesn't owe you anything, let alone abstinence from a time before he was famous. The cigarette, sure that's not good. Death threats are so much worse?? Most people have done something bad at some point in their life that doesn't at all reflect who they are now, and frankly, even if he still smokes, what the fuck are you helping with this behavior? Show concern, don't act like he's your fucking doll who's not acting how you want.

I'll be honest, I don't think the people that have or currently follow me are the kinds of people to do this thing. However, if somehow one of the people who engaged in this see this (especially those girls dancing in front of the wreaths uggggh), in complete, 100% seriousness, get some fucking help. You're entering into a parasocial state that is far beyond the acceptable state and has passed into psychotic behavior, and you need to find how to work that out because you've already emotionally hurt people and you're well on your way to physically hurting people, if you haven't already.

And if you haven't been one of the people who have been doing this but you don't see a problem with it, you get some help too. You might feel that you're not doing anything to anybody but as far as I'm concerned, you're just as part of the fucking problem. You might not have engaged in this action, but you very well could to other idols in the future, or God forbid people in your life. This kind of obsession can very easily translate over to behaviors and entitlement to partners, friends, family, none of which are people you're entitled to either. I couldn't fathom looking at this and feeling like this is at all okay.

I can't say if I'm gonna uninstall Tumblr and go back to staying my nose out of things or if I'm going to pop in once and a while as a casual, especially since I'm sure my page has been dead long enough that nobody cares if I come back but I got so heated over this that I needed to put all my thoughts out there, even if nobody sees it

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Ain't it like me to go missing for months and when I get my drive to write again, its going to be one nobody asked for because it's more therapy for me because this months hell on me XD So yeah, I dont know for how long but I'm back for a little bit.

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Hi! Im here for a color ship with BTS! Music and volleyball are my passions! I have volleyball games/practice everyday so I’m usually very busy with that. I also love horror movies, spicy food, boba, and amusement parks! Idk if I did this right but thanks! :) @whipped-for-jungkook

--------------------------------------------- Can do! I hope you like your ship, feel free to request again, and have a wonderful day~ -----------------------------------------------------------

In BTS, I ship you with Namjoon, and I associate you with navy blue!

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Hello!

May I please have a ‘private’ selca ship with NCT and Day6?

Thank you!  - @kay-6scenarios

------------------------------------ Yes you can~ I hope you like your ships, feel free to request again, and have a wonderful day! -------------------------------------------------------

In NCT, I ship you with Yangyang!

In Day6, I ship you with Young K!

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Private selca ship with Stray kids and Txt please! Thank you so much 😻😻 - @mrbangchannie​

------------------------ Yes of course! I hope you like your ships, feel free to request again and have a wonderful day~ -----------------------------

In Stray Kids, I ship you with Changbin!

In TXT, I ship you with Taehyun!

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Ships are closed

I just came back after a long period of having no motivation to do almost anything and I found that I’m back to where I started on ships XD For now, I’m closing them so I can try to put them out more.  

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I’m back to annoy you ;D Colour ship with A.C.E’s Donghun, please and thanks 💕💕  - @ding-dong-myeong

-------------------------------------------------------------- You’re always welcome to bother me, sweetheart ❤ I hope you like your ship, feel free to request again, and have a wonderful day~  -------------------------------------------------------------------------------

With Donghun of A.C.E, I associate you with the color soft yellow!

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Hii may I please request a color ship, but without my face in it? With monsta x please?

I’m a bit of an optimist but I’m pretty realistic and tend to analyze things sometimes. I’m really impatient and adventurous and I always wanna do something. I’d like to think I’m intelligent or at least interested in intelligent things like science, politics, history. But I also absolutely adore all things artsy. I love a good challenge. I’m really cuddly but I’m not used to physical affection. - @imbxckytrash

------------------------------------ Of course you can! I hope you like your ship, feel free to request again, and have a lovely day~ -----------------------------------------------

In Monsta X, I ship you with Hyungwon and I associate you with soft red!

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Heyyy id like a privare selca ship for bts ateez and ace. Thanks a lot - @taehyung-and-suga

------------------------ Hello again love~ You’ve already requested before for BTS and Ateez before but I can definitely do an A.C.E one for you! I hope you like your ship, feel free to request again, and I hope you have a great day :3 ----------------------------------

In BTS, I ship you with Taehyung!

In Ateez, I ship you with Jongho!

In A.C.E, I ship you with Chan!

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Can I have a selca ship for BTS, Monsta X, and EXO? - @alix-mei

------------------------------- Yep yep! I hope you like your ships, feel free to request again, and have a lovely day~ -----------------------------------------

In BTS, I ship you with Namjoon!

In Monsta X, I ship you with Kihyun!

In EXO, I ship you with Baekhyun!

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bHai luv! Can I have a private poly selfie ship for nct127 pls?💫💙💙 (I’m looking rough asf lmao)Have an amazing day!😚 - @yutashoe-periodt

---------------------------------- Of course you can ^^ I hope you like your ships, feel free to request again, and have a wonderful day~ ---------------------------------------------

In NCT 127, I ship you with Yuta and Jaehyun!

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hiya lovely, can i have a private selca ship with seventeen,nct 127 and exo 💖 thank you so much in advance!! - @svteeg​

---------------------- Of course hun :3 I hope you like your ships, feel free to request again and have a fantastic day~ ---------------------------------

In Seventeen, I ship you with Jeonghan!

In NCT 127, I ship you with Doyoung!

In EXO, I ship you with Chanyeol!

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Hey it’s me again. I actually don’t remember exactly what I had sent you in my first request so it might not be the same as the original request.

Could I plz request a (private) poly selca ship with Ateez, BTS and SVT?

Here are some pics of me! 😁

Thnx have a great day boo xx - @fivesecondsofsarang

---------------------------------- Hello again beautiful~ All you’d sent was Ateez the first time, so it all worked out ^^ I hope you like your ship, feel free to request again and have a wonderful day! ---------------------------------------------

In Ateez, I ship you with San and Seonghwa!

In BTS, I ship you with Jin, Hoseok, and Taehyung!

In Seventeen, I ship you with Joshua and Hoshi!

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Hey can I get another poly! Ship with stray kids and Ateez please x Thank you x  @pvrktae

---------------------- Of course love ^^ I hope you like your ships, feel free to request again, and have a lovely day~ -----------------------------

In Stray Kids, I ship you with Chan and Minho!

In Ateez, I ship you with Hongjoong and Yunho

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Hi love~ may I have a private poly ship with bts & nct127 pls? Thank you in advance ❤️😊  - @seoaras

---------------------------------------- Hello hun ^^ Of course you can! I hope you like your ships, feel free to request again, and have a wonderful day~ ------------------------------------------------

In NCT 127, I ship you with Mark and Taeyong!

In BTS, I ship you with Jin and Jungkook!

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hi! can i please get a private poly ship with a.c.e, stray kids and day6? thank you in advance! 💕 - @ttryxl

---------------------- Yes of course ^^ I hope you like your ships, feel free to request again, and have a lovely day~ -------------------------------

In A.C.E, I ship you with Chan and Jun!

In Stray Kids, I ship you with Seungmin and Felix!

In Day6, I ship you with Wonpil and Jae!

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Hey can I request a Private selca ship with bts, stray kids and nct. Thank you xx -  @skinnythinperfect1​

--------------------- Yupyup! Hope you like your ships, feel free to request again, and have a lovely day~ --------------------------------

In BTS, I ship you with Namjoon!

In Stray Kids, I ship you with Woojin!

In NCT, I ship you with Winwin!